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Idowuogbo: U called?

bettymafy: How would we know if he's been such a bad person in 3 yrs when he wouldn't even admit to hurting a fly? Obviously, he's not been the best hubby and since his wife put up his deeds he didn't deny them.

Ok, let me ask u. . . Would u consider this man a very good husband judging from what the wife has said? If no, why did he claim otherwise? So we all can call the wife names and crucify her?

And again, there is never a reason for anyone to cheat. So u saying the wife hasn't said the reason she cheated isn't necesary. She goofed by cheating, the husband is no saint either. Period!

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debosky: See you. I've already set my conditions for giving up the job - once madam earns equivalent of 30m naira net I shall 'retire' to take care of my twin boys full time - football training camps, boys trips, etc. from then onwards.

That way when they both turn out to be Cristiano Ronaldos I can become their agent.

Bobajo: People of high moral standing all over this thread!!! I am so impressed. But please consider:

1. If my deduction is correct, Poster is at least 26/27

2. She has been dating a boyfriend for 4+ years without lovemaking

3. They stay in different towns

4. She confidently says she has always been of high moral standard, so i assume she probably has had at the most, 2 boyfriends, including the current bf

All the above taken together is a disaster waiting to happen relationship wise. Mature lady with all the hormones raging at intervals, long courtship that has grown stale, distance and over confidence..

Mr Experience comes along knowing all the right buttons to press, and seemingly appearing not to be in a hurry to conquer (married men have the benefit of not been 'desperate' for intimacy like young, unmarried folks). It's almost a given the moment she started talking to the guy for any appreciable length of time that she will fall into this error.

I honestly wont hit her on the head for her error as long as she puts a full stop to the affair immediately. Shit happens. It cant be undone. She should cut Mr Experience off totally, as in totally.

And somebody says she should tell boyfriend/fiancee. Really? To what end? The boy wont feel less bad even if he knows that the breakup is because she messed up. He probably will even feel worse. Secondly, that will be 4+ years wasted for both of them. OP, please keep your mouth shut, make your peace with God, ensure you don't invest any time with any other guy apart from your bf/fiancee and marry your man.

And to all the hardliners crucifying her; good luck in your long and interesting life. I personally have seen too much and experienced too much to know that absolutism of any kind usually just don't work. Humans will always make mistakes. Even Angels did circa Lucifer. 'We fall sometimes, we pick ourselves up, we look at what made us fall and learn not to trip on that same obstruction'. Saying you will never fall.... good luck with that

Richfella: Lol at responses .

@ OP

When it's all sunshine and roses, it's easy for us to make grand promises and pledge allegiances.

Very few persons can really rightly predict what they would do when shít hits the fan.

Beneath our thin veneer of intellect and morality is a MASSIVE animal core. That was your inner cavewoman shinning through all the social 'programming' you've been exposed to all your life.

Don't beat up yourself.

Now, you have a better understanding of 'yourself' and others too. You're now less judgemental and have an increased tolerance for other people's supposed 'excesses'.

ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR YOUR GOOD .

debosky: Judgmental folk: get off your soap box for a moment and learn a lesson from the OP.

She isn't 'justifying' what she did. She is simply saying that - like many of you - she felt it would never happen to her. This is a very important lesson.

It can happen - that's the point of the thread, even to those who consider themselves 'above' such mistakes.

Even those holding on to virginity as a shield are not immune.

She's already broken off the relationship, as well as taking a break from the bf to clear her head. She cannot unphock the married man, so all your condemnation will not change a thing.

alutacontinua: The op actually made a point...'NEVER SAY NEVER'. Her thread still makes sense than a lot of threads out there cos there is actually something to learn. I'm not justifying the fact that she cheated with a married man and she didn't justify it too, so far.

And trust me, ogugua and others, 'NEVER SAY NEVER'!!!

Mcleo007: Busquets has always been my favourite for the Xavi role, but i doubt it would ever happen. The role is to be shared between Cesc and Thiago. They have understudied him for long not to be considered for the role.

Munian would make a great addition and he'd come cheap at that. Whether it would happen leaves so much to be desired.

On Hummels, yes, his departure would certainly deplete BVB. bUT THEN, one team's loss is another's gain. I prefer him to the injury proned and almost ageing T. Silva.

greatgod2012: Check this link out, you may have what you want in it.

https://www.nairaland.com/1224069/ladies-what-make-disrespect-husband

AjanleKoko: A good example of the chumps I referred to earlier

fpeter: ..TYPICAL IGBO MAN'S IDEALOGY

StateOfMind: This, I agree with. I wonder if this is the same wife the man referred to as intelligent. Nothing about her posts depicts intelligence. Full of unnecessary information and hatred for her husband. Not one good thing was said about the man she married, yet she claims she's been begging him for months. If the picture she painted about her husband is really true, why exactly would she be begging him. She claims to be the breadwinner, left her baby for a week to work, yada yada, yet she has been begging this so called irresponsible man for 8months. One would expect someone like her not to feel remorseful at all but see her affair as payback.

I'm sorry Op, you asked us to be the judge but I am not convinced you are saying the truth. I repeat, If this man is as terrible as you just described, you would not have sleepless nights or keep begging for him for forgiveness.

Lastly, you need to go through your husband's posts on that thread and read how he kept singing your praises and his love for his daughter despite everything.

Ps- thanks for the entertainment too. Nairaland is usually boring on sundays.

sam4xadams: Are you now saying that gender inequality should be the base of argument? Pls I support women right n I don't discriminate good women. I suggest u open another thread to such topic

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trolling: Logs in didn't care to look...spits on thread smh.. Exits

Idowuogbo: Yaay!!! Welcome!!

Jokes aside...IMO, separation is d solution.

When mistrust moves in love goes out.

Imagine,d thought of your wife messing around while pregnant without protection na brain damage on its own mehn... Gawd! Dis wan na real wire.

biolabee: damage to roman....

i think its a podium of vettel, alonso and kimi... not sure of positions