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Yes, snoring can be managed not cured.
First an ear-nose-throat consult.
Then a cardiovascular check-up to check for arteriosclerosis or sleep apnea.
Snoring can signal a cardiovascular problem. . .

Too much fat for one.

I thought I was reading. . .pack out of your house and come live with moi.
Thank God for a change of heart o.
Tis the season to be jolly.
Ho-ho-ho. . .

^^^

Just having fun moo moo!
Only a miserable soul like yours will not see the humor in my posts.
You call these name-callings?
You must be desperate for love yourself

Can you please move away let me see others?
Your 'hyper-sensitive' creatures with your issues I swear.

Some of us that have tasted and eat love everyday will not be so uptight in the family section.
You disturbed posters should not be giving advice please.
Thank you.

harakiri:
Your "years of experience" evidently shows in your lack luster replies.

Luster?
How is my reply different from what some men and MARRIED women have given here?
Why are you so bitter?
Please, don't compound the OP's broblem with your personal ones.
At least I am even sympathetic to both the man and the woman in seeking a reconciliation here.
What is your own agenda?
I have none.

I ask again. . .what is your own agenda?
That the man should leave his home and let his wife move in with you? That is if you are a male o.

What exactly is your noise all about?

harakiri:
This is why so many guys are scared of going into marriage. When you are dating the ladies, it's usually cheese and butter milk but after marriage, you start sipping bitter herbs. Isn't it rather funny that these kind of unfortunate events happens MOSTLY to hardworking/committed and loyal husbands? The wife beaters and abusers get the best marriages while the "good guys" get crapped on by their women. What a vicious circle!

Now, this is funny. Is it not the man chewing the bitter kola from his wife and MIL in his story?

@Blazay

You claim to be a married man with years of "experience". Can a man of your "experience" put up with half the crap the poster's MIL and wife is throwing at him? Why are there so many fake and unrealistic people giving advice here? I might not be married (fortunately) but i don't need all your "years of experience" to know that this poster is being short changed in his marriage.

I am not one of the fake ones please. Marriage is not a bed of roses and will never be. But once you are in it. . .you stay there as long as your life is not in danger. If he is being short-changed in his marriage, sleeping in his office is not the answer is it? Years of experience I tell ya. Even if my wife moves out of my house with the MIL. . . I will personally go and drag them back there. At least. . .after the winter is over, then we can deal with this matter. You know what I mean?

@Poster

You are the one whose married here and not we the anonymous posters on nairaland. As much as we are sympathetic with your predicament, YOU ARE THE ONE SUFFERING NOT US! I will strongly advise you NOT to follow the advice of Blazay and his cohorts. They are unrealistic people who don't practise what they preach. These same people who are telling you to go home and "make up" with your wife and MIL are the same people that would have pulled down the angels from the heavens and uprooted demons from the abyss of hell if they were in your shoes. They would have sprayed the entire house with petrol and virtually burnt it down to the ground with everyone in it. Believe me, if you follow their advice, you will be back to this thread in 3-6 months explaining how things have progressed from bad to worse. . .mark my words! ! !

Arrrrantus Nonsensicus!
Who is this?

You left your house 4-5 days ago and till now, not even one sms or phone call. That speaks volumes of the "regard" they have for you. This is a classic case of "we don see you finish". You mean nothing to them and if your wife had an atom of respect for you, your phone line would be ringing non-stop even in the night. . .your phone memory would be filled with lengthy apologetic text messages, [size=16pt]your face book and email would be clogged to the max.[/size] These people don't give a crap about your my friend.

Who told you he is on Face Book?
Is it Face Book married people use to solve problems?
This thread is getting ridiculous.

And on top of that, she is evidently cheating on you. Whether or not she has slept with the person (or persons) doesn't matter. The fact that she denied it when you inquired from her tells the whole story. My friend, DON'T BE A FOOL! ! ! These women are playing you and they have this "nothing dey happen" stance towards the situation.

Hey!
Jezebel!

My advice to you is to kick both your MIL and probably your wife out of your house for starters. Even if this means you have to get physical, then by all means do so. Once again, DO NOT follow the advice of Blazay and his cohorts. It's not for your type or situation. You have in no way wronged your woman or MIL so you have nothing to make up for. Instead, you are the one that has been taken for a ride. I know the type of MIL and wife you have and believe me, if you concede to the nonsense Blazay and his crew is spewing here, you will not only become the laughing stock of the 21st century, you will also suffer and die in silence coz you didn't act when you were supposed to.

Which Blazay and his cohorts. . . why don't you use someone else's name for a change please. Dem sen you message?

IT'S NEVER GONNA GET BETTER MY FRIEND. . .ONLY WORSE. I don't mean to be sexist but women are like the children they bring forth into the world e.g they want what they can't have and crave for things they don't need.

Be wise and take action now or else you will soon join the bandwagon of young men who die between 35-45.

Nuff said! ! !

OP. . .please don't read what this Face Book love-vampire is writing here o.
If you want to die btw the ages of 35 and 45. . .read this single Face Book "tweeter" o.
If you are 70 and above. . . please go and purchase your casket by the end of today.
This poster wants to kill you.
In fact, she is the worst poster I have read on this thread.
You can tell some man has divorced her, and she is seeking revenge on you.

The world is wicked I tell ya. . .

mutter:
Blazay,
Thank God I am not a lawyer-

[size=16pt]sorry to disappoint you I am.[/size]




Now the function of a lawyer is different from that of a judge. A lawyer defends his client even when guilty- do you not agree.
We can only comment on what the man wrote here. If he presents facts that differ from reality, the answers cannot help his reality.
As a lawyer I have given him the logical answer, clear of sentiments.
To have negotiations that favour him he has to assert his position and have bargaining power and that  can be achieved by sending the woman out.
When this is done she will realise the gravity of the situation.
One other thing I find it odd that anyone should think that because the woman contributes or is the breadwinner her actions are justified.

I hope the man does not employ your services. . . for one you are going to lose.
Any wise lawyer would find out what the other person has against his or her client.
No, I do not agree with you.
Women never work in the best interest of other women anyway.
You are the kind of lawyer that would make a man wretched and then [size=16pt]move in with him[/size] to comfort him.
I see you plan.

You have failed!

The days of Adam eating apples from Eves are ova!

I say you have failed!

Kwa-kwa lawyer!

This is a warning to you men out there. . .never hire a woman as a 'family' lawyer o! It is a conspiracy.
Look at this woman o!
You are even sounding like the MIL's other daughter or the wife's friend.
Hmmmmmm!!!!

These pansies from Jos again?
JTF only knows how to arrest almajiris of the Southern parts of Nigeria. . . so oil sales cannot be affected.

Way to go!

Osisi Kan Nkwu was captured and killed within one month we are told. . .

One Nigeria!!!

^^^
Talk to your doctor in case your wife is a nursing mother.
You don't want your babies to become randy too do you?

^^^

Mu he he he

Here comes 'mother xmas' with her fat bible again.

Who is resorting to cheap insults?

Have you proven that the wife is unfaithful?

Did you catch the wife and the woman in your neighborhood hotel making out?

At least, you would have sought reconciliation first before asking for the man to send his wife away.

I am sure the man has his own 'runs' he is not telling us about.

Usually, people will always tell you their own side of the story.

[size=16pt]Have you heard the woman's side?[/size]

Thank God you are not a lawyer!

No married woman should befriend a woman like you. . . you will only spell doom for ANY marriage with the least of problems.

Move jor!

^^^

Seconded!

Thank God. . .these divorced, single women on NL were trying to snatch this poor man from his wife.

Lord have mercy!

switosman:
@4llerbuntu
Good point but its way too different with a wife. wives dont walk away.

the OP needs to play the game, but he needs to also adjust himself.

@blazy,

right all the way, then how do [size=16pt]does[/size] he begin the program of controlling his home, its because he could not at ist that made him run away.

Move back home for starters! Period.

Does. . .not 'do'!

Argggggggggggggggggh!!!

[quote author=dami_paul link=topic=572294.msg7388177#msg7388177 date=1293022364][size=16pt]Uju and her single ladies crew don reach here again?![/size]
Abeg no mind them
@OP, you've done wrong in allowing this linger for long and how u handled your wife's supposed infedility wasn't good enough.
You must understand tht legally and biblically, u have good grounds to divorce your wife if u can prove what u said here, but u can't remarry except, God forbid, she dies (it's a life time business). Now, no matter what we say on this thread, the decision's still urs, it appears u love your wife, and u don't want a divorce, so, go to their village, meet the person(s) u paid her Bride price to, call a family meeting, explain what u're going thru to them, and most of all, you really need to pray! The bond between your MIL and Wify don get cane leg, no sane mother will stand behind a cheating daughter.
Relax and strike, it's solely your call.[/quote]I said it!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7uuxQFEOzcc

switosman:
@ blazy, is not just about gaining control of your home, its also about maintaining that control ever after.

deal with the wife and the MIL maintain.

control frick MIL's trive where son in laws loose control.

I witness a case a MIL was advising her daughter but she told her pointblank, her husband will not allow that.

Any real man can control these situations.
Divorce is not an option YET!

No, you are wrong. Dead wrong. This is all about controlling a home. . . the man is supposed to be the head of his home. . . not the MIL.
He has failed in that regard and must get back on the program. Or get a divorce. Sleeping in his office is NOT an option.
No, the MIL is not the control frick here. . .the wife is being manipulative.
Typical women.
Too bad the OP does not recognize that.

The wife is to blame for all this and too bad she has chosen to treat her marriage with such levity.
The man needs to show her who the boss is.

The only thing I can gather from all this is that the MIL and the wife are the bread winners of this home hence he can leave the house for them to go and sleep in his office. Not in this my house I say. Not gonna happen.

OP. . . wia yu dey?
I hope you have had a lot of popular opinions huh?
Please, don't join these Face Book vultures of romance into singledom o!
You are married. . . you stay married or face a life of misery after your divorce.
Ask them.

Divorcees are extremely miserable people. . . don't join them please.
Do the right thing and move back home.

Being single after marriage is a huge demotion. . . .it is better you were never married at all.
But you are married. . .please stay married. If the wife leaves on her own. . . all well and good.
Do not ever run away from your own house.
NEVER!!!

^^^

K[/b]orrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrect !!! Don't mind these miserable single peeps. Always looking for who will join them on Face Book like romantic vultures.

eleven:
Now I have finally confirmed you are really silly. So sad, Imagine all the waste.

You need to go to the romance and sexuality se[b]x[/b]tion please. . . with all those 'can I [b]mate with you' threads over there and you will find many desperate singles there.
This is called "family' se[b]x[/b]tion. . . no singles allowed. Living with your parents does not mean 'family'.

[quote author=mission_ma link=topic=572294.msg7387782#msg7387782 date=1293018799]Be a man and control your home. If you need you mother-inlaw leave your home it should not be a big deal. Just make an order and it shall be so, otherwise they should give you a good reason for not taking the order. I can never leave my home for anywhere because of someone.[/quote]Gbam
Gbam
Gbamology!

You can tell the man is dying inside.
In this cold weather. . . some expect you to go and be sleeping in the office when I paid for a poosie in my house?
For another man to be perching on?
If care is not taken. . . that MIL will get some loving too. I shall create enough taboo to chase them both out of my house.
In fact. . . just show up stark-nayked in her bedroom in the middle of the night. . . with a king-sized erection.  . . grabbing those her ye-ye, Igbotic slippers of breastes for one. . .
Let me see how long she would live in that house. Then I will face that wife of mine and teach her a big lesson she will never forget. . .call it ra-pe or whatever. . .
Arrantus Nonsensicus!

^^^
Thank you!

Chrisbenogor:
ROTFLMAO
But wait why do you want the OP to resolve this by going home to broker the peace? I think it puts him in a weak position(he already shot himself on the foot for leaving) but if he has to come out of this negotiation with any semblance of self worth he needs to quickly be on the attack no? I say he involves the family of his wife, no man likes to feel being cheated on jor.

It is called strategical posturing in marriage.
Play the weak for a while then pounce on your unsuspecting victims.
Whether you like it or not. . . .you will feel cheated at one point in time in your marriage. . .you recover quickly and continue the battle.
Please, take notes.

likeme:
Blazar, can you please stop attacking mutter personalty. Being a single mother is not a crime. That you are married and still remained so does not mean u a re a super hero as well. Do u know what tomorrow holds for u?

This is a forum, u can disagree with her post but stop all this name calling. I wonder how your wife copes with all these attitude

I disagree.
Being single is a deadly crime. . . punishable by death. . .AFTER MARRIAGE!(I forgot to add)
What ever tomorrow holds. . . we shall deal with it.
Who is attacking the "mutterer's" personality?
Being married is not the super-hero quality. . . but staying married.
Let tomorrow bring it on.

MsTom:
I am so stunned that some men on here adviced the guy to go back home and live with his MIL. That is really unbiased of them knowing that women go through S**t with their hubby's mothers too.

@Poster,
This is an issue btw you and your wife. Your MIL is a third party. Talk to your wife. Find out what she wants. How can a man leave his house and the wife never called? Also, the MIL never asked her to call or the MIL never called herself? That speaks volume!!! really. Have a heart to heart discussion with her. And you, be ready for anything. Take heart to listen through it all. See, I face a tribal issue too. one thing I know is if they dont like or want you, and you are not careful, they would frustrate you out of the marriage. If you love your wife, and she loves you, talk it out. You married her and not her mother. I wonder why you waited 5years to start complaining about your MIL. Maybe you were enjoying the benefits. Anyway, that apart, you need to take drastic actions to save your marriage if it is worth it i.e if you love your wife. Leaving the house is not the solution. you actually open gaps which in the long run could ultimately kill the love between the 2 of you.

Thank you. . . jare.
Look at these chronic FB divorcees o!

eleven:
Chairman, Mr Experienced married man, you are the one advising the OP wrongly. You think you are doing him good where as you are killing him slowly and postponing the evil days. If it was just a gang up, one would understand but cheating and support from MIL. That is too much.

OP needs to draw serious rain now so that his tomorrow will be calm. MIL MUST leave his home ASAP. No excuses and no nonsense emotional justifications.

C'mmon sharrap dia.
If the MIL dies tomorrow, that woman will poison the hell out of you.
Moo moo.
Is that not the poosie you will be begging to go home to every night?
Abeg. . .go blow ya nose jare. Catarrh full for h-inside!

Imagine the Konkonbi[b][size=16pt]R[/size][/b]ity!
Look at all these miserable single people snowed inside their foreclosed council flats near Gatwick airport typing rubbish on this thread?

Who invited all of you here?
The OP asked for 'popular' opinion and look what we have here.
I was having a man to man tok with the OP and your single miserable creatures are interrupting.
Will you all go and shovel your snow from your door entrances and clearrrrout of this thread before I count 1.

^^^

Name: justise
Posts: [size=16pt]88 (N/A per day)[/size]
Position: Active Poster
Date Registered: Yesterday at 05:46:22 PM
Last Active: Today at 12:52:48 PM

88 posts in one day.
It is not yet 05:46:22PM yet oooooooooooooo!
Besides the other IDs.
We are dealing with a classic nut job. . . that cannot be ignored for sure.
We are all in danger I swear. . . .a nut case even in the family section.

Where is that una faky-ola 'nike'  =  '[b][size=16pt]0[/size][/b]luv' for you all when you need it to do it's job huh?
Until some 'pansies' go crying to the moderators that the are being sagamited and e-bullied heh?

ifyalways:
wetin consign Nyansh for dis matter?

Can you please help me ask that loony tune?
That is my friend fstranger if you did not recognize 'it'.
"It" keeps thinking I am one Old-Jukwu that is about to 'peme' and leave my lovely 'Bianca' for him to inherit.

Im go wait taya. . . .lemme just keep tantalizing it with bits and pieces huh?
Im go soon peme for hia.

Mu he he he he he

I stay here in Jos and there is no news of such, abi you de dream, or maybe you wish us dead again?

Mu he he he he he

Ujujoan:
You are right . . . . .

Some men actually think showing affection (especially in public) is a sign of weakness!

You can't blame them. The reason women have to be extremely patient and work with men. One reason being men are always at a disadvantage emotionally. They were never taught to love by their fathers especially. Every African man should be made to date a white woman or a woman of another non-African culture to understand how to communicate effectively. Showing love is never a sign of weakness. Unless that show of love is being taken for granted by the females receiving it.

^^^

You will love the new one better.

Hmm. . . hmm. . .hmmm!!!

I wish I could show you the rest. . . . especially the front. . .

mutter:
Blazay, I have been married for many years so I do have your criteria to be active here
Well I was not going to mention it before but it is very possible that the mil does not have any respect for him simply because he i not Ibo like them.
This is the sad reality of inter tribal marriages in Nigeria. Very often the family is not broad minded enough to give the other party due respect and acceptance.
I do not think that if he were ibo the woman would have the guts to behave like that with him.
Blazay the mil to be part of the family must play a role as a mil!!!
A good mil wil always stick to her sil and scold her daughter when she goes wrong. Even when the man is wrong she should be diplomatic and seek peace.
[b][size=16pt]Please as an experienced man can you explain how a woman can allow her daughters husband to sleep in the office [/size] [/b]And you give this man the ridiculous advice to go pleading and get them to eat out of their palms.
The solution is to get rid of both of them.
If the woman is prepared for the marriage she can come back with her people and do the right thing, which is to plead and change her ways.

The problem with you women.
The man left on his own accord. I would do no such thing as an experienced man in these matters.
The MIL is a small matter to handle.
This is between the man and his wife only.
He is giving himself too much wahala imho.

The solution is not to get rid of them both you say. . . the dead giveaway that you are not married.
No married woman will advocate what you are advocating. Forget that your fake marriage certificate in your head only.
Please, go and get married and then 'stay' married before coming to give advice.

By their fruits ye shall know them.

Ogbologbo-Agbalagba, chronic, NL cyber/Face Booki spinsters!

Mu he he he he

justise:
The Bigger the  Nyansh,  the more  the "iso" smells

Take it down now!

Please. . . .you will have to go to E-kitty or is it E-poosie for that big something and all those 'iso' smells huh? I only do portables.
No smell. . . tight and . . . . . What a designer 'suga bum-bum' huh? No cheap Isale-Eko okirika jeans either. . . .hmm, hmm, hmm!

The real Ileke-sointin. 

Can you please stop bothering my sweetheart? Go and get your own "Bianca". . . or you can inherit Old-jukwu's. . . .who can't do it no more.

You don't like this one?  Okay, let me give you another.

Big manism don end.
No hospitals or 'native doctors' the whole of Nigeria or South East? Even in Abuja to manage CVAs?
No help from Okija?
Hope he does not come back in a coffin o. . .

Wetin go killu poor man musto killu big man too.

One Nigeria!!!

Bianca can be free to play with her mates soon. Thank God for liberating that poor girl. . . It must have been extremely difficult. 3 of the Biafran war lords children were older than her for chrissakes. . . had to imagine them in bed together. Talk about beauty and the beast for real. . . !!!

Jos in the news again. Damn those 'pansies'!

CRISES have again broken out in Jos, the Plateau State capital and two communities in Rivers State, leaving about eight people dead.

Oh [b][size=16pt]w[/size][/b]eeeeeeeeeeeally?

Never knew there were almajiris in Tinapa.

It will be recalled that the clash about a month ago was triggered off by a disagreement over a British Premiership football match, but the situation snowballed into a communal clash, which rendered several people homeless.

No Boko Haram?
This is no fun.

Hmmmm!
I wonder why huh?

When two elephants collide. . .the grass usually suffers.

Gooooooooooooooooooo "Tikkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkku"!!!!!

Can one actually love without showing concern.

Yes. Most African men especially are incapable of showing love not to mention concern. It is just the way they are raised. Until they live in foreign countries and women from other cultures teach them. They are then forced to learn. More African women show love and concern than African men in general. Most families all over the world are not united, the reason the divorce rate is going up daily. Poor communication is the main problem. . . like you observed, most people do not sit down and talk/listen/understand each other.

^^^
Too late for all that. The MIL is now part of the family and cannot be sent away without major problems btw husband and wife. The wife did not push him out of the house, so no need to blame the wife. That is what I expect from a woman . . .not a man fleaing his home for 2 women. I would have done no such thing. By the time I finished with both of them. . .I would have them both eating from my palms.

He needs to go back home and salvage his marriage or call it quits. Getting involved with another female is the least of the solutions right now. . .especially a desperate female who will give him the worst piece of advice to get herself a man at all cost. Beware of beetches and weetches!

Mu he he he he

Almajiris of the South.

justise:
^^^
Ileke is never marrying Alhaji Brazier

That Alhaji stinks like mad, has [size=16pt]a goro deformed teeth[/size] as well

Very promiscuous I tellya; who knows what he has already. I wouldnt put HIV past him

So why should Ileke hang around with such an old gay? Tell me?

Ummmmpph!!!

Bongo!

O di kwa risky. . .

Goooooooooooooo "PDP"!!!
Gooooooooooooo "Tikkkkkkkkkkku"!!!