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Jimmy,

Words are very powerful, and once they leave your mouth, they can't be taken back.  They can either build you up or tear you down.  Mean spirited words can kill affection slowly.  People never forget the words.  If a man said those kinds of words to me me, I could never fully trust and respect him.

Others,

The man sounds dictatorial and the "Big Man" type.  I am not African.  So alot of this I can't relate too, because it is cultural.  I would just say I am not cleaning up behind somebody who doesn't pay the mortgage and the car notes.  If his brother is a bad quest and making a pest out of himself, then the husband needs to set the record straight with the brother.  I see too much how African men allow their families to disrespect their women.

The woman sould like she has had enough of the bull crap.

I have had to tell a few that I have a father and he raised me well. I don't need a father in you. African men can be very difficult to deal with, and most women are dependent on theim financially. So they grin and bear it. As Fela said, Suffering and Smilin'

A house maid is just as much a woman and the mistress of the house.  The man just had easy access to booty in his own house.  He did not have to and look for it.

Women cheat too, but are more discreet.

You should never support an adult male. If he can't support himself, he is a loser and a leech.

The same reason men date more than one woman. If it is not an exclusive relationship leading to marriage, why just date the one person.

Have I alread said "aww hell to da naw, naw, naw(hell no the third power). There is this old blues songs that says "I can do bad all by myself. I don't need no help to starve to death!"

Aww hell to da naw (hell ho the second power)!

Why would any sensible woman burden herself with a dependent.  There is an AA Blues song that says "I can do bad all by myself.  I don't need no help to starve to death!)  Now I may have you as my occasional boy toy.  But that is as far as it goes.

So of y'all are sho nuff trippin'! Love don't pay the rent, the car note, buy food, clothes, etc. You need money to live. And evenually you will get tire of the loser.

Make as much money as possible. Most women will suffer ugly and take a chance on producing children who may be ugly, if the man has some money.

Rigor,

The AA woman is not volitel. We are just not going to take your crap. Your mindset generally is extremely oppressive and backward. So often times, talking to you is an aggravation. However, there is a small percentage that are enlighten

If mama is woman enough to put her hands on me, I am going to fight her hard like I would fight any woman to defend myself.  One of us is going down.  Now if both mama and sister try to jump me, I am going to have shoot one of them or stab them with a butcher knife -  self defense.  But if it is one on one, may the best woman wins.

If I am in Nigeria, I have to tread carefully. I am going to defend myself. But I might have to pay some areas boys to them a complete and thorough beating. I don't care if she is my husband's mama, you don't come in my house and tell me shit. IF you put your hands on me, it is on!

Compatibility is very important and coming having a similar upbringing.

Question:

Is it a children' birthday party?  To think of it rarely is real food served at birthday parties in America.  Birthday parties and teas(social gatherings, usually at church) don't serve hearty food.  A Tea you may have meatballs and finger sandwiches. 

I would not expect to go to a birthday party and be served anything other than cake, punch, ice cream or somethinglike that. 

When I could to a wedding I expect pastries, meatballs, various type of finger sandwiches and food, but nothing hearty like a real meal. 

This is how it is in my neck of the woods. Everyone knows you eat your real dinner several hours before you go to these types of events. They are not meant to provide you with a real meal.

It is a cultural or society thing. I am American Black. I would only serve you cake, ice cream, punch or soda. If it is an adult party, maybe we may have some bears and mix drinks. However, these event never provide real food in America.

Chiania,


Any man can go to Nigeria and have sex with as many naijas, both men and women, if he has the money. Beastiality isn't off limits.

Babalawo,

This probably means you have not mastered the art of kissing,which means the girls had to suffer.  So hopefull this South African woman schooled you, and when you go to Nigeria, you can school the naija girls. God a man who knows how to kiss, makes my knees weak.  Actually, I am too old to be schooling anybody.  I expect a man to know how to and if he doesn't, it would indicate to me he doesn't not how to "roll that jelly."  I gots to kick him to de curb.  If you a young,  then you have time to learn. 

You find someone who willing to practice with you.

Terry,

It is not reasonable to expect a young girl like that to wait for you for 5 years. I think, just my opinion, that you should let the girl go. It is very difficult to carry on long term relationships like that. If in five years, she is available and willing to try again as a mature woman, then give it a try.

I would not want my young daughter to be tied down like that. I would discourage it.

Jazz is a creation of people of African descent in the US.  It began in New Orleans and spread across the globe.  Jazz is African American gift to the world.  The only original American music.

Everything is simply an imitation.  Please tell what part of the African country originated jazz. By the way, the word jazz is believed to have come from the BaKongo word "jizz", which to expell ones semen.  It also had the same meaning in New Orleans.  New Orleans had ever possible ethnic Africans, primarily in large numbers the the folks from the Congo and Angola.  

The percusor to jazz is Ragtime(father of Ragtime is Scott Joplin).  Jazz would have never developed on the African continent. How could it possibly do so?  Black Americans are an amalgamation of many people.  You bring all of those elments together, living in an harsh an oppressive environment, and being naturally gifted, you get Jazz.  That is what makes us so wonderful gifted as people.  Do y'all know that jazz was originally a dancing music.

So y'all stop trying steal our music.     Africans in America are the orginators of Jazz, just like all other popular forms of music, i.e. rock-n-roll, the Blues, Ragtime, soul, gospel, funk, rythmn & blues, rap, etc.

I have no problem with y'all imitating us.  Imitation is the best kind of flattery, but to claim it as your creation is so silly.

JazzGrowth,

Smooth Jazz is not jazz. It is pop music. It like eating a hot dog vs. a steak. I suggest people start with the original jazz. The original jazz is happy, dancing music.

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Silly girl he is not going to leave his wife for you.  Do you think by telling her he's going to be particularly fond of you.  You have to realize that your are  simply some "good ass" on the side.  He probably gives you some money and buy you things. Don't make his miserable because you are riding her husband and think he is going to marry you. Stupid girl.

I think a woman seeking the sexual pleasure from another man is too much for their fragile male ego to take. Their entire manhood is in their ability to please. If the woman had to seek satisfaction outside of the relationship, then something must be terribly wrong with them.

There are many reasons when seek other lovers. One reason is that the man doesn't take her sexual needs into consideration. Another, I heard of often is he is emotionally distant. Women are emotional and mental. If you have my mind, my body is yours. You stimulate woman sexually, mentally.

In short, most men can't stand the thought that another man was banging his wife silly and she crazy with pleasure. This is why it is hard.

India and Pakistan are very racist societies.  The originals inhabitant are blue black.  They are on the bottom of the caste.  Their value as humans is based on color.  They are extremely color conscious.

I have a friend who live as an expat for a while in India.  When she was on the elevator a couple of males made some racist remarks about her.  Unbeknownst to them, she speak and understand their language.  They originally asked her in English where she was from, she said "America."  They then said in their language she "looks like a nigger from W. Africa."

Again, they are very color conscious.  They fall on themselves with whites.  The see whites as God.  Well this is also true in Africa to a large degree.

P.O. Do y'all realized the original inhabitants of India migrated out of East Africa?
I don't find them physically appealing.  They are not well built and look like racoons around the eyes.