₦airaland Forum

Amicable24:
Give respect to whom it's due.. If she was your mom, wouldn't u have thanked her? Fine she didn't foot the bills, but you just have to swallow your pride and say 'thank u ma'.. for respects sake (make e no be like say u no like her presence for your house ni)

purpleNG:
Biko come and adopt me,am up for adoption

ReneeNuttall:
This story is not complete, you didn't tell us why u refused going with ur hubby and his mum,since u are the one that initiated the idea of going to check the land....it seems u are not in good terms with ur mother in-law...pls am not justifying what ur husband said,in fact he was very wrong to av used dat word.

But then again,u ought to have know that men are emotionally attached to their mothers,while women to their dad,hence u shouldn't have denied going since the mom is going too.Also the way u replied him,wen u told him u are not going since the mom is accompanying him,might have made him get angry....just my thought though...keep praying and hoping for the best.

mymadam:
This young lady sounds intelligent to me. Nice one gurl!

DLondonboiy:
Why are you people joining different stories na

Wetin dey worry una? This early Monday morning? Una wan just provoke me? How do I understand this story na..

mavinc4u:
The mother in law deserves a thank you as your elder and if not a thank you for giving birth to the one who cooked the food or for teaching your wife who cooked for you how to cook. Your question should be where are you from? It is common in Nigeria especially in the south east. In fact you are also meant to greet the elderly visitors around after eating.

Pidgin2:
Adoption is not easy, make sure you find out about the lineage of any child you are taking into your home, cheers and kudos for being thoughtful

emi14:
Brother Steve why can't you cool and understand me. Saying thank ma to mother inlaws or even outlaws is ok... That shows respect.
Now the bible in Mathew 19:5 says...'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? Now if the wife can say thank ma to her mother; you the man husband and potential son inlaw being one body with ur wife is expected to say thank ma. Meaning that your wives mother is your mother also.

emi14:
If you are christian you suppose to understand me if you're not..never mind is not your fault.

savagefinder:
eh...its just a two letter word.. if you tell her the thank you and later ask your wife in private why she asked you to say thank you, doesn't it sound wiser? than coming to nairaland of all places for advice?

ccqueen:
There's no such thing as imposing traditions here,whenever you marry someplace that has a different culture from yours,be ready to adopt some of their ways.By the way,a simple "thank ma" doesn't hurt.That your reference no follow because
that one is personal.

emi14:
The mother of your wife is your mum also. In marriage Union; you and your wife become one body one soul. Saying "Ma" is justified.

kingphilip:
hope when your own mum comes around you'd do same

Or better still your wife does same to your mother you won't complain

ccqueen:
He's from this planet and African at that.From this side of the country (Eastern Nigeria), we greet our elders after eating irrespective of who provided the meal.It's obvious you are not Igbo,we do it to show respect just like some cultures demand you prostrate to greet an elder.

Mrbigman1:
Good day sir.
Pls can we talk privately?

I tried sending u pm but it wnt connect.

Can u pls send me a mail @ ibehval2012@yahoo.com

Or u send me ur own email address?

Thanks

Oscar4real:
small boy, some matured Dude has talk to me maturedly about this and I apologize yo my comments and are hear insulting me.... if you are positive am not the cause.... cos everyone who is sexualy active stand the risk of being +..... I will assume that you are an underage...

I will respond to your types any longer.. cos Silenceness is the best answers given to a............

nyben4eva:
It's like you want to give her the second one.

kilode100:
You bought a dilapidated house biko. Who tears down a house because they wanna put an extra room?



Post more pictures o

Nonybb:
Doe ‘lured to death by close colleagues’.
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(An Archive)The US has denied taking part in a plot which led to the murder of the Liberian president. Mark Huband reports from Freetown. (The Guardian, 21 November 1990) SAMUEL Doe, the late Liberian president who was tortured and killed by rebel forces on September 9, was lured to his death by close colleagues, one of whom admitted his involvement to Doe supporters and claimed that American embassy officials in Monrovia were involved. The American embassy in Freetown has issued a brief statement that the US had no role in the events which led to Doe’s capture and death.
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Members of the Doe regime who fled Monrovia or were evacuated after the killing of the president claim that Doe’s last close adviser, Sellie Thompson, admitted to them that the president’s visit to the Economic Community of West African States (Ecowas) peacekeeping force was a “set-up” intended to lure him into Monrovia’s rebel-held port, where the Ecowas force had its headquarters. In an interview with the Guardian, Mr Thompson said that he would be risking his life if he disclosed what had actually happened, but he hinted at the involvement of both Ecowas and the US.
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Sixty-eight members of Doe’s entourage were massacred by the forces of the rebel leader, Prince Johnson, at the port on September 9. Doe was captured, and died after 12 hours of torture at Mr Johnson’s hands. When the presidential convoy arrived at the port at 2pm, Ecowas troops demanded that they be disarmed. A few minutes later Prince Johnson’s forces arrived. They were allowed to carry their weapons into the port. Commanders of the Ecowas force have claimed that Doe’s visit to the port was unscheduled and they could not therefore assure maximum security. This amounts to a denial that the incident was set up. But colleagues of Doe now in Freetown reject this version, as Mr Thompson is known to have visited the port twice during the morning of Doe’s visit to plan the trip. Mr Thompson is also known to have spoken to General C. C. Iwezi, the Ecowas chief of staff.
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Doe’s colleagues, who have hitherto kept silent for fear of retribution and do not want to be identified by name, say that Mr Johnson visited the American embassy in Monrovia three times during the morning of September 9. They believe that Mr Johnson was informed of the president’s departure for the port by the embassy, the only place in Liberia able to contact rebel groups’ and government troops. Mr Johnson’s troops told civilians near the port: “Something is going to happen at around 2pm” – the time that Doe arrived. An American embassy car was seen leaving the port just before Doe arrived, his colleagues say. A film made by Mr Johnson of the torture and killing of Doe shows Mr Johnson attempting to make radio contact with the American embassy. He is heard saying: ”We have got Doe.
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”Survivors of the massacre were put on board an Ecowas ship in the port and evacuated to Freetown 24 hours later. The US ambassador, Peter de Vos, arrived at the port by helicopter the following morning to assess the number of dead and see whether Mr Thompson was alive, the Doe aides said. Mr Thompson was refused a meeting with Mr De Vos, they said.A senior adviser to Doe who spoke with Mr Thompson the night he arrived in Freetown said: “Thompson kept saying that the whole thing had been a set-up and that the United States was involved. We believe that he provided the American embassy with the exact time of the visit and that the US then relayed the message to Prince Johnson. Thompson kept saying he was afraid of the Americans, if he implicated them in the whole thing. ”Mr Thompson is now in hiding in Freetown after receiving threats from members of Doe’s Krahn tribe who have fled to the city. He told the Guardian that he was prepared to risk his life by disclosing who was responsible for bringing Doe to his death, if that would help end the civil war.
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“If George Bush(by this he meant George Bush Snr) is involved then I will say so.”He insisted that he had not organised the incidents at the port. “I would not have sacrificed Doe. Not for $5 billion, even if the CIA had convinced me.”Mr Thompson said he had not sought US protection, though Doe’s colleagues say he told them he could do so if he wanted.
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Mr Thompson visited Monrovia two weeks ago, it is believed in a US Marine helicopter which is normally reserved for American personnel and humanitarian aid to the city.Mr Thompson was one of the few Liberians given a visa for the United States at the embassy in Monrovia. Hundreds of Liberians were refused visas when fighting broke out in teh city during July and August. As delegation of Liberian government officials, including Mr Thompson, visited Washington in early June in an effort to put Doe’s case. The US insisted that the only way of ending the war was to force Doe out. One delegate, William Glay, returned to Liberia saying the Americans had been very tolerant of the situation, when in fact the message from Washington had been angry.
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Mr Glay had introduced Mr Thompson to Doe. Doe’s colleagues now believe that Mr Thompson was planted in the presidential mansion by Mr Glay, who had meetings during the US visit with officials from whichother delegation members were excluded. Mr Glay was given a US visa late one Sunday evening in June, when the Monrovia embassy was officially closed, and has since fled to the United States, Does’ colleagues claim.

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chiomababy22:
I might be new here but i am very optimistic it will work. My names are solomon chioma jecinta. From imo state and based in kaduna. A computer engineering student of kaduna poly. I have been out of 3 different relationship and one of which made me a single mother. No regret of being a single mom cause she is now my best friend. I need a man to fill in the gap in my life. I want to have a home of my own, build my family. I need a mature man not a boy. Preferably from the eastern part of the country. No insult or nasty comments please.

chiomababy22:
I have always spent val alone and i dont want to do same this year, and val is already knocking on the door. I need to feel special plsss. I am in kaduna and pls no insult. My post is for matured minds only.

chiomababy22:
I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

udordike:
Its u DAT dey will use expand business.
We hustle in Onitsha n not rituals

Oscar4real:
go to where you recieve your monthly HIV drugs and you will find what you are looking for.... but not on Nairaland

chiomababy22:
I might be new here but i am very optimistic it will work. My names are solomon chioma jecinta. From imo state and based in kaduna. A computer engineering student of kaduna poly. I have been out of 3 different relationship and one of which made me a single mother. No regret of being a single mom cause she is now my best friend. I need a man to fill in the gap in my life. I want to have a home of my own, build my family. I need a mature man not a boy. Preferably from the eastern part of the country. No insult or nasty comments please.

chiomababy22:
I have always spent val alone and i dont want to do same this year, and val is already knocking on the door. I need to feel special plsss. I am in kaduna and pls no insult. My post is for matured minds only.

mastermaestro:
Another uncultured loudmouth.

DozieInc:
"traditional"
Ok, imagine these scenario.
Your sister served you meal in the presence of your mum (yes you gave her the money) , after eating will you say thank you to your mum?

mastermaestro:
Where are you from, Mr Joe? It's common table manners in many Nigerian homes to thank the elderly person near you after having a meal irrespective of who financed the meal. Unless you grew apart from a home of elder folks, this isn't news! At an eatery, it's unnecessary. But in a home, it's a norm. Obedience, love and honour are the pillars of a successful home!

An obligation? Never. It's a sign of honour. This world is easy! Men make it difficult to live in!