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kulyie: baba biola i no see baba oyo thread o.

My signature .you don see am

jidegirl12: Cos he's going through similar mess it's a no brainer eh?

Miss me yet Biola??

Mama jhyde how far
Abeg o this is quarter 2 let there be peace on this family seksion

I have no mess I'm goin aside the normal daily bread waka tinz

LOL

Good day and welcome



How is family

bettymafy: Naaaa. . . Not taking things personal at all. Just airing my views. U are usually objective in most of your discourse. Why u have chosen to be biased in this particular one beats me.

Sorry if it seems I'm biased but interesting what may have ticked me off is not the infidelity but the lady's statement about hin being lazy

In my opinion it connotes contrmpt for the man and once a woman despises a man it's over there; it's just a matter of time

wifeofwhyme222: I never cheated on my husband in pregnancy...pls don't misquote me...

The reason why I bothered 2 reply 2 my husbands post was becos I was made out 2 be the devil.., a woman dont just step out the must be somethyn that may av promted her 2 do so...

My hubby isn't a bad man contrary 2 what u all miss read in my post...but he had his own fault most worse dan mine..

He feels he is always right, and cannever be wrong.

I av made peace with myself and my God...I av attempted 2 make peace with him but he feels he can't make peace with me...

I am not happy I cheated, a lot of circumstances led 2 it...most understand where I am coming from most don't.

Majority just came here 2 insult. I pray God not allow anyone experience all dis.

I never lied about anythyn I said in my ealier post...I just wanted him 2 kknow he also is not a saint...he can't deny

It is very unfortunate dis got 2 dis level...all my life sin. I never tot I'd find myself in a place like dis.

Not my intention 2 wash my dirty linen outside...8months after discovery my hubby decided 2 post dis on Nairaland...he has slept with me over 20times since he knew now ihe says I repulse him..we av been happy! But it seems he wants me 2 kill myself before he knows I am sorry 4 what happened.

I av tried. U all say it is okay 2 chat rawly with young ladies cos its just a chat he hasn't slept with dem dat makes it okay. It is okay 4 him 2 av kept on sleeping with his ex days before our wihte wedding months after aour court wedding cos we were not married yet?.

Since he.has read on dis forum all the responses and support he is getting he believes he is right and the victim.

I leave all 2 God. And I leave him 2 his next wife...

Dear OP I never castigated you for your slip and had hoped for a reconciliation even from my posts on the thread

It was the way you potrayed your man as lazy that changed it for me

I will not support s3x chats with third parties moreover when my woman needs back massage etc bla bla bla

I just piked on lazy
Now you have to know there are a lot of juveniles on this land and they know lil so ignore those posts and focus on constructive posts

Only a juve will believe there is one side to a story

For now you want recon but you have to moderate your expectation and be patient

Look at every day as a small victory and focus on lil whyme

Seek marriage counselling

A small seperation may be necessary as emotions are really high at this moment

He will always look at you in bed and see the other guy so just be understanding and prayerful

Also ensure you are economically independent in case...not everyone follows through on their promise

Continue to pray for him
This is Make or Mar time

May God help you and yours in these times

tttn726: rofl!!!

You must be sexed up.

No sex reference here. I mean complaining....never mind...lol

dude you arethe one confusing,,,

what did you mean by this

tttn726: What if I told you the "woman" says, "after I whine, I'm like...why am I whining..I say to myself...shut up"!

Idowuogbo: Owo ti wo gobe!

Iya, mo gbe di fun babalawo to po ogun silencer Aigbe.

the mata weak me...shopclue /bbfever / texaco1/ i./acidosis

which way ?

Do you whining during coi.tus... i was assuming whining like someone who is a nag

se,x bot abi fussy robot abi wetin be ya name again/... u noi dey tire?

shuo

biolabee: I like this... I think that core is called the ID

Just to clarify this ID thing

According to Freud, we are born with our Id. The id is an important part of our personality because as newborns, it allows us to get our basic needs met. Freud believed that the id is based on our pleasure principle. In other words, the id wants whatever feels good at the time, with no consideration for the reality of the situation. When a child is hungry, the id wants food, and therefore the child cries. When the child needs to be changed, the id cries. When the child is uncomfortable, in pain, too hot, too cold, or just wants attention, the id speaks up until his or her needs are met.

http://allpsych.com/psychology101/ego.html


Not to be confused with Area Mami ID Noble

[quote author=Raggedy_Ann]Don't mind this sanctimonious, judgemental lot. The point of sharing this story was to show that no matter how righteous one thinks he is, no one is proof against succombing to sin sooner or later.

She can't help it that she fell in love, she can't help it that he's married. She could have desisted from acting on her emotions but that's the error she's admitting here. And she's stopped communicating with him what more should she do? It`s only natural that she would take a step back from the relationship with her boyfriend to evaluate things given that this happened. She needs to understand why she cheated, she needs to decide what she wants. We all know this sort of a break could be the prelude to the eventual break-up or a lenghty confession[/quote]a wise head there...

Toks2008: The more you grow the more you will understand that no one can be trusted so all these talk about someone sleeping with a man or woman asides their fiance/fiancee or spouse is comical. Lets discuss something more weighty.


Do not trust a neighbor; put no confidence in a friend. Even with the woman who lies in your embrace guard the words of your lips.Micah 7:5

next topic please.

deep

what do u mean by whining,... like a moskito?

seriously no body will just whine or moan,... there has to be sth
give us more flesh

coogar: http://media.tumblr.com/8661bbebc1affbbcae4d4e1b23dff30e/tumblr_inline_mj1iff2SNz1qz4rgp.gif

always on gif point!

Kuli temper have you seen baba's thread

O let your moon come shining in into our life again...

Its been a long long time
I wanna give you some good good ...

Never ever try to resist

Nice one.. baba o
Your wife is a epitome of maturity

But we shall go and sin no more

kulyie: hahahaha baseri niyen o i don miss you already,i dey wonder where you dey since,ha baba biolaaaa otipeju,infact o miss gannnio

ive been following this thread since morning
just decided to watch,,, oya leave this thread to baba oyo...
He have shown... check my siggy

o ba tete kuli kuli temper


una sef make una leave kulyie,, fuss abi s.exbot, chelsea bmw driver, etc
una dey here since morning haba!

armyofone: I hope men like cougar and Pataki will learn.
Pataki said he did same for his lady, well pineapple juicing was all we heard.
Let see if baby O carried some kegs with him. Okay okay, let me read on.

ah,,, the urban legend of pineapple
propagated by jide.,.. meanwhile wey she dey
i dont miss her wahala

fredoooooo: i laugh in wigan ( wenger ) .........common wigan

freddooo the badoo... so ara e oo

honeric01: The second placed club would have wished for the league title. at least we got it.

true bro
Five consecutive ucl semis, 2 victiorious finals is not sth to be laffed at

debosky: If I have twin daughters I'm going down the tennis route - no money in women's football.

nice one and with endorsements rolling in

yum

Coldfeet: Op its best she leaves!!! Who knows her exit may open that door that has refused to open for you!! It will hurt tthats for sure but kknow this its gonna make you strive and work harder for u succeed.

OP there was a thread opened some time ago https://www.nairaland.com/1244857/why-blame-wives about the importance of relationships and their tole in helping or hindering one's destiny
I believe that God uses people or lets people leave your life for certain reasons

Why dont you go to the Source and commit all in to his hands
A friend of mine left Lagos for Kaduna years ago knowing nobody and he is doing well now
Another ledt Makurdi (assured job etc) after NYSC because she thought lag was better - for the last 3 years now, she has nothing

Dont fret - Be Still and lets things happen
Your end is better than the beginning

Baba o.. e pe fun aya ati awon omo..
E leyii deru ba niyan ooo

Aya yii o mo gbogbo eleyii sugbon o fi pamo,,, aya rere ni won

E ma binu o .. mo ti polowo aloo yii lori profile mi...

I wish you a fulfilling marriage post cloud nine

jasper7: A wife has to develop a special thing she does, something she knows her husband likes, something she knows he cant get anywhere else. Overtime she should discover her husband's softest spots and make sure she capitalizes on the advantage of her knowledge and experience. A woman should be so Loving that her hubby can boldly come out and say "Nobody can love me like my wife". If as a woman you have not developed this in your man's head. you are walking on thin ice. Most women wanna achieve this, but they go about it the wrong ways, you don't achieve it by worshiping at your hubby's feet. I dont wanna go into that now.

Bottom-line is, As for one night stand cheating, your hubby must surely do it, It takes a high level of discipline for a man not to fall into temptation especially when the occasion presents itself, and that manner of discipline is fast fading in our society today. It's not the woman's fault, she doesn't need to do anything wrong, for a man to fall into temptation. but when he begins to have prolonged affairs, lasting into months and years, it's either something is wrong with the wife/marriage, or something is seriously wrong with the man. If the both can communicate, maybe the man can tell her what his concerns are and she should have an open mind to make amendments on the ones that concern her.

You have some points but i would like to know practically what a woman can do which is not the wrong way (bolded))

dayokanu: Makes sense.

Honestly When I talk to some married men, They barely get laid up to 10 times a year. I am not lying

I was scared men.

The truth is this, A woman and a mans want in sex is different

A woman, wants romance, 30mins kissing, Set the table, candle lit dinner, warm bath, Romantic dinner, Expensive gift etc Just to have sexx?

How can you expect a man to give this after the days work just to get 15mins of sex?

This makes the sex life in couples die completely and get revived outside

Flesh and blood hath not revealed this unto you

wigan is going down tomoro

yellowpawpaw: Don't join too.

thanks ma.. but i weak seriously for the wahala on this cyber land
that is why i am waiting for Baba's fresh air to spice up the family seksion

stillwater: This is the kind of nonsense they use to kill women's spirits in Nigeria.
Who are these witches and wizards that write these subtle depressing messages to women that encourage suffering yourself at work and still come home and do your 'primary duties' as the epitome of the 'good wife'?
In the stupid story, nothing is said of the man helping the wife at home during their trying time, nothing is said of him taking care of the kids, putting the house in order, but of course they had to put it in there that the wife stepped up to the plate of 'giving her paycheck to the husband'.
What on earth was he doing while the wife was working?

Then the stupid nonsensical reward of 'cars', 'moving to new house', whereas nothing is said of how he might have given the wife peace of mind by not cheating, beating her or acting dementedly egoistical, or being a good father to the kids that is what is important in the sustenance of a marriage and that is the only reason I will stay with a jobless man not the silly vain rewards.

deep

guys peace abeg

the laurels of this team speak foe it so lets be happy we saw this team n d lion king in our lifetime

bennyraz: [size=18pt]And finally, my third runner up goes to www.nairaland.com/adabeke12 Omo see boooottttttttttttieeeeeeeeeeeeeee [/size]

kish beke? this will defo be interesting

Winneygirl: Biolabee, I weak too o.
Infact, I'll stay off all these marital drama threads 4 a while.

i think i wll join u on that fence

bettymafy: So laziness, uselessness, flirting and wife beating all seem like very good traits to u right? Oh well, what do I know?
I rest my case Biola. . .

madam betty you are taking things too harshly

If Jesus said no one is good who am i to judge another fellow man,, considering i dont know either the protagonist or his wife
You dont need me to tell you wife beating is bad neither is flirting good
On laziness i dont know some people have a phlegmatic temperament and dont seem to be as driven as others.. some will call them lazy, others will say its just fine

If a man earns enough to take care of his family and does not hustle like others, is it just for his wife to label him useless or lazy

We dont know all the full details of this tale, so i will not judge who is good who is bad

all ive said is that the parties can work things out if they want anf try
it will not be easy but it is not impossible

lets not take nl things personal eh?