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coogar: ritualists full this place - see them fighting amongst themselves to cut off my phallus. you can never get hold of it, ujujoan!!!!

hahaha,,

ileobatojo: Then suggest what she should invent or stop spewing irrelevant comments. Or are you saying she should send the child to the same people that maltreated him?

Until we know more from the op well...

ileobatojo: The bolded is the very koko here! Didn't he read that these same people didn't care for the child properly the first time around or is he just hell bent on opposing the 'usual suspects' by any means necessary?

necessity is the mother of invention
there may be other choices if she opens her eyes
She may not have provided much for the child when he was there hence the malnourished look
She may be better off now

The Op is the best person to tell us

Pataki: What does post study have to do with it? Except you are talking within the UK context now. Post study is not the issue for the OP, as already had it sorted in her mind, she would go for a research fellowship immediately. She never made reference to that as her issue. She is more concerned about the welfare of her son and on taking up the opportunity presented to her. That is what you failed to see.

Dude,, this is my earlier post

biolabee: hmmm,,,.. i understand what the ladies are saying
Please do not mind the insults - its from the usual suspects

The issue here is not how your son will be the year you are gone for your study but what will happen post study and marriage etc

The best person to do this is your discussion with your man

Hard decisions have to be taken and lucky you, you have the cloak of anonymity here as noone know you but ensure your stakeholders primarily your son and your fiance etc are all satisfied



Steve Jobs was given up by his biological parents and he had a better life than he could dream making devices people are usign to post on this same NL

Advancin your career to provide a better life for yourself and son is GOOD
DOnt let anyone guilt you that you are a money hungry wench; just that you have to be strategic


Now see everyone attacking the lady that she is evil but nothing for the good-for-nothing arze of a baby daddy that put them in the position they are in is left out

Even my friends wife who travelled abroad for a Masters had to leave her kids behind because they will constitute a distraction which negates the effect of their study and travelling abroad so WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO DO IS NOT NEW

Uju here mentioned her husband helped her when she had a professional program

WHY CANT WE HELP HER WITH PLAUSIBLE SOLUTIONS RATHER THAN CONDEMNATION AND JUDGEMENT

ish

As an adult it is important to look at people without prejudices... that was made clear in my original post
The point about baby daddies was to show how i perceive societies hypoccrisies...

Sorry its not up to your standard.. though im male does not mean i condone what single mothers are made to go through in the name of waiting for 18 years before the baby daddy gets his senses

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]One day....just one day I would like to read a post from Broda Bioblee where his stance on an issue is crystal clear. I swear to God, sometimes I read your posts and I am literally scratching my head wondering if I misread a previous post that was EXACTLY the opposite of subsequent posts.

And where does the need to play thread monitor...telling people who they should ignore and how to respond to others, come from?!! You must be a first born, I notice that a lot with first borns. On the other hand, first borns are known to be honest to goodness peace makers....I mean they actually do a fantastic job at trying to keep peace not a sly pretense of it which really does the opposite. Oy! You my Broda-on-line are an enigma.

@ Topic (Yes, Yes, I know it ya mi abi? )

Lemme see if I get this right, you once left your baby with his father's family and came back after a few days (weeks?) to find him malnourished yet this does not deter you from thinking of leaving with them for years? Brilliant!

My momma, as unbelievably old fashioned as she is, has a saying about love, it may sound a bit errr...unPC but I think it sums up succinctly what most people on this thread are trying to say - LOVE ME, LOVE MY DOG[/quote]Madam Sisi.. im surpised you think my posts are inconsistent anyhow,,, no issue
I will never platy the role of Monitor as i believe everyone here is perfectly capable of stating their POVs without resorting to name calling and its not about my role in my family

Moreover remember an only child is technically a first born

This forum is about open minded ness and discourse which i thought you tred to engender with your long dead Perfect Housewife series.. yes i followed u that long ago
But no issue... this land is free for anyone and anyone can say anthing they want to say

Dude I read well and said the issue is not the one year but rather post study

If that is not apparent .. Pity!

You dont need to apologise to attack, you are free to attack just as the putrid shrew is hocking her bytes out

I made reference to married people or not because I understand her need to improve herself and moreover settle with someone rather than become a promiscous flirt sleeping around town

It is my opinion and i did not know hthere was a counter or quota needed around this land

Nashville: A good husband is someone who loves his wife unconditionally.
A good husband is someone who understands his wife is not perfect but loves her inspite of the imperfections.
A good husband is one that helps and supports his wife to be the best she can be, in her chosen career and as a wife.
A good husband listens, respects and cares for his wife.
A good husband will not publicly humiliate or talk down on his wife.
A good husband does not cheat on his wife.
A good husband spends and invests in his wife
A good husband accepts his wife's family as his own
A good husband is not afraid to point out his wife's flaws, but with the intent to help her become better
And lastly, a good husband prays for his wife

Sweet! The bolded killed it because I believe though we are imperfect we should strive for perfection or improvement

Woman... It's really a pity that you have so much bitterness

Well nothing good can come out of your putrid mouth and soul

Me small dikk because you claim that size of your punny is deep and only a mandingo can solve that putrid itch you have

Shey my own is small according to you I'm ok with it it'sa phsycial thing only in use for another 50years or so but you your bitterness lives within you daily and when you die, the effects will still be felt long after you end your miserable existence


Thanks
I dey ok.. Nothing do me

Ujujoan: The point is pointless . . . she knew her baby daddy was irresponsible from the word go. You know how these military people are. Na she wey go open leg for am I blame. Even if na by mistake, postinor don finish for market? But let's not go into that now . . . See now, she doesn't know what to do with the boy.

OP Please give Jide . . . or give me abeg. Imagine getting a 3-year old son now, my life will be perfect. I won't have to get preggers again . . *dancing azonto*

Pointless to you but since life allows for each and everyone of us to have our point of view

No problem

jidegirl12: *sighs* here we go again, Biola I really don't know what you stand for really? I don't mean to attack you but your views just .... I don't know

*off to work for my daily bread*

Somebody's hubby accompanied her for a job with his own child oh... you're comparing that scenario to dropping a 3 year old for just random family member she herself can't spend a night with. A 3 year old oh

Are you now encouraging her to jump at her boyfriend's 'offer' cos it's an opportunity of a lifetime? *Aristo moves*

And then your transferring your aggression to the ( irresponsible) baby daddy that's outta the picture since when?

*sighs* God why do you have to give these people a son to maltreat when I desperately crave one , just one??

Read what I said mama jhyde I said she should consider all ramifications and consider the reality of the situation that she may live alone all her life because she is waiting for someone that will take her and her son on a masters

When even married people leave their kids behind

My jibe at the nonsense baby daddy is just to highlight the same double standards in our society

Baby123 you call yourself baby but you are full of such bitterness and excrement

You remind me of dorian grays picture - putrid
And I leave you to your machinations and what you call peace for an Unprovoked statement at my person.

kulyie: abi o jare

No wahala kasala go still burst later

Ujujoan: I completely agree . . .



That's why women should be more careful when dating. If you make a wrong decision (pregnancy), it affects you more that it affects the man. She knew her baby daddy was irresponsible, and yet she went ahead to get pragnant for him.

She knew she wasn't ready to start a family, and yet she went ahead to have the baby.

And now she wants to run way from the irresponsibility



If I have to travel for anything, I'll leave my kid with my husband. I do it all the time. Becasue he's her father and I know he can take good care of her. If my husband has to travel with him, I'll leave the baby with my mum because I trust she can take very good care of her too!

If OP is sure her baby's father's parents are capable of taking care of him, she won't be here asking us these questions!



And . . .



Honestly, if I believed the bf means well and intends to bring the boy into their life in the future, I won't be so worried. But it's obvious he doesn't want the boy in their lives. He's asking her to make a choice between him and the boy.

I don't blame him cos he's not the father, but she should know better, cos he's her son!

The point was made to show the innate disadvantage single mothers face relative to wives who have their husbands to do daddy duty

I like the point you made about recoognised the need for advancement and I feel that is what the lady should tell us

@OP
What is the role of your first child post study in your life with this man

Now I see why some here advocates abortion if a girl gets pregnant and the father bails

Meanwhile the girl will be tagged demonic if she aborts

Na wa

kulyie: biola baby kujo meta.e don tey.how family dem? Ehen biola i don shek efriwhere for that babaoyo thread wey you talk,i no see am.meanwhile remember the time wey i dey play some nice bonsue gbedu for you for baba oyo thread ? Ehen,my kid brother don help me find the title of that song wey lagbaja play wey e feature kola odunlade,rachael oniga and some few yoruba acts.the name of the song na omo jaiye jaiye.i just watch am now.the musiv video funny die

lOl... every every dey kampe.. eku oje tiri naa
awa n mi titi.. no shakings

teemilo: @biolabee, thank you so much for your words.

hmmm,,,.. i understand what the ladies are saying
Please do not mind the insults - its from the usual suspects

The issue here is not how your son will be the year you are gone for your study but what will happen post study and marriage etc

The best person to do this is your discussion with your man

Hard decisions have to be taken and lucky you, you have the cloak of anonymity here as noone know you but ensure your stakeholders primarily your son and your fiance etc are all satisfied

Steve Jobs was given up by his biological parents and he had a better life than he could dream making devices people are usign to post on this same NL

Advancin your career to provide a better life for yourself and son is GOOD
DOnt let anyone guilt you that you are a money hungry wench; just that you have to be strategic


Now see everyone attacking the lady that she is evil but nothing for the good-for-nothing arze of a baby daddy that put them in the position they are in is left out

Even my friends wife who travelled abroad for a Masters had to leave her kids behind because they will constitute a distraction which negates the effect of their study and travelling abroad so WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO DO IS NOT NEW

Uju here mentioned her husband helped her when she had a professional program

WHY CANT WE HELP HER WITH PLAUSIBLE SOLUTIONS RATHER THAN CONDEMNATION AND JUDGEMENT

ish

django1: I have to unfollow now, am seeing too many things I'll rather wait for! This is a spoilers thread!

yep we told you now

we follow the manga,.... not the anime
but soon the anime will catch up as the kages have been sealed already

bukatyne: You must really be dumb!

I pray you don't have female kids in future so that the quantity of low self esteemed I must be mrs somebody by force will reduce.

choi,,, this one na curse o... i no go say hin no deserve am make my oga talk something else

if u want correct views, leave the front page till maybe page 5 or 6

Damn see the size of the bijuu bomb compared to the 8th tails...

Shugamania: Lol.. Thanks, am here now.

I've never seen a snake

I've never killed a fowl

I'm presentky wearing black shoes.

No 2

nikkykay: Polygamy then was not even cheating i guess. I was legal according to d customary/traditional law.

So there is a gradual change from that and maybe in 30 years it will be culturally undesirable to cheat outside marriage

nikkykay: To the women saying because the man is a cheat so the woman is justified, will 2 wrongs ever make a right? And also it is a wrong thing for the man to even cheat on his wife but does it mean d woman shld go and sleep with another man when she was pregnant and after she put to bed, she still continued with the act for 5months like she said> We dont if she was sleep with d man b4 she got married or its more dan 5months afta she put to bed.
In any case, lets look at it ds way and put ourselves in her shoes.What happened to dignity?
Its unfortunate that in our society (African)as of ds moment, its pardonable when a man cheats but a woman cant go unpunished. She was aware of ds fact , why did she go into it?
Lets reason like sisters and forget sentiment here, can we do ds if we were in her shoes? Can we advise any of our friends or sisters who come to us for advise to retaliate of dir husband cheat? Will u say kudos to ds Mrs. if u eventually meet her?
I will never cheat on my husband if i discover he is cheating on me! That i can say about myself.
So lets stop saying it is karma! Its indirectly encouraging some to go ahead and do d same.
We have all right to banish d man, abuse him, slap/kick him if we can lay hands on him but we shldnt support what d woman has done. Lets make her realise wot she did was wrong so dat she can show remorse to the world.
This is all for now.
thank you

Deep and nice

However I think we should consider some perspective in african society that what is referred to as cheating was permissible two generations ago as polygamy but polyandry is not african generally

In addition s.ex oFfenders should be chemically castrated

Repeat offenders physically castrated

Pervs

greatgod2012: the fact is that, people keep quite because of stigma on the part of the kid involved, (i mean, they thought they are protecting the image and dignity of the kid involved), when it happens to their kids or their neighbour'kids for fear of blackmail on their own part, or for other reasons best known to them, but personally, i believe that, if such a molester is reported and dealt with seriously, it will serve as detterent to other potential abusers/molesters.



Another way, which i believe can save better but to some extent is to always be closer to our kids, we must always allow them to be able to pour out their minds out withour fear, so that, they will be able to confidently confide in us when anyone is trying to make a suicidal move towards them, but this may not apply to kids who are to speak.
Also, we as parents should always tell our little ones not to ever allow anyone to touch them, especially, their privates anyhow,and that if anyone tries it with them, they should run away from the person and report him/her to some other adults around them.
May God help us all.

Amin

vivian chinaza: Brass? Not a chance! I'm scared of the ocean and boats. Obudu Ranch is not a good idea too. Read so many crazy things I probably can't do alone, lovely place tho.

Eket beach? Sounds lovely, so tell me more about it.

I was in Uyo 4 years back but never had the opportunity to get to the famed Eket beach

I hear it's serene and beautiful and it's best around festive periods like Easter or Xmas

Once you get to uyo you will take a cab to eket
I went to ibesikpo to chop one point and kill catfish then just after the eket/oron junction

Good times!


I will let our brothers/sisters from akwa ibom say more on it

jhydebaba: U have to wait for ur turn man i.e u must get an answer correctly before posting ur questions.
BTW, ur answer should be 1...
But u are not poor now, atleast u can afford a phone/laptop and internet connection

Sory boss

I will follow the rules

Okay

jhydebaba: Banti, are u feeling insecure



I've killed hen before
I've killed guinea fowl before
I've killed snake before

No 2 is wrong

Let's hope this is interesting let's hear from the fillies ladies mouth.

That's life
The same madrid that if not for mu - no hope of anything now they are pushing mou

Iker and ramos that used to chop nothing now they are anti mou once they won copa d rey

I'm rich
I'm male
My name Starts wit B

Congrats..

Everything na double double

I'm actually interested in this topic because they have different definitions on this
Aside the normal ones of no cheating and providing there seems to be some unwritten ones -
No clubbing, no spending on in laws, no football on weekends or with the guys,

Ladies over to you

Ish

logica: Maybe that slave is your mother and the slave driver your father; do not mix me up with your father. If your father beats your mother, that is their biz and yours; not mine. I am a man of my own, as I came into this world alone.

Those statements about anothers parents and betrays your use of your moniker

You appeal to no logic

Good for them


It's a matter of time, it will be adopted across the country

Na today Nyansh dey back
At least they have gotten what they want

Can we rest now