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For the first time I would fly, it was worth missing my valedictory service for, my mum taught us to be discreet so I couldn't gloat or even tell my friends I would be flying to write my post utme. A lot of things ran through my mind, as discreet as I was trained to be, my mind was loud.

Can't remember how long it took us to get to Lagos from abuja, less than an hour? I don't care! Got to my aunt's place in Lagos and it was hell for me the few days I stayed .



My aunt and her children had varying degrees of ulcer so what was made was pepper-less and oil-less, and I would curse them from morning to night anytime I eat with a smile plastered on my face. Don't trust people always smiling o.


Didn't get admitted until three years later. During my 6months compulsory internship in my 300level I was Ill four times till it was confirmed I had ulcer. Most of my pain was from all the jest I made of my aunt and her children.


Drugs upon drugs, heartburns and gas trapped in my chest. Now I have been reduced also to a diet dairy and have to watch what I eat. I now get it, it was detrimental to them to eat those kind of food.


We don't have to be in people's shoes for us to be considerate and selfless in thoughts and deeds.


You might have sick siblings, spouse, friends around you, some of us are used to thinking they are faking it, yea some people do oversabi but we should still care for that asthmatic sis that doesn't want the windows open, that magraine prone bro that doesn't want noise and that diabetic mum that always ask you to help her boil unripe plantain. Take care of the sick even while you healthy.


Finally, sick people don't hype sicknesses too, stay strong and be full of faith.



N.B - The most common causes of peptic ulcers are infection with the bacterium Helicobacter pylori (H. pylori) and long-term use of nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) such as ibuprofen (Advil, Motrin IB, others) and naproxen sodium (Aleve). Stress and spicy foods do not cause peptic ulcers.

Neither does making jest of people causes ulcer.

Rossinky:
One useless youth just posted a


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9ZINDysNrA&t=13s

I love this post die! Ese, thank you.

WakeNbaked:
What if the person keeps pushing religion down your throat? You keep quiet and take it like a champ?

Then you guys can't obviously work together in a relationship because religious people will be scared of you and would think you will cause them to sin of be punished.

SailorUgo:
Don’t be deceived by what you read daily on nairaland!

There are millions of honest Nigerians

There are millions of wonderful Nigerian women around who won’t ask for urgent 2k

There are wonderful Muslim and Christian people in Nigeria

Legit and hardworking Nigerian youths still outnumbers yahoo boys in Nigeria

The system and leadership is what has failed us.

: yesssss

Funnkilla:
Na to play am when I carry woman come my house o

Ehn ehn, now I know.

lordally:
Hahahahha see ehn I served in One local Govt in EBONYI state ...and I was in NCCF although I dey sneak out to go Download bottles with my dudes then I go come back come join fellowship so we hosted an Evangelism in a village called INIKIRI which is in EBONYI state.....kai!!! Come and see poverty!!! I wept!!! I swear half of those kids might never get to see the state capital ABAKALIKI till they die!!! even a building that was called CENTER FOR DEVELOPMENT na Uncompleted building na that time I weak!!! I swear I saw life and I begin thank God for my own life cos those people I saw there would kill to have my kind of life!!! We gave out free medical treatment , free barbing for the men free hair making for the girls....we gave out buckets to the women and guess what!!! They were dancing!!! I just dey stand open mouth!!! The white shorts and white polo we initially wore in camp and our jungle boots we gave it to the kids and guess what They all wore it to church and were smiling like it's Christmas cloth!!! I sat down on the floor and cried!!!

Those kids no matter how talented they are would never make it if they don't leave that place!!!

In 2010 I saw a short guy play good football in my village during December and he played so good they won the cup and prize if 100K... After the match the next day I saw him with cutlass going to farm!!! I was like ...if only Man u , Barca etc can just locate this guy!!! Well as it is 10yr after now in 2020 dude still dey village!!! Just imagine he was in Germany , Australia or USA!!

This is one of the reasons why I got into SOFTWARE ENGINEERING so I will create a solution for lost talents like him!!!

My heart o... I cannot come and be crying for Nigeria this early morning. Environment matters o, I agree pa, in that ebonyi now how many people go dey reason to be a billionaire, everything will just be village level and cloths to wear and food finish

Thank you for last part. May you find it easy to help and when you want to start helping don't forget me o, I'm a lost talent too, it has lost in this Nigeria :

lordally:
My sister for One Seun that made it , there are over 1 million Seun that are likely never to make it big in life...due to their environment. After reading your comment I was like ""Ah Ah!! Shey this babe no dey ,9ja ni??" see my dear, people are doing pretty well in Nigeria but they are few!!! And some of those who are making it are even struggling!!! See have you noticed the middle class in Nigeria is Gradually Disappearing!!! And it's likely getting to a state where we will have just the SUPER RICH and THE RETCHED...... Think deep!!!

After graduating from school graduates earn 50K , Tp from Ikotun to VI is 1500 going alone ooo .... see ehn make I no just talk!!! Cos deep down you no the truth.... What of health care??
Ehn I lost a neighbor to Malaria because of poverty!!! Ok what about that pilot that crashed into a building in Lagos He was taken to the hospital and they refused to take treat him until a police report was brought which he later died!!! My dear how many people do you hear of begging on national TV for money for kidney transplant , heart transplant etc...omo make I no just talk!!! Last week something happened at where I reside and I had to go to the nearby police station around past 11pm my sister guess what!!! Police station don close!!! As in laugh no gree me as in no be small police station ooo...omo laugh no gree me!!! So that means a perfect robbery can go on in the whole of Jakande Estate and nothing will be done...omo make I no just talk!!!!

Hands down, you win..


Environment matters.. I agree totally.

Was laughing while reading..

Petyr1:
I'm surprised that someone is just noticing this now. it not only in music video, even in advertisement too.
I remember watching one advert (though I will not mention the company's name) inside the advert the ladies were just shaking their breasts shouting "we for deal with that mumu driver" "deal with am" with one actor as their new driver

I know...

tensazangetsu20:
Find a way to japa from Africa. Success in life is 90 percent environment and 10 percent personal effort. Imagine working extremely hard in a place like Somalia what do you think you would achieve? Forget the buohaha. Nigeria is a shithole.

Environment matters true, but this not Somalia. Seun is cashing out in nija, check how people are making it legit in nija too.

anthonyuncle:
datz one little reason why an artist like burna boy (recently)stands out

Yes. Saw some of his videos, make sense. They try to inteprete the songs.

anthonyuncle:
am telling u, especially Nigerian music videos.

it's all a showcase of ass and boobs, flaunting of irresponsible lifestyle, and no message.

u look at music videos and u don't get inspired at all

At all, just money sex Fame finish and getting the sexiest babe.

Slimtuns:
Thanks for this piece OP. Lately it's been crazy on this side of the world but there's no way we are gonna fix the problem if we won't stop being depressed about it. This need to get to FP

cc Lalasticlala

Yea, the pressure can be overwhelming and you that is growing small small will feel you are not getting better.

Las Las we will be alright if we try.

bukatyne:
Nice thread @OP.

Keep up with this and you will definitely go places.

Amen amen fire!!!!

angelfallz:
Lol. So you even noticed it. It's everywhere from schools sexualising little girls, to porn music videos, and yes dressing, everything just screams, sex! sex!! sex!!! and more sex!!!!
We currently live in time of hyper sexuality. No wonder sexual perversion is on the rise.

I swear, that's why perversion is on the rise.

Bixobo:
Are they not all the same my sister

Kinda

Bixobo:
My dear you are not the only one who is getting sick of this. I am gradually loosing it from watching mtv base

Lool, abi. Just sieve.

Ghallant01:
@Op I love this last point you made.

Thank you

I have been reading post from young people, depressed and not just getting it, I swear it's very emotional, I actually shed a tear or two. Sometimes I wish there is a place we can all meet in the evening talk about our issues and encourage each other for better days ahead.


I'm young too and have made mistakes I wish I never did, but they happened and I had to build from there. I am not there yet but there something in my mind that has been built that makes me see all what is going on now as a PROCESS but I won't lie to you somedays I get overwhelmed and just break down and cry, somedays I get it.

What I learnt is that when I say I get it, it doesn't mean I don't feel insecure, unsure, afraid, intimated, weak, shallow, stupid and overly ignorant of the future but in my weaknesses I know I will get SOMEDAY.

Lemme share something's that have fortified my mind.

1) great people didn't get great overnight.

I swear check Tyler Perry na, where you are going is not magic that will get you there, these people missed it, got it, missed it again. Life na zig zag.

2) invest in your mind

There is nothing you can't unlearn or learn, if you have a problem with gambling you can fix it, I swear its not beyond you only if you don't want to fix it, if you need to lose weigh you can, it's your life you can edit anything you want.


3) problems are inevitable.

Just choose your problem, if you don't invest in yourself you will have problems, if you do you will have problems from investing.bif you hustle problem if you don't hustle problem.

4) Everyone is wearing a social mask.

Stop comparing yourself with someone else's social mask, you most def don't look like your problems completely, same as your colleague, we all have issues but you know yourself more than you know me so you will compare your true self with my own social self, that a recipe for depression. As I dey type I no too dey ok, you will think I'm better. So face your problem.


5) time will go whether or not you do anything.

Use time well, if you like pity yourself for ten years or take control of your life for ten years, ten years will pass. Go and learn a skill no matter what, weda it's to fix tiles or plumbing just spend time well.

It's too long ba? No vex. Lastly abeg dey read or listen to better people or change your circle, admire better people.


I love you guys. See you at the top!

sacajawea:
There are these Stupid Men in My area, very Stupid, Ignorant and Selfish. One is married the other two are not but they have Money. Can you play along well?

I have typed something long out of anger but lemme hear you maybe what I'm thinking is not what you u are saying.

My wonderful brother which game.

sacajawea:
Ok I'm coming...

Are you the second coming ni, since!

We are here

Power of mass media.


I am grateful during this pandemic I am able to keep body and soul together, before getting admitted to the university I had learnt how to make hair, while waiting to be mobilized I decided to work in a salon and it has been fulfilling.

In my house normally, I hardly watch TV, I am almost always on my phone or if I were to sit and watch TV probably the news or discovery channel or nat Geo everything or Nickelodeon or da Vinci or movies (selected). So I started working in this salon and from morning to night we watch music channels and this got me thinking, 90% of all music videos is sex inspired (looking for the right word, is sexual or sexy or naked or dancing naked videos)(10% for real hustle).


From morning to night, nothing really constructive or artistic, my brain cells are dying I can hear them cry as I sleep. I started evaluating what exactly is the ART in what the ARTistes were delivering, I saw it sponsoring moral decay, I can't imagine a teenager watching that from morning to night, women will always be unclothed before them and money would equate to love, and the sexier you are as a lady the more money you should have not from working but from your body.

It dawned on me the power of the media, because small small I will na start thinking I want to blow into money and not grow, or maybe me too I should look for one rich dude to change my life.

Tell me about how you think the media is influencing you or the society.

cooooooks:
I feel you.

I think for many many people, the church is the major or only community they have.

I am one of them, it was all I had, and having a community can be vital at times.

cooooooks:
Are any free thinkers, agnostics, atheists, etc here dating in Nigeria or dating Nigerians?

How was the journey and what advice do you have?

I'm talking about serious dating, with the possibility of marriage.

It's not easy, I'm female and atheist, but I try to make it clear from the onset before things gets serious.


The only thing I enjoy is that I am not against religious topics or let alot of people know I am a free thinker. I relate with people as humans not as religious folks.


I can go for a church meeting (my family doesn't even know I'm atheist, I still attend morning devotion and all). I dont let it define my relationship.

ALEX182:
So I have this American patient who I recently came across. He's a fat dude who is like in his late 40s but has a very jolly and likeable character. I introduced myself and we got talking afterwards.

After a while of chitchat, he asked me where I was from. I told him to take a guess and he said said, you sound like you're Nigerian. I told him (regrettably) that I was Nigerian. He started smiling and told me that he had a Nigerian girlfriend and that we both had similar accents.

He then started telling me recent occurrences that had befallen his girlfriend in Nigeria. He said the lastest story was that she was in Abuja and as she was on her way to the airport in a taxi, the taxi had an accident and she was seriously injured and had to be rushed to the hospital. He said that the hospital demanded money before treatment started and he had to hustle about $4000 and send to her in order for treatment to start.

He said that after a week of her being in the hospital, they wanted to discharge her despite her still being in pain. Because she had exhausted all the $4000 on treatment, he said the hospital had threatened to discharge her on the streets and he was trying to borrow more money to see if he could send it to her so they could continue with her treatments.

He furthermore told me that the girlfriend said that she was a Nigerian American citizen who was currently stuck in Nigeria due to her passport having expired and also due to Covid lockdown at airports in Nigeria. He said she had asked him for $300 to renew her US passport from American embassy in Nigeria.

Another thing that he told me was that just before covid struck, there was a similar pandemic which happened in Nigeria early this year and that his girlfriend had contracted the disease and he had to send her $2000 for treatment. Right now he said he's broke but is waiting for like $2000 disability check from the US government next week which he will send to her as soon as the money clears.

As he was telling me this tale, I was so angry with Nigerians and how they take advantage of people in love to scam them. I wanted to swear for the scammers


I'm at a dilemma here. Do I tell him that he's being scammed by Nigerians or do I continue to be professional and just ignore it. Because I don't want him to think I'm involved with it because these oyinbo people can turn everything on your head and accuse you that is your people in conjunction with you that are scamming him. They are that crazy.

The good part of me wants to help him but I'm hesitant that it may turn out bad for me. Please matured responses.

Tell him but be wise about it, that man is fragile emotionally, thinking no one loves him so he has to hold this one tight.


Don't make a decision for him, advise him and respect whatever he wants to do, just let him know that his girlfriend might just be a scammer.

Tread wisely o but make sure you tell him it's the right thing to do since he opened up to you himself.

All the best!

Lightangel65:
Ok how would tell the guy his mouth stinks?

If he is a random person I walk away that's all..

If he is close to me straight up guy wetin do your mouth, it stinks.

Someone I'm not too close to but I have to see frequently, I would sit him down and be like
I don't think you have noticed but there is a foul smell coming out of you mouth, I apologise but I just have to tell you.

Lightangel65:
If i said your mouth was smelling the vagina people would still find that offensive. I added shut up cause she was over doing the talking and it was annoying

I think you would have told her rudely, no one said you should inhale bad breath but there are ways to say somethings.

Stop calling women vigina people it's so rude.. I personally think you are not a cultured person, then again i don't know you personally.

Rgade:
Mtchew, fake WhatsApp chats everywhere.
I'm currently working on a code that detects fake news.
Once you post any nonsense or fake news, the device you posted it from will explode in your stupid face.
After I'm done developing it; I'm going to dedicate it to all the hungry bloggers,too many to count that are currently plaguing our cyber space in this country.

My stomach ooo....


Very very funny... Please go ahead

Sunnycliff:
This is one of my best vegetables! Anytime and anyday! But not recommended for ulcer patients

Not true

mystiqueDZ:
Are you serious?was told it's quite good...

It is o

Jack Sparrow

I just want to cry that's all..

Beautiful story.