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Klass99:
The entire piece was an enjoyable read. The text quoted reminds me of an article by Cowrywise (my favourite savings & investment platform) which said early marriages especially for women increases poverty for them. This story and original post validates what Cowrywise said, see excerpt below;

Marry smartly.
Research shows that early marriage can be a factor that increases the risk of remaining in poverty, especially for women. The reason for this is not farfetched. Marriage most times means children which means more mouths to feed. It also means less mobility which could mean restricted access to employment in distant places as you now have to consider your family. Most times, marriage also means a hold on further education. https://cowrywise.com/blog/generational-poverty/

Bravo! Thanks

Raheeqilmaktoom:
One of the major drwabacks of our societies (esp in the north) is the lack of social awareness. This scenario you just painted continues happening and society keeps in repeating the same mistakes.

One thing we need to have is a true Islamic social system that guarantees people's rights and provide for them guidance in their see activities, it's not just by having Hisba and Shari'a, but by reaching the roots of these issues and empowering those institutions to act on such mandates.

Wallahi! Especially in the north. May Allah see us through

Raheeqilmaktoom:
Educated, exposed and rational Southerners.

Its not okay... Tbh

Enemyofpeace:
shut the fok up. Bloody animal!

Ahhh i have said my ownnn

IamV:
Human life is sacred.
Nothing justifies taking a life you didn't & can't create.
You need to break free, trust me.

Thank you

Shidda:
Okay, my mistake, asif

La'allahu khair

Allahu Akbar!
Blasphemy You will be executed!!!!
Periodttttttttt

May Allah forgive him, may He grant him jannah!

Amin Ya Rabb

See as dem comot him clothes

#Copied #

You saw her, the young innocent beautiful teenager who just concluded her secondary school education and you have a feeling you want her to be your wife... You approach her and see her parents.

They trust you and ask to see your own parents and gave you their beautifully, well mannered daughter as a wife and the mother of your future children. Despite being a hard-working girl both in home and school, she finds it difficult to cope because of the complications of her first pregnancy. She thus manage to do all she can to make you happy because she was told to do what you want and everyone keeps mentioning "PATIENCE" when she was about to be brought to your home.

She holds that word "PATIENCE" with high esteem and brings it to practice whenever you shouted or say something she's not happy with.

She has your first child and things changed alot. She has to take care of you, the baby and makes sure she makes your house a home to you. Deep down in her heart, the zeal she has to continue her education never fades.

On the 3rd year of your marriage, she's already pregnant with another baby, despite you earning more than before, your spent less on her, because you now start having a feeling that she's not beautiful, she's my wife , she must do as I say. So rather than spending time with her , you spend your time and money trying to win other girls ONLINE and OFFLINE.

You don't talk to her anymore except if you need something from her or she wants you to buy something for domestic purpose which in most cases you ignored her and if she repeated it, you easily shouted " I heard you the first time ...!!!"

By your 7th marriage anniversary, she has 3 children, and you just want to take another wife because your earnings has tripled.

While your wedding with the girl of your "dreams" is approaching, you ignored her existence while she becomes a shadow in your house. You are busy preparing an extravagant wedding , something your new fiancee want, expensive pre wedding pictures, expensive dinner parties etc.... something your wife at home never had and never complain.

A week to your wedding , she meet you and told you your younger child needs diapers and you get angry and started shouting at her. She becomes upset and decided to talk back at you for the first time. You even become more furious and beat her up and then DIVORCED her. She cried and left to her parents house. Her parents were Shocked because this is the first time she has ever came back home which turns out to be a divorce, while all the ordeals she had experienced in your house she never told anybody.

Her parents called you and you lied...you told them that because you're taking another wife, she abused you and your parents, and asked for a divorce because she will not stay while you take another wife. Her parents believe you and decided to teach her a lesson. Her children were with her so your only focus was on your new Bride.

She became depressed and confused. Her mother don't want to talk to her, her father was angry with her, her younger ones don't respect her all because she's now a DIVORCEE.

She cried every night, pray and couldn't sleep. She has 3 children to take care of, she's broke, has no certificate to look for a job and don't even know where to start from.

That's how most DIVORCED WOMEN suffer in our societies. So if you're going to DIVORCE a jobless woman and not ready to take care of your kids...settle her with money to start a business.
Divorce is one of the major causes of POVERTY among women in our societies today.

#FortheWomen
#EndUneccessaryDivorce

udemzyudex:
Reinstall the operating system.

You will only lose your apps but all documents, pictures, videos will be safe in Windows old

Thanks alot

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It is not a do or die affair, if you're not interested in the marriage, you are tired of her, no problem but chasing out a woman that has five children for you, without any form of financial assistance is cruel. How do you want her to cater for five children all alone?

You have remarried, no problem, but as you are wining and dining with your new your wife, remember your ex wife and five children are roaming the streets.

Please, if you are a man, and you are in this type of lifestyle, correct the abnormalities.

Always pay attention to details.

Abu Sheikh

Age has always been a factor in our environment, when a lady at eighteen to twenty years old gets married, some people raise eyebrow, when sisters in the age bracket go into divorce, the whole society shout down in condemnation.

Getting married early is a fantastic decision, between brothers and sisters that are capable physically, psychologically and financially, indeed, early marriage is better than fornication.

Many of these young sisters did not marry themselves, they actually got married to men who should take good care of them, but unfortunately, they are shown the way out few weeks or months of the marriage. So, we do not just tongue lash the sisters alone, what about the brothers?

There are many factors responsible for this, these young sisters are easy to marry and divorce respectively, they get infatuated in a mere relationship, and most unrefined men take advantage of this. Majority of them are still in school or acquiring skills, they need money, gifts and attention, and they meet opposite sexes on daily basis that offer some of these things to lure them, getting entangled will be inevitable.

At that age, a ma sha Allah sister can marry a brother because of his beard, trousers, the appearance is enough for her, she does not realize that there is big difference between religiousity and compatibility. In our Madrasah, these sisters run after their male teachers, and if the teacher is not well cultured, immorality can take place. There is nothing wrong if a sister is interested in a brother, but using a third party arrangement remains the best method, when a sister makes herself too available for a brother, she will be taken for granted.

Due to lack of knowledge on relationship and marriage, most ma sha brothers find it easy to entice them with little things. A man once told a sister that, 'you can send your nude picture to me, because religion permits me to see what I want to marry", he is actually lying, but the sister is naive, more so, she is hearing that from a ma sha brother, she complied and did unpredictable things.

As brothers, we need to be mindful our actions, the rate at which these sisters are complaining of sexual harassment and assault is extremely high, sleeping with them under the guise of 'I want to marry you', is not acceptable, stop taking advantage of their inexperience to maltreat them sexually and emotionally, the consequence of fornication and adultery is very severe.

We should be very careful of our dealings, both brothers and sisters should seek knowledge about relationship and marriage, your Western and Arabic Education should be extended, in order to perform better in a marital relationship.

Always pay attention to details.

Abu Sheikh

donpata:
KANO and flyovers. You would think the people eat them. Most Nigerian politicians don't know what long term plan is. They want projects they can easily showcase either to earn them a second term or to provide them an instrument for popularity propaganda. Besides, these capital gulping projects are the sure way of getting more dollars to be put in babanriga.

Ask Ganduje his 5yr plan for eradication of the current system of almajiranchi, and I bet u there's none. Well, the amount of keke in Kano seems to be more than the population sef. Maybe that's why they feel it's important to build these funds consuming projects. Last last though, it may just be a competition - Kwankwaso vs Ganduje with almost zero interest in human capital development.

And education! All they have been doing is buying new clothes for someone who is hungry. You begin to wonder do they even have good ppl as their advisers? Atleast invest in these children, na to invest on land dey hungry them well, there's hope
Mind you am a northerner, Kano to be exact.

Kano ta dabo tumbin giwa

Atllanta:
eat n sleep

Leave the egg, gimme the noodles

SodiumValproate:
Are you related to Jeon?

For you to like Awara and Yaji

Do you like Masa also?

Who is Jeon
Am a northerner, Kano to be exact
Yeessssss i do! Masa or sinasir

Sunnyski:
Is that all you have to say?

Ehen na!

AbuAeesha:
nice work,
though i stay in kaduna

Thank you!
Masha Allah
We deliver nationwide o

omooba969:
Another one!

E dey enter my eye.

Its all yours

Hian!

bekpo:
Let's talk privately, hope u wouldn't mind?

Okk

bekpo:
But in ur own opinion, is it romantic for a man 2 accompany his babe 2 d hair dressing salon? Apart from d tradition

"Tradition and religion aside"
I dont see anything wrong in accompanying your partner to do their things, but just know that you must abide by the rules of the place you went to, for peace to reign.
And mind you, i said partner it may be a man or a woman you know.

bekpo:
As in ba shiga ba?

"men are not allowed" is written on the door of most of salons here. Its a private thing you know, where you feel free, open your hair and stuff laidat
You get

Hello house, please this is what my pc has been showing me. I gave it to my classmate for
windows update.
What do i do please?

bekpo:
U r a suspect.

Nah man! Its not right na. Here in my place, you hardly see men in women salon. Maybe around Sabon gari or Brigade

Na demmm

Wetin carry man enter women salon
Mumuism

Scarcity234:
Do the math. Rice 33k, the rest of the food stuff can be gotten with the remaining 17k in some part of Northern Nigeria

17k is too much seff.. For those vegies, yam, noodles and spag

Mvena:
Looks fluffy

It is
Thank you

AutoshalomUSA:
Ah this your combo is exclusive oh ! What part of Nigeria does this combo exist abeg ?

Northern part of Nigeria.
Btw thank you

Cupcakes for breakfast.
1 down before morning...... Haha