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EfemenaXY:
And would you advocate such a man encourage his wife to do the same in search of a female child if he has issues fathering a girl child?

Men are known to have allowed their wife go out to get pregnant albeit secretly so they can have a child to call their own. Don't pretend like you haven't heard real life stories even if you haven't witness one. If men can stomach it, why cant a woman?

EfemenaXY:
I still don't get you. Break it down.

You're proposing he plays the field, yes?

And she should sit there and just take it?

Nooooo. I don't mean him playing the field. That will be too traumatising as she already has enough to grapple with. But with agreement, without the family's consent, they can opt for artificial insemination on a willing surrogate either using her own egg or the surrogates egg. It's as simple as that. Or agree with the man to get a willing lady to bear the child for them. Just one so they can have a son in their mix.

If the woman consents to it, it minimises the pain just like the men who urge their women to get pregnant from outside their marriage because they are incapable.

All this issue boils down to the fact that, we have wondered away from the laid down principles as found in the bible.

Husband, love your wife.

Wife, honour your husband.

Maybe ya'll ladies needs to go figure properly the meaning of the word 'Honour'. Piece all the various meanings you can find together, you will see that waking up one day to start gender equality war was when the tide turned badly.

Women are no lesser beings but as long as the issue of marriage and relationship is concerned, the man holds the head and the woman is expected to hold the tail so they can progress smoothly on the journey.

If women had just kept to the counsel as in the bible, things wouldn't have gotten this bad.

My submission and entirely my free speech formed opinion. I don't expect everyone to agree with me

EfemenaXY:
Even so.

You still haven't answered my question. How do you propose she she "supports" him?

By allowing him realize his desire which is having a male child. With the support of the wife, they can go about it such that she will not have to share her home with another woman or worst case, loose it to another woman.

It can be achieved @EfemenaXY

Additional:
They should put heads together and get a surrogate mother. They can opt for gender selection procedure, use her own eggs etc. Or a cheaper method, paid baby mama.

whealthy:
Bro, if upon further verifications her story holds and she still has some proof, I can mobilize myself and some colleagues to give her legal representation, pro bono, if she is still willing to pursue justice.

You can DM me anytime on this, please.

God bless you immensely brother for just this thought. We hope her story is true and factual.

I don't know how some people manage to sleep at night with all the atrocities hanging on their neck.

EfemenaXY:
Support him how, exactly?

You do understand that the sex of the child is determined by the male's mismatched XY chromosomes and not the female's matched XX chromosomes?? i.e. The man's Y chromosome yields forth the male child?

Biology 101.

No doubt on the issue of men being the determinant as they carry the Y chromosomes that yields baby boys. You also might have the need to further your knowledge on the part played by a woman's PH level at the time of copulation and conception.

That there is the baabaa of them all.

This issue is a very sensitive one and begs for all understanding. The women of the days before supported their husbands when faced with this type of predicament, but today's women see it as a man being inconsiderate. This is Africa & we as Africans have some things that are peculiar to us. Unlike the West, having a male child who will take over the mantle from him forms among others the top desires of every man.

So support ur hubby on his desire to have a male child. Surrogacy is gaining ground now in Naija, or let him do the baby mama thinz. I won't support a new wife to avoid rivalry in a home you built over the years.

This is entirely my opinion which is my right whether it makes sense or not.

Monalisa185:
this kwantry is turning to a no-go area o, e be like sey na to relocate to TOGO go sure pass for now o

Babe I dey tell you. Light no dey, fuel no dey, then the fuel wey no dey dem wan come strike put on top. IKEDC dey strike and people thrown into deeper darkness from the big drakness wey been dey. Chai! Which way Nigeria?

rottennaija:
Thought u said u needed ipob? That u can build your own roads and bridges, that u dnt need Nigeria?

PMB needs to put people he can trust there, not people that will sabotage his effort so that tomorrow, you will say, that he failed.

Now this was the mistake Jonathan made. Nigeria is a chessboard.

princechigzy:
Firstly, it's a good move by the President and commendable.

I only have one issue with this National decision:
An Act of the National Assembly established the Nigeria National Petroleum Corporation, included in the amended constitution of the Federal Republic and would require an amendment or a repeal to unbundle the NNPC.

My question is This:
1. Did President Muhammad Buhari consult with the members of the National Assembly in respect to the constitutional provisions before taking the decision to unbundle the NNPC?

2. And was the bodies recognized by the law involved or consulted. These bodies are NUPENG AND PENGASSAN?

Thanks.

Now this is interesting. I had this thoughtline too. I hope this excellent move is not dead on arrival?

LastMumu:
So because she is driving a cab she thinks she is better than her counterparts earning 'peanuts' from accounting firms?

Although I admire her spirit, I believe her viewpoint above is rather myopic.

She didn't mean it that way. Please figure the contextual meaning. All she meant was that she makes a gross income better than what some of her mates are being paid at the end of the month.

I admire her superb courage biko. You go girl!

amtaken:
There are some guys who know that you are a legally married wife and still disturb your life. Some of them even try to entice you with big contracts. The worst part is when your ex begins to call your line every day, sending you whatsapp messages claiming that he can't forget you.

Why don't some men have fear of God? Why too much pressures on married women when there are many single girls out there? Some of them even go as far as hitting on a pregnant woman.

This is a very bad behaviour and must be discouraged.

Goodnight brothers and sisters.


NB: This is not personal.

I know it's personal don't worry. Your beauty is a strong point to make them hover over you but, just be strong and hold tight to your vows.

Evil men abound and the reason they do what they do remains a mystery to me even with the myriad of single sexy ready to play girls all over the place.

Tufiakwa!

blackpanda:
Please let us all remember that GEJ said Stealing isnt Corruption, so there is nothing to this story. Those responsible should be freed!

But at least, it is no longer GEJ's era. His definition of stealing rests only with him and has exited our government with him. At least, it wasn't enshrined in our constitution.

The wailing and gnashing of teeth on judgement day will most like cause a massive quake. Tufiakwa for the heart of men.

Favolly:
Lol! This is a classic case of 'When the owner of the head says she no get headache'

But then she deleted her IG account, removed Makun from her name. And it took all of 4 days to deny?

Okay

Intelligent! *wherez the thumbs up emoji when u need it?*

ULSHERLAN:
The world itself is wicked.

Lets not judge since we don't know the exact story and we never can tell if the woman sat there voluntarily

Whoever liked this comment is a DEVIL. The act and action as described by the OP is inhuman. There is no justification for it. Maids are not humans ba?

The front seat is vacant for crying out loud, why wasn't the lady allowed to sit there? The karma that will deal with that useless baboon forming oga is brushing it's teeth. Even when good spirited people questioned such act he barked at them. Evil man.

otitokoroleti:
NORTHERNER NEEDS ORIENTATION! 13YEARS OLD GIRL IS TOO SMALL TO GET MARRIED FOR GOD SAKE! PLS, POLICE SHOULD ARREST THE VILLAGE HEAD, GROOM, BRIDE'S FAMILY. WE ARE NOT ANIMALS FOR GOD SAKE

Even animals know when their female is matured for mating. *shakes ma head* for all involved.

amunkita:
Lagos agbero = Tinubu
Tinubu > Ambode
Therefore: Ambode < Agberos

Answer: Don't expect a solution

You just made me fall off my bed laughing with both your handing and your equation. I'll check for any broken bones when I'm done laughing. For now continues

HungerBAD:
What?

This is bad. Is there anybody from the Government of Goodluck Jonathan that did not steal? for those that say Nigeria is not a God Worshiping Country, must really not be appreciating what he did by taking these people out of Govt.

Imagine if PDP was still ruling.

Well . . . . . you are hearing this and all seem to be only on Jonathan's government simply because the searchlight is beamed ONLY on the immediate past government. There has never been any government of this country that didn't steal this nation blind going as far back as the Shagari era. All forms of antics were used including budget padding which they attempted again in their usual manner but failed this time because of the economic meltdown we are faced with and the seeming thoroughness of Buhari's team. Bear in mind that the same set of polithiefians in power with Buhari today are the same set in all the previous governments, they have all the arsenals to perfect the act of public fund looting. This is a game that have played out over and over.

Nigerians should cut Jonathan some slack and focus on the CHANGE at hand and see it through. All previous governments stole this nation blind. I am not in support of the actions of looters of our common wealth neither am I a beneficiary of their loots, I just don't like the snide remarks on Jonathan as if he championed it.

Naughtysite:
Is this what you feel ?

Or what they thought you ?

The speed of a relationship is driven by both partners not one person.

A friend met the spouse, under 4 months, both are married happily. No long story. While some date 4 years and still separate at the marital juncture.

It depends on what you want before starting off.

The original post is not a relationship guide. It is how a man feels when he loves a woman, which is mostly true. I for one exhibits these characteristics. I may not be speaking for every man but I know for most, yes it's true. This is from a man's perspective.

A lesson for the ladies.

When a man loves a woman, it's in the way he looks at her, the way he talks to her, the way he corrects her, the thought he has of her, the way her presence makes him feel, the way her voice sounds in his ears, he is patient with her, he wants everything for her, he can't get enough of her, she never goes wrong. Her wrongs are instead seen as mistakes.

Now that is how to know when a man loves a woman.

When his mission is just to tap that a.s.s and slide, the signs won't be complete. Some might be present but he will exhibit impatience which is the biggest red flag. Some guys though has mastered the art of patience, look out for other missing signs, they just can't be complete.

Happy Valentine's Day in advance to all ma ladies in the house.

burnexcessfats:
Hmmmmmmm!

To be candid bro, I will advice you not to go ahead with the marriage.

Firstly, the fact that your parent told you not to do so with the stated facts above, I totally agreed with them.....Though it might be difficult for you to accept that now simply because you are already over crowded with her love...

My dear brother, the love you both have now might or in most cases will not be enough to pull through ups and downs in a marriage..... The years of experience of your parents can never be traded for anything. They were there before you, they know what it takes to have a successful marriage, the sacrifice involved and so many other important things about marriage.

They are in the best position to advice you, and which they ve done. Is now left for you to use your discretion and follow the right step but not totally blinded by the love that will fade away after the reality done on you as time goes on in the marriage.

However, a lot of things is not just right in the first place...
1) she is older than you
2) she already had two kids
3) I believe she must have had a strong connection with the father of her children, of which this connected can never be cut off even after you marry her. The question is are you ready to face all the consequences?

Though she already had two kids, how many kids will she give to you? ...........and many other reasons...


In fact, if you sit down and think about the thing very well, I believe you will see yourself that love is not only enough to sustain you in the marriage as well as going against your parent wish...


There are many and more better options out there, just don't settle for less......go for the best bro. Your love is out there beckoning on you.... listen to your heart and go get her....

You have spoken well with so much wisdom.

That footage as long as I am concerned is almost useless. When you advice clients on the need to deploy reliable Video surveillance equipments that can guarantee a reliable and usable footage when the need arises, all the want to look at is cost. Low cost can NEVER guarantee QUALITY because it is cheap for a reason.

The same war in mobile phone camera quality is what is obtained in the CCTV market where people generally think that because a camera (IP or Conventional) is marked as HD (either Full HD or 720p) is a guarantee of clear footage. So many factors come into play to get a good video or image footage from a deployed video surveillance solution. These factors include but not limited to Camera sensor type, sensor quality, DVR recording capability, image compression technology used and many more.

Deploying a video surveillance solution is not like buying DVD Player and connecting with your TV. It goes way beyond that and that is one area our people ain't coming to terms with enough. The case of the newly employed Nanny turned kidnapper that happen last year comes to mind. An image footage was released then which also was useless, now this. When will our people learn to do it right?

Check my signature (Wirox Integrated)

Wrong buddy . That msg is not from etisalat, rather is from VAS providers and other short code owners that buy GSM number database. Msgs from etisalat will come with their ID which is etisalat. Same as other GSM network providers. @OP learn.

Juliaann:
Am still looking for the massive Brea.st cos I don't see anything massive there

I dey tell you . I am almost seeing the pads underneath the bra that helped push her lil'ish up. When did a handful become massive? Bloggers make una repent naaaaah haba!

It's simply 88

Did I see someone say 78? I wanna assume it's a typo.

No need self breaking it down as it's a simple teaser that doesn't require a pen & paper to reproduce the answer.