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damiso: When it comes heading big business it is not even a gender specific thing.You just have to sometimes sacrifice that recital, that parent teacher meeting, that school play and one way or the other let down your children.That is not necessarily black and white good or bad because every good thing or anything of value tends to come with sacrifices..

Its easier when you have a great support network like she did in her mum (and my mum had her in her own mum before she passed on as my dad was also on the move alot) but she does have a point that it's sometimes hard to manage a work life balance when you get to the peak of certain proffessions.Its the same for men too but it just tends to be women who feel a bit more guilty about it.

I know a family where the kids have travelled to most of the countries in the world with their mum on vacation but were sooo thrilled when their Dad was finally able to join them on a family holiday to Gambia.But the truth is Daddy has to sacrifice that time with them to pay for a very expensive education and lifestyle.

What a wonderful story, u see..money is not everything, dat is y in africa (nigeria especially) the kids are more closer to the mother who spends much time with them even with the fact dat the dad might be the one paying their school fees @ harvard. Parenting isn't easy. May the lord help us all not to fail in dat aspect.

alutacontinua:
I was also waiting to see the part where she had to quit her job or leave her home, lol

U and ireneidiva are missing out on the point, who says she has to quit her job, there are answers in that little post yet u couldn't see it

jhydebaba: Poverty is the main curse cause.



I marvel at how even a 5 year old shout "UP NEPA", don't blame them pls, they also feel the heat.


The trend will continue to go from generation to generation until there is constant electricity.


BTW, kids also fake "UP NEPA" and this can really hurt an adult after saying a silent "thank u Jesus" only to ON the light and find out he has been fooled.
Kids do this a lot especially when u have prolonged blackout.

Chai, u remind me of my neighbours, mama nkechi's children....dey sabi fool person eh, funny enough dey can do is several times within dat time interval and u'll still be fooled, we don suffer for 9ja o. Darris God sha..

jhydebaba: Poverty is the main curse cause.



I marvel at how even a 5 year old shout "UP NEPA", don't blame them pls, they also feel the heat.


The trend will continue to go from generation to generation until there is constant electricity.


BTW, kids also fake "UP NEPA" and this can really hurt an adult after saying a silent "thank u Jesus" only to ON the light and find out he has been fooled.
Kids do this a lot especially when u have prolonged blackout.

Chai, u remind me of my neighbours, mama nkechi's children....dey sabi fool person eh, funny enough dey can do is several times within dat time interval and u'll still be fooled, we don suffer for 9ja o. Darris God sha

zicjoe: dats a wacked mentality

Hypocrite, such people like u scream out when dey can't get a male child.

@op...both are gifts from God and are all beautiful, however i don't like to have a particular sex as children (as in all boys or or girls) i prefer to have both.

And also to have ur question, u need a man to carry on ur legacy after uve gone, someone to go on with the family name, a son can also do better managing the family fortune than a son in law who can even throw the daughter out anytime.

A daughter commitment is to her immediate family( ie her husband wish will be her wish which may not be accepted in d father house), But a son.............u know now.

Call me woteva name u call me, waitin for the fish brain like to quote me and i fire u. Most of u say something and inside ur cupboard, u do something else.....am ready for y'all

Indra Krishnamurthy Nooyi, an Indian-born American, is a business executive and the current Chairperson and Chief Executive Officer of PepsiCo, the second largest food and beverage business on in the world. And at the same time, she still is a mom, wife and daughter back home.

Q. What's your opinion about whether women can have it all?

I don't think women can have it all. I just don't think so. We pretend we have it all. We pretend we can have it all. My husband and I have been married for 34 years. And we have two daughters. And every day you have to make a decision about whether you are going to be a wife or a mother, in fact many times during the day you have to make those decisions. And you have to co-opt a lot of people to help you. We co-opted our families to help us. We plan our lives meticulously so we can be decent parents. But if you ask our daughters, I'm not sure they will say that I've been a good mom. I'm not sure. And I try all kinds of coping mechanisms.

I'll tell you a story that happened when my daughter went to Catholic school. Every Wednesday morning they had class coffee with the mothers. Class coffee for a working woman—how is it going to work? How am I going to take off 9 o'clock on Wednesday mornings? So I missed most class coffees. My daughter would come home and she would list off all the mothers that were there and say, "You were not there, mom."

The first few times I would die with guilt. But I developed coping mechanisms. I called the school and I said, "give me a list of mothers that are not there." So when she came home in the evening she said, "You were not there, you were not there."

And I said, "ah ha, Mrs. Redd wasn't there, Mrs. So and So wasn't there. So I'm not the only bad mother."

You know, you have to cope, because you die with guilt. You just die with guilt. My observation, David, is that the biological clock and the career clock are in total conflict with each other. Total, complete conflict. When you have to have kids you have to build your career. Just as you're rising to middle management your kids need you because they're teenagers, they need you for the teenage years.

And that's the time your husband becomes a teenager too, so he needs you (laughing). They need you too. What do you do? And as you grow even more, your parents need you because they're aging. So we're screwed. We have no... we cannot have it all. Do you know what? Coping mechanisms. Train people at work. Train your family to be your extended family. You know what? When I'm in PepsiCo I travel a lot, and when my kids were tiny, especially my second one, we had strict rules on playing Nintendo. She'd call the office, and she didn't care if I was in China, Japan, India, wherever. She'd call the office, the receptionist would pick up the phone, "Can I speak to my mommy?" Everybody knows if somebody says, 'Can I speak to mommy?' It's my daughter. So she'd say, "Yes, Tyra, what can I do for you?"

"I want to play Nintendo."

So she has a set of questions. "Have you finished your homework?" Etc. I say this because that's what it takes. She goes through the questions and she says, "Okay, you can play Nintendo half an hour." Then she leaves me a message. "Tyra called at 5. This is the sequence of questions I went through. I've given her permission." So it's seamless parenting. But if you don't do that, I'm serious, if you don't develop mechanisms with your secretaries, with the extended office, with everybody around you, it cannot work. You know, stay at home mothering was a full time job. Being a CEO for a company is three full time jobs rolled into one. How can you do justice to all? You can't. The person who hurts the most through this whole thing is your spouse. There's no question about it. You know, Raj always said, you know what, your list is PepsioCo, PepsiCo, PepsiCo, our two kids, your mom, and then at the bottom of the list is me. There are two ways to look at it. (laughing) You should be happy you're on the list. So don't complain. (laughing) He is on the list. He is very much on the list. But you know, (laughing) sorry, David.

http://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2014/07/why-pepsico-ceo-indra-k-nooyi-cant-have-it-all/373750/

ajoskele: lol..Bros, Osun state has 30LGs ooh..it depends on the town you are posted. In Ede where I serve, you could get a room as low as 7k per annum and as high as 30k. It depends on your preference.
Here, a self-contain room ranges between 30' and 60k

Uhnmmmm, Ede, dats my home town. Serene environment, lovely people. Am sure u'll after ur nysc, u wont wanna leave again

nossycheek: Had to call the surgeon to help open the gate when he could not break the hymen. Wosh

Uhnmmm, so anoda guy did it on behalf of ur husband? Incase d gate is difficult to open 4ur husband next time, am here for u baby

mizshawny: These are actually very creepy.I've always felt little children have this kind of sixth sense. Hi I'm new on nairaland.

Hi mizshawny

gaddafi81: Can you people stop this, 3rd class is NOT ok. 95% of the reason is because the individual was playful in school. It is not ok in this competitive society we're in right now!!!

Though its being awhile this thread was created, but am just getting to read it now, i must say am disappointed with the way u view things, u keep on opposing those giving other people a reason to live, if u dont have anything positive to encourage d op and other people out there, its always better to keep quiet, words kill than actions.

And what certificate did Dangote, Adenuga has to employ professors? Or what certificate did Obasanjo have to become ur president,

U can be a slave to that piece of paper when u make it determine ur life/destiny. Even a first class graduate is not guarantee success with that piece of paper.

NB : not all 3rd class students were unserious.

Okay

Vicjustice: [size=20pt]APOLOGY UNACCEPTED[/size]

And who are u?

Nche95: who doesnt masturbate?

Haha, dont generalize, i don't.

davidif: Even when the coaches are no good? And you wonder why the continent is a mess. Instead of hiring the right people based on skill and talent, you hire just because of something as trivial as skin colour or ethnicity and you keep complaining about why hardly anything works in this country.

What a ignorant comment!!! Tell me the technical mistake the coach did wrong? U cant xpect the coach to keep cool wen players are forming big boys, go ask from Bechkam/Ferguson....Balotelli/Mourihno. U amazes me, keep worshipping the whites, is Keshi not a big example to convince u, or how many of those whites coaches win cup for una? Yeye person

iam_ord: u r 100 percent right.. Its an african problem ..The fault is from both ends.. They need to reshuffle the gfa..change the coach.and fire kbp and muntari.. There must be order!

I dont support them changing the coach, i like african coaches.

@op...i'll be posting my picture today after the match, am also a head ot state in my house. No cheating

hebex12: if nigeria no win 2nite,may hackers hack nairaland again

Na ur bank account dem go hack no be nairaland.

frankben: A prophet with alias, TALK-NA-DO whose ministry is based in the city of Aba in Abia State said the Final of this world cup would be played by Nigeria and Brazil... He wasn't critical on whom to lift the trophy at last...

The prophets have been positive in their remarks and declarations with regards the eagles participation in this world cup... Both prophesies apparently points towards a victory for the eagles today and the subsequent matches[quarter final & semi final]

I love it

#GoEAGLES

Sorry, what's the title of the film and when is it hitting the cinemas?

olumzzz: OK NA...OGA TB NKO?..WETIN HIM TALK?

Y do u av to quote all just for a single line, u need to see dis Sat Guru man urself, he could be of help to u.

Ayoswit: i had a revelations 2nite where i saw Stephen keshi lying flat on d ground after a man inform of Stephen gerrard score fourth goal against SE. this means SE may fall 4 goal to France, tufiakwa!

Keep your stupid revelation to yourself, we dont need it..the god of soccer is behind super eagles..

#flysupereagle

Ayoswit: i had a revelations 2nite where i saw Stephen keshi lying flat on d ground after a man inform of Stephen gerrard score fourth goal against SE. this means SE may fall 4 goal to France, tufiakwa!

Keep your stupid revelation to yourself, we dont need it..the god of soccer is behind super eagles.. #flysupereagle

Kunzu: Na wa oooo. Our supporters club don start wit their own kokori. Y are our(NFF and NFSC) always doubting d National team
in evry international competition.

Nothing concern NFF with supporters club

majamajic: So even the FA don't expect us to go beyond the group stage, this country called niger area.

The FA is not in charge of supporters club, they have their own leaders themselves, this shows that its not only the govt that are corrupt. May God save us

@farano:
*hiohiohiohiohio* e be lyk say u be fyn bobo

I be fine bobo also o, make i share my number

B4 i 4get, u be fine baby also

Medunah: Slimm girls all the way jorr

Can see ur slim, ure not bad u know..me likey slim girls, we could hit it up or what do u think

itachileemy: oboy you 4 don 'like' the comment na

How many orijin d likes go cum worth?

missyhorlah: read my comment b4 u comment

Are u based in ibadan

movicy: I don't like sex at most because of the self servicing, between, I still have passion for romance but the romance stuff is quietly killing me. I always feel serious pain in my lower abdomen after each romance moment and I even notice swell of my testicle, pls your candid advice is needed here

Go see a doctor and get urself examined quick

tjark1: Write your will

Be Nice, u dont want him to carry a bad image of u to the grave

Ike~lips:
So a man can desire a beautiful woman and every one will support him, but if a woman desires a man who is hardworking, she is a gold digger?

She didnt desire a hardworking man, she desire an abroad based guy who might even be a 419, what happened to all d good guys here in nigeria, can u now see dat see misplaced her priority.

Meestique: U had sex with a guy just to teach ur guy a lesson? Oh ladies..!

....pls help me tell her - marvelck that incase her bf decides to Bleep up again, am available as a secret admirer, i promise i wont take it serious, just benefits.......i wanna cheat on my gf to make change her

ismokeweed: Nyashing

Na wetin concern u be dat, diff things for different folks