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55truth:
813158 9013, FCMB. Name is Harry.
Thank you for any little assistance you can offer.

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UyaiIncomparabl:
Is anyone forcing you to give? Or, are you trying to seek attention here so that someone can see your story and send you money too?

Besides, it's stupidity to exhaust your money on someone else when you have nothing else to fall back on. You shouldn't raise someone when you're falling. You both will fall together.

And how's my decision any of your many problems madam? Did I complain to you or ask for your alms or opinion with my decision? What's your busybody for? How did you arrive at the conclusion that I have nothing else to fall back on?

Creamychic:
Okra is delicious with rice

Let's get married �, only few people understand this !

55truth:
Should I quit this job and return home?

So I have been unemployed for a while until late last month that a friend gave me link to his place of work and I got the job. The pay is not good but I had to take it cos I was wasting away without any income.

Now I joined him in the city but he didn't tell me in his one room apartment, he has 3 other guys living in. I now make the 5th guy in one room. All of them have a girlfriend that still come to sleep in the same room. I'm sure you can imagine what it means living in such a condition. I'm just 2 weeks into the work but I have already felt so tired and fade that I'm thinking of quitting the job and go back to the village which is neither a better option. Some days, I sleep in the open in the compound because no space for me inside, absorbing all in the cold into my system which is very unhealthy, plus uncertain security situation. Also, according to the company's policy, I won't get paid through out the probationary period which is 3 months. How do I handle this?

I need advice please.

OP I dey feel your pain if it is true about what you wrote here.... My truth be say as I dey type this message now I never eat today because of Sapa but I won sacrifice 2k for you (send ur account), I beg you in all things sacred nor scam me if the story nor be true abeg.

55truth:
Should I quit this job and return home?

So I have been unemployed for a while until late last month that a friend gave me link to his place of work and I got the job. The pay is not good but I had to take it cos I was wasting away without any income.

Now I joined him in the city but he didn't tell me in his one room apartment, he has 3 other guys living in. I now make the 5th guy in one room. All of them have a girlfriend that still come to sleep in the same room. I'm sure you can imagine what it means living in such a condition. I'm just 2 weeks into the work but I have already felt so tired and fade that I'm thinking of quitting the job and go back to the village which is neither a better option. Some days, I sleep in the open in the compound because no space for me inside, absorbing all in the cold into my system which is very unhealthy, plus uncertain security situation. Also, according to the company's policy, I won't get paid through out the probationary period which is 3 months. How do I handle this?

I need advice please.

Omo, I don't even know how to advice you but I pray God give you a better job and accommodate, keep applying for more jobs...

Now to the other humorous side , is it not the same girls that are jumping upandan all over the social space that are dating those guys? I'm sure some of those days they may have 3 girls joining them, making 7 or more persons in one room!!! see responsible orgy

I pity girls who takes their fellow girl's advice serious though!... Bunch of broke ass hypocrites

50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

Firstly, you will end up suffering HBO and dying of depression.

Secondly, did you marry her abroad or in Nigeria?
If Nigeria, then try to persuade her to come to Nigeria for a sweet and fun holiday then get a divorce and move on with your life but if you married her abroad then I weep for you!

Thirdly, YOLO... Try to be happy, she can't be your responsibility no more, I know you're in more pains than you can even express... Just get out of the bondage you are mistaking for marriage.

ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

Lol....anyway you can port, I am currently available with full options

STOP IT.... why not use the money to marry her, then get her to acquire a skill afterwards and then set up a family business so she can manage it....MAKE UNA DEY GET SENSE OOOO

Ok, I'll keep that in mind, I'll need to start from Ghana first

gift0123:
Ever since I moved to Lagos State I figured out that most of them know dey use eye see a woman who is working, plus they always want free sex. Once they notice you work, finds out your salary, mehn urgent 2k and 5k will start immediately... Two days or a week of knowing you they begin to beg, and when you refuse they stop talking to you, why is Lagos men like this? Am I the only one experiencing this

Yes you are... that's the character of all Nigerian girls

Geestarry:
Smelling entitlement mentality!!

She should better learn how to be financially responsible, if not she will remain a liability to others.

@OP you should encourage her to learn a skill too, or she should buy and sell.

With 6k, she can buy and sell sachet water sef.

If she is not adding value to you, then you are better off alone, than being drained.

My 2 cents.

If you're a female then I'm liking you already.

They're no good wives these days...

I'm grateful to Almighty God for sparingly the life of the victims...

Now let's go to the national issue here;
It has often been said that tomorrow's victims are today's survivors, with that been said, many of the upcoming/future victims we're against the endsars and stop police brutality protest.

Some of them that fought online against the endsars movement are here on Nairaland too...

Remember that when you support your child's bad behavior against your neighbors, that child will grow to give you your own share of the evil you help created.

There's is no sitting on the fence on this one, there must be total overhaul of the police system, erring officers must face capital punishment for their crimes, regular audit of officers assets, regular drug and alcohol test on officers etc.

Myexdisturbs:
I was bathing this evening in the cool shower so I had to watch my anal area and stick my finger I inside my anus and I felt good about it and was wondering how it could feel to receive a dick inside.

Mind you I'm not gay and will never be.
So I'm just wondering if the feelings in anal sex feels same as vagina in ladies.

Op ur last sentence seems to suggest that you are make, what in the fuckery hell would make u insert anything into your Ass hole.... Are you suffering from gayanus asshole.

And you felt good afterwards and still thinking of receiving dickolodion anullus, you're terribly I'll and would soon need to start wearing diapers in your grown age.

nifemi25:
Snap her picture from the bed.. snap as many as possible. Just tell her your phone makes her more beautiful. She will be eager to see those pictures. Just shift for her to sit beside you on the bad..

I be you still need me to lecture you on how you go off her pant ?

Senior Lecturer wehdone

nextBIGthing:
Good day everyone
I’m not good at writing so pls bear with me anyhow you see this.
I’m a young man 24yrs old and my girlfriend 22, I just finished my undergraduate studies and about going for Nysc, While my girl is still in school but she’s already into some online business making good and enough money for herself money that ordinarily she can use to start up a good life. She does not know how to spend which I have complained severally, I don’t really blame her due to the fact that she gets money at any given time she needs it. She can be paid 100k today and be broke in next 3 days calling me and disturbing me for recharge card and all sort of things she can actually do herself. I normally give this to her but it’s now becoming worse and unbearable no matter the amount she gets, she’ll spend it for you in less than one week with no reasonable thing to show for and you’ll be amazed.

To cut it all short, I’m still unemployed but I normally do some little jobs that brings me cash just change compared to what my girl makes in a month. Let me add that she’s a very supportive girl, helped me during my school when I had issues.

I’ve talked and talked now she tags me a nagging guy, and that I have poverty mentality by telling her to have some savings not for me but for herself

I’m just tried and cos she’s not changing keeps doing same thing
I’m even scared of taking the relationship to the next stage.
Cos if things fall out for her
I’ll be the one to take care of her excessive and exorbitant spendings. And I’m just a guy who’s starting life

Pls I need advise

Then help her save her money by borrowing lots from her when she has and then keep the borrowed money for when she's broke, don't spend it on your personal needs.

Jaqenhghar:
Dey there dey vex.
The owner of the club will meet with her people and settle with them somehow. Business continues, the bouncers may be punished or cautioned. What you need to ask yourself is where will you be Mr. Analyst? How does this case help you cope with the increase in fuel price. I hear a tin of sardine is 1k200 naira. A pack of pasta is almost 500 naira. These are things that should keep you awake not what the rich are doing

Waitin concern me and Sardine
As for Pasta, I eat it when I feel like, it's not really amongst my favorite.

Where will I be? With consistent effort, diligence and Grace of God I'll be alright, comfortable and be in a position to help those around me, what's my business with fuel price?

Oya leave here and goan think of your fuel price!

Nosayer:
Pẹlẹ o.....cruise catcher wey dey so serious with points in bullets. Shey your bag don full of the cruises now?....

Yes! Mr Ass licker

Obviously the presiding bishop is the groom's father, how did the presiding bishop knows for sure that the bride is a virgin....watch out for part 2

How was the virginity of the groom tested and confirmed?.... How do you even determine the virginity of a man?

Conclusively...Please y'all should maintain your virginity

Nosayer:


You get strength Sha....funnily the dunce of a babe won't read this. If you channel this your energy into something more positive, like educating online people rather than spreading biles, won't it be good.


Saddening part is if your type come across this people, you'd start worshipping them ni. Online is far different from physical life and you don't have to keep taking everything seriously unless it has a personal concern to you.

Who's this clown, you think everyone is an ass licker like you and your village people?

I'm just catching my cruise jejely while saying the obvious fact and you're there looking for shit to lick

RIP...

If it's Igbo now we would be thinking of ogwu ego, same El-rufai lost a son to reckless driving on Abuja express while he was FCT minister.

Same El-rufai has one useless and arrogant son on Twitter that once said he'll rape someone's mother and other view bothering on nepotism and terrorism.

RIP to her, May Allah forgive her of all her sins and grant her Jannatul firdous al alaa

Nothing Musa Ajimobi nor go see for cacoon gate...

1) I'll wait to hear the bouncer's side of the story to judge who's right or wrong.

But let's talk about what's wrong with the Ajimobi's

1) Your father died without any meaning development after looting the state as a governor

2) they've not even buried your father and your mother picked on the current governor for not coming to greet her on time when your father died, she was busy complaining on all media when she's supposed to be quiet and mourn your father

3) After months of your father's death you're still using state security, as what if I may ask? Is that what is obtainable abroad where your allegedly schooled.

4) you got into a fight in a night club, calling the bouncers unprintable names online, which I'm sure you must have said worse to them in person yet you claim they are misogynist as if you're any better in person.

5) Like mother like daughter, you reported to your mom for her to go and warn the club owners and maybe get the bouncers fired!!! What in hell's name is even wrong with most Ladies!!! Or should I say what in the name of kwale weed is wrong with the Ajimobi Ladies

tiswell:
you really have low self-esteem traits.
You have indirectly shown us that you are thin like bonga fish.
It's only you that saw the 'others" remark you gave to the chubby lady.

Na fat she fat,she no kii person!!!

Oya cry me a lagoon...
I have never been thin in my entire life

Truly nor be by size imagine referring to the fattest one as "others"


OP is body shaming

bigjackass:

Except you are a teenager, why are you dating a girl who can't feed herself with no skill and no job? You guys will leave quality ladies and choose the lowliest category of girls to date probably because of nyash and breast, they will now show you pepper, the next thing you will come online to gender war battleground

Long story!...
Teenager
Quality Ladies

Except these girls give you a CV or Autobiography, you can't tell in most cases until you're hooked, and you're most times hooked only if you're a responsible guy that doesn't jump on different girls

mascot345:
Please I just clocked 35 years two days ago.
I have money to get married but I wan build small estate before marriage.

I wan marry at 40 .

Please I need good advice here. As our economy is too bad. I don't want to bring children that will come and suffer.
People are seriously advicing me to marry next year.
I already have land in a good location.

But some of my girlfriends are encouraging me to marry them before building anything.

My girlfriend said we can hustle together and build a better tomorrow.

I have like 3 girls who are willing to say yes next year.

Please good advise is welcomed.
Thanks everyone.

Dear OP

1.) Do not bring a child into this world to suffer

2.) You need to choose amongst the 3 whom you'll eventually get married to now, someone smart, hardworking, a great manager of resources and not materialistic, someone with a vision and someone that has the most respect for you ... Love comes last.

3. Make your preferred choice your baby mama first without as see how that works out while you build your estate.

4. Marry your baby mama as soon as possible if she meets the criteria otherwise just take the best care of your kid and move on.


Most Ladies doesn't deserve a good and hardworking Man.

Thank you all for reading

Nigeria girls are burden, especially the broke ones...


My girl wants a big wedding to show off obviously, without having 1kobo to contribute...

She can't even feed herself, zero skill and no job...

Nigeria girls just hate to hear the truth.

Why didn't you continue with programming?

You should learn graphics design like using AutoCAD, Revit, SketchUp

FirefliesSun:
we have known each other for over 15 years.

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Then you much have known the mother for a long time too... Anyways, don't tell your friend, investigate more and leave clues that will lead your friend to catch them in the very act.

I repeat DON'T TELL YOUR FRIEND! but investigate and leave clues for her to solve her case

The guy still dey use her dey cash out and dey chop her nkwobi under papa Ned's nose

Look at how hungry and sickening he looks!!!

And all the idiot police force could do is to dismiss him after he killed 5 persons with unjustifiable reason...


What happened to being charged with first degree murders etc...

Nigeria Police are bunch of jokers missed with idiots and enabled by docile Nigerian youths

Candidlady:
cabin copy?

thought it was "carbon copy"

Dem don change am since 6 years ago