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cococandy:
it’s not surreal. Many of you are unfortunately like this

Don’t want babies but won’t actively try to stop it from happening. Waiting to blame someone else for the actions you took

Lol... I want babies but I just just feel comfortable money should come first before the babies arrive...

Lee99:
Hey Nlanders, I'll be as brief as possible. So I met my current gf mid October 2021, she's sweet and loving though very stubborn and has an I don't care attitude. I'm trying to change her and she's a work in progress.

But lately, all she talks about is having a baby, she wants to be pregnant so bad, and I'm not ready for fatherhood or the challenges with it. I like her a lot but mehn I don't understand her again, she's hellbent on this pregnancy stuff.

According to her, anything that makes her take in she's gonna keep the baby whether I like it or not, when she saw her period last time it was a huge sigh of relief from my part, now I've nutted more times in her than I care to count and I hope they were blanks because I honestly don't want to deal with it, tho if it happens that way I'll have to man up and take charge of things, I only hope she gets her period soon then I can start using protection whenever we have sex, whether she likes it or not.

Bashing is allowed but try to make small sense please.

Are you sure you're not me... We have exactly the same experience and predicament at the moment, this is surreal!!!

edunaragold:
After marriage a lot of people do expect thing to just be fine,they don't know ,both couples have,another life challenges ahead of them,while some couples overcame their challenges another couples are planing to break up finally.
Since I discovered I married an Igbo Lady, and after one kid,I later learn were my mistake came from,my only mistake was that I did not set in mind another financial side were my wife would generate incomes,,but am working on 3 ways i can generate petty petty income before my salary enters,no perfect marriage,but its how you use endurance to achieved the well beings of the marriage .a lot of times its after marriage that people realized their mistake despite all the marriage plans before the marriage.
When my wife started given me that attitude and excuses of am tired,leave me alone,pls stop ,etc when I make advance at her ,I tried to find out what is wrong ,I called her attention to it politely,she told me that I was irritating her ,so I quickly discovered an idle mind is the devils work shop,I tried my best in enrolling her in a catering school,she still continued in refusing me,I would pretend as if am forcing to rap her,but jokingly, she would scream rape!!! Playfully so I would stop,
Sometimes when I come back from work late or spend few times around while in the area, she would think I went to cheat, my wife is somebody that assumes especially when she saw u talking to any woman or greet,she would conclude in her heart that you guys may be dating.
After disturbing me that she wants to relocate to her own state so her business can flourish ,I called her mom to see if they can agree to it which she did ,and after much advice from elderly men and woman I later came to my own finally conclusion after doing my + and - because not every advice one takes when seeking for advise ,I gave her some money to go spent time with her mom and what ever she decide she should let me know, I will be sending her some cash every months and the baby till she comes back to her senses.,they are now in the east and I stay in another state alone
Na who sex help,another 3 ladies are disturbing to come visit me,but I decline them,I no wan cast my beloved marriage but soon i will answer them not now, especially now that am rushing and focusing to complete my house and put some tenant but all works and no play males jack a dull boy.

Now am more relaxed, marriage no b small thing o,its not a do or die affair ,don't kill your self for those you can't pls. A lot of woman change after having kids.


Since my wife left our conversion on phone is even better than when we stayed together. Sometimes you need to give a wife the opportunity to refresh them self as no woman wants to be tied own. Marriages get broken due to lack of refreshment ,give your problem wife s sense of refreshment,or let them miss you so they can know what they have.

Until someone start to knack her, and that's if someone or people have not started knacking her already

Na mumu dey join police

I don't know how you arrived at that statistics that there is no fire extinguisher on the train but Farmers are happy and they have gone back to their farms, and the government is providing security for them...

Signed
Buhari

From your post, Drinking seems to be the biggest contributing factor to your problem...


YOU HAVE TO GIVE UP YOUR DRINKING HABIT!
it's important that you stop drinking alcohol now!
Stop hanging out with people that drink alcohol too.

It will not end well if you continue with this habit.

emmy2fyn:
U this Oloshi, infact u will poor for the rest of ur life. Who didn't made his intention known on time? Infact pls. Don't carry curse from here because anyone I cursed it usually stamped because it will happen to such person. Though that is who I am. Well that's why I said matured mind because I knew myself so if you carry problem hunnnm na u sabi ooo

Carry your mumu behavior from here....poor brain

What 400 naira recharge card cannot solve, 1500 recharge card can solve it.

What a SIMp, you've not even made ur intentions known and you're planning on sending Airtime

So u carry this nonsense behavior enter new year?

You did what every sane man would regret by beating your wife and then forcing yourself on her.

But given the sexual condition of your marriage it is bound to happen sooner or later, and then cheating will starts from there, that is not to say your actions are justified, very far from it; your actions are outright condemnable.

If your wife won't allow you have sex with her then have you tried talking with her to know why? If you have tried and they're was no response from her and the issue couldn't be resolved by both parties, have you tried getting a divorce? I know it not an easy thing to get a divorce on sexual ground when you're still in love, maybe you should have involved her closest friend, parent, elder sister (if any) in trying to find out what's going on with her.

Now you have to go to her parent/your parent and explained what happened and then have them help you out....

You fvck up Sha!

Lol... They should make one where Tinubu came after Buhari and set fire to the car

siofra:
So I needed condom for research and I went to get some at a drugstore.

When I got there, I asked the salesgirl for condom and she smiled and winked. I smiled too.

As I was leaving the store one ugly man that has been watching me came to block my way. This stupid, yellow man started insulting me and calling me olosho. I don't usually quarrel in public but I insulted this man and his bleached skin.

See me see wahala o. Does he know what I want to do with it? He said he was angry because I wasn't shy about it that in his time....blah blah blah. He spewed the usual nonsense about virginity nairaland redpillers usually type on this forum.




I'm so angry right now.

National Researcher to search your well no go easy ooo, I'm sure many old zaddies has must have searched and died inside your well

He should have allowed this poorly constructed ship to sink in peace...

Omo see job loss looming

That's why these big pot belly & overweight men go for small girls and leave their wives for young boys to handle.

Young girls don't care about the weight or big belly

While young boys don't care about the slacked pu**y

It's a win win for everyone

I guess people are no longer interested in bank jobs

Mazzatov:
This is a serious sh*t I’ve been battling with, I met this banny around September, she’s a single mother, but I don’t care about that, as no one is above mistake we started off...
Now my problem is this banny gave me Syphilis, I’ve been battling with it since first week of November, I’ve treat myself at the hospital, I spent 12k there and this sores are still on my prick
I just need help on what to use again, this sores are itching me so bad


Now I know why some men hates girls so much, I always support girls but with this experience, it hurts me so much
I just need help to cure myself....

Lol... Met one online, we got chatting and discovered she has a child, as our chatting progresses I invited her so we can hangout and get to know ourselves more but she popped the question what will you give me, then I realized say na coded olosho , we agreed on price but I didn't go through, I just ghosted her... I was thinking she's a modest person because she indicated on her profile that she's looking for a serious relationship but alas na format

oladiddy:
My wife and I have been married for over 3 years now with a beautiful daughter who is 2years plus but things are falling apart everyday.

Whenever we had arguments she will want to sabotage my job. Couple of months ago, we had an argument and I was to give update to my team via teams meeting (I work from home)..My wife keep raising her voice, I left the living room and went to bedroom lock the door behind to continue with my meeting but surprisingly to me, my wife went through the window and started the drama again.

Just yesterday there was another drama and she picked my phone unknowingly and call my overall boss.

Note: it is from this job am sponsoring her Masters in one of the centers in Uniport and also feeding the family. More than 70% of my monthly earnings goes to her. I am not a social person..I don't drink and either spend lavishly.

My wife is a very proud person and she has this obvious non challant attitude which are all seen by family members. Everybody keep talking about her but she's not changing. Although I have my own differences as well but she believe I can't control her. She's not submissive at all...I can say that over again and again.

Even while she's doing her masters, I was the one taking care of my daughter at home (thanks to covid)..in fact all my team members knows my daughter as my second colleague. I believe we all know how working from home with kids is like.

Please I need your advice. I am already thinking of divorce but the fear of loosing my daughter to her custody is my biggest challenge.

I am loosing my mind.

Please push to FP!

Tell her you're tired and you would like her to leave or you will be forced to throw her out, then call her parent and tell them you're no longer interested in the marriage to their daughter....

eeewise:
Got a call from a friend who is 23 without much family support (orphans) that she ran some tests and is a month pregnant.
She needs advice on what to do?
She has little or no family support system to cater for a child

So thinking of termination of pregnancy but naive on how to go about it

Any suggestions on what to do exactly

I'm trying to give myself advice here...

I don't know what's at stake but she should muster all the courage she can find and keep the child...
Will she surfer? Yes! Yes!! Yes!!!, But she should keep the child still and resolve within herself to do better going forward, she should use this period to get herself a viable skill..

Yes, shaming and mockery will come but it will be for a short while and then everyone will forget her mistake, and with her new skill and determination to succeed legitimately she'll excel and exceed all expectations.

Go and buy itel, infinx or tecno

This is where the North differs from the other sensible region...

The North will support even the worst of them if it means a Fulani/hausa will remain president, even if they'll have to suffer throughout...

I read another dishonourable with big stomach infrastructure was also disgraced recently in Imo.

Kudos to the eastern youths.

Lawyers in the house, I'm a bit confused here!, A lawyer should please explain the legality and illegality of this appointment for me.

Soffyh:
you you people ehn may God no let you experience brokenness sha

Amen oooo,

But I think it's irresponsible to borrow from loan app and use the money to buy food and data


Option A : If you need food then ask/borrow from your family, friends and neighbors

If you need data, then to what purpose?
If it's for work that will yield profit then apply option A above.
If it's for leisure then you should go and look for a job.

arthurwillia:
Lol you wan borrow money to chop and buy data? How do you Intend paying back? Hmm ok o

Lol.. he go borrow from another loan app to pay back the other loan app

This is typical Mother in-laws character, please leave Father in-laws out of this nonsense behavior.

Optimistic4life:
Year 2021 February to be precise, my husband served me a divorce notice. Though I saw it coming as we have been separated for some months.
The case is still in court though.

We are blessed with 3 kids under 10.

Soon the divorce will be finalized and we will both move on.

How easy is it adjusting to a new life as a divorced lady?

I just want to let it out as I have never discussed this with anyone. Just my immediate family members knows about it.

What is life like out there for me?

The shame, mockery, coping with kids alone, moving on etc

1. Nobody is going to shame or mock you except you have a bad character and you're the major contributing factor for the divorce

2. Except the court decides otherwise, you're not raising the kids alone, they can stay with either parent and still get time with/visitations from the other parent, and the court also will decide on how the kids will be provided for.

3. You can still decide to get married if you meet someone who is willing to settle down with you.

Just move on either way!

Curious346:
Kai..


before you advice her, but PLEASE REMEBER WE ARE TALKING OF A JOBLESS MAN HERE.

He is a fashion designer/tailor and not jobless.

But he is also a drunkard, a wife beater, An infidel: someone who doesn't provide even the basic necessities for his wife and children.

The court should just dissolve the marriage so the women could enjoy some relative peace and happiness while compelling the man to pay for the maintenance and upkeep of the children.


Coouuuuurt!!!

Both are good options, please refer me to anyone you decide to reject..... Wishing you all the best as I look forward to your response.

I need that Job boss.

I'm shocked you still want to see him, was it because he failed in an attempt to kill 300 persons mid air, you have failed as a father and your son will die alone in jail.

Deborah98:
It's not perfect,easy or rosy anywhere. My parents marriage is a perfect example of marriages that only true love, patience and understanding can build,move and sustain a marriage. Can someone please help me answer this,when love fails what else keeps the marriage? You see why I said more than love, money,beauty and body structure make sure there's something you're seeing in that person that other people are not seeing. Forget it,if it was love I'm sure many of us who have aged parents will counter this claim because many of our aged parents are or were polygamous. So those their wives and women was it love that kept them? No it wasn't. Find out what it was and try to build yours around or above it.

I make bold to say that marriages that has stood the test of time wasn't because of love or money but respect.
I'll take respect over love at anytime if I am given a choice to make.
While respect is reciprocal in marriage there is no denial that respect is seen to be given more by the woman in all of these long lasting marriages.

Make of the above what you wish, but if you don't have unwavering respect for your man, then your marriage may not last long or last forever...

My first dislike for blackberry phones wasn't because of its features or OS nor its design but my first dislike for the blackberry phones was because of Nigerian girls

I remember at the peak of the blackberry wave then in benin city on this eventful day I was going through where all roads converge in benin, popularly called Ring road and I observed that almost all the girls were having/holding blackberry dangling on their left hands while their handbags was hanged on their elbows, and one thought that came to mind was why can't these girls keep the phones inside their bags like normal people do.

Just like today with the iphone we all know how super expensive the blackberry was in it's days of glory and how girls that can't afford to pay rent or buy textbooks in school could magical use the power of clitocurrency to purchase these machines.

But look at blackberry today and how they've been rendered useless like the puna of yester years.
Now iphone is taking it tolls on the puna of young/ill-matured Nigeria girls, what an endless cycle of wasted clitocurrency and old ragged puna.


RIP to the Puna that was scattered, babies born out of wedlock, abortions, STIs and STDs as a result of Blackberry being introduced to Nigerian girls