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fem29:
Ridiculous! Consequences of doing something wrong is death!disgusting train of thought

@MRBrownj didn't imply that death should be meted out to a cheating partner by the aggrieved better-half. Cheating is wrong and destructive whichever angle it is looked at. I expect the OP, women advocates and feminists to voice out against wives cheating and not focusing on the toga "Men are fools or beasts" for hitting a cheating wife. Note that I have not said it is better if its the man cheating, the focus here is the woman (WIFE). The emotional damage cheating spouses leave their men is better imagined. What more when she becomes undaunted and disrespectful? Anger is dangerous and some people don't handle theirs properly which most times results in physical abuse and unfortunately death in some cases.

Just like someone here opined earlier, the way marriage is structured in Africa which Nigeria isn't exempted from gives the man this sense of ownership of the woman. It is what it is and if this sort after change by mostly the women is to be realized, the building block of contracting marriage as we know it is where to start from. Until that is done, the pipe dream of "Its my life and I can live it as I deem fit" in marriage by a wife will remain unrealistic.

Its amazing how our women compare western marriages with what is obtainable here in Africa with Nigeria in focus. Western marriages are the way they are because of the relaxed value system in the west and how their marriages are contracted.

Need I say more? Cheating is bad. Preach against cheating and not destroying the mindset of our younger generation in relation to marriage and its values. Marriage is a wonderful thing. Women should respect and honor their husbands. If you as a woman is not cut out for marriage, stay single and don't discourage or malign the institution of marriage. Preach instead how our ladies should conduct themselves in their marriages to make the home a haven. Peace will return and we will hear less of spousal abuse/murder.

My view in its entirety and I make no apologies.

osita76:
Innoson vehicle manufacturing company is moving higher with latest innovation in their new product

Nice one. But body be like G-Wagon and face like Hummer H3.

I wish his design team will do something about the IVM logo. It needs some professional touch in tune with the 21st century.

Oya wey all the Nairaland graphic gurus, make una help our own design what you think will be a suitable Innoson logo make we see

Well, fuel has actually been selling for between N250 & N150 per liter here in Lagos. The last time I bought fuel at N86.50 was January so no big deal. N120 - N125 wont kill us. My only fear is that the industry is run by a cartel who will peg prices and create artificial scarcity just so their pegged price will remain valid.

In any case though, Nigerians have thick skin and we will survive.

Godzchild:
Pls if there is another way to prove someone tell me.I have sent all my details to more than five persons here.I dropped contact number etc.I chatted with Mrs timi she said she will visit which I agreed.I have given full home address.infact two other persons that called I gave full home address.Mrs Dominique u hv my pics,doc report,family name,fathers number,home address all sent for verification.howelse can I prove myself.I am not happy in my situation,but am struggling just cos of this child and my time is running out.I am equally going through somuch emotionally,so asking me same thing again and calling me a liar with no proof is unfair.I have not asked for financial help here before,my last post in my id was just a narrative.I am a graduate I used to have a life till things turned upside down.pls and pls don't discourage help my way till u prove am fake but I know am not and God will fight for me.Mrs timi pls verify me,if u want see my father too,home I stay etc u are welcome.God bless u all for reaching out.it will end in praise

I once thought you left your number somewhere here but I can't find it. Send me a PM.

ifyalways:
@Onegai, please dear can you help me with a list of the basic but important things that 15-20K can get the OP. Thanks

I'm not sure asking her Fbk friends about her pregnancy is cool. Besides, if she's actually scam, she can easily get her Fbk friends to corroborate her story. OP did send me her pictures and if she's the one, she's actually pregnant. I will meet her morrow anyways.

OP, there are so many doubts cos of the inconsistencies with your story. Being very straightforward and honest from get go helps.

God bless you Ify. Sometimes, we do things just for God. We all are great sinners and we go to church every Sunday to ask for blessings from the same God we sin against. We even pray to him at night to protect us and give us the next day and the next day and so on.

Please this girl's story is heart drenching. I am gonna assist weda na scam o, weda no be scam o, I don fall for her story. Let Oluwa be the judge cos he alone see all.

frozenSun:
i said it before...

i am saying it again....

THIS IS ANOTHER CHEAP SCAM

i wonder why you're all wasting time on this thread.

and someone will still fall mugu on this thread.

OP how market ?

Whoever this is, please leave this thread. If you don't have compassion or hardship is reshaping your head, leave this lady alone let those who God touched their heart help her.

I am going to help her the little way I can irrespective of if it's a scam or not. Let God, her conscience and miss karma be the judge. Time is ticking and we are here waiting for verification. This girl said she is bleeding, tired and I guess worn out too. Please let us all come to her aid. If 20 people send her just N2,000 each (which isn't enough for a month internet subscription for some of us) it will amount to N40,000 and it will go a long way.

My heart bleeds for you young woman. Bad thing happens to good people. You made a mistake and I hope you get out of this and become a better person tomorrow for yourself, your lil'sister and your unborn child.

May God be with you. I'll add you on whatsapp.

thunder74:
We need to change this government because the change they promised has not changed anything from the activities of the previous government we changed.

This is EPIC! Keyword #Change

AnotherSeun:
almost seems ur not ready...
am a yoruba dude, but wah happen to the guys from other tribes..

She just said h mum will not allow her go far so no need starting what she cannot finish. I like her courage and wish her the best. There sure are a great pool of Yorubas that'll fall within her requirement. Let the game begin.

plappville:
Good day bro. Thanks so much. I was on vacation for some time now. Just came back. I actually seach for him in the airport. Asked some few people but no one knows him. I wil call this number u gave. I will get back to u if. Thanks agian.

Do let us know when u eventually speak with him and confirmed he is the same oga Friday you've been searching for.

I must say, I did admire your resilience. I wish you both good luck in your relationship.

hotwax:
[size=16pt]Dear Nigerians,
Peace is an illusion we Nigerians think we can make. However people like myself understand all the intricacies behind international politics and SYSTEMIC control.

The world is a business empire of one person or a group/cabals of some elites. Although. There are school thoughts that tag this as an unprovable conspiracy theory.

Conspiracy theory or not, the signs and body language of our world leaders is a confirmation that the world is controlled by Globalists .
Boko Haram, ISIS, Malian Mujaheeden are control mechanism.

But most Nigerians are walking zombies. They see Boko Haram as Northern/Islamic thing. NO. They do not understand the reason for Boko Haram. Boko H is not just here to kill Christians..infact these guys don't care about Islam. They have a primary goal, the same goal that is now accomplished in the middle east. Instability, refugee, diseases, hunger. Syria is a good example. And a good working template.

Now Boko Haram investment is going down. Fulani herdsmen are rising to the occasion.
Nigeria think. How will herdsmen butcher a whole village just to feed their cows?

Imagine herdsmen going about with automatic weapons and bombs. Lol...somebody is not seeing what I am seeing.

Boko is going, another similar program is activated. This is how a SYSTEM works. We always have version 2.0 of every software.
Herdsmen are an upgrade to Bokohara. Book Haram were operating only in the north, now herdsmen are operating nationwide. That's one strategic upgrade.

Alqeada went down, ISIS a more deadly version took over.
Nigerians..think...prepare for what's coming and stop being docile. Its coming...something big...[/size]

Intelligent! This writer just spewed my sentiments all these while. The herdsmen are an upgrade of the activated BH. They waited for the herdsmen to penetrate and spread across the country and now it's activated. The cows the roam with are nothing but a ruse. The BIG plan is to destabilize the nation and prevent it from growing into a regional force. We can't stop it until Nigeria is in ruines. Somalia comes to mind. Watch out all.

Answer is N500

Breakdown:
Maga/Creditor: -100 (Owed) -500 (Stolen) = -600 + N100 (Thief Paid) = -N500

Thief/Debtor: +500 (He stole) + N100 (Debt) = +600 (-N500 (Paid) +N400 (Got as balance) = -100 {+N600 - N100 = N500}

Theif Gained N500

Maga Lost N500

QED.

Creamish:
Before I can allow my spouse to do biz with my ex....I have to ponder on these questions..

* How much do I trust him?
* How often will they meet & where?
* Am I going to be cool with their phone conversations?
* Is he easily swayed?
* Is this business worth the worry?
* What is the gestation period of this business?

Frankly, it wont be easy to watch them do business together cos my man is only human. The fact that they have a history together makes it harder. It's much easier to work with someone who u'v got no history with (chances of cheating is minimal). Everything still boils down to TRUST.

My honest thought... I'd rather they don't do biz together.


BTW.. Lalasticlala ..this is FP worthy. Room for more opinions.

So far, this is the most thought out response to this post. Very matured and well articulated.

OP is living in denial in all sincerity. Doing business with the opposite sex ain't a big deal but doing same with someone you have once had an amorous affair with is a ticking time bomb. Feelings can be controlled but not suppressed. Something that is being controlled can get out of control so the best bet is, avoid it.

However, if the business partnership will involve the US guy sending stuffs and d lady disposes of them and remits proceeds to him in the US, fine by me as long as contact is minimal at best.

Don't leave your doors open for robbers to stroll in. It is better they worked it to gain entrance than you blame yourself later.

Unfortunately, I come across this everyday even some married ladies. The question usually on my mind is "didn't they check themselves out in the mirror before leaving home?"

Was once in traffic at Igando market, there was a couple trying to cross the road and the lady had her panties all up in my face cos they had to pause at the median a while before they crossed. I felt disgusted. Personally I don't condemn wearing leggings, jeggings or woreva they call it. Ladies should quit patronising the cheap nylon types. There are thick ones that won't have all ur ass and panties up for show. Ladies also should avoid wearing brightly coloured undies under leggings. It's gross biko.

bigtt76:
Ogbonna nor go face him football eh? Issssorite! BTW how come all Linda and siblings plus dem papa and mama black only Laura yellow .....Darwin laws nor work here o!

Laura bleached her skin. Refer to her earlier known pics, there u will find ya answer. Google is ya best PI.

igbodefender:
Sir, it is still NITEL but NITEL owns MTEL (not NTEL). Thanks for the effort anyway.

Please go do your research well before you mislead your readers. Mtel & NITEL has been acquired by a private consortium. It's no longer government owned although they still maintain a share in it, they don't have enough to earn them controlling power.

Also, it is now called ntel and not NITEL. Google is your friend biko.

oseiwe:
Well, Siena has clarified some points abt weight of car and size of engine, cos I always wonder how my guy petrol take dey finish, I used to think twas his driving style, he uses '06 while I use '03, his engine is bigger n car is heavier.
By d way, No V6 or V8 will use half tank from Asaba to Lagos, I can drag dat one and boast for my car, not even Siena go fit am

One car I respect in terms of fuel economy is the 2005 Toyota Camry L4 alias BigForNothing. That car made Asaba - Lekki via Epe using only half thank of fuel. I refilled it at d fuel station at summit junction and got to Lekki Phase 1 with slightly above half tank left. At some point on the journey I felt the fuel gauge ain't working cos it just wasn't moving.

The only downside of that car is; it's underpowered. I don't know about the V6 variant. It doesn't give me that jolt synonymous with a sound V6 engine. That's the sole reason I don't do an L4.

OP, is it possible to bring this wifey in on this so she can give us her version of the story? Maybe, just maybe after hers then can we truly understand where you all got it wrong and how best it can be fixed.

Life has thought me never to judge an issue with just one side of the story. Some spouses sha!

Their msg is always clear and concise no matter how much they try to camouflage it. Back in the days, I had a bae that will call and be like -

"Boo are u at home? I want to ball"

I have gotten these from other ladies:

"My hero I will stop bye on my way from work. Pls I am craving for ice cream"

"Babe I have an early morning meeting on Monday pls I'll come to your place and leave from there on Monday so as to catch up"

An admirer (we relate well o and even hang out together) in my estate once sent me a text "I am so lonely & horni. Wish I could have you deep inside of me" then she called almost immediately to say sorry it was a mistake. Anywayz, I didn't disappoint her & we kept at it for over 2 yrs .

Therez this one: this happened on a friday the 1st time.

Her: will you go to the office tomorrow (Saturday)

Me: It all depends

Her: Talk joooor cos I no wan disturb you

Me: I don't have to go if I don't want to

Her: Okay mumsie & popsie went to church and won't be back till Sunday. You can come and keep me company. Don't try to touch me o naughty you.

So many that as I recall some of them now, I just smile. Ladies are humans too so they shouldn't be judged for wanting or the desire to......

darlenese:
My hubby is my gossip partner , he is my best friend , I don't even have friends, cos there's no need!
I can imagine what this Op is going through , soooo frustrating , !

Women are meant to be loved, cherished and pampered ,And not the other way round , even when we know we are loved , we want to be reminded all the time !

Op bone him back , no time for rubbish, after all you didn't force him to marry you ,
Make sure u snub him during weekends too and dress sexy like u are happy without him, since he wants to be left alone .
I'm glad u are working , spoil ur self silly with little earnings,

Very soon he'll become insecured and start clinging to u

The Op's husband is gradually trying to destroy his marriage without knowing it. This period is the time for him to build his young marriage for sustenance tomorrow when the troubles come. Once this woman discovers other interests outside the confines of his marriage, "na the beginning of bigger wahala be that". That could lead to so many things like resentment, infidelity, emotional unavailability and so on.

I don't like the give him his space advice. The man may be going through stuffs now but shutting his wife out is a catalyst for disaster.


But OP sha make I ask you one question; was your courtship the "No Sex" before marriage type? Sorry if my question sound intrusive, I am just trying to establish a motive for his action. Reason I asked is because if it was a "No Sex" courtship and after marriage he takes the highly anticipated trip and didn't like the journey, that could be the bang that changed him.

elijah101:
And again , dont just kill your self alone , just kill your wife and kid , because you go add to there problem if only you die .. and the weather no go nice for them at all .. e go red and e go hot .. So i will just advise you kill them too ..

Use poison so the death go happen together , una go just use the poison drink garri .. or drink am alone sha .. anyone make sense .. but me i prefer make you drink the poison alone , so the death go dey very painful .... and add garri your wife and kid own ..

I can't wait to attend your family funeral .. Shey money go dey to do burial sha ..

Sha drop your town address .. so i can go and chop your burial Rice

Someone is being idiotic here. Just as God didn't make all fingers equal, just as God didn't make every man a hunk, just as God didn't make every skin black, just as God didn't make everyone tall, just as He didn't make every woman with curves and beauty to die for, so also did he make us with varying levels of endurance and resilience.

Some people were not born beautiful but with encouragement and good words from their surrounding, they found an inner beauty that shown outwards. This man needs encouragement in whichever way possible by us here as a family and not condemnation. You don't know what it means to be deserted by folks who once rallied round you to get ur support.

Please let this man be if you have nothing good to offer him. His predicament doesn't make for a rhetoric outburst if that's what you will imply.

God's armour of love will shield us all.

Veektoria:
Yes..I understand now but you could have just explained without those words. Thanks anyway

No hard feelings darln, I was only being facetious. I knew the comment will still pass the desired message.

Veektoria:
Hmmm...adonbilivit .

Oya naaah! Donbiliv o and be playing rough play with that ya smallie boyfriend until that slimy thing (pre-cum) at d tip of his d!ckk carries one stubborn sparmatozoa enter ur intact-hymen pu$$ie, u will know not to biliv everything dem boys say to you. Ever wondered how ur monthly period is possible despite your hymen being intact?

brandnew3:
OP's picture would suffice.

But some women can be frigid sha!

All they get into marriage for is to hook up a sperm donor for procreation..Datz all.

To fulfil the married woman ish - just that o! Annoying sha.

cionon:
I come hear cos it's a faceless forum instead of going to friends who will broadcast my issue. I come for advice. And for all. I didn't marry my boyfriend whom I wrote about before. My husband was a friend before he asked me to marry him

My dear by all standards, this is a better place to seek help and advice from a vast pool of people with varying experiences. The beauty of it is, it's faceless forum so no one knows you. It's better than the so called friends who most often with confide in another friend who will in turn confide in another friend and ur problems/secret goes public.

Don't let anyone guilt-trip you for seeking help on this platform.

BE811APP:
Nawa oo
I dey suspect na dat bus cuz am...

I just pity d guy with the GL450.

Thank God no lifes were lost

There sure will be serious life traitening injuries. Observer that a green and white Ajah vanagon bus was wasted and seem I see loads of blood on the ground around the bus. Lagos drivers don't understand what is called braking distance on the highway. They wanna leave as little space as possible on the car ahead of them. Always so much in a hurry.

Rooneyboy:
Thats not the point dear .

ish is she didnt act like someone that is ready to settle down.

OP really ain't ready to settle down. I haven't see what the lady did that is out of ordinary. I guess she is a working woman and the only time she has for herself to fix her hair for the new working week is weekends and now she is at his place, so her hair has to be made, she is a visitor and only the guy knows his hood better; reason it falls on him to take her to the salon.

If she had jumped on chores and started cleaning, mopping and cooking on this first visit, same guy sure will still come here and rant how desperate a girl he just met is.

I'll advice he go find her if she looks like someone he can live with and let time pass even if it's 3 months. Only then can he figure if she is worth it or not.

myfantasies:
All dese ladies with very large boobs will just be intimidating we with little boobs

Let me walk out of dis thread with shame

My dear, don't even think abt it. Those large melons are as useless as they come. We've been there done that. The bearer has loads of horror stories to tell from stretch marks to back ache and so on.

Men also jump them pass when it's time for marriage. Those large melons lack sensitivity unlike the smaller and normal sized ones. We only drool at the larger than life size and wanna unleash and fiddle with it, it doesn't go beyond that.

I will choose you 100 times over those dangles except as a toy.

No offence to ladies with super sized boobiez.

I hope this is not a land grabbing ploy? 8 years from now this my hypothesis may become proven. Let's just watch.

Jalubarika:
That's what I call Take aAway Bread

Well I think I did the right thingy.
Met this bitch with highness all over me last Sunday.
After work on Monday, I controlled her to a joint around Bogobiri.I never envisaged she would come with a friend.
On stepping into the Bar, they ordered for 2 plates of indomie with fried chicken.
Sitting down, they ordered 2 bottles of Orijin plus 2 black Bullets.
As an Ibadan bred, I told them I'll like to make some withdrawal at the nearest ATM.
They had no money on them ,not even a bad kobo (in momma's voice)

I love that part when she started calling and begging me to come back.
The bar owner chanced and well ,seized her stuffs.
I don't pay such money.
She's learnt her lesson.
Sorry dearie

Guy if this ur story is true, I will say unequivocally that it is very unfair. I bet all they had won't be more than N3000. A curse from an broken being can have a far reaching effect o. Can u imagine the situation you left them in? Bear in mind you invited the lady and she requested her friend accompany her after all she hasn't known u well enough.

Karma loves payback o. Please don't treat people that way. It sure can be heart breaking and ain't fun.