ednut1:
which woman dey use boyfriend or even husband as next of kin lol. Fake story

Did you work in banking ops? I did for 3years and yes people do it and they do it a lot.

Gerrard59:
The story is false.

Questions: which Nigerian bank will plead with a third party to convince a fraudulent person to return excess cash? You mean a Nigerian bank cannot freeze withdrawals from her account? Use BVN to trace accounts she might have in other banks and tell them to do same? Use police through court order to arrest her? They went through a third party pleading? Nigerian bank, plead? How come a Nigerian spinster will use the name of the man she is yet to marry as NoK rather than her mother, father or siblings?

Fake news!

Seemingly you have not worked in a bank before and even if you had, you didn't work in banking ops. If you pay in cash into a bank and you are over credited, No Jupiter has the power to remove such amount from your account. The teller that made the mistake will either salvage the situation with his or her own money or escalate and face sanctions. In the case above, it was a cash deposit and funds were moved to another bank...how do you prove that the excess amount is not what the lady gave to the teller but filled a different thing in her deposit slip? If you write to block funds in another bank, that means you want to escalate and you will face sanctions for incompetence. Moreover you can't just get a court order for a cash transaction. What if the lady claims that that was the actually amount given to the teller. How do you prove it? This matter was obviously not escalated. It is only when you were credited twice. When I worked in banking ops, I have cases were a teller under my supervision overpaid a customer but the customer denied it. We couldn't touch customer's account cos it was cash. I just told the teller to repair. You need to understand before talking!

Ishilove:

Or make it half or less. If you earn 100k monthly, tell them you earn 25k, otherwise all the bukata will land at your doorstep

and the day your partner finds out? The way people think sometimes I wonder ....I mean if you perceive your partner is a leech you quit if you don't like leeches. You don't lie...never lie...so ensure u get ursef a good partner.

gentlegenius:

Life is a choice...
Choose whatever suits you. I've chosen not to work for anyone.
Because Kiyosaki once worked for people doesn't mean his advise is invalid. When I was hunting for jobs, I saw some people who didn't have jobs but were making cool money everyday. These are people who choose to work for themselves. I chose to join them not because of Kiyosaki's advice, but because I saw most of them succeeding financially, while most of those who get jobs struggle financially. This is Information Age. Because I had information many job seekers don't have, I know how to make money and become rich without a job. Don't get me wrong, I was only advising job seekers, I was not condemning them, afterall, people like us who choose to OWN jobs will always need people like you who choose to DO jobs.
It is all about CHOICE.

bro when people like me choose to own jobs, we are looking foward to owning business that are scalable and not micro businesses that are not scalable....all the same you are doing great running a business that is all that matters.

gentlegenius:

To be very frank with you, capital to start up is not the major problem. It is not the main reason why people choose to work for others.
The main problems are:
1. Wrong mentality
We are ignorantly still having the same mindset our fathers and grandfathers had about making money, forgetting the fact that the world had changed.
2. We Don't seek information
In this information Age, so many things are possible and so many easy ways of making money, getting capital etc are available, but only to those who seek information.
Unfortunately today, people seek pleasure, certificates and work more than information.

please remove this genius from your monicker, is it not the same kiyosaki that ran his business aground? Even Trump was doing badly in business when he wrote Art of the deal. Working for others: disciplines you, nutures you and prepares you to kick start your business. Did you know that Zuckerberg employed analyst from McKinsey &co when Fbook was just a start up? Unless you run a micro scale business that is not scalable then you can rant all you like. Less I forget, at 26 Kiyosaki has a pilot licence and was flying military planes and taking home good paychecks

aremso:


Oga think and grow rich, you have capital already sitting inside you. I met a Chinese friend some yrs back and he said the best thing that has happened to him is to come and work in Nigeria that there is money everywhere and here we are we can't see it but ever ready to complain till eternity

Among all forms of stupidity self-deceit crowns it all. I guess by now you are running a full fledge business with equity that fell from the sky? Bro you are not conversing with a nonentity.

gentlegenius:
This is why Kiyosaki always tell people that the idea of 'going to school to acquire a certificate and use it to get a job' is OUTDATED in this 21st century.
STOP WORKING FOR OTHER PEOPLE...
WORK FOR YOURSELF.

what emprical alternative solution did kiyosaki provide? Abi when them born you capital follow commot from your mama V.J?

Another one bites the dust...

AntiBrutus:


Lol. I guess you forgot your KPMG survey when you made that comment. You also forgot "class" and the poverty rate when you said 250k is "entry salary for BOYS". That is before you went on to mention the kinda ladies you have rolled with.

Now because you want to act all sanctimonious and politically correct...you are whipping up statistics.

I wish I took majority of NL posters serious.

Una go come online dey form righteous, then go offline to do same thing. Hypocrites them

I admit I said so, perhaps not with the intent of creating a perceived " class" but to drive home a point. The response was triggered by another guy who claimed that once you have a good job, finding a partner is the easiest of all....I would have loved to settle this rancour offline over a bottle of Budweiser. Still, everyone should have certain attributes he/she desires in a potential partner, money should not be that attribute. Any idiot can acquire wealth immediately the idiot loses conscience...

AntiBrutus:


Such a hypocritical question coming from someone who didn't consider a NAFDAC worker his class. Four fingers are pointing back at you

2 classes indeed.

Anyway, you might like to stick to this part of your last post bro... while you keep wondering.

Agreed, you won't date or marry a broke brother, case closed.

hypocritical indeed! I thought I said " not my type" ...

AntiBrutus:


Happiness doesn't only come from broke men.

I have happiness to give too, I will go give it to someone in my class.

Thank you.

We have used this class thing and I am getting confused, what is your class? how do you even know your class? What metrics did you use to place yourself in a particular class? What percentage of Nigerians earn 1000usd monthly? which is not even up to a standard wage? A country where more than 60% are poor. please educate me on this class thing because the data I once got from a kpmg survey was tearful. I will really love you to explain this class thing cos there are only 2 classes in this country. The upper class (part of the political class, wealthy pastors ceos MDs line and group executives, Group/regional heads of industries and senior staff of multinational coys) and the Elite class ( top politicians, business moguls MD/GMD/ed of multinational coys) if you are not in any of the two classes, I wonder what class you are talking about....100-300k per month class?...

AntiBrutus:


He makes the proposal.
I accept the proposal.

If that isn't choice, I don't know what is.

A good sales man is only considered good when he has been able to clinch a sale, not before. Because in the long run, acceptance is very important.

I never said I am that buoyant, I only said I WOULD NEVER MARRY A MAN IN THAT ROOM!!! ahn! Leave me to my choice na.

Your guilt tripping won't work oooo!

I guess Zara Buhari was trying to hedge insecurities by marrying an Indimi. Maybe he is also trying to use to me to hedge his insecurities.

Beer parlour logic.

Looooooollllllllllllll f***k....it is not beer parlour logic that is reality. I think I remember this moniker from a thread I created about how difficult it is getting a partner. If he is using you to hedge...he is giving you something in return " happiness". As sacarstic as this might sound, happiness is greater than whatever you are bringing to the table. For the room, with 300k the aesthetics of the room will be given a rebirth. Agreed, you won't date or marry a broke brother, case closed.

AntiBrutus:


I can choose who I will marry.
I will choose who I would marry.

Here comes the emotional blackmail. Why care about a guy's pocket? He didn't care about my looks, cooking skills, sexual history before coming for me ba? So, I am the one that shouldn't care because I want to prove I am not materialistic? I am sorry, that blackmail won't work.

I CARE ABOUT HIS POCKET.

Must I must love a broke man? I guess this is NL definition of love, lmao.

Abeg, to each his own.

You can marry that girl selling pepper in the market, I won't marry anyone in such a room!!!!!! NEVER

I trust I am having this convo with one with a good IQ...I really do not care about how you make your judgements. You cannot propose to a guy to marry you (guys makes the proposal), hence you only have a choice of refusal or acceptance but you cannot initiate. Since you like pepper sellers a lot, Yes I can marry a pepper seller if I get to know her and like her. It only takes a year to get a diploma and 4 years to get a degree. Perhaps you are not as buoyant as you sound then it is logical to aspire to get a buoyant partner and you both can form a symbiotic relationship. Where your relationship will hedge your insecurities.

AntiBrutus:


Start from marrying that girl sweeping the road amd cleaning gutters. Now we are all gonna act righteous like we don't have individual taste and standards.

I ain't dating any man in such shithole, if he wants support to get a new apartment- I can help, as a FRIEND. But I am definitely not living there with him as a WIFE.

You said you started working at 21, perhaps you have a fabulous resume and a wealth of work experience kudos! Many weren't given same opportunity (not your fault)...I had colleagues who married themselves, had some who married from similar sphere but the truth is destiny differs. I had this friend who worked in Advisory for one of the big 4 accounting firms got married to a captain (Pilot)and was abused until divorced. Some people who married same class have had fantastic marriages. Like I said destiny differs... Whether you like it or not, you cannot choose who you will get married to(bitter truth) you can only turn down proposals you are not cool with. If you have a good job, like you claim, you shouldn't worry much about the size of guys pocket. A colleague fell in love with this guy who was not financially OK (no job), when she seeked my opinion I simply told her if you are happy with him go ahead. Today dude is doing uber and she bought the car, 2 kids already. she wasn't even 26 then, so it is not a case of family pressure. Money is never enough. I have jumped from Engineering to Fmcg, construction now banking looking at consulting... Almost 30...money is numbers...numbers never end, if you want money to give you comfort, your search for comfort will never end. Finally it is good to have a good life, but if you can pay the piper, why not allow you and the one who makes you happy enjoy the tune?

tracyberry:





Okay this is fucking wrong!!!!!! It has done a lot of harm to the society, some people never prayed to be where they are, with heresy ruling the society the middle class are seen as peasant, but then again it's your opinion. One thing for me is that I'm not going into any marriage without achieving my life goals and making it big so I won't have to be a burden to my man.

Almost every Lady your age, share your sentiments; buth truth is life happens...I pray you achieve your life goals as you desire...but there will always be that grey area you have no control over.

pocohantas:
We can't date, let alone acceptance.

We are not even the same circle...
He should pick a wife from his circle. Guys should learn to pick a wife from their social class and stop disturbing SM.

we were first humans, before religion separated us, politics divided us and wealth classified us. When I imagine the depth of the grave and the pound of sand that will be thrown at us ...it is all vain. Back to the qstn, the place is not too habitable but the lady can assist too and they can get a comfortable place.

Mellowbandw:


Do you consider her a woman of good character?

I am not of good character myself.

Mellowbandw:


Was she good to you?

I understand what you meant by that. How is one good in a relationship?

Adakintroy2:


Maybe "extreme" and "relativity" should not be in same sentence for you seeing that Relativity itself opposes "absoluteness" --- which extreme concede to sought of.

I really did d not grasp all you wrote but I understand where you are coming from.

Yes! For a particular lady and I apologized afterwards. Unfortunately she misconstrued the apology. She wanted us to come back to status quo ante before she can accept my apology. Then she asked" what exactly are you apologizing for"? Till date I can't answer the question

truthsayer009:
funmisticqueen & franchasng wedding bells soon. Guys watch out

lols if this works out franchasng you will have to pay "thread fee"

Kingsteve:
What can I say?
With this current unforgiving economy, I really pity the unmarried!
It will only get worse, if there isn't any drastic change.
Hold on tight...it's gonna be a bumpy ride!

In war torn regions, people still get married week in week out - I get your point though.

millionboi2:
He is thief abeg or maybe him still dey school dey study banking

ok

franchasng:
without ukwu, what else are u going to discuss in woman romance matter bikozie

Kwinesther:
I don't and will never beg, just saying hasty conclusions which we mostly do is wrong.

That's good! You see baby, let me illuminate you a bit " perception is reality " it is what I perceive about you that forms my reality of you. You may never get another chance to show your real self. People can only judge your actions and not your intent. Forget the " do not judge a book by its cover". So think before you make that impression!

Adakintroy2:


Even so low/high opinions. lol

There is no relativity at the extreme. It only gets muddled up in the middle

millionboi2:
we all know that Mr Man.....is just like to be a thief.



We don't want to be thieves? okay

l don't understand, what do you intend to say? maybe you should keep it simple.

Adakintroy2:


Not absolute yout take. You a good mathematicians when you find balance for your equaltions. We do have extremes but also Points of convegence.

Like hot and cold and warm.



High opinion, low opinion, balanced opinion.

hmmmmmmmmnnnn ...nice one. A balanced opinion is relative

Kwinesther:
Lol see thinking...so because you have once successfully slept with a lady that asked for money on Instagram automatically means any lady that says e nu gbe on Whatsapp is a CONFIRMED prostitute? Come on!!! Laziness has reduced SOME ladies to zero worth and materialistic nonentities but its so so unwise to think every lady that asks for help on every sm platform is one. So you are saying there a no females that genuinely solicit for financial help on social media at all? (Not too good but doesn't change the fact that it isn't in anyway related to prostitution) Or there are no people that posts stuffs online just jokingly or for attention? Just like saying a person that posts inspirational/motivational quotes on social media is automatically doing well in life or my daily bible quotes on Instagram automatically means I'm a child of God...Lol smh.

I'm not surprised my comment sounds foolish to your hearing, with this your myopic sense of reasoning it sure will. Irrespective of that, I am still on my stand that when it comes to socialising, especially in relationships thorough study of the partner should be observed with patience. Suuru lere!!!

you shouldn't ask for help. It is wrong by all standard. You shouldn't beg. It is the lowest ebb of living. Unless one has a terminal illness then begging to pay hospital bills is understandable. Else on no account should you beg.bit is very wrong and shameful

Iogobenz:
I got that now.
There is money in local,just that too many people can't see it,are feeling too big to see it or too dumb to see it.
I know what I am saying VERY VERY WELL.

you guys are supposed to access funds from bank to grow your business but oftentimes you guys font keep records and carryout simple bookkeeping. Some font even register their businesses

Iogobenz:
Hmmm..this one is in finance.
The more money I make,the more money you make can be true no doubt.
But does that really mean the more i HAVE=the more you HAVE?
You know MAKE and HAVE are 2 different things,especially in this context

the more you make, the more I earn. Look at it this way, the more you make, the more you store (bank). The more you store, the more deposit I have. The more deposit I have, the more deal I close. The more deal I close, the more bonus I earn...it is a chain reaction

AntiBrutus:


I have gone through my comments. What were you expecting everyone to comment on? Strictly how hard it is to find partners

Of course it is normal we touch areas that influences this difficultly in finding and keeping partners. This includes work, location, ukwu...etc. Please, chill, life isn't that hard.

Are you a perfectionist?

Do I sound like one? Definitely not...if you read some of my topics here on nairaland you go know say I craze well....and for the ukwu part, I was once the king of ukwu but I have retired now