M. James

Those atheists who are vocal will often criticise the religion into which they were born and most of them were born into Christian homes so what do you expect? I have met atheists who have studied the main religions and criticise them all.  If the atheists here are argumentative, then there must be some Christians here who are also argumentative because these atheists are not arguing with themselves, are they?

Christianity itself is not an intolerant religion but many of its adherents are usually intolerant of anyone who does not believe in the concept of a supreme being.

Many of the points you make about atheists could easily apply to Christians.

chukwudi44:

@chefstone,
you look like a 419ner to me ,what has true faith got to do with dentistry?

If he's a 419er, then he's posting in the right section. Religious people are often gullible.

Kunbee:

Na wa ooo na 2 day people no de believe anywayz all atheists r reserving a seat for themselves in HELL

If hell exists (and that's a big IF), I'm sure there'll be many religious Nigerians there as well.

clementcro:

what u need is to pray if u are a christian or muslim ,pray and fast,
when u get to office in the morning ,before u start working at all,make sure u pray ,commit ur jobs into the hands of the lord,
cos God is the best programmer and he will lead u right,this thing has happened to me also but i overcame it

Until such a time as God comes from wherever he is to help people write their code, I would suggest that the OP adopts a more practical approach.

I don't think anyone would expect a non-IT graduate to be able to write good code in two months. I would suggest that you stay there for a few months and see how you get on. You'll need to do a lot of studying and practising in your spare time. In about 4 months, if you find you are not making any progress or are still struggling with the job, then you can consider changing careers.

However, if you have problems with logical reasoning, then programming may not be the career for you.

When I first started as a programmer, it took a lot of practice, patience (for debugging code), paracetamol, coffee and studying for me to learn how to write decent code.

If you only met her 2-3 weeks ago and you've been having lots of sex, then it was a sexual relationship. She didn't trick you.

If you wanted a serious relationship, you should have spent time getting to know her properly especially as she has a child. If you had gotten to know her before having sex with her, you would have reduced your chances of getting hurt.

Put this down to experience and move on.

topup:

A very difficult situation. If you have her email, I guess you could send her an anonymous email (from a different account), saying that you're someone she knows who wants to give her the tip??

I know it's childish, but being told you smell just will destroy the ego, better be someone you don't know that someone who has been around you for such a long time, who you care about deeply.

If she's the sensitive type, I guess you could just bring up a topic, where you're both seeming to dicuss turn-offs and you could talk about women who smell really good being a turn-on. The typical human reaction is to take note and make an effort.

Your suggestion is an excellent one. The situation is sensitive and therefore requires diplomacy.

You can't be in love with someone you've never seen. You've got this idea of the girl in your head and it's all based on what she has TOLD you and that's dangerous. Either arrange to meet her and get to know her properly or cut all ties with her.

I agree with Seun - Access is not designed for use on the internet. If you have more than one concurrent user, you are bound to end up with performance problems or corrupt data.

I think it's always better to use a scalable database system like SQL Server or MySQL. MS Access is best for standalone applications.

I don't see anything wrong with using green on a website as long as it's a pastel shade. Bright colours used as backgrounds are harsh on the eyes and rarely work with any colour scheme.

jerrymania:

Can you tell us why?

Because it's just a story that was 'borrowed' (and adapted) from ancient Sumerian texts.

OLAADEGBU:

Well, the answer to the question is that the Garden of Eden ceased to exist after the cataclysmic flood and is no where to be found, it perished. IIPeter.3:6,1-5.

For further details check out this weblink:
http://www.answersingenesis.org/docs2003/1021eden.asp

It never existed.

Siena:

You're bang on target sister.

The only discrepancy I can see is where you say "a few Nigerians". I'd say, a lot of Nigerians! I get a lot of unsolicited emails / yahoo! contacts from here a lot of them asking me to do all manner of illegal deeds! Bear in mind, Nairaland does not even make up a fraction of the smallest village in Nigeria!

As for the Ghanian lady, she was just saying what she felt, it's not nice to hear, but in most cases, very true. Nigerians not welcome in Kenya! It would be funny, if it wasn't so tragic.

Siena
I thought they were few because I don't come across scammers very often. I stand corrected.

The bad deeds of a few Nigerians have been used to judge us all.

Once another African (non-Nigerian) knows that I'm Nigerian, I end up hearing stories of all the bad things Nigerians have done in their countries from chalk being sold as paracetamol to the usual 419 scams. Where I used to work, one Ghanaian lady told me how she really felt about Nigerians, and it was bad. I had to tell her to shut up. If our fellow Africans feel this way about us, just imagine how the rest of the world feels.

Until some Nigerians stop trying to acquire riches 'by any means' necessary, we won't be welcome in most countries.

mellow:

Imagine a 15 years old girl, kwing so much about love. [/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000]

Looks like things have changed quite a bit since I was a teenager. I feel a bit guilty for giving all that advice to her. Her profile states that she's 15 but people don't often put their real ages there so I didn't bother checking it before posting in this thread.

mellow:

Can you imagine:[/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000]

Imagine what?

Onelove

You're 15

Abeg ignore all my advice oh! I wrongly assumed you were over 18.

nuzo:

I WILL RATHER ADVICE YOU AND RAVEN TO READ MY COMMENT THOROUGHLY BEFORE CONCLUDING.

I will take your advice when you start taking it too - making spelling errors in your own post whilst trying to correct the OP's own grammar. Now you are advising me to read your comment thoroughly when you didn't bother to read the OP's initial post properly. Whether it was Seun or the internet grammar police who changed the title is irrelevant. I'm sure you got the general gist of the thread. You are just nitpicking.

FYI, it's 'advise' not 'advice' when it's used as a verb.

onelove36:

There is so much more to the story. He's been hurt before really badly.

Haven't we all? That's what life is all about. Unless the heartache happened recently and his feelings are still hurt, then that one is just an excuse.

onelove36:

I saw him today, lets just say he gave me the most disappointed look I've ever recieved.
We did not talk.

Then walk up to him and ask him why. Someone has to get the ball rolling.

onelove36:

We've been ignoring each other, and hopefully we can keep it that way.
I'm just so over all this bullshit.

It's the ignoring each other that's causing all this confusion. Talk to him. My sista, don't cut off your nose to spite your face. You know say e dey pain you well well . Joey82's right. You are making things difficult for yourself.

Nuzo

The title of this thread may be misleading but on the home page of this site, it says "Why are some Nigerians so abusive". Even the OP's initial post shows that she's referring to a *pattern* that she has observed on nairaland, not the world. How is that retarded?

There is a difference between being direct and just throwing insults. The harsh insults on nairaland are unnecessary and good points often go unnoticed when they are in a post that's filled with insults.

Just because it happens in other fora does not make it okay. There are many people who lurk and don't post because they don't want to be the target of unprovoked insults.

And the insults have started again!!

davidylan:

my brother i don weak. one chic i never even knew existed (N-Joy) just popped up and called me a goat FOR NOTHING. na wa o. . .

A goat?? Chei!
Una wan kill me with laughter oh. This thread is so funny.

Onelove

Hmmm. You kissed another guy? Is that why he's so upset? You and this guy you love have never dated so why would you feel guilty and why would he be so angry with you? Seems there's still more to this story that you are not keen to share with us. I won't pry.

Based on what you've written, I would say that if there's another woman in this situation (a wife/girlfriend/baby mother etc), please run like hell. You'll get over it. If there is no other woman, then tell him how you feel. At best, you'll both be able to sort things out and at worst, he'll say he does not love you in that way. No matter which way it goes, it's better to know than to continue being so confused.

I agree with Yimiton. If a guy loves you, he'll tell you.

I hope you are able to sort this out. Good luck.

seun001:

hmmmm!am sure some peeps ere are really restraining themselves from turning this thread into a roforofo fight.i can actually feel it in their posts.

LOL!

claudia:

@BlkRaven,

Thank you. I told her to forget him but you know how this so called love is when it is new and 'shacking'

But i just wonder why there are so many dating website if it is not working out for some people, well i guess you just have to be carefu.l

It's better to try and end the relationship when it's still new because the emotional damage will be minimal.

In my opinion, internet dating is an avenue for sex and 419. It is not a good place to try to meet anyone for any kind of serious relationship. I have a friend who has a different woman in his bed every weekend. He says internet dating is cheap. When a woman comes over to his place, he doesn't have to take her out to dinner and he knows he'll be having sex that night. I understand that love is shacking your friend so she won't listen but you can only try to convince her to dump the guy. If she does not listen, then know that you'll be the one she'll come crying to when it all falls apart - and judging by what you wrote, it will fall apart. None of my friends who have had internet relationships have come out of it unscathed.

I'm sure some internet relationships work. I just haven't seen one of the success stories yet.

amaikama:

I think seun should bring up an anger management forum where if a member start been abusive on a thread instead of contributing his opinion he or she should be sent there for two weeks to cool his abusive nature and all members will get to see who is the abusive member in the forum.

amaikama
The anger management forum is a good idea but send someone there to calm down and all they will do is register under a new usename and return to the main forum to continue the insults.

Based on the spec, you need a new PC not an upgrade.