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The principles have always remained the same for winners, but very few people are willing to live by it and that's why there are few people who are really winning.

Few people are willing to put in the time, effort, obsession, dedication and focus needed to live the life of their dreams. Very few people care to think deeply, plan and utilize their God-given intelligence to solve their problems.

Day by day they are using their brains lesser and lesser and turning into mechanical and automated creatures.

What is the thing that separates the Bold winner from the loser? It is the ability to have that patience putting in required time and focus to achieve what they want.

And how do they do it? They "think"...they think deeply, make critical plans BEFORE they act. They don't rush to act... Thinking is about 85% of the work...because winners understand that if they get the plans right with effective thought processes, the action becomes easy.

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It's hard to break away from what you've built almost all your life on. I realized that our beginnings have a large impact in our lives. It is very scary to change all your beliefs over night. Think again and experience the love of God. If atheism cuts you off from people and life, then you better discard it. Enjoying our lives is dependent of how we relate and contact other living humans. This contact is very important in generating the life force. Anything that shortens it, shortens life.

silvertuke:
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Those with dirty mind would always think dirty.. lol

How do you know what those with dirty minds would think, if your mind ain't dirtier than theirs?

The problem is not religion. The problem is that Nigerians have refused to face their problems fearlessly. Very Progressive nations always engage with their problems, take out time to deeply think and take consistent actions to solve their problems, but it appears most of us only know how to complain. Lack of Unity among ourselves is also a big issue. We have let religious, party and tribal sentiments to divide us. If we are divided, we can never come together as one to agree on or be committed towards one thing. Check out those developed nations, no matter the differences, they still come together, drop aside their differences and act as one on issues pertaining to national interest. Why is it so hard to do that in Nigeria? Love, genuine love for our fellow man/country and unity is what we all need. Religion isn't the problem.

As a Bold Winner, you must understand that the best way is NOT the way that seeks only for YOUR interest. Rather, the best way is the way that seeks for the interest of everyone. This does not mean that your own interests should be thrown away. Rather it means that by contributing to the interest of everyone, you are also contributing to yourself.

Anything, you can do for the general good, anything that enhances the spirit of oneness and togetherness, embrace it always with open arms for this is where genuine love for one's neighbor blossoms.

Seeking only for our selfish interests has created a lot of problems in our society, our families, our relationships and other areas of our lives. It is a pity some people have been groomed to seek only their selfish interests in life which has proven to be dangerous and destructive.

To advance, one must look beyond just oneself and seek for the interest of others. This means that you have recognized that you are NOT a SEPARATE entity. You are ONE with these people, therefore seeking for their good is seeking for your own good as well. If seeking for the good of others does not make you happy, you have clearly missed the point and you still see yourself as a separate entity with your own selfish interests.


Understanding this is vital to live a life filled with love.

I see..

Like joke, like joke.... boys are taking up the masquerade job offers. Hehe... Naija we hail thee!

StillBrandnew:
Here is something to think about.

Have you ever sat down and thought to yourself why you spend time worshipping and praying to God on Sundays.

To be completely honest, most people don't even know why they go to church. For some, it's just to fulfil all righteousness while for others, they see it as a way to genuinely connect and communicate to God.

While I on my own part see church services as a form of social gathering where we dance and sing more like in a party celebration. Depending on the kind of church you go to, you will always get some kind of vibe that's similar to going to a party, a lecture or even a seminar.

The issue I'm having now is that depending on the various reasons we all go to church, there's one particular thing we spend a lot of time doing which is "PRAYERS".

This is where I have a problem and I strongly believe our problems as Nigerians and African as a whole lies there.

We want God to do so much for us that we forget to use our brains to solve the numerous problems plaguing us day by day.

White people spend so much time doing research that ends up as invention that solves their personal problems and that of millions of other people and these innovations keep coming up day by day while we waste productive hours in church praying to God who already has a long list of prayer requests.

I think it's about time to set our priorities straight and start using what God has already given us to solve our problems.

Have a nice day and enjoy your time worshipping a true and living God. Not your pastor.

[b]What is the AIM of bringing this topic to front page?

That you don't feel like going to church because you think there are people who go there for entertainment or people who depend only on praying without taking any action DOES NOT mean that everyone else should stop going to church.

As far as I am concerned, there are still good and vibrant people, making a contribution to the world via their actions, who go to church.
Going to church or NOT is a choice! If you want to advise people on how to take action regarding their problems, fine, go ahead and do that. Stop trying to bring the church into it simply because you don't go.

Allow those who choose to go whether good or bad, lazy or active, responsible or irresponsible, hypocrite or saint.. Allow them, it's none of your business. Your business is your own choice which will affect you and you alone. Don't cry for other people or try to drag them into not going to church when they want to.
Peace.

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GRUDGES AND EXPECTATIONS
The reason why we sometimes bear grudges against another person is simply 'expectation'. We expect too much.
When we do things for others, we begin to place expectations on them which they may not even be aware of and when these expectations aren't met, we become angry, bear grudges and keep malice.
Why do we even do things for others with expectation? It is a selfish thing to do, because what it means is that you do not really care about the person but rather you care more about what you are expecting from him/her.
If someone should give you something and then later the person lets you know that because of what he has done for you, you must then do what he wants you to do, how would it feel? Would you feel like this person really cares about you? Answer the question honestly.
This is simply what we do when we make expectations on people because of 'what we have done for them'. It doesn't seem like the right thing to do, because it puts us in a position where we are NOT in control. We depend on the outcome of what we do instead of being free from it therefore more often than not we can become hurt or disappointed when expected outcomes aren't met.
People do not want to be forced or trapped into doing your bidding because of what you've done for them. Who loves that? Do you? Would you like to be chained to fulfil another persons expectation because they've done something for you? That is disguised SLAVERY.
I think a better way to live is to DO THINGS because we really WANT TO DO them. That way, we are free from whatever is the outcome and we derive our joy doing it rather than our happiness being dependent on the result of what we do. What will then really matter and give us genuine satisfaction in life is that deep down in our hearts we are happy that we have done something for another and we enjoyed every moment doing it!
There would be no need to FORCE ourselves or to pretend. We do things because we want to and we enjoy all that we do without expecting anything from anybody. This makes us free from being disappointed. If the person values what we've done, FINE(a bonus). if the person does not, still very FINE(we enjoyed ourselves anyway). There would be no need to get angry at anyone because you will always be happy. It is no longer your business what people do with whatever you've done for them. It's their business and they're free to do what they like while you remain happy.
In truth, there are responsibilities and actions we have to take, but we must take them up without expectation. We must enjoy doing what we truly want to do without grumbling. You will never get tired of doing good because no matter what people think about your actions or however they choose to value it, IT DOESN'T affect you at all! Our ultimate satisfaction must be derived in the process of doing what we sincerely want to do for others and not giving them the power to determine whether you should be satisfied or not via 'expectation'. Don't FORCE yourself. If you want to really do it, delete expectation. Free yourself and live right. "Love one another" is a universal principle. True Love has NO EXPECTATIONS... you just love and you're happy loving the beloved.
Think about it.

The reason why we sometimes bear grudges against another person is simply 'expectation'. We expect too much.
When we do things for others, we begin to place expectations on them which they may not even be aware of and when these expectations aren't met, we become angry, bear grudges and keep malice.
Why do we even do things for others with expectation? It is a selfish thing to do, because what it means is that you do not really care about the person but rather you care more about what you are expecting from him/her.
If someone should give you something and then later the person lets you know that because of what he has done for you, you must then do what he wants you to do, how would it feel? Would you feel like this person really cares about you? Answer the question honestly.
This is simply what we do when we make expectations on people because of 'what we have done for them'. It doesn't seem like the right thing to do, because it puts us in a position where we are NOT in control. We depend on the outcome of what we do instead of being free from it therefore more often than not we can become hurt or disappointed when expected outcomes aren't met.
People do not want to be forced or trapped into doing your bidding because of what you've done for them. Who loves that? Do you? Would you like to be chained to fulfil another persons expectation because they've done something for you? That is disguised SLAVERY.
I think a better way to live is to DO THINGS because we really WANT TO DO them. That way, we are free from whatever is the outcome and we derive our joy doing it rather than our happiness being dependent on the result of what we do. What will then really matter and give us genuine satisfaction in life is that deep down in our hearts we are happy that we have done something for another and we enjoyed every moment doing it!
There would be no need to FORCE ourselves or to pretend. We do things because we want to and we enjoy all that we do without expecting anything from anybody. This makes us free from being disappointed. If the person values what we've done, FINE(a bonus). if the person does not, still very FINE(we enjoyed ourselves anyway).
There would be no need to get angry at anyone because you will always be happy. It is no longer your business what people do with whatever you've done for them. It's their business and they're free to do what they like while you remain happy.
In truth, there are responsibilities and actions we have to take, but we must take them up without expectation. We must enjoy doing what we truly want to do without grumbling. You will never get tired of doing good because no matter what people think about your actions or however they choose to value it, IT DOESN'T affect you at all! Our ultimate satisfaction must be derived in the process of doing what we sincerely want to do for others and not giving them the power to determine whether you should be satisfied or not via 'expectation'. Don't FORCE yourself. If you want to really do it, delete expectation. Free yourself and live right. "Love one another" is a universal principle. True Love has NO EXPECTATIONS... you just love and you're happy loving the beloved.
Think about it.

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Adeola29:
Exactly what I needed.

Glad my article was needed by at least one person. God bless you sister.

ImDharay:

too long to read,
I'll pass.. nexxxxt!

Yeah.. Laziness in reading is reflected on every other aspect of our lives.

You're damn right @Cruzita some people find it hard to TRUST.

Many people are having trust issues. They find it hard to believe that people can be trustworthy and of a high integrity. They think everyone wants to cheat them or take advantage of them. They always think that no matter how good a person may appear to be, the person must have a hidden agenda or ulterior motive. Now why do they have such a mindset about everyone? Usually, it is claimed to be based on their experiences.
Why is this kind of thinking dangerous? It makes one see everybody as an enemy and a potential carrier of malicious intent therefore one always looks out for the negative things neglecting the sincerest effort of goodwill that may be directed to him/her and once such people see something that finally looks like a negative thing, they'd be like "Aha" "I said it, He/She is as evil/bad as I had thought ".
Now here's the thing about TRUST. Some people have attached so much value to trust that once the person whom they trusted somehow disappoints, they find it very hard to ever trust anyone else again. By putting themselves in this position, they shut out every single person as being untrustworthy. Ultimately, a sincere person coming around such people will always be seen by them as untrustworthy. And one thing with our mind is that whatever it wants to see in something, it has a way of seeing it. If you see everyone in the world as "bad", no matter how good they are, you must point out something bad about them which only you may be seeing.
To try and advice those having trust issues, I have something to say. To TRUST someone does NOT mean that the person cannot ERR. It does not mean that that person cannot do wrong. Every human being has the potential to do either good or bad. The potential is always there. Those who claim they cannot ERR are only deceiving themselves. Wise men and people of integrity understand that they have this potential in them, but they strive to do good. It doesn't mean that in striving to do good one MUST never fall. No!
Understand that the probability of falling in every man is always there. Someone making a mistake should not be so shocking to us because we ourselves are not even perfect and as consistent as we want to be.
I believe it is best to give everyone the benefit of doubt. Those having trust issues close their minds completely against everyone because they generalize the outcome of their experience to be what every other experience leads to. That Mr. A is a bloody liar does NOT mean that Mr.B is also a liar neither does it mean Mr. A can never change at some point.
We must make room in our minds to experience people for who they really are and not assume/guess what kind of people they are.
No one is perfect. This doesn't mean we shouldn't strive for perfection.. at all times, we must. But by trusting someone, let us not see it that the person is already perfect. We have to make room to accommodate some faults in some people and correct them with love. That good people make mistakes sometimes does not make them evil people. In our disappointments with people we claim to trust, let us understand that these people are still human beings that could still err, not angels. If you have made a mistake yourself, why should you think someone else CANNOT make a mistake because of your TRUST in them?
Understand the nature of human beings and try not to judge another human being based on previous experiences you've had. Keep and open mind and experience people for who they are not the opinions you form about them. Also get the point that everyone is still striving for perfection and no one is already perfect.

Many people are having trust issues. They find it hard to believe that people can be trustworthy and of a high integrity. They think everyone wants to cheat them or take advantage of them. They always think that no matter how good a person may appear to be, the person must have a hidden agenda or ulterior motive. Now why do they have such a mindset about everyone? Usually, it is claimed to be based on their experiences.
Why is this kind of thinking dangerous? It makes one see everybody as an enemy and a potential carrier of malicious intent therefore one always looks out for the negative things neglecting the sincerest effort of goodwill that may be directed to him/her and once such people see something that finally looks like a negative thing, they'd be like "Aha" "I said it, He/She is as evil/bad as I had thought ".
Now here's the thing about TRUST. Some people have attached so much value to trust that once the person whom they trusted somehow disappoints, they find it very hard to ever trust anyone else again. By putting themselves in this position, they shut out every single person as being untrustworthy. Ultimately, a sincere person coming around such people will always be seen by them as untrustworthy. And one thing with our mind is that whatever it wants to see in something, it has a way of seeing it. If you see everyone in the world as "bad", no matter how good they are, you must point out something bad about them which only you may be seeing.
To try and advice those having trust issues, I have something to say. To TRUST someone does NOT mean that the person cannot ERR. It does not mean that that person cannot do wrong. Every human being has the potential to do either good or bad. The potential is always there. Those who claim they cannot ERR are only deceiving themselves. Wise men and people of integrity understand that they have this potential in them, but they strive to do good. It doesn't mean that in striving to do good one MUST never fall. No!
Understand that the probability of falling in every man is always there. Someone making a mistake should not be so shocking to us because we ourselves are not even perfect and as consistent as we want to be.
I believe it is best to give everyone the benefit of doubt. Those having trust issues close their minds completely against everyone because they generalize the outcome of their experience to be what every other experience leads to. That Mr. A is a bloody liar does NOT mean that Mr.B is also a liar neither does it mean Mr. A can never change at some point.
We must make room in our minds to experience people for who they really are and not assume/guess what kind of people they are.
No one is perfect. This doesn't mean we shouldn't strive for perfection.. at all times, we must. But by trusting someone, let us not see it that the person is already perfect. We have to make room to accommodate some faults in some people and correct them with love. That good people make mistakes sometimes does not make them evil people. In our disappointments with people we claim to trust, let us understand that these people are still human beings that could still err, not angels. If you have made a mistake yourself, why should you think someone else CANNOT make a mistake because of your TRUST in them?
Understand the nature of human beings and try not to judge another human being based on previous experiences you've had. Keep and open mind and experience people for who they are not the opinions you form about them. Also get the point that everyone is still striving for perfection and no one is already perfect.

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lol

The senator alone cannot finish that fish in 21 days o.

hmm..

Let us use a better scale. This scale is not properly graduated to scientific standards.

hahaha.. This one must've really been frustrated to make her love guys that are 'good' enough to cheat her within 3 months. lol

ewenla1234:
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if found pls return to the nearest APC office.
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And you think this is funny?