Sandyveralucia:

Hate is evil.

Mmmmtttttcccheeeeeeeewwww. If u haven't seen her instagram video, fvck off!!! Alele!!!

Hate indeed, Lmao. I haven't hated gifty, it's tboss I would be hating on .

Gifty the fairest of them all!

Did she break her neck? Why she do neck like tolotolo? Abi she get neck pain? *sigh*

Madam Omobolanle, you dated your man without sex, kissing, smooching, e.t.c. BUT did he date you without these things?

Attention seeking dick head Op. Your life doesn't depend on Nairaland, so stop fooling yourself.
#Bye

Op, this is the best. Who needs your money? Most ladies would probably agree with this decision. We give you wifely benefits when we're married to you and you get to save that cash. Good one, this is the kinda relationship I love.

And please don't cheat on her.....

If a lady isn't ready to be a slave, a prostitute to her husband and play the fool to a lot of things, then she isn't ready to stay married in this country.

Just pray for an understanding man, not the one with the typical Nigerian husband mentality and marriage won't be much of a burden to you.

Op I agree with you to an extent, I understand where you are coming from.

I hope you also shared this with the females in your household? We need this message everywhere, not only on Nairaland.

fineboynl:
hahaha. u funny out of my which league. r u fresh.

No oo, I freshener

fineboynl:
pain ke, you sound like a baby.

You type like an alien. Who wants an alien? That's why you didn't get the fresh girl's number. She's way outta ya league.

fineboynl:
you de craze for head

E pain am. Trash topic!

See him mouth like "spin". Girls sef dey give this one number?? Nawa

NaeChris:
LOl. No be una dey give them? Imagine if they say 'NO'.

Every woman with her values. Not every woman sleeps with her man before marriage. Some Will never wash for you. To each his own. Women do some of these things so they are considered marriageable.

NaeChris:
Yes the way ladies take this money and sex issues is making guys take you for granted. Imagine someone said ''every girlfriend is like olosho'' simply because they ask for money in the presence of sex probably as a gain or something.

You don't ask for money because of sex or at the point of having sex. You demand when you need it.

Whatever rocks her boat though, as long she doesn't feel used and taken for granted.

NaeChris:
Even if you spend on the man sef just as he is spending on you, na bad thing? I take men dependent ladies to be broke babes. Maybe you can put me right. I love to learn.

It's not bad, as long as he doesn't get the 'wifey' benefits in the relationship. Lol

NaeChris:
Lol. You are quite correct but i said 'in a relationship' thats before marriage. Well, most ladies cook, wash and as well sleep with the guys sha. In your contex, you have to spend na, certainly not on the man, but on his/your lovely kids, thus being a help meet.

In marriage, a woman can spend on her man when the need arises.

I was talking about relationship not marriage.

NaeChris:
LOL. Women offers more than men in relationship but i have given you one already. Well, if men have such mentality, women made it so. Their default mindset is to depend on a man. This is what i am fighting against. Imagine you as a big girl, meet him as a big boy. Haba! Who no like better thing?

We women are not stupid. You don't expect us to cook for you, some lazy men even want ladies to clean and wash for them, sleep with you e.t.c and spend our money again? It's not that we don't earn a living, but we can't just be stupid. A lady has to enjoy the relationship too, we can't be doing for you guys and getting. Lol

Also, men like to be in charge, so we only massage your ego by being that damsel in distress.

All this money talk is for broke guys.

NaeChris:
One of the things a man can offer is defence or Physical protection. Its not that a woman can't offer anything, but its their kind of mentality that is making them do what they do.

Defense? Lmao.

A woman does much more than a man in a relationship, but she's always taken for granted because of the money factor. You men think you do women a favour by giving them money. You men need to change your mentality too.

NaeChris:
The question is, how many women are ready to be independent? They should not be limiting themselves.

And the ones that are independent, what do men have to offer?

There are a lot of independent women around if you must know.

Most times I wonder what a man has to offer in marriage, especially when he's got a working class wife.

Mtcchhheeeew
What does a man have to offer an independent woman in a relationship?

arsenic33:

Why are you so dumb? I'm a writer, a researcher and a critic. What I post is part of my observations about the affected people. It doesn't necessarily mean I'm making a post about me.
You must be a short girl.

Don't be a dumb ass nigga, stop shying away from the truth.

You stated clearly that you are the chief introvert here. So what affects others as you claim, is bound to affect you the 'chief' and even much more. I believe you honestly wrote about yourself, and it may apply to 0.1℅ of introverted guys, basically the ones with low self esteem. I'm yet to see all these on healthy introverts I know. Also, in all my years of surfing the net, I haven't come across the crap you put up there about introverts.

Quit writing please. You should rather narrow your research on how to be a better boy.

What's wrong with being a short girl? though I'm not one but I find that statement of yours hilarious.

arsenic33:

Did you say "No woman wants to be with a weakling in the name of love"? What weakling are you talking about? So all the trash you've been saying is linked to relationship? Thunder fire relationship.gat no time for that

But all the crap you wrote about your introverted nature has to do with being with the woman you love, being in a relationship.

You got no time for it because you suck at it. No wonder you claim your type treks a lot, looking at ladies while at it. Don't die of loneliness in the name of being an introvert. Trash!

arsenic33:

.....and how has that gotten to do with self esteem? I'm a giant with indomitable willpower when dealing with others, but I'm easily humbled by the woman I love. That's the conclusion of my post if you can't apprehend it. I actually know what you're trying to say, but you were off point. In one of my books with my editor, a whole chapter was on self esteem. You're a low self esteem girl by saying your definition for self esteem is equal to the one Google gave.. Calm down, humble yourself and stop being proud

Trash.
I can see you find it difficult accepting advice, the typical childish boy attitude. I only want you to grow some balls and stop being a puppet in the name of being an introvert.

You can actually become a better person and not hide under introversion. No woman wants to be with a weakling in the name of love.

I won't reply you anymore because this thread has to die down, as it doesn't make sense. We need strong men not the ones who think being abnormal is fine.
#Bye

[quote author=arsenic33 post=56076395][/quote] Nawa oo, you gave yourself away when you decided to give us your history being an introvert.

Nice one

I agree with the write up.

arsenic33:

If you don't have your own definition for self esteem, it means you're not in a position to tell me to work on my self esteem because you're confused

You are too dumb. So from all I've written here, you can't deduce what self esteem is, you can't clearly see its the way you view, value and regard yourself. So I should have a different definition for self esteem other than what's on google or the dictionary? did I invent the word? Chaiii SMH

[quote author=arsenic33 post=56053610][/quote] Well Google is my friend, so we share same definition.

arsenic33:

Ayaf hear, but what's your meaning for self esteem?

Check Google!! I just gave you my definition!

arsenic33:

Out of point. What's your meaning for self esteem?

Too bad you can't comprehend what you wrote. Self esteem has different meanings. I don't see you as someone with a healthy self esteem going by what you wrote because you don't come off as a confident person when dealing with the opposite sex. You sound too timid for a guy. Don't allow the media make you feel comfortable with that kinda life by calling you an introvert.

Work on yourself, you can be a better person.

arsenic33:

Sorry for what? What's your definition for self esteem? And how does it relate to this?

Sorry for being a sucker when dealing with the opposite sex. You should work on yourself dear. Lol

Op sorry, but you sound like someone who hasn't got a healthy self esteem.

Number 6 is so true!

A lady's perception about marriage changes when she's due.
All the tall, dark and handsome talk will slowly die down in her head
What about the naira loaded talk?? She'll start saying "as long as the guy can take care of me, I'm okay, he doesn't have to be rich" Lol

The hustle for "husband" when you're due is real.