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Mondisweets:
So saying that about a father to his daughter doesn't cause problems? She can have her father disrespected in her face and have a party over it abi?

Let me put mondi's alter-ego thats always stirring up trouble on NL aside....

There are things we need to learn before we enter into marriage. I know no matter what i can never take the position of my mother in-law in her son's life. So long they had a healthy relationship, she will remain the number one in his heart. Her food will most probably remain the best food he has ever tasted. She will probably be the only woman who could tear that asssss up but he would still go back to her the next day, hug her and call her the best mother ever. As a wife try it and the last thing i will see is a bright light.

Same thing goes with a father and his daughter. In fact my father would slap me today and tomorrow i would be drawing a pic of him written " greatest father in the world, i love you". If my husband tries it, best believe me he will not be getting an i love you the next day. A matured man will know that even if he is his wife's husband, that did not replace the role of her father in her life in anyway. Her father will probably the only man who can beat her up and 2hrs later she will be going down on her knees and serving him his favorite meal.

If my mother in law gives my husband food items or crockery. I will not ask my husband why she didn't inform me, i will simply call her to thank her. And if i can't cook the food items she sent me i will even ask her how she used to prepare it for him, so i can surprise him. If she sends him with a car, i will even go to their house and thank both her and her husband for the gift, whether i was informed about it before or not. At the end of the day, the gift was given to him, he was the one who had to choose whether he wanted it or not.


I understand that when get married i would have gained 2more parents not 2 more enemies trying to interfere with my marriage.
There is so much more about parenting i can learn from them apart from what my own parents have taught me. Im an African and i understand that marriage is not only about 2 people becoming one but 2 families coming together. Clearly some African men have thrown that cultural value away, why must you feel your in-law is belittling you by doing something for his daughter?

The guy in question felt disrespected by this FIL (for whatever delusional reason i have failed to understand until now) and the best way to deal with it was insult him in his daughter's face, because thats what mature men do? They make the issue worse?
If a petty issue like how a car is delivered can frustrate his life, what more when a bigger issue arises? Will he not murder his in-laws?
A man who acts his age would just go thank his in-laws for the gift. At the end of the day the receiver of the gift wasn't complaining so why should he take panado for a headache thats not his?
If it deeply wounded his little ego, there was always another alternative, go to another elderly family member from his wife's side, ask him/her to tell his FIL in the nicest way possible that he didn't feel that the gift was given in an appropriate manner and he must take caution in the future. You think insulting her father will make her love and respect him more?
When she starts disrespecting his mother the way he disrespected her father by claiming, " she is interfering with her marriage" you will come back an create another thread about how women of this generation have no respect for their husbands and in-laws

I agree with u partially, the issue is not the gift nor the giver, with the nature of the gift, the father should have @least let d man know and present it to the wife. Now food or cooking utensils is different from a car, imagine, ur husband coming home one night and telling u d family is packing the next day to the new house d husband father just gave hime. Going to the topic, i don't have a problem with such father or the gift. A WISE FATHER should know how to present such gifts to the daughter's family.
And also u keep comparing d importance of father to ur hasband. Father or ur children, will never be ther for u for long, ur spouse(husband/wife) will be there for 40/50 yrs. Why becos of a car start creating 'crack' in ur marriage. But I feel d father is to be blame. Presentation matters, it's like knowing 'what to say and 'how to say it proper'

Mondisweets:
Enlightened soul was right... Why should u make a big deal out of a small thing? If he has a problem with how the father presented the gift why did he not direct is anger to the culprit and not the wife? Do you think such a man will have the guts to tell his in law what he told his wife that "he is interfering with his family"?

Buh u know saying that to ur father in law might cause problem.

lordmayor2013:
Pls which of the rat killer did u use??

U wan use am for ur sugarmummy?

carefreewannabe:
So? What if we never get married, which is very possible because we are not big fans of marriage unless for pragmatic reasons, we can't be a family?

The circumstances are very very different, u don't walk out of marriage same way u walk out of relationships.

carefreewannabe:
First of all, there is NO WAY I will date a man that has a problem with my father giving me a car.

Secondly, I already have a car and I bought it from my own money. Guess what, it doesn't give my boyfriend sleepless nights.

Thirdly, the day a man says that my parents have to seek his permission to give me anything, is the day I will tell him to see the doctor.

Fourthly, I am in a position where I can easily walk out of a relationship if I want to, same for my boyfriend and it won't change.

Noted........but we talking husband not bf

carefreewannabe:
If my husband couldn't be happy for me getting a car from my father, then let it be so, then we better go our separate ways!
I don't do insecure men.

But the man in my life would most likely think, cool, he bought her a car, now we can save our money for something else.
I love smart, strong men.

And if his mama gives him a gift then I will be happy for him and thankful to her.

Now imagine your mama buys you a car and your wife gets angry over it, how would you react?

Am sorry, sumthings are better left till we fall in2 such situation.
@bolded..easier said than done

carefreewannabe:
Like seriously? The father has to inform his son-in-law that he wants to give HIS DAUGHTER a gift?

Why?

Why can't hubby learn about the gift from his wife and be happy for her? What's the problem? I see none.

If ure familiar with married people, they'll tell u that non issues like this can be very disturbing and can tear the family apart. What's the essence of a car when u no even get happy mind ride am/or creating holes in ur home.
Same go for the man also, any gift that's gonna hurt the wife should be presented in a proper way.

EnlightenedSoul:
[s]Pray what is wrong with that? It's a gift from her father. Does your father require anyone's permission to give you a gift? Can we stop making mountains out of a no-hills for a just a sec, and look at the 'issue' morally? [/s]


Scratch that. Never mind.

Like I said earlier, it's not abt the gift but the manner of presentation. Even friends give each other gift so y not family. It's the presentation am after not the gift.

alutaa:
If your Mother in-law bought a new set of cooking pots for his daughter in-law and gave it to his son, will the daughter in-law be happy?

To all ladies that said that there is nothing wrong, if your mother in law start buying cooking pots and plates for your kitchen, will you be happy with that?

What the father in-law did that was wrong is to give the car to his daughter directly without informing his son in-law. Best way to go about it is for the father in-law to present the car to them as a couple instead of giving it to his daughter directly.

I agree, @least carry the man along. What if the wife no get belle, so she go go her papa house carry belle cum also?

EfemenaXY:
Stop acting coy.

You were out all guns blazing because as a male, you feel slighted that the father-in-law stepped in, but you suddenly start getting cool when I ask if it would make a difference if the giver was/is the guy's own parents.

A man who loves his wife wouldn't want to see her suffering. The car was given to her by her father for gawd's sake! FAMILY. Not from a secret admirer. So why the unnecessary ego trip?

For me, it's not about the gift but the presentation, the FIL should have simply involved the man, they can even surprise the wife.

carefreewannabe:
Nothing wrong, the man has got self-esteem issues.

Am not opposing what the man did, but I felt the father in law should have carried the husband along (they can even make it a surprise). Imagine ur wife going out for morning and just driving home with a new car courtesy of her dad.

EfemenaXY:
This has got to be the most silly story I've read today, and a prime example of your typical black man seeing nothing wrong with his wife suffering, as long as his over inflated ego is massaged to the n^th degree.

@OP: think about it. How would you as a father whose nutured and brought up his daughter feel, seeing her suffering, knowing you could help ease her discomfort? Does being married mean that you as a father would totally wash your hands off your daughter?

If your parents had bought the car for her instead, would you still feel so miffed about it? Or still hold the opinion that your parents are interfering with your marriage?

Guy, pls.

(1) stop personalising, read and give ur own opinion.
(2)y are u tellin me to please, I know u b4

Relax and go read again after ur hot body don go down

Duru1:
I guess the above was meant for Carnival and rightfully so while the one from clueless Rotimi and Peterside looks more like a would-be serious political rally than a clownish display.

According to what hardywaltz said, ure really clueless

Heard the story recently, it's about a couple, the wife's car got bad and they worked out a way where he dropped and picked her off managing 1 car. Later the wife's father buys her a car and she takes it home, on getting home the husband exploded that the father in law should not interfere in his family.
Was he right?

Guys, i'll like to hear your opinion, what will be your response if your wife suddenly brings a car home as a gift from the father?

kestolove95:
and so? mtseew u peopl ar makin dix evribody shaut alleluyah man importnt joor...t.b gt followers pass am joor

It's not abt followers but abt people of value.

sexymoma:
Jesus never lived a flamboyant life

They never used a phone, tablet then either!

MizMyColi:
Wickedness!

I want to join SARS when I grow up

How old are u boy?

H

I ask for GOD mercy in all my ways and struggles. I shall never lack any good thing. My name shall be call Success and I will be highly favoured wherever I go in Jesus Name.

natureblack:
That wonderful feeling derived when digging a Russian lady

Have u?

I saw a similar car on lagos - ibadan express way (around mowe - arepo side), the car was moving with three wheels and on top speed. What a risk!

naijababe:
So uncool of Femi to make this public. What about those kids?

But it was right for the wife to bring another man's child without looking at the repercussion?

mekstaniac:
I'm in Port harcourt and I can give u a 10.3 OS for ur device

Pls I just upgraded my Q5 to OS 10.3.0.1418. I'll like to know the benefits/advantages ot this OS over the previous one. Thanks

alabiyemmy:
Your parents na mumu - both of them, not even one.

Ara lo ma san pa e, ko de ni ye o. Oloriburuku. It shows the kind of discipline ur parent instilled in u. For u to have no regard for another, ure a pig.

'Honour thy father and thy mother, so that ur days might be long......'

Later people will start saying why you youth of nowadaiz die young and like a chicken.

Idiot. It's still early today so i'll stop here, if God want to punish you, quote me and say nonsense.

alabiyemmy:
him own phone camera dey front?

Mumu, na 2500 naira fone u dey use?

mesoade:
I Haven't lied to my girl . . Same with my ex

U just lied

FiftyFifty:

Wetin dey make u shine ur teeth, assuming say u dey brush now fine, u and ur smelly mouth

exxell:
Am using a Lumsing.... Very powerful indeed. I got it from a Nairalander named Slye. This power bank charges my Iphone 4s over 5 times. And it can charge two devices at a time.

How much is it? And what's the rating? Kindly drop 'Slye' number

kennygee:
See what the media (thanks to Nicki Minaj and the Kardashians) are doing to our youths?

If you no get Nyash, must you force it?

Low self esteem has led this poor girl to an early grave.

I am just learning for the first time that such surgeries are done in Thailand.


I am #TeamFlatNyansh and i am not changing that for anyone, if you don't like it, enter Kuramo beach.

That's good o, but na only ur face we dey see. How we wan take know say na flat nyansh you get. Try upload ur behind make I judge now.

IfyAwazie:
Who need enemy at dis election period. Definitely not Mr President.

There are men, adults older than you in this forum, yet your own comment make sense pass all of them. U get brain.

Eediot.....most dumbest comment eva

DukeNija:
Bros abeg no vex o, is it your wife who doubles as life partner and mother of your children you are referring to with such disdain?
You seem to be a very angry person who feels he's doing a woman a favor by marrying her. I am not married, but I felt the urge to say I am very disappointed in your choice of words towards your wife. I take care of people who are not even related to me by blood, financially and otherwise and I never feel I'm doing them a favour, how much more my own family.

You sound like you were forced to marry her, like you didn't propose to this woman, didn't buy her an engagement ring and all that, like she was begging to become your wife. I went through your post and I couldn't even find what she did so wrong for you to hate her this much, even up to the point of contemplating divorce.

Using words like "putting her under my roof", "feeding her and our kids" "bitching about everything" is just too disrespectful to your wife and I'm afraid your marital challenges can be traced to your negative attitude towards your her. Please approach your marriage with a better countenance and see your wife as you see yourself by truly loving her and sincerely appreciating her contributions to your home. And yes you need to praise her for cooking, cleaning after you and your child, taking care of you and maintaining the home. Yes, you must praise her. Try telling her how much you appreciate her efforts and cooking, and how delicious her food is and see if she won't be overjoyed and do something special for you.
Women complain a lot, my mom, sisters, gf every woman I know can complain, it just doesn't make them bad people. That's just their way of communicating sometimes.

And pls if you are tired of putting her under your roof, u can send her to me. I have a very large flat with four rooms that can comfortably accommodate her. *Just kidding*

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Computer will not start

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Check monitor is turned on and
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Change fuse in cable.Check extension
if using one.
Try a different known working socket.
Change power lead.
Check no buttons or switches are
stuck.


No sound coming from computer

Check that your speakers are on and
plugged in
Check that the speaker is connected
to the right port (Green to Green)
Check the volume is turned up
Check you don’t have sound muted
(icon in taskbar)
Try plugging in ear phones to rule out
broken speakers.


Monitor screen blank

Check monitor is correctly connected
Check monitor is plugged in and
turned on
Check connection to computer is not
loose


Computer Boots but wont launch
windows

Can you boot into safe mode? (F8 on
start-up) if yes the problem is likely to
be something software related rather
than hardware.
Run malware, virus scans
If you can’t boot into safe mode try
booting into your computers repair my
computer mode to fix start-up issues
Try using system restore if you can
boot to safe mode or recovery to
restore to a previous date


Slow internet
Reboot your router and restart your
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Check for malware and
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Wireless connection dropping
Reboot both the computer and the
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Change the wireless channel
Move the router to a more central
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Extend your network using powerline
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Nice post bro, thumbs up.

I have a laptop hp 6735s, the motherboard is faulty and need to be replaced. I want to go for fairly used board because of financial situations. What is your advise?

Also do u repair laptops?

Pls kindly quote back for quick response. God bless.