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Theblessed:
[size=16pt] Well, that's how he wanted to be remembered. His kids breaking each others head and some would even go as far as planning evil, to terminate each other - hope this doesn't get to that.

[b]It's the way the dead man set up his family - probably married 130 wives with trailer load of children.  Let's pray there aint any born outside the marriages, have we considered them?  Well, if they'd not shown up by now, wait they are coming to fight for their own.

You see, men go about complicating their lives because of their own selfishness - eat your cake and have it after all, I made the money, I brought everyone here and I'm gonna call the shot, in the end they get drowned in their own selfishness.

Rarely, would you see son and daughters born by the same parent (mum and dad) kill each other over their inheritance as there's always a way they'd  resolve the issues.  If ever there's a quarrel, it's usually caused by their wives, those married into the family - bringing in jealousy and envy they have on each other and that can be an agony for the family/children. However, when it comes to different mother's, a lot of damage would have been caused and they are usually irreparable.

But one would like to ask, after the funeral and the quarrels did anyone ever learn from their father's mistakes? Well, some do, but there are one or two that never learns and would even be too happy to repeat their father's errors thus, continuing sowing the seeds of discord in their own respective families. 

Glad this family is killing themselves over their inheritance.  In fact, it's even better that way, other people would learn - won't they??

The will of God is that, parents should leave inheritance for their children but if it is going to cause trouble due to one person/the other side of the family wanting it all for himself/themselves as its  usually the case then, the best thing for the parents to do, to avoid this nonsese is to:

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[li]Will out all your stuff accordingly. [/li]

[li]Sell off the whole lot, give away substantial amount to charities - the poor, the disabled, widows/widowers etc.  Make your pre-death funeral arrangement with your Solicitors/Insurers and the Church and settle your funeral cost (as your children might object to performing this duty if they knew they are being dis-inherited) and live off whatever is left with your wife until your last breath.

Of course, it's quite understable if they refuse to over-see your funeral.  Naturally, anyone that's dis-inherited will feel the same - jealousy and anger but don't let that faze you after all, it's your hardwork and if it's gonna cause trouble and dis-unity after you'd gone, you might as well give it away!

Even when Wills are drawn, sometimes, a family member still do feel unfairly treated and start causing trouble in the family. 

Parents should not bother about that after all, they'd given everyone of them a Net to catch their own fish, and they should go and catch it or drown - it's up to them! You made yourself, let them go and make themselves for their own families, simple![/li]
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Money can cause a lot of trouble in the family, and I don't think rich people should leave any for their lazy offsprings, only for them to either break their heads for it or waste it on crazy lifestyles.

It's strange what happens in families.  It hasn't been long here when a rich mum dis-inherited her only child (son) because of his attitudes towards her - he got a shock at her funeral when her solicitors read her Will, and he was dis-inherited. 

He rarely visited his mother at home, rarely called and when he did visit, he's always inside the car in the drive asking the servants about her - according to people, he seldomly comes in to see her. 

Personally, I will do the same - if a child does not bother about me when I needed him/her, I will not leave any thing behind, honest!  I will settle my own funeral, every thing they wouldn't have to bother.


Everyone knows that unlike us, White people don't mess up, they are not like us who are burdened by our moral and religious beliefs- but I think sometimes, our families need a little guidance regarding inheritance.  It's good to make them aware that, leaving anything behind is at your pleasure and not a right!! [/size][/b]

Please keep your ignorance to yourself. The man has only 1 wife and 4 children (all boys - Ladi, Kayode, Folari & Tokunbo). We are not interested in the rest of your sermon if you cant even get the basic fact right, Msknowall

Bro, kindly help me check the VIN below:

1N6MD29Y52C382082

Kind regards

[quote author=aloy-emeka link=topic=650628.msg8174309#msg8174309 date=1303348755][img]http://1.bp..com/_pG7dsDfReMQ/SqKX4RSz8sI/AAAAAAAAAVA/TOUFOh02glA/s400/adaeze3.jpg[/img]
They say they are pretty but I'm not seeing it. Is it because they are MTN yellow?. May be they have charming personalities and that's why these rich dudes keep falling for them.[/quote]Charming personality my bent right foot. You probably haven't heard of 'assisted' love

Bro,

Thanks for your continuous assistance. Kindly help to check the following VIN

4T1BG22K4VU144452

Kind regards

I was in year 2 in Unilag and went to the Jamb office in Ikoyi to check up on something for my cousin. Saw this totally adorable, fabulously cute girl looking slightly lost (she came to make some enquiries). Knight in shining armor that i was, i offered to help, and thus started this beautiful relationship for another 2 years. We used to talk and talk and talk. It was fabulous. She got admitted to Ekpoma later that year, and, distance happened . She started dating this guy in her school, and when i confronted her, she cried a bit and just walked away. I was crushed. I am not proud to say this, but i went totally ballistic, and chased the skirts with a vengeance for like the next 3 years.

Funny enough, i went to her wedding (to the same guy she was dating in school) 7 years after (she told me it was exactly 7 years - i had miscounted - when i danced with her during the couple's dance).

I have bumped into her at the mall like twice in the last 3 years and know she now has 3 kids. But she still looks the same. Fabulously cute.

To Ruth, the one that got away; 'your people didnt become my people after all, and my God didnt become your God'

Bobajo:
Oga Sir,

Kindly help check the following VIN:

4TLBG22K1VU754034

Much obbiged.

Chief, you jumped my request. Kindly help check. And the following one also 4T1BG22K4VU144452

My regards

AIT reporting now:

Iyabo lost, Bankole lost.

Who dey laugh now?

OBJ can go screw himself Agbaya.  Dragging the state with the Governor instead of being a statesman.

recoome:
@fstranges3: can u ever say the truth? I did not base it on my family members, but on general public, is it not our very own patricia etteh that went 2 disgrace us at the house of reps, when the igbo women were recording landslide achievements? Which of our women can u compare 2 akunyili,okonjo-iweala,suzanne iroche, oby ezekwesili(madam due process)? In our 18 senatorial slots, 17 are male, only iyabo is a female SW senator and she only suceed becos of her fathers clout, whereas the SE has 15 slots and 2(anyanwu & nkecki) are already women, by may it will increase to 4 (akunyili,emordi). Do we have any female SW minister? No, whereas the igbos has njeze(aviation),& maduekwe(petroleum). Have we had any female gov? No, whereas they have had virgy etiaba. So reconsider your stance. BTW, can u enumerate the 'illustrous' achievements of the women in your family, i'm sure they are obama's special advisers & 'VC of harvard'!

When did Diezani Allison-Madueke become an Ibo woman? Abeg nor write wetin u no know. She is a full blooded Ijaw woman. 100% from Bayelsa and the president's kinswoman.  Why do think she was made Minister of Petroleum?

Oga Sir,

Kindly help check the following VIN:

4TLBG22K1VU754034

Much obbiged.

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Best regards

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It is an empty reconciliation. It is a game. They are about to serve OBJ a taste of the medicine he has dished out generously to people like Tafa Balogun and Sunday Afolabi. What kind of reconciliation is it that has only OGD reconciling while all his men, from Isiaka to all the Local Government Chairmen, all the Commissioners, all heads of parastatals, in short all the guys that have been controlling the PDP machinery in Ogun State in the last 8 years not reconciling.

They will disgrace this Baba. I personally feel his cup runneth over - and not in the positive outcome sort of way.

What will the total cost be up to delivery to my house.

UBA has to be the worst> Useless bank debited my account to negative even when i was not withdrawing money (they said it is account maintenance charges). I don dash dem both the money and the accounts - one current, one savings. I dey wait for day when dem go write me letter say i dey owe them, make i come sue them for defamation of character. Useless stupid people. yeye dey smell

he told me to take it to the Okota palace to verify it and even gave me a name to meet there to cross check which i did and the person he directed me to brought out a book showing all the transactions since the 1970s till date and confirmed that the original Okota family sold it to the omonile.

But the flaw in this system means that the proposed buyer must shell out almost a N100,000 or more to do a survey plan and register it before the Land Information is drawn up and gotten and if at the end it is found that the land is not free, the buyers money goes into the drain and he performs this process all over again till he gets the right property to buy.

I am a lawyer and do a lot of real estate transactions and this is my addition to what the Lawyer has written:

1. When doing verifications from 3rd parties, never go to a source you are directed to by the seller (and this applies whether it is Native land or you are buying from a billionaire). In the first bold above, the lawyer should have gone to the Palace and ask for the Oba's Secretary, and/or seek audience with the Oba to make his findings. These 2 will never lead you astray. The Ojomus (in Lekki) even collect money for this search.

2. You can bypass spending up to this amount if you do one thing. Insist they show you the particular spot they want to sell to you. Theyn go personally to the Surveyor Generals office in Alausa and talk to one of those boys in the charting room (i have a high ranking officer there that i use, though he will just normally delegate to one of his boys). Take the boy to the land personally and let him take the coordinates on the land. This usually costs between N20 to N30,000 depending on your negotiating ability, with the understanding that if the land is free they will prepare the full survey for which you will pay. They will input the coordinates into their own system back in the office and presto, they can tell you if the land is free or not on the spot. If the land is free, they then prepare a full survey, and if otherwise, you lose only the initial N20/30k instead of a full survey fee.

I hope the Lawyer and other NLs finds these additions useful

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l am surprised that people dont agree that food is darer in Nigeria than in almost anywhere else in the world!
Except you want to risk eating in a place that you will probably spend the next five weeks treating cholera or Typhoid, even the average Mama-put is not left out.
Knowing our penchant for exploiting ourselves and the absence of "regulation" in anything we do, everyone wants to make a "kill" and food is one commodity that both the rich and the poor (everyone) can not do without!

Recently, on a trip home, l decided to go hang out with some childhood friends and arranged to meet them somewhere in Ebute-Metta (some town in Lagos mainland area). My guys took me to "local Amala joint" that has been around for over 20yrs and l was even shocked that it was still in existence (boy, the place now has nice ceiling fan and a wash hand basin! ).
I insisted on being responsible "for all cost" even though they wanted to host me!
The joint sounded or is called something like "Eni 'Afee" (people who are familiar with Adekunle/ Old Yaba Road/Herbert Macaulay axis of 3rd Mainland Bridge might know this joint as it seems popular by the number of people, especially "tie-and-suit" peeps sweating it out there!)

Food was not bad BUT one wrap of Amala, that l would swallow in one or two gobbles cost #50:00!
I dont eat much but l managed eight ( portions! = #400:00
Some of my friends did same or more.
[b]"Normal" beaf meat was #50 (so tiny l can put two in my mouth at once , Ponmo (bow-tie) was #100, Goat meat was #300, Stock Fish (show-boy) was #500! Bottled water was #100/150 based on size.

Point l am making is, on the average, each person ate between #1800 and #2000.
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So, $10 - $15 is more like it, for a good local meal. And that is a local Buka in Lagos.
As far back as eight years ago, Mr. Bigs Chicken was #400 dont know how much it is now but l hate the taste and use to avoid it anytime we were served with it, during lunch breaks.
Anyone into "food business" in Nigeria would surely make money. It is tasking and demanding (mostly logistics like preservation, power, sourcing, e.t.c) but the market is more than available.
Cheers.

Na you and your friends dem suppose call 'alajeranju' (eat till eye pop from its socket). N2000 in a mama put? wetin? At my dependable iya alamala joint on Chevron Drive, Lekki, 3 wraps of amala is N150 - 50 per wrap. Ogufe (goat meat is N200 per piece). And you don dey chop like tif if you chop 2 finish. 500 ml Eva bottled water is N80. Total is N630. You can decide to add ponmo and assorted like 4 pieces at N50 each totalling N200. Grand Total will be N830. That's $5.93 at current exchange rate of N140/$1.

E be like say your friends just declare awoof because dem wan follow you chop overseas money. Next time you come to Naija, adopt me as your new friend, i swear i no go chop pass as stated above

patorini:
Chappy, have you done fresh fish pepper soup at dat local spot on Moscow road, Omo you will empty your pocket!!!!

generally everything in portharcourt in unnecessarily expensive. from transportation to clothes, food, beer, sometimes[i] women, [/i]

Probably the only thing not expensive in Port Harcourt.

[quote author=EzeUche_ link=topic=592779.msg7646893#msg7646893 date=1296573328]Things Fall Apart is a 1958 English language novel by Nigerian author Chinua Achebe. It is a staple book in schools throughout Africa and widely read and studied in English-speaking countries around the world. It is seen as the archetypal modern African novel in English, and one of the first African novels written in English to receive global critical acclaim.

Time Magazine included the novel in its TIME 100 Best English-language Novels from 1923 to 2005.


It is studied widely in Europe and North America, where it has spawned numerous tertiary analytical works. It has achieved similar repute in India and Australia.

Considered Achebe's magnum opus, it has sold more than 8 million copies worldwide.[/quote]This is exactly the point i wanted you to come to. The problem with statistics is that you can quote whatever suits the point you are trying to put across, especially when you cleverly - as you did here - just lift the quotes from unknown sources. I would have thought a more rigorous approach would be to put the quotes and the links (where you took them from) in the same place. This would have enabled us, if we so desire, to go and read the full write up and also make our own deductions. But people intent on intellectual dishonesty never do that now, do they?

I can come up with unreferenced quotes to support the fact that Soyinka is a better author. Let me give you a couple

Wole Soyinka
The first black writer to win the Nobel Prize in Literature, he's written in nearly ever genre while relentlessly pursuing freedom in his homeland of Nigeria.

(this came from an article with the topic, fifty of the most inspiring authors in the world).

Soyinka is a well rounded genius -- a poet, dramatist, playwright, writer, author, producer, director, inventor (invented the Oyo state of Nigeria's Road Safety Corps that later became a national sceme), human rights activist and so on. These are some of the characteristics of a living hero. A genius! Robust. Well-rounded. And multi-dimentional. Achebe, will pray to even go near Soyinka's record

And Soyinka. It does not bear repeating that what continues to burn the Nobel Laureate into everyone’s consciousness is his prowess as a wordsmith. Legend used to have it – and I believe still has it – that Soyinka perhaps knows more English words than anyone. Fallacy or not, the professor has a way with words, with phrasemaking.

D you get my drift now? You cannot convince me that Achebe is a better author with the weak attempts at research you put up here. Let me assure you of something, i have read almost all - if not all - the books written by both authors. I have, since you made this your in-the-air statement - spent hours looking at comparisons between the two men, and NOBODY that is learned in the literary world - apart from people like you who dont matter really in the literary world - has been bold enough to make that kind of assertion. They always differentiate their works and applaud both as literary giants - Soyinka for his versatility and Nobel Prize, and Achebe for his excellent prose and worldwide acceptance.

My conclusion: i grew up reading Soyinka - i am a Yoruba boy afterall - i loved him to death. I still do. In fact i just reread his autobiography, 'You must set forth at dawn' like the 3rd time. His books are like spiritual experiences. I also read Achebe's books, but couldn't find the same connection. You probably grew up reading Achebe. Could it be we take positions based on the impressions we had imprinted on our mind when we were still younger? Before we even knew other writers existed?

Good luck with your categorical statements on Achebe being the greatest writer bla bla bla, i do not agree with you, and it still a statement in the sky, Soyinka still won that Nobel prize. And Achebe, ? Well i think he won a Booker (and not even the main one that Ben Okri won with the Famished Road). Is Soyinka a greater writer. Yes. If you look at the Nobel Prize. But Achebe has made more money than Soyinka? of course yes. He has sold more books worldwide. Does that make him the greatest. Yes, if you look at it from the commercially successful standpoint.

I hope you get my drift now. I rest my case.


And unlike you, i will gladly give you the references i took my quotes from:

http://www.pw.org/content/fifty_most_inspiring_authors_world
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-2841.0.html
http://www.nigeriavillagesquare.com/articles/adebowale-oriku/literature-is-not-just-about-messrs-soyinka-and-achebe.html

rhymz:
I dont think you realize who you are dealing with, am the last person to indulge you in your beloved subtle bigotry. The onus is on you to prove the assertion wrong instead of throwing childish tantrums like a kid whose candy has been snatched.

I really dislike people like this.  You start with an an over inflated sense of self importance.  The typical bullshit Nigerians generally throw around, when they want to say, well, pure horseshit.  WHO. ARE. YOU. Rubbish!!! Ofo agba to ndun!!!

I really really dislike people like you.  Have you heard of the 'the onus of proof lies on who asserts'.  Why should i be the one researching EzeUche's in the sky assertion.  Words written without one iota of fact backing it up.  You are even full of more bullpoo than EzeUche is.

I hate people like you.  People who cant have an intelligent discussion without abuses.  But maybe my use of the word intelligent and you together is a misnomer.  Afterall, your display picture shows where you think your comparative advantage lies.

[quote author=EzeUche_ link=topic=592779.msg7640976#msg7640976 date=1296493467]Things Fall Apart is the most widely known book of African origin that has been translated in hundreds of language. Do research before you make ignorant statements. And enough with the hate. Chinua Achebe is Africa's most well known author. No one can deny this. His book is even taught in the oyibo curriculum.[/quote]And you still haven't stated one fact. Not one reference to an authority source. Not even a link to an internet page to back up this assertion. You are still blowing hot air

So indulge us. State side by side the works they have done. State the statistics, the academic papers you culled this assertion from. Don't for the love of Uncle Ezeuche make such a general statement. You have to convince me (us) with the facts, otherwise you are just blowing hot air.

Just like your people praise these terrorist and had Nigeria labeled a terrorist nation. Mehn you people have brought nothing but shame for Nigeria. At least the most famous Nigerian in the world is an Igbo man, by the name of Chinua Achebe. No one you northerners have, can even compete with that man. His name is the most recognized name of any African. So that speaks volumes.

On what basis has EzeUche made this assertion. The last time i checked, it was Wole Soyinka who won the Nobel Prize. What exactly has Chinua Achebe done to make him the most famous Nigerian (writing Things Fall Apart), or being an economic/political refuge in the US all these years. Please dont write nonsense in the quest to defend a tribal positions. 'Facts milord, Facts, or forever keep your peace'.

He is a conjecture, sophism-based dimwit.

Chai! Chai!! Chai!!! Na die Blackteeth dey o. See superior level 'tasi'.

Thanks for the tips on insertion. Got them good.

I take intelligence very seriously as I am observant enough to discern that a lot of the miseries on Earth that makes the world a bad place to live in is caused by moooorons.

Can you identify any non-natural unfortunate situation or evil that is not a result of actions of moooroons?

I have sometimes said I really don't blame Idi Amin for much, I blame the reetard that made such an unrefined, illiterate moooron a powerful leading soldier (Head of Army).

I like to identify mooorons. We should never let reetards smell power, even the intellectuals have to be vetted carefully.

Dumb people need to shut up and follow instructions rather than have an opinion or be trying to be relevant. They are allowed to ask questions though, to educate themselves or know what instructions to follow.


Not really sure how to insert quotes from earlier pages so i just copied and pasted this.

But Saga, i beg to differ with you on the above, especially the sections highlighted. How do you classify the guys at Enron? The super sharp guys at Arthur Andersen? That bugger that brought a whole bank down in Britain by doing futures trading (what's his name again), Bernie Mardoff. etc etc.

I could pull out more examples, but the above were super intelligent guys. Way intelligent than the average joe, but they caused calamitous disasters (how many suicides has been linked to Mardoff scam directly? I read about at least one.


But returning to thread. Blackteeth, my candid advice. Give it up. You are not logical enough and not clever analytical enough to pitch a battle with Saga. He will shred you, especially since your initial assertion (which led to this in the first place) lacks substance.


All in all

May be a sign for thinngggs. Had this darkpretty i dated way back in school. Any day she comes to look for me without wearing pants, we arent sleeping/going out that day.

How many of the NLs contributing to this topic actually stay along the Lekki/Epe axis? I do. I also have the advantage of having actually read the agreement covering this project. It is a bad deal for Lagos State Govt (sounds funny?). It is presently a worse deal for the people along that axis. On the face of it, PPPs are good as it frees up revenues for the Govt to do other things, but this particular one was skewed from the beginning as a result of the political/personal interests at play. Which is why LCC, with no track record of handling a project half this size - i stand to be corrected - will be the one doing the road. In short order:
1. the construction is totally useless; the completed parts are already uneven, and going bad as we speak.
2. LCC has no iota of project management expertise. Jumping from one uncompleted section of a road to another, worsening an already bad traffic situation can never be the way to construct a road (at least, i have also driven along the Oshodi/badagry Expressway, a far bigger project being done by Julius Berger
3. The illwill this tolling is generating for the Govt is unquantifiable. As many people have stated earlier, how do you start tolling a road that has no alternate road. And for the information of NLs, the Agreement contains a clause that LCC will have a right of first refusal when the Govt wants to construct the Coastal Road. In theory, they can hold us to ransom on that one too.
4. LSG actually gave LCC N20 Billion to start this project. Repayable ostensibly, but when?

I can go on, on how this is a bad deal for LSG, but let's move to the residents of the axis:

1. The road is 24 km and has 3 toll points. As at today, the alternate route LCC is quick to say exists, starts only after the Ikate Roundabout. Unless you drive a serious SUV (and i am not talking of KIA), you cannot attempt to go on the coastal route. This means that the luckiest of the road users will pay at one tolling point.

2. The road works has not reduced traffic significantly - even at the completed section. If you are on this road heading towards V/I in the late afternoons, you are on your own. Because the widened section opens into the narrow pathway further down at Walter Carrington/Bonny Camp area, it creates a gridlock so bad that i personally have turned back from meetings i was going to at least 3 times at The Palms intersection. Pay toll, then spend 3 hours getting out of V/I. Hmmm
3. The kneejerk/uncoordinated work being done by LCC has considerably worsened the already bad traffic situation. I actually have friends that stay at Ajah who wake up at 4 am in order to get to their office at 7.30am. If you dont get out of the house at 4.30am, you may actually be in the traffic till 9/9.30

I can say more, but i just tire for the matter, Somehow, we always manage to ruin good concepts after applying it the Nigerian way. My good friend Efe has told me not to complain so much again. He says afterall, Nigeria is Turn by Turn PLC, and i should await my turn. Very sad theory. Very true theory.

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@bold, are you for real. What brain?

@CC and Uju, Men are wired different. If you like talk about morality, integrity, vows bla bla from now till eternity , The urge to stray, to hunt is there, to explore is ever present and it is strong. Like i said somewhere else, it take God to do a rewiring. Even the Holy Books says run, not think logically.

i have a mentor who has been married for close to 13 years now. This guy is one of the most disciplined people i know. He tells me solemnly (and i have known him for 7 years, so i can vouch for his integrity) that he has not strayed outside his marriage from the day he said 'i do'. But he also told me a story of how he had to abandon a short course he had paid almost 200k for, 2 days into the 5 day course, because he started getting on famously with an extremely pretty coursemate, and he saw where it will lead to. He literarily parked his bags and took off without goodbyes to anybody. That is the way to go. Just run.

On another note, I have a friend who had a similar experience. The girl in question is his wife's cousin. On the day the girl - fresh out of secondary school, very well spoken, with an admission letter to a University in a couple of months - arrived from Benue, my friend took one look at the girl's fully stacked assets (in his own words), had a 3 minute discussion with her, and, in the middle of the night told his wife very very calmly that if the girl doesnt leave their house the next day, he will do her somewhere along the line. Wifey sharp sharp parked the girls load and sent her back to the villagethe next day. Of course, he has had to live with his wife's suspicion ever since, but as far as he is concerned, it is better than doing his wife's cousin.

My conclusions:
1. Nice one poster. It is better to avoid this situation. Leave all the big grammar to the idealists and theoreticians. E go soon reach their turn. If them like after dem marry bishop, make dem keep fine girl for house. We will expect a feedback in a couple of years.
2. I will advice a 'run' in these situations. E no mata how u think say u strong reach

chaircover:
I wont lie but I have been enlightened these past few days about men & controlling their libidos & I must have been living in cuckoo land for a very long time.

I do agree that men can and do get hadrons by simple things but I would have thought that the brain gets in gear and controls the man. I expect that the attraction will be for a fleeting second but other things start working to counter the "hard on" such as your vows, morality, integrity and so on.

To a certain degree I think women are somewhat to blame too because we keep on excusing cheating partners; we even blame each other for seducing the man. You also hear things such as "at least he comes home at night" "at least he looks after us financially" etc

I personally think that many relationships these days are not as solid & as deep as they should be, people marry each other for the wrong reasons, don't really know each other that well etc. Some people are not prepared to work at their issues in their relationships so they take the easy way out which is to look elsewhere for pleasure & then end up creating another problem trying to solve the initial problem. I am not referring to the poster but in general.

Personally, I don't think that anything should be out of bounds between husband and wife. Why would you marry a man or woman that you cant confide in or talk to, tell them your fears, weaknesses, concerns, aspirations etc. A problem shared is a problem halved. These are the ups and downs of marriage; its not just only when you win a contract that you talk to your wife. No one is perfect, but we can help each other to make us stronger; We are on the same team against the world.

I also notice that couples are too serious and have forgotten how to laugh and find humor in their relationships.

I do however agree that some women can be quite dramatic & make mountains out of molehills & so one treads carefully with these types.

I was at a party with my husband a few weeks ago & we sat opposite this young girl who had 75% of her 44DD bosoms hanging out of her low cut dress. My husband actually sat directly opposite her & I was sitting beside my husband. When he sat down he gave me a funny look and I just winked back. A few minutes later her sent me a BB msg on my phone saying " I am being attacked o!" I knew what he was on about and I just responded saying "Agbaya, no friendly fire discharge o" and he smiled. My husband is not blind; he noticed the girl but he knew that it was a topic that we were both comfortable with. When we were leaving that night, I leaned across and asked the girl if she wanted a ride home & my husband gave me a big pinch. She didn't want a ride home BTW & we still laugh about the episode. I tease him about it and he teases me back.

If you are open with each other and able to discuss your inadequacies, fears, concerns etc with your husband/wife, then you are halfway there. Things won't look so daunting and mysterious.

I also think that if you share a deep & sincere relationship with someone, you know exactly what that person feels about you; so the self-esteem and insecurity concerns are removed because you know exactly where you stand. It is the not knowing that brings along the insecurity; The does he like big bosoms, am I doing OK in bed, am I pretty enough for him etc questions would have all been answered a long time ago.

And in answer to the question that I am sure a smart Alec will ask me is of this girl came to live in my house will my husband sleep with her; The answer is NO. How do I know? because he is a man of integrity and we have killed whatever passion in a matter of fact way. There is nothing mysterious about the girl. Will I want the girl living in my house? NO; because not everyone who comes across her will be able to control themselves & I don't want any scandal & besides I cherish my privacy.

But like I said earlier, Our method works for us and may not be for everybody & I am not here to force my views on anyone & and we are all just going to have to agree to disagree on this one

SA Lady:
LOL! I know, but then I cant help wondering how great this thread would have been if girls came in here to show us what their mama's gave them. Just like @MzDarkSkin, confident girl. This could've been fun. And Yes! madam, with your exception ofcourse, 'cos Cock would never get off your case should you try a stunt like that.

Please nowwwwww , i dont want to see the faces, Just the booty. What a wonderful suggestion by SA Lady. 'Lead us not into temptation,

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OBJ forgot the Yoruba proverb 'Ile ti a ba fi ito ko, iri nii wo' (a house built with spit will be blown apart by a wind).

Nothing built on a lie will last. 'impossicant'.

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