Romanoff:
This same matter.

Out of 70 tubers of yam, my mum got only 5.

Out of several crates of soft drink, na only give pieces of Malta guinness them give my mama, then a bottle of palm oil out of 25 litres of oil.

If those old men meet me on the road, they don't know me. They didn't know how I went to school from nursery to masters.

But they collected everything in the bridal list.

How long we wan continue like this.

Your grandfather also benefited from this setting. It is called culture.

MartinsD12:

Now I see you lie, who is talking of wedding proceedings, we are talking bride price, I know how much wedding proceeding cost OK.

Bros 300k bride price is small. Bride price is a subset of a wedding proceeding.

brown3:
shot up, your father also chop from others people's daughters.

Tell them don't mind the hypocrites

pocohantas:


Doing the marriage in USA won’t reduce the list, you will either monetize it and send or get a home-based person to buy it all. The problem is the mindset, the formation they come with. They come like hungry lions. Some of them can’t even pick out the bride from ten ladies, but their eyes go dey chook inside everything.

They do not have a problem with you not inviting them, just send the money to them. If you don’t, the repercussions would be waiting for both you and your children’s children.

Poco, I am a bit disappointed, this is tradition. It was not there because of you or anyone. Your grandfather might have benefited from this setting. You don't see other tribes talk about their culture in disparaging terms. If it is an elder takes all tradition, respect it and move on. I exalt my ancestors and it is pure ignorance to criticise your culture because you think someone else is cashing out

MartinsD12:

Na lie I maintain my stand.

Guy my advise, focus on whatever you do pray for God's favour, 300k is a small amount when it comes to wedding proceedings.

Ladycewhy:
Are you implying that women sat down and decided to be collecting bride price? you and I know this decision was unanimously agreed upon in a village meeting of brown teethed snuff sniffing ancestors and I can swear on buhari's life that women were not present in that meeting.

There is nothing wrong in paying bride price. In Kalabari where my elder brother married from women negotiates and collects the bride price. The men only sit and eat/drink. Stop being myopic

MartinsD12:

Mention where it happened

My eldest brother married from Kalabari Rivers he paid 500k as bride price (although they told him no fixed price). I have 4 sisters all married, the list bride price paid was 850k...Train your daughters well bro.

Xantel:
That is the only day the elders can extort from in-laws, the other days are for your mother and you

Tell them, when you have a well trained daughter with a good career the kind of suitors you will see self 300k will look like 3k.

MartinsD12:

Total lie, 300k for bride price that's not true, highest 20k, fake information.

oga don't ridicule people's culture. 300k is a low budget bride price.

anochuko01:


That's bullshit!
Are they selling the gurl? I wonder what their first price was before it was negotiated to 300k.

Utter balderdash

300k is not a huge bride price. I have sisters and brothers who have gotten married and the list bride price paid was 850k. Dude train your daughters well, guys will beg with over a million just to do introduction.

Martinez39s:
Be crying as if they forced your family and in-laws to yield to tradition. If your family and in-laws decided to disregard tradition and just do a court wedding, no one can stop you people. I stand to be corrected.

Exactly! I don't know why people are becoming useless by the day. The tradition was there right from the beginning. That guys father might have benefited as well as an elder. You can choose to ignore tradition if you wish

wink2015:
Why is the bride price so high?

What will they use to do other aspect of the wedding like buying kolanut, hot drinks etc

Plus other traditional items.

300k, is not a high bride price. Bride prices are not fixed, it is negotiated.

Warrgidanairala:
Mtchewww some men are so shameless,reaping where you didn't sow all in the name of kingdred abi what sef mtchewww.Bride price should be directly given to parents and in the absence of the parents the person who acted as parents should then receive it and not some shameless men who wants to reap where they didn't sow

The tradition was not there because of you it has always been there. Every culture has a marriage tradition, respect it. If it is an elder takes all respect it. Your in-law can always for give away anytime. You guys should grow up please

sisisioge:


I honestly still find it hard to understand the Igbo marriage initiation system. How could strangers reap where they did not sow bikonu? Is it too much to do the wedding in the brides compound minus all those extended kinsmen? Or do kukuma somewhere the wife's father is based whether na Lagos o abi na Kano....that will also reduce the perpetual list considerably.

15 crates of malt for youth.
5 bags of rice for the youths
40 kegs of wine for the kinsmen
50 baskets of kolanut for the elders

The tradition was not there because of you it has always been there. Every culture has a marriage tradition, respect it. If it is an elder takes all respect it. Your in-law can always for give away anytime. You guys should grow up please

Queenlovely:
That is why I value the Muslim burial rites sometimes.

They just wrap you with mat and throw you into a pit,

Then they forget about you, they don't take flowers to grave, or cry at grave side.

Once you are dead it is final, you will become dust, all the praises from family members you cannot hear it.

Let us stop this deception of posthumous nonsense. There are no spirit or demon, they are works of human imagination like father Christmas.

The only people who have the most expensive burial rites are the Chinese, similar to Nigerians, with many taboo and shit. but Chinese burial is way better than Africans

so we should shred our tradition because of Islam's simplicity? We value life, we have reference for the dead!

Sunisonflex39:
Something Wey them go use 10b go play three sure odds. And bounce back in 24 hours..

Them dey tell us story

SSpeter:
This is a real life situation but I will make it as fictional as possible. I might also make it a bit difficult to comprehend because....I choose to.

Mr A was a sales officer quite good and all. So he was recommended for promotion and he got it. Ideally he was supposed to spend 9months on his new grade to be appraised again (mid term appraisal) and another 9months for recommendation. Fortunately, he performed above expectations in the mid term (in fact he had a perfect score) and that qualified him for another promotion and he got it.

Previously his line manager was 2grades above him. His line manager has spent 6years on her current grade without promotion. Mr A's rapid promotion now brought him to the present grade of his line manager.

Line managers >>>>RHs >>>>>CH...in that order. The RH position is not a grade but an office, unlike the LM position that is a grade and an office. (you must be a line manager by grade to be nominated for RH position). Recall, Mr A is not a line manager by office but he and his line manager are at par grade wise.

Also note that Mr A was getting those recommendations because his LM (let's say Ms B) was recommending him based on his performances. Now it is not unusual for you to perform outstandingly and not get promoted. Appraisals are based on attitude, aptitude and performance (Attitude cannot be quantified and to an extent subjective).

Before the lockdown, the regional head vanished (take it like that) and Mr A was appointed RH. Ms B will now report to Mr A. Ms B groomed Mr A and A was under her tutelage for a longtime. Ms B is still a line manager and has other reports like the initial Mr A under her. Sadly they are not performing hence Ms B is not performing cos individual performances makes up Ms B's performance.

Mr A has other LM reporting to him and he has issued Ms B several queries due to PF. During virtual strategy sessions Mr A will criticise Ms B approach and all. Now Mr A has a good heart towards Ms B. ( I know that because I am the one writing). The thing is Mr A is also other pressure to perform and all the LM performances under Mr A makes up Mr A's performance. Mr A is trying to proof he is good for the job.

It now looks like Mr A is ungrateful and wicked. Finally Ms B has spent over 7yrs on her current grade and badly needs a recommendation. The pendulum might not swing in her favour if she doesn't get it. Mr A has other LMs that have performed better and have stayed lesser years
than Ms B on their grade that also need recommendation. Due to budget size and Covid Mr A cannot recommend more than 1 person.

Mr A wants to be a good man....Ms B might be axed if she doesn't move on her grade.

How will you handle this?

This is a tough situation. I will call for a meeting can let the other LM know that Ms B ought to be promoted becos log length of stay. I will use any means legal to ensure that she gets it. Give good appraisal in attitude and aptitude.

Darlingme:
I'm not in Lagos yet. Hopefully I will be around by 24th.

Although, I don't want crowd. I want to be alone. Thanks

with 100k budget you don't want crowd Please look for a cozy burial site and chill alone

Cocao:


What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad. They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

Nice points! But how can we be equal when I bankrolled your travel expenses, paid your tuition, fed and housed you during your training period? Then few months after earning peanuts you want to 50%-50%? Even in corporate organisations, the holder with the greatest stock controls the direction of the company. If you want 50% bring 50% from the onset. Thank you

angelEmade:

lol clout chaser, without joining issues insultingly, without prejudice, your burrowed brain should be able to patronize the foregoing without animosity.
How come a weakling like you, with false speech prowess camouflage is staging a language sabotage?
ordinarily your brains should tell you the satirical difference between a jargon infested speech and a grammatical eyesore.
But albeit the bashing, I bet you do not at all, understand that jargons are in fact well accepted in English communications. Rather than betray the literature, they are enunciation of meanings.
The multiple-stupidity that landed you in this jeopardy has betrayed you...my! how can you bring your moronic misconstrued ideal into a well meaning reply I gave to someone??
you should learn...
not just to speak the language
but to understand the language

you just made the thread boring. To be candid you no get sense

omooba969:


You're shallow.

You are deep.

pocohantas:


Every guy is not an olosho. I take GOD beg you, speak for yourself and your circle.



This is why people are tasked with living a responsible life. I am not talking abstinence here, but a conscious effort to guide your space and your circle. Oloshos are not the only problems, broloshos are a different kind of problem. Their mindset is dangerous for themselves and the women they end up with.

lol...this woman funny .

pocohantas:


Every guy is not an olosho. I take GOD beg you, speak for yourself and your circle.

Every guy cheats or will cheat as long as he can afford it and the opportunity is there. Let me explain this. I walk into a lounge on the mainland and I order for a bottle of Hennessey, I paid 30k. Opposite my sit a lovely lady is seated willing to spend the night with me for half the price of my drink. If I can buy a bottle of drink for 30k, why don't I just add 15k and leave with a drink and a babe for 45k?

pocohantas:


I commented on a thread, how that affects you personally is beyond me. If the shoe fits, wear it.




If your senior colleagues were sitting one place or going where responsible people meet, I don’t know how they would have met that many OLOSHOS.

Having an ex is not olosho. Dating a colleague in same company is NOT oloshoism. If they are patronising oloshos, making them broloshos, then it is normal they continue to have high BP and see oloshos when they close their eyes. Oloshos don’t have rest when they marry, broloshos would never have rest too.

Cunny man die, cunny man bury am.

loooooollll you are cunningly defending the ladies. Every guy is an olosho. We are not arguing that we accept! But no guy wants to marry an olosho. That is the problem.

pocohantas:


Exactly! Yet they are complaining of oloshos. Whenever a man gives that reason, just run as a lady. That man is either a brolosho or he is surrounded by broloshos. Even if you are Mary, he will continue overthinking everything, while you struggle to prove your worth. Run and leave him with his demons. When he is ready to stop seeing oloshos, we would know.




Are there no females in that his British Petroleum? He should find one of his colleagues and marry. Linda Ikeji is there, Genevieve, etc. there are rich MATURE women around him, he should marry one and stop crying. Leave small small girls alone.

...Well people must marry! people here are saying that a lot of ladies today are "olosho" that isn't untrue. The truth is some guys aren't smart enough to know their ladies are oloshos while some chose to lgnore ( I know someone who knew my guys and I have slept with a lady and still went ahead to wed same lady). When I worked with an Fmcg back then, The head corporate affairs was quite fond of me. We will go to Ikeja country club together with his bevy of beautiful ladies... His friends who were also in senior management positions in other industries will sit and chat about their escapades some of those ladies got married and some even work in the same coy. I am presently in banking and nothing has changed. You may not understand the rot and level of decadence. By the way I will be retiring from bachelorhood in a couple of weeks. My lady may have had a silly past for someone to call her "olosho". Is the person incorrect?

Mokason288:
I’m from delta state the only reason why I want Madam to win is Because Buhari has taught us nepotism she is from my tribe and my country person that’s all.

This woman’s father is a king yet he doesn’t have water in his community, she did absolutely nothing in her community

I HOPE I MADE SENSE

if you are talking about ogwashi, it is the geography of the area that makes water inaccessible. Ngozi father also buys water

Amazingboy1:

Werey,,,

This nigga is mad oo,,,,


Are you a boy or girl simple,,,!!!,,

free am na wetin concern you wether na boy or girl...

EndSarss:
I will never cheat my hobby for this ur so called write up

Cheating is not something that comes like a wind. It takes time, there must be cracks and voids for it to occur. Sadly we are emotional creatures and our emotions are stronger than our knowledge.

Higgies:
I've watched more complex and intriguing movies than acrimony lately.

please can you give me names

Nice one! We all gonna keep pushing until something big drops. Family I'd everything. Starting early is key.

For the ignorant ones, a cash transaction cannot be reported fraudulent. It was the cash given to you that you posted. And yes, people use other ppl as their next of kin. Next of kin does not mean next in line to your cash if something happens to you. If that lady didn't move funds, the teller does not have the authority to reverse the money. The customer can claim that was the exact amount she gave you. Touch her account and you get served. Trust me the teller is automatically fired.

gloryon:
The story is a lie,bank won't contact next of kin. Once there is evidence of over payment, police report and court affidavit will put a lien on the account. In this era of BVN even with the movement of money,it can be traced to the other account.
Thus, this makes the op's story fake.

Why are you guys so dumb, did you work in banking ops? When you are over credited guy no body can touch your account unless you were credited twice. The issue here is obviously a teller looking for way to recoup funds probably with her supervisior. Look, even if that lady did not move funds you cannot touch her account. You can only beg her to return cos she can claim that was the amount she gave you and if you sue the Bank you are wining big time. It is a cash tranx. And if you escalate this case and the bank authorities get to know you face sanctions as a teller...