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if shekpe dont step up they will lose this game

golmouth scramble ensuing from an unorthodox freekick

almeida wasting too much time,,,,,.

super block by ash cole... chelsea no shot on gol yet..

may d best team win

1forall: It's on folks

one for all. one for all... one for all.. how may times i call you
e be like say you dey the venue o... all the press conference everything///


anyhow this is good though i wonder why they cant play on Saturday,,

Benitez in my opinion deserves sth for the vitriol he went through with the fans at least to compensate

But Benfica also have a date with history,, so who will prevail

Just a note.. this was the QF last year in the champs league for which the Pensioners went on to win

May the best team win

Good luck

where is CFCfan

mo6man: Just to let u know dat she just called now saying she is certain that her pregnancy is not up three months, she said she only missed her period late last 2 months, i can't seem to understand the timing of her period, ladies plz i need a little explanation to this...

this is belated but did u sleep with her unprotected?

Modified....the nysc thing has killed it for me and i would have expected her to come clean...
Na wa o,,,

Thats cool... we still dey this land so hope for better understanding....

ileobatojo: This might not be palatable to some but I would also add suspect everybody.
It's not written on anyone's face

I like the bolded and its true 100%... abuses are usually from familiar persons- cousins, uncles, lesson teachers, piano teachers and everyone;s favoriate - male househelps etc
that is why im scared for girl children especially

byvan: Removing them as MBJ suggested should be a better deal, yes, death penalty will make more sense.I can't think of a stiffer penalty for a cradle snatcher.

that is good too but i tell you a man with no libido is dead already

I prefer to be dead than not use that thing in my prime years...

ok..ileoba... noted...usual MO? interesting...

Well the OP can still make comments if she still wants...

Pataki: xxxxxx

ok noted.. an error on my part..that was my bad and not meant to cause offense
This land is quick to castigate single mums as the first set of posts showed

Now where did you say i abused you..ok seen!

you were on my case and even when a poster said the questions may make sense .. u were still on my ish telling me i shd have a quota of posts or sth like that

Now u go further and call me tetchy.. see?

As an olove branch from my part and i dont expect any from you though. i will modify said posts..

Pataki: You are an adult who rants as a kid. On a forum, arguments are bound to occur. Exchanges of opinion (heated or mild) are bound to happen. In your distorted view, does that amount to attacking people up and down? Should we then say your first post here was an attack on earlier respondents; when you stated that they (the respondents), were either married or single hence they have no reasonable opinion to offer?

hey brah... did not want to do this but let me humor you .... this is my first post here below..
you have an issue and thus perception has coloured your interpretation of the post
Where did i say others have nothing to say

You claim to be the adult and yet u are now insulting me
Is this how u run your domain - shouting everyone down

Ok.. carry go...

I expect arguments to occur and i welcome it as in that we all get to learn from each other
But you oh you,, the important igi that knows everything .. kakaaki??

biolabee: Op please don't let anyone hassle you.

Remember also just as it looks bad that the man wants to seperate you from jr he may also have good plans for you

Someone has mentioned canada and that is a good idea

Discuss your concerns with your man and you guys should come up with an alternative suitable to all parties

As a woman, you also have your needs don't let anyone make you feel ashamed of that

Now she is the trapper but the phool of a baby daddy is the star abi?
If you are empowered, that child has a better life too


Always women castigating each other

If it works well na you go benefit am

Ish

May God help you

Pataki: xxxxx

I have no beef against you

ish

worry 359: Prehaps you have small joy stick and this guy is better equiped!

kolo....

Pataki: xxxxxxx

Peace...

Crime & Investigation ...

teemilo: I really can't pick on all of the above post so I will just try to address the issues I feel have been raised repeatedly.

The first will be:why can't I travel with my son?
My son is young&yet to start school, to the best of my knowledge free public education starts at age 5&thereabout, that means if travel I will have to pay heavily for private preschool+childcare afterwards if I decide to work.
If I persuade my bf to sponsor us both, I fear for what will happen if the relationship hits the rocks&he stops sending money.

If I am by myself if something like that happens it will be a lot easier to cope if all I have to worry about is myself.

So the way I see it my only real options are stay in Nigeria or travel without my son.


2) Why am I considering sending my son back to his grandparents after the last time.

The last time he was there, he was younger&was not really eating solids properly.I guess they tried to wean him forcefully. You know how old people think every child should be content eating amala and ewedu everyday... Anyway, I think that explains( but does not excuse tho) how skinny he looked when he came back.

If I ever intend to leave him there&travel,i will definitely stock their house with his favorite foods that would last at least 3mnths, I will also make sure my younger ones visit at least once a month with provisions&to check how he is doing.

If travel next year, he will be already four, it will be easier for them to care for a four year old boy than a two year old baby...
And I definitely do not think they went out of their way to maltreat him. They threw him a first year birthday party (even though the date had since passed) he came home with several toys that he got as gifts.

Infact my real fear is that they won't give him back to me when I get back into the country.

I am yoruba&yoruba families don't joke with their first sons.

Ok that clears the seeming malnourishment however what is ur bf medium term plan for u and ur son
Say you go gfor the Masters and get a Fellowship for a PH D
what next? where is marriage? where is your son in all this?

Is he coming back into the loop after the 1 year

shd be moved to joke section

Izz9111: Any Husband that has all this qualities in him is no more a good husband but something else.

funny guy..

sanb: This is a long list, and it might sometimes be hard for all husbands to possess these qualities….

A good husband is someone a wife can trust;

A good husband is one who knows how to handle finances well; it’s a key factor in a marriage. Watch his spending life style i.e. does he know how to save or does he go all the way to spend without thinking;

A good husband has confidence along with a good measure of self-esteem and a good sense of humour;

A good husband shows his wife his appreciation. With this acknowledgment, he’s able to have meaningful conversation/s as a couple;

A good husband sets attainable goals for herself and gets productive in achieving them along with his wife’s input;

A good husband is one a wife can see herself spending the rest of her life with and having kids together;

A good husband is one that can be your best friend apart from being your spouse;

A good husband has his wife’s best interest at heart;

A good husband has your back in times of sorrow, pain or other difficulties;

A good husband doesn’t compete with his wife in the house but rather acts as a team player;

A good husband is willing to compromise; and

A good husband doesn’t take advantage of any weakness he has observed that his wife has and uses it against her for his selfish gain or as a weapon/tool.

nice one but i am interested in the bolded... compete?
Cos me think its women that compete with men and not the other way round
Why would i compete with my wife/partner if she is supposed to be my help mate

What do you think

logica: Kindly step aside before yours are added to the list.

threats now... tragic

[quote author=Atheist:-D]@ OP

I do not believe the divorce, child support/protection/custody and other similar legal rights brought in are bad. I believe it is the implementation of them that is the problem.

Most of these laws are essential to balancing a slightly male dominated society. I think it has been overdone and hence we are seeing the negative results today. They need to work back to try and get some balance and leverage.[/quote]I agree fully with this....

@pleep

I dont get the insults or jibes about kumbaya
Holding strongly to your view puts you and c.four in the same camp to me - potentially inconsiderate the other side
Cos there is one - a coin has two sides

musKeeto: Life changing lines indeed. You suddenly realize that there are no good husbands, as defined by that post.

A good husband is a good wife is a good husband.

its a hard task but im sure more ple than u know are up for it

May god help us

Some whole families perished in the ikeja cantonment, sosoliso air and dana air to mention a few

But still it's god that guides one

Look at the kennedies. They are still being wiped out though they are one of the richest, powerful families

jhydebaba: I enjoyed mathematics class
I enjoyed biology class
I enjoyed government class

no 3

GGood news as they could not push forth plans for a feature film

However I wonder can they top what they did

By Day 6/7 they were struggling with ideas
They went out with a bang in Day 8

Lets see.. not too hopeful it will be better than others

musKeeto: Rule 8: Don't post false information on Nairaland.

kolo

But those are life changing lines from Nashville.. a quest in perfection for any man

Man abducts, assaults GO’s 13-yr-old daughter
on MAY 15, 2013 · in NEWS

BY GABRIEL ENOGHOLASE
BENIN — AN Oredo Magistrate Court sitting in Benin, Monday, remanded a cleric, Pastor Fidelis Ejoke, 23 for abducting and indecently assaulting his General Overseer’s 13-year-old daughter.

The accused person pleaded not guilty to the two-count charge of unlawful and indecent assault and abduction, an offence which contravenes Sections 360 and 362 of the Criminal Code.

Police Prosecutor, Mr. Samuel Ogaht, told the court presided over by the Chief Magistrate, Mr. Peter Edo-Asemota, that the the minor was the daughter of the Pastor Ejoke’s General Overseer.

Testifying, the 13-year-old junior secondary school student told the court how the accused started making love to her in November 2012.

She also explained how the said pastor asked her to go to her mother’s safe to bring money, adding that she gave the money to him without counting it and later the pastor confirmed it was N145,000.

The court, however, said the accused should be remanded in prison while the case was adjourned to June 23, 2013.



http://www.vanguardngr.com/category/national-news/

and someone says castration is mild

nikkykay: My dear, u r just going away for like 20months and u r son is 3yrs already. Hmmmmmm i dont want to say or see it dat ur bf of 6mths doesnt like dat ur son but r u willing to give up ur son again?
Is it possible u travel with ur son? If its not possible then can u take him to ur mum and get a nanny u can b paying 20-30k every mth to look afta d boy & ur mum. This salary shld come from ur pocket and not from d man. Discuss ds with ur bfie and see his reaction first. If he agrees, fine> If he doesnt them fashy him and his money. He will know how much u value d life of ur son
Am sure ur mum is not dat weak dat she wont b able to see how he is been taken care of. She will always b dre as well to caution any bad character. That boy is still growing and he needs motherly love which can only b given to her by ur mum.

Sweet!

ileobatojo: The Op has said more than enough, she said he can't go to his father, father is irresponsible. He can't go to her siblings, they are young and unable to take up the responsibility, he can't go to her mother, she is not feeling well enough to care for him, she doesn't have a close knit extended family she can trust. The father's people she has used before are not trustworthy to take care of the child. What other information do you need from her? If it was just about sending them enough money to care shouldn't they have made that known to her if they are responsible people? Instead, they chose to simply starve her little toddler who isn't even eating a large amount of food to start with.

Good point though i find it sad that they would maltreat their grand child - if they are outright callous then they are no option

Maybe she can tell us why

My point has always been while the 1 year is key, what about post study and marriage

She may have to forgo this relationship if there is no way out thence
- the burden of the single mother

Not legible..

Modified

On my pc screen it looked gibberish but when I used my fone it looked better - guess I will use bb for this kind of text

As Nash as said your priority is your new family not your old and he has a strong point

If you get a job as a banker or audit trainee, your masters in agric may not be relevant more of acca or mba will be suitable

If you want to be busy while a job comes on, consider other prof courses such as acca/cipd

An alternative masters course is Economics whoch would put you in good stead with multinational firms like world bank, ifc or ADB

But you are the wife and are aware of your situation viz when you want to start parenting, the funds to prosecute any program

You guys should sit togeda and plan accordingly

Short term (less than 2 years), medium term (2 - 5 years) and long term (> 5 yrs)

Come up with the family plan and try to be flexible remembering no plan is foolproof
Then step out in faith

You may consider deferring the course but most importantly 2 of you have to be agreed

dasparrow: @Bolded

That is what I love about the western world. They deal with sex offenders thoroughly. Nigeria however gives them a slap on the wrist and that is why Nigerian society is crawling with pervs.

True.. they FG even pardoned a so.domist along with Alams