₦airaland Forum

oglalasioux:
The rented apartment could be a love nest where the guy man eats his bush meat occasionally.

Correct guy. Your head dey there.

emperorchedda:
I wonder how many other girls have invited their 'hitters' to their wedding as Chairmen and how many more will

Men have suffered in the hands of ladies all in the name of marriage

Not after all the trouble one goes through to woo and convince both the girl and family that you are the best suited, and all the rigours and expense of seeing the union through. Karma I know so well will do its bid at the appropriate time.

I'm out jooooor.

kennyman2000:
Hmmmmmm... TY bello can lie for Africa. That cant be an agege bread seller. She shouldnt be looking fresh as such. With the Scorching sun that beat this people everyday. She shouldnt be that fresh.

TY bello should tell me another thing joor...


Check my signature for ur customised wristband

Good thinking guy. My bias exactly. Cheap and deflate-able publicity.

duchessxino:
don't say wat u don't know....the blast is true.....ur girlfriend is not current in Wats happening around her environment

Or maybe the girl self don waka go far unto runs things and no dey Benin as at the time of the incident.

MathsChic:
So true. As a finance analyst, I can't but agree with all of this article. Every country determines to an extent how much its currency exchanges for. Nigeria has a long way to go and there's reason to suspect 1000ngn/$1 is a possibility.

I have never doubted the possibility of N1000/$1 in the very near future if things continue the way they are. My projection actually is less than 18 months and the Naira will hit N1000 or even more to a dollar. Crude prices has crashed in the international market and the little we have left for export after vandals and oil thieves have taken their share don't have ready buyers. So we can't sell and if we can't sell, we can't earn the green-back and if we can't earn the green-back and still run an import based economy, then sorry Nigeria.

I just got wind of how subscribers numbers end up in tele-marketers hands on my visit to one of gloworld office for sim re-reg.

There were 2 guys busy extracting all the registered numbers from glo's database into an excel sheet, compiling them according to local governments, states, age group and sex. I knew at once that the instruction to do that could not have come from glo cos already the details are hitting their own servers and wouldn't have need for it to be compiled in an excel file.

Simplestone:
Am from a really poor family,There was no sponsor, Even my church refused to sponsor me,and I needed an Education and He was the only one who was ready to help.Am not a fraud, I never said I won't marry him,I drew him closer to my family,He was the one who hurt me,He believed I don't have the right to be angry,because He is an assistance to me,He wasn't all that sorry for cheating.

Awwwwww , I understand ur plight gurl. In as much as it is not advisable to marry someone (man or woman) out of pity, situations like yours calls for a very careful application of wisdom. He is angry and furious now reason he is threatening fire and brimstone. Use wisdom to quell his anger because no one can truly predict what he is capable of with his threats, we have all heard similar stories that ended in horror.

Make him understand that he broke your heart and trust and shouldn't expect you not to react. You are human and therefore have feelings too. Bring up before him all the things that could go wrong if u both get married since there is a baby mama and baby already in the mix. Guilt trip him cos at the moment the money he has spent on you is clouding his sense of judgement and reasoning.

I hope and pray everything goes well and all the parties involved end up happy at the end.

Something doesn't add up.

Kacyrose:
It is so sad. I won't say I know how it feels because I have not been on that shoe before(I pray that I will never be). Don't divorce but separate for the main time and work more on giving yourself and kids a better life. I know how disturbed and worry, you feel now but instead of doing that, get on your knees and pray. Keep praying and try to make yourself happy.
You were told the reason why and how he got attached to the girl, even though it is not enough reason for a responsible man to leave his wife but wait oo. What if your hubby is under the influence of juju ( because I don't see the reason why the mistress should be so bold saying all those trash to you)?
Just pray,play you own part and leave the rest for God and you will see how he works unless it's KARMA that have caught up with you.

Seriously I had this thought line about this whole ish being KARMA, but then read where she wrote she was given out to the man in marriage at age 14. She is 28 now with 5 kids and a 6th on the way.

I felt at some point that Karma was dealing her heavy blows in reward to how she landed the man. Some of our ladies these days cross rivers their parents can only dream of just so they can hook that man they got their eyes on. Then years down the line when the hold on the man expires or fizzles out and things turn chaotic, we blame the man for being wicked, mean or a monster. Who's ever though if the women that go through these things have their hand clean? I still do not and cannot understand how a man will turn his back on a wife he went through so much to woo, convince to marry him and then go through all the harrowing experience of being awake at night to carter for her during pregnancy and childbirth, to the extent of even abandoning the kids from the union. It can only be jazz abeg.

This 25years old mistress is not alone in this whole saga. She is a tool in the hands of more likely her family who wish their daughter to land a big one and they didn't send her empty handed.

May God help this wife.

MoNickk:
1500 would cook ogbono joor...op u can't tell me u didn't have at least maggi,salt,oil n pepper in the house. oya let's break it down...

1 cup of ogbono- 200
stockfish-200
meat-300
dry or smoked fish-200
uziza leaf(prefer using that)-30
oil-60
crayfish-50 naira
salt,maggi,pepper,onions-100
garri(1 paint)- 300/350 depends on ur area

change go remain sef to buy pepsi

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Babe I need to recommend you to my younger bro? Just PM me make I connect the two of you. Let's see what will come out of it. Your mama mould you well.

HaneefahRN:
Wait av I forgotten what high and low pH meant? As far as I can remember, a low pH is acidic and a high pH is alkaline, so I don't agree wt tht.
As regards the Op, the couple need to reach a compromise, as long as having more children will not pose any risk to her health, then why not? I hope they are financially capable of taking care of more children tho.
As regards the lineage continuity wt males, I don't quite agree wt this. My mother's father is my grandpa and will be my children's great grandpa albeit from the maternal side, we may nt bear the same name wt him but it doesn't break our family ties. Many men av made the greatest mistakes of their lives in the vain search to get a son, some marry more wives, and if they ain't destined to av sons they still won't, some of the wives seeing how desperate they are bring them bastards sebi na to av boy, some who later av sons regret ever having a son, becos tht son ends up soiling the name of tht 'lineage' they so desperately want to continue, or the sons might nt add any values to themselves talk more the family.
A cousin of mine is a gud example his father so desperately wanted a son, married 4 wives but only got one son, he ended up disowning tht boy he so desperately searched for, when the boy neva gave him rest of mind for a second (a child tht cld raise a cutlass on his own parents threatening to kill them) , the female ones he felt were useless cos they can't continue his lineage are the ones taking care of him in his old age nw, he has even forgotten what lineage is. I don't understand what the hype is really. I don't pray for a particular gender, whatever sex my children are, Oh Allah, make them a blessing to me and the World, make them the best children any parent cld ever wish for, make them successful in this life and hereafter. Tht is the most important thing to me, not a stupid reason as to continuing a lineage. Then u continue praying and searching for a boy, then he turns out to be ur worst nightmare.

Forgive my mixup in the pH rating, these things happen some times .

I didn't like the fact you used the word useless for the female child in your assertion. There are more suitable and less offensive words that could suffice "useless". Female children are as important as male children but for the issue of lineage continuity of his own name within his nuclear family, the desire to add a male child cannot be wished away.

Stories of irresponsible children abound irrespective of gender. So basing your summation on the so sort after son ending up being irresponsible doesn't cut it for me and maybe many others.

The woman in the centre of all this should grant her hubby this one wish to try again to make him happy. After all marriage is about reasonable compromise. Clinics now can even help them choose the gender of their baby. Her action reeks of selfishness and possible ulterior motive.

poshestmina:
Two options
If he is poor,straight DIVORCE
If he is as rich as Dangote or as generous as DASUKI, will stay with him for like a year


Amass enoooough money

And still Divorce him

Please call 911 someone is chocking from laughter

Epic! Who won't anywayz?

Nubian113:
When I say linage I mean more children. Not a son. His brothers and sisters have min 6kids each and his brother has 20 kids. We are tribal so this is what we mean by linage. The man becomes a tribe beside his siblings. Girls give children for the husband's tribe and boys make a tribe under his father's name. We don't change our surname before or aft marriage so it is significant. Still no sympathy for the brother?

Well, I won't dispute your variant of lineage as obtained where you come from. In the part of Nigeria where I come from, it's about the man's lineage. Not his brothers or sisters whose children or grand children's name will take after theirs or their husband's family and not his.

daretodiffer:
I still don't see the difference. The only difference would be the last name.

The bold text up there is the key factor. Where I come from we have this name "Afamefula" literarily meaning "May my name not be missing" and I am sure this same name can be found in other cultures in Nigeria.

We know what that name means even though today's generation due to our attempt to warp and comfort ourselves in certain areas can come up with over 5 variants of meaning to that name.

daretodiffer:
What lineage continuity?

Are you telling me that my kids are not going to have my father's blood?

Lineage continuity and blood in this context are two different variables. No matter where they are, they have the blood of your father, mother, hubby's and yours running in them.

The desire and importance of having a male child in a family cannot be over emphasised. Our generation due to the influx of western culture into our part of the world have chosen to bury their heads in the sand like the Ostrich. We Africans as a people hold so dearly the continuity of "Lineage" and that has not changed the last time I checked. The woman in question is being selfish if like the OP said is not limited by health factors or age.

On the issue of men determining the sex of a baby. Hmmmm.... our people need to broaden they knowledge on this issues. Further studies also showed that the VJAY fluids and cervical mucus of a woman plays a very important role in completing this gender selection. This body fluid is categorised into the Acidic (pH- lower) and Alkaline (pH+ higher). Each of the two chromosomes from the man fares better in different pH conditions. The male chromosomes fair better in the lower pH while the female own due to its resilience survives in all conditions. How do you as a woman know if your pH is high? If ur undies are prone to discolouration or tear underneath, there you have it.

The type and nature of food we eat plays a great role in this pH equation. People should do further research on this to be more informed.

No gender is useless but for lineage continuity, you need a male child and I am sure our women are not ignorant of this.

I rest my case.

Note: I dodge bullets like........

Ola17:
It's 150% increase ni o.
The insincerity of this government is epic. On one hand they are preaching austerity measures to the citizens and on the other hand, they've decided to secretly gobble their own YAM, not with plates and cutlery like GEJ and his ministers, but with shovels and wheelbarrows. What an overly greedy people.

It's just a little shy of 200% increase. Say like 198%.

Glory be to God.

misspicy:
I think if you really want your marriage to be smooth without misunderstanding, you should obey him,after all he is the head of the family
If you relegate to an 18th century substance like you said,it doesn't reduce your value as a woman/mother,it doesn't kill you,and believe me,he will get tired of it all like someone commented....
why not polish and exalt his ego and see what comes out of it?
don't feel threatened,besides it seems he is fed up of obeying you and needs a change.

family front should be handed differently from seminars and feministic tendencies portrayed in workforce

I hope this helps

You seem young and quite playful but when you mean to contribute on topical issues, your contribution is always so overwhelming and beams you in a different waveform. Thanks for this input. Take a forehead kiss joooor. Make she dey there dey speak plenty grammar.

You are an awesome writer. I read your diary start to finish in one swoop cos I wouldn't wanna miss a thing. The way you bring your stories to reality is so amazing. I wasn't there while all happened but I was able to time-travel to the past and be a part of it. Suffice to say, it was so alive.

Keep your head up gurl and don't let the pressures take your shine away. Keep doing your bit, keep believing and keep climbing.

Wow!

Any twin here looking to marry the same man? PM me quick quick. There is more love when twin sisters share .

ayusco85:
I Don dey suspect u bro. This one u know this much and ve seen this much, u sure say Dasuki no visit u? Or u know someone that Dasuki visited?

Ha ha ha ha

ayusco85:
Lol. I agree with u, but it's hard to believe that 900 million was used to renovate a house bought for 9million

My brother because the money is free. Take it that what they bought was the location. They may have stripped the old building and re-finished it from roofing to entrance gate, security gadgets, compound tiles not paving stone o and so on. I know of a TV plus game room that costs N13M+ where on match day dem boys gather to drink and watch soccer on a wall-to-wall screen. You will thing you are in Emirates Stadium with the life-size and crispy images and sound. All in the same house from my previous example. And when you hear room don't assume is a standard 12 x 12 room. It's massive with bar of assorted exquisite champagne and other beer.

Nna meeehn, e over possible o.

HungerBAD:
Ashawo wey go husband house dey Vacation.

See hating o . As if you didn't hear Yobo's voice urging her to shake it? They are happy and enjoying their marriage so I dey beg dem haters to go hug transformer. Her hubby shot the video and as you can see, in their children's living room (parlour). Not like she is twerking for one pot-bellied polithiefian, she is twerking for her husband o and they decided to share. So what's the crime?

ayusco85:
chai .this vivian gist can lie for africa. renovate a house bought for 90million with $3million? . tell me anoda lie

My dear, don't doubt it o. This people are crazy when it comes to spending this free money. I have seen a N16m bed and a N3.5m centre table. N1m side stool abi na N8m walk-in closet? You will begin to wonder what sort of wood is used for these things. Note that these furnishings are all imported and invoices may have been exaggerated also. How much do you think a 55" B&O LED TV will cost?

I know what I am talking about dear. Those people no well.

Hmmmmm dis one strong o but the answer no far naaah. The woman is already without a husband as she has just shot the one she once had. She had better go to her father's house to start the mourning as she has no place left in my house and life.

There can never be an acceptable explanation.

cococandy:
Yes cheating is bad but this reaction is worse.
Better still the offended partner should depart from the offender than inflict such bodily harm on them.

I am usually always perplexed when I hear people make light of cheating while suggesting the offended partner to up and leave. A marriage is somewhat an investment where you have put in your emotion, time, energy, resources, and most of all, produced some adorable innocent kids. It is not easy to just up and leave. What happens to those kids in the union? They don't need their head wire wrongly because the actions of their parents will affect their perception of life tomorrow. It is better to deal with the fuckup and remain together for those kids than re-align their head with a useless divorce or separation.

The man here went too far though. I don't subscribe to his action. He could have still reset the woman's brain without all these extreme bodily harm. Women sometimes need a reset because going by all the trash I read on nairaland, they really do need a reset when they start to malfunction.

Note: I dodge bashings like Jet Lee dodge bullets, so bring em on all those who can't relate with my comment.

emmijes3:
. Mind blowing ke,...shey dem go follow us dey settle debt...Bleep d ceremony...my wedding won't be over the top..just family friends,nd relatives....I don't mind just goint to da registry.get da wedding cert nd home..mumsi keeps saying ""god forbid" though

The highlighted is one of the biggest problems intending couples do face, mostly from the bride's side. There is a hidden competition among these mothers on whose daughter's wedding will outshine.

Only if intending couples will listen; don't bend yourselves over for a dream wedding. It is, (I repeat) it is not worth it. The success of your marriage and the peace within it is more important than what people think of your wedding. In less than 2yrs, everything would have been forgotten. All that will be left is the couple and the challenges that everyday living presents.

You dey Akwa Ibom come go dey do denge-pose for Jades Hotels Abuja? How him go take you serious mbok? Na hotel now be ya house?

Most girls are ignorant of what they give off when they do some of these their yanga and denge-pose snap shots in places that everyone can figure is a hotel room or environ.

emperorchedda:
Did she just say it was a 'joke'??

Chaiiiii we don suffer for 9ja politicians

Even if we were kids

It's just like turning down a guy because he was broke then when he makes it you tell him 'forgive me for turning you down, it was a joke'

So on point. Useless LovePeddler. Imagine the gaddem excuse she is giving?