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HERE IS MY SUBMISSION ON BOKO HARAM. IT IS ONE OF TWO THINGS, EITHER OF WHICH DOESNT REALLY NEED MUCH/EXTERNAL FUNDING. MOST AMMUNITIONS ARE GOTTEN FROM OUR MILITARY, CARS USED FOR THE BOMBINGS ARE EASILY STOLEN, SAME AS TOOLS USED FOR THE EXPLOSIVE DEVICES (GAS CYLINDERS, FERTILISER, ETC ETC). FEEDING AND OPERATIONS COST DOESNT NECESSARILY COST THAT MUCH, AND IF MORE MONEY IS NEEDED, BANKS CAN EASILY BE ROBBED (AS THEY HAVE DONE IN THE PAST)

1. THAT BOKO HARAM IS A TOOL OF THE PRESENT GOVERNMENT OR TOP ECHELON OF THE MILITARY

OR

2. BOKO HARAM OPERATES BASED ON VERY VERY STRONG CONVICTIONS AS TO WHAT THEY ARE DOING, HENCE THE HUGE NUMBER OF WILLING AND AVAILABLE SUCIDE BOMBERS.

IF THE FORMER IS THE CASE, THEN THERE IS LITTLE OR NOTHING ANY ONE CAN DO ABOUT IT, AS IT WILL END WHEN "THEY" DECIDES SUCH. AND IF IT IS THE LATER, WHICH I SINCERELY HOPE IT IS, THE I HAVE THE FOLLOWING TO SAY;

1. GOVT (SECURITY OPERATIVES) NEED TO, AS A MATTER OF URGENCY INFILTRATE THE RANKS AND FILE OF THE GROUP SO AS TO TRUELY UNDERSTAND THEIR CONVICTION (THATS IF THEY DNT ALREADY HAVE OPERATIVES UNDERCOVER). OUR SECRET SERVICE NEED TO RISE TO THE OCCASION.

2. USING FORCE OR THE METHODS ADOPTED IN THE ND WILL NOT NECESSARILY YIELD RESULTS, AS THE AVERAGE NORTHERNER ON THE STREET IS NOT MOTIVATED BY MONEY, GOOD THINGS OF LIFE OR EVEN FEAR OF DEATH.

3. SOURCE OF SUPPLIES FOR MAKING THEIR EXPLOSIVE DEVICES NEED TO BE PROPERLY REGULATED AND MONITORED, RIGHT FROM ABUJA UP UNTIL CAMEROON.

4. FINALLY, FG NEED TO GET 'ASSETS' ON GROUND. ESPECIALLY AMONGST THE PEOPLE WHOSE RELATIVES, FAMILY AND/OR FRIENDS HV BEEN KILLED BY THE SECT. THESE PPLE ARE USUALLY PROPERLY MOTIVATED TO HELP. PROVIDE THEM WITH PHONES, IF POSSIBLE TAP AND TRACK SUCH PHONES, JUST INCASE THEY DECIDE TO TURN.


All in all, what i am saying is, we need to find out these guys convictions. No one can tell me that its religion, as they are even more islamic nations and yet dnt have this much willing suicide bombers.

finally, i did mention it somewhere when the gist about the US coming to help was publicised. Without sounding pessimistic, they will not be able to make much progress, kind of similar to why they did woefully in Vietnam. The 'terrain here is different and peculiar, especially up north. By terrain, i generally mean the mentality, the resources on ground (or lack of) and their mode of operation. They can't tap phones (as they dnt communicate much by it), you can't track cash ( as they dnt even need that much), They cnt monitor movements (as the facilities are not on ground - cctv and all), heck, we do not even have a comprehensive data base of citizens in the country.

By and large, GOD PROTECT NIGERIA.

lyntiffany: was kidding just wanna make your day since your really in an unbalance emotional state ( don't mind me) hope I did ? was kidding just wanna make your day since your really in an unbalance emotional state ( don't mind me) hope I did ?

yeah... i know that. Thanks for the effort tho. A boring and lonely summer break has its effects on ones emotional state. Too much free time i guess...lol

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2buff: It's disrespectful to "forget" a date we planned out and not alerting me prior to her not being able to make it.
I don't tolerate that kind of disrespect to my time. That's just my personal boundary.
If we are going to do anything after that display of unreliability, she is going to have to re-initiate it herself. It's the adult thing to do.
If she is too "small-of-mind" to do that, then I have no use for such "shaky" females in my life as she clearly has either flawed judgement/expectations or isn't interested.

Now this is someone that shares my sentiments exactly. I dnt think its " cool" to miss dates and not call. I find it disrespectful and not deserving of my time.

I have two relationship modes... "Player" and "bf" modes. As soon as any lady does that she automatically goes into my player mode. I do not joke with my time, i am an adult and expect ladies to be equally matured about things like that.

My main consign now tho, is that i am finding it difficult to find such matured minds. I am quite a romantic person, i treat my women/friend right, i spoil them silly. I can be the perfect BF, but the girl most prove to be deserving. Must be solid, most be reliable, must be mature.

One word that defines my ideal woman is THOUGHTFUL. Dnt take appointments for granted, dnt be selfish (ask how ur guy is doing, know what matters to him.. etc etc) dont be unreliable.

I really dont know what to say. I hate that Asari throws all reason to the winds. I understand his inclination to defend his kinsman, But he needs to be careful not to mislead pple and come across more silly than he already is.

Personally, I cannot categorically say if pple were kidnapped or not, but the pictures cannot prove one way or the other. I knw for sure that education in the north is not as forward as down south. I served in a secondary school in Bauchi, it takes very little for the students to stop coming to school. So normally, those students there are generally "managed" to see them through school.

Now, i blame the federal government for the outcome of this incident. As a president, he shld never allow any of the crazy advisers to mislead him. Some one wld sit in his house then make a blanket statement like "NO GIRLS ARE MISSING". I mean, based on what facts? That is why we has all the security apparatus set up, to investigate everything, no matter how trivial or false it might look.

The president of the federal republic of Nigeria shld not base his security decisions on sentiments of the advisers or inconsistencies that might even exist therein. Everything shld be investigated, and all the security apparatus shld be made to understand the consequences of providing false information or information based on sentiments or permutation.

Posterity will never forgive this government if it so happens that girls are truly missing and nothing was done to help them. Moving forward, the government shld learn to investigate every situation. we need more plain cloth men (SSS) and more assets all around the country. As soon as any incident happens, the first couple of hrs after said incident is usually the most critical. Men shld always be on ground to gather such information.

FINALLY, ASARI, PLEASE SHUT THE F**K UP PLEASE!!! SO LONG AS NO ONE IS SURE FOR CERTAIN, NO CONCLUSIONS CAN BE DRAWN.

Most often, making silent insinuations and letting pple draw their conclusions is a more effective way of informing pple about ur doubts. But then again, who says lack of proper education doesn't have its effects. (now that is a silent insinuation saying Asari is uneducated, unrefined and unschooled)

ogawisdom: Women r sometimes very difficult to understand. D bottomline is dt once u show too much interest in a gal she ll nt take u seriously again. Cancellin dates is jst a game sometimes designed to heightened d other person's interest but it doesn't work at times. Try to give them three chances n if they dnt honour appointments then u can back off. Sometimes u can cancel dates for no reason too, it makes u look cool at her eyes n less desperate.
Women r purely emotional beings n if u r nt hittin on her emotions she ll nt feel much for u. Stop taking dates wit gals too seriously, learn to forget it too. Blow hot n cold abt it. Read more abt attraction n chemistry

Actually, i dnt take women generally too seriously, especially when it comes to friendship and all. So, generally i put a lot of thought in, before asking any lady for a date.

I am just a principled person, i dnt think its cool to be inconsistent and unreliable. I either agree to a date, tell you NO straight up.... or tell you, let me chck for the date and get back to you (of which i always will).

sexylogan: My guy, the very same thing happened to me recently. I hav had a best friend (female) for close to ten years. An architect, tall, beautiful,

smart, decent, a true wife material who has been there for me thru the good times and the bad. She literally knows almost everything there is to

know about me. I sat down one day and asked myself...why shudnt I marry this amazing girl? She's everything I've wanted in a woman and

a wife. One time I took her out for a dinner date and I asked her to be my gf. She laffed and said that she knew that I was going to ask her

that question today...that's how well she knows me. To my surprise she said a week later that she doesn't want us to date only be friends as we

always have been. I was like ok...no sweat. Maybe it wasnt meant to be. I moved on. Some weeks later, I met this beautiful babe in church

who just by coincidence is also from my place. Some weeks later, we started dating. I called my friend and told her the good news only for her to

say that I just broke her heart? That it means I didnt really love her. How could I ask her out just once and not persist?

Sorry mehn to hear, It can be sad a times. I just wonder why some ladies think they doing you a favour by being ur gf. its a symbiotic stuff, give and take. I guess its her loss. Wish you the very best with ur new gf

ok.. let me ask this, you ladies and guys.

If a guy asks to take a lady out for a movie or something and she says ok (Ps: the guy if footing the bills), then its the D-day, 1hrs bfor hr zero, you call her, and she says.... ohhh, sorry, something came up, i cnt make it. What do you call that plz..... its possible something came up, but then nothing stops her frm calling to inform the guy way before the time, or maybe she forgot about the appointment. I used a movie just as an example. Other instances abound.... frm "i am coming to visit you noon sunday" to "yes, dinner is good for tuesday"

My brain finds it difficult to differentiate between when she is not interested, when she wants you to chase or when she is simply an unreliable person. (the later being my usual take.. and thats why i generally walk away)

What i dont understand is.... these things shld be easy, straight forward. Maybe its weird to me because i am kind of crazy about schedule, dates and time. If i make a date, i save that date in stone, except its a life threatening situation, i always keep to my dates and times. And if i cnt make it, i make sure i call i good time to cancel.

So i dnt understand how some ladies wld make a date, decide to cancel, and yet would not inform you until u call few hrs or minutes before the date. So do these ladies cancel because they want guys to keep asking and chasing or they cancel because it makes them feel sophisticated?

Chamack: In my first response to you, I said that I don't abuse people online and offline, you are the first person that I have abused for saying ill against my people. So since you know that your advise is not needed why giving it? Can you focus on your people now and leave Igbos alone? The day you will give us advise is the day your people has outdone the Igbos educationally, economically and otherwise.

Who cares if u insult pple online or offline... I am no hypocrite, I do, if and when I feel like.

It is an opinion. And like I said to u befor, thinking even a baby or a non igbo can not have an opinion (or even advice) shows ur level of foolry and proves my point. Take it or leave it. But so long as it nairaland everybody is free to air their opinion.

rhymz: Nobody gives a flying fvck if your papa is from the moon and your mama is Sango's descendant, you can die with your nonsense identity, that is not anybody's problem so long as you dont use it as a basis to insult a group of people for no reason. Will you dare open your filthy mouth to mouth off like you did here about igbo people in front of an igbo man without him puting you six feet down low...na for NL coward like una dey become super man and man of steel, go and try your stunts in real life..ediota

Can u f**king make up ur mind? U think I am youroba, yet u say you dnt care where I come from.

LET ME GIVE IT TO YOU STRAIGHT UP.. U ARE A NUT JOB AND A F**L. YOU THINK EVERYTHING SHLD BE ABOUT WHERE YOU COME FROM OR UR TRIBE? I MADE AN OBSERVATION AND GAVE MY OPINION... U CAN GO Bleep URSELF IF U DNT LIKE IT. I AIR MY OPINION ON MY TRIBES MEN.. ON HAUSAS ON YOUROBAS.... ONLIKE YOU I DO NOT HAVE UR USELESS MYOPIC, ETHNIC MENTALITY.

YOU TALK OF DEATH LIKE WE ARE NOT ALL DESTINED TO GO THAT WAY. I SAY GO TO HELL.... AND IF I EVER SEE YOU IN PERSON, I WILL TELL YOU SAME.

I gave an opinion, and I stand by it.

rhymz: Why are you trying so hard to be Igbo now? Just because a riff-Raff has the luxury of being anonymous on a forum, you would even shamelessly make claims of being Igbo just so you can insult the people, typical antics of a coward many Yoruba people here on Nl are known for. How many igbo people do you see going about sufficing that they are yorubas before mouthing off incoherent gibberish, an Igbo man will tell you straight to your face that you are a dirty Yoruba shiity face and wait for your cowardly reaction....be bold kid, Igbo wont kill you if you just admit it that you are a foolish Yoruba kid overfed with hate and tribalism....we would understand cos we know it is second nature to many Yoruba people.

Typical arrogant igbo man .... I have said it on this forum before, i dnt give a f**k about anybody here. What ever i say on this forum, i can stand by it, even before God. If i insult you on this forum for any reason, i will do same in real life.

Saying this for the last time, i am not yoruba, i am not Igbo, my tribe has got nothing to do with anything. I come to nairaland to air my opinion, right, wrong, stupid or silly.... take it or leave it, thats why it is a public forum but just do one the dignity of raising points or countering them or just shut the f**k up.

@Buddah Monk: you seem to have forgotten what a public forum is, especially political section. Its opinion, not advices. I said what i thought in my opinion cld be a strategic move. Thats all. i am not expecting any igbo man to take it seriously, i actually dnt care.

HappyJoe: There's no point being sentimental, Ndigbo are the most realistic people in Nigeria.

Do you think an average Igbo man gives a flying f%ck who wins the next elections, his primary concern is his business & as education statistics shows, he's doing a lot better than those "who control politics".

We decided to support Jonathan because he's closer home & more likely to focus on projects closer home. No Yoruba or Hausa man was ever going to permit international flights out from enugu or commit to building a second Niger Bridge - neither Buhari, Obasanjo, Abacha or Babangida would commit to doing that - the historical records are out there.

APC is full of Yoruba & Hausa people who have zero commitment to facilitating economic growth in the southeast. The great Zik allied with Balewa - who was all too ready to dump him for Akintola. The historical record is out there too.

Finally, be smart like an Igbo man - no politician is "fighting for you". Tinubu has acquired his second private jet, but some Yoruba children are starving, how has he helped them?

To be honest, that part of the igbo man, i respect. Always have.. always will. (Discussion for another topic). But i am basing what i said here on the topic at hand.... an igbo man leaving a party because of differences. The assumption i made then... was that the igbos in this context are interested in the presidency. I like that Ndi Igbo supported Jonathan (i personally dnt like him), but it was a smart and strategic move. I am just saying, right now that it seems like the winds might change, they shld be equally that strategic by having key players in the emerging party and not totally running away from it.

ps: I do not care for politicians or any party, they mostly all same criminals. But i love strategising, i love winning and being on the winning side. And no Nigerian shld trust or believe any politician either.

Chamack: You seem to be through with your abusive words? You are not Igbo and you don't seem to know the challenges that we are facing more than the Igbos? Leave the Igbos we have benefited more supporting Goodluck than what we have benefited since Nigeria-Biafra war ended. All this your epistle is rubbish because best advise comes from within not outside.

1. I dnt care much about abuses, its part of the fun here. So long as you dnt just stop at say i am being stupid or silly or foolish but back it up with points. I am ready to entertain it, and i dish same out. If i crave more decent converse, i knw where to find that #no.offence.taken - non.expected

2. Yes, like i said frm my first post, i am not Igbo and might truly not understand their challenges in the east, but that doesn't in anyway negate the fact that i can and shld make my observations, have an opinion and freely air same.

3. Truth be told, i dnt expect them to take my advice, I dnt even expect shit frm no one (rubbish or otherwise). My friend, life is short, what is said on this forum might never be read by more than 200k pple, so it generally doesn't mean much. I didn't go to the east to give them advice, but on nairaland, i say it like i feel it..... wrong or right, i love the augments and insults that follow, i love the knowledge gained. Thats all i do here!!

HappyJoe: This is brain dead analysis.

1. Igbos have allied with the North severally in the past: Zik/Balewa, Ekwueme/Shagari etc & have gotten practically nothing out of it. Ekwueme couldn't even deliver the Second Niger Bridge (when the Hausas built a refinery for themselves in Kaduna). So if Yorubas want to go on a wild goose chase with the Hausas, that is their problem, not ours.

2. Igbos have nothing in common politically with Hausas - Hausas want Sharia, they don't want devolution of powers, they don't want resource control, they don't want any changes to the exclusive list - we have absolutely NOTHING to gain by being politically allied with them.

3. APC as a party doesn't have any Igbo interests at heart. The will select an Hausa man as President & a Yoruba man as VP, what it means is:
a. The Hausa guy will rule from 2015 - 2023.
b. His deputy (a Yoruba) will rule from 2023 - 2031.
c. Another Hausa man will rule from 2031 - 2039.

That means that under APC, we'll have 24 years of Hausa/Yoruba rule until an Igbo man is even considered. In PDP it will be quicker.

4. We are NOT interested in the presidency at this point in time. After we saw what happened to Ekwueme in Jos in 1999, we realized that there is a pathological hatred of Igbo in all parts of the country. (Obasanjo with zero support from his fellow Yorubas got the nomination). So we are better off facing our business & using influence to get what we need.

5. Control of the presidency doesn't mean jack - go to Northern Nigeria, they've ruled Nigeria for almost 38 years - immunization rates in parts of the North are as low as 5%. Many aren't going to school, under-aged marriages etc. Those people have NOTHING to offer. If you like, follow them for 100 years.

6. APC will not win the next presidential elections, so these permutations are meaningless.

7. In 1967 - 70, we learned an important lesson, fighting against the Hausa-Fulani Oligarchy is the same thing as fighting against Britain. We'll fight against them when we are ready to fight Britain, not before then.

So please continue to entertain your Lagos-based fantasies, don't travel outside Lagos, continue to believe that Tinubu-funded APC propaganda reflects Nigeria's realities.

Now, this is someone i respect.... *duff my hat sir....... valid points you have raised.

But in all the instances you mentioned Ndi Igbo chose a single side and they always got burnt. So this is what i am proposing....

1) Ndi Igbo shld be first and for most, Igbos and a strongly united one, Party affiliations come second place. They fight in public but shld go back to the east and strategize

2). Ndi Igbo shld have strong representation in all the political parties.. ALL..... so they can benefit either way the wind blows.

3) The strong igbo caucus in each party will help when the other regions in the party wants to f**k them over.

Now... you made the same mistake you guys have been making for a long time in ur 6th point tho..
" APC will not win the next presidential elections, so these permutations are meaningless."

NO PERMUTATIONS ARE MEANINGLESS MY FRIEND!! ALL PERMUTATIONS ARE VALID UNTIL PROVEN OTHERWISE TO A CERTAINTY.

I repeat, Ndi Igbo shld have strongholds in both PDP and APC, even if not currently interested in the presidency, at least be the strong force that you guys deserve to be in this nation.

Ikenga nri: guy don't take these mud house dwellers serious. I have discovered some things about them.

1)all of them are from lagos.
2)most if not all of them have igbo mothers.
3)all their guys have igbo girl friends.
4)all their youth corpers served in the south east .
Finally, don't take them serious, they are pathetic liars. That guy may have no igbo mother after all.

1) I am not from Lagos
2) Yes, i stated that, mum was igbo
3) I do not have an Igbo GF
4) No, i did not serve in the south east.

ARE YOU SATISFIED NOW? Then get the heck back to what i said about the Igbos and fault it!!

collynzo2: Fool keep your Presidency and leadership at the center trash to yourself.
How has years of northern rule improved the life of an average northerner?
They still have the highest rate of illiteracy, poverty and undevelopment in the country, they are still the ones being killed by brainwashed people left, right and center.
What about Jonathan? How has his rule improved the lives of Ijaw people?
If you cannot say how the Presidency is of any benefits to Igbos in this present structure of Nigeria, then keep mute.

Ehmm... answe me this, i pray you

Do Ndi Igbo wnt to rule this country or not? (Ref - Cause of the civil war), Have they been "begging" that it shld be zoned to the south east or not?

If you feel so satisfied, why not just remain in the east and just keep growing ur "nation".

2ndly ... I fail to understand why you think i am talking about development of any region or how forward a particular region is?

My premise, young man is... Ndi Igbo are in politics because they want to rule, they are in politics because they want to be a force to recon with, both within the region and as a country as a whole. Based on that, i made my observations and drew a conclusion and proffered a solution.

To reiterate my points...
- NDI IGBO SHLD STOP RUNNING AWAY WHEN IT GETS HOT.
- NDI IGBO SHOULD LEARN TO FORM A SORT OF STRONG HOLD IN EVERY POLITICAL PARTY,
- NDI IGBO SHLD NOT ALIENATE ANY POLITICAL PARTY
- NDI IGBO NEED TO BE MORE STRATEGIC

Hw difficult is that to understand?

Chamack: I don't abuse people but I will abuse for saying that a population of over 30 million people and the forerunners of Nigeria are foolish. I would say that the woman that agreed to marry your dad is the most foolish person on earth to have agreed to marry him and also to produce a useless and a slowpoke like you. What has being president of nigeria done to Awusa-Fulani that has held power for 38 yrs? What has being president 12yrs done to Yorubas? What has Goodluck being president done to Nigerdelta? Are these group of people better than Igbos economically, educationally and otherwise? You the foolish son/daughter of a foolish parents. Next time u think before you foolishly abuse Ndi Igbo.

Funny thing tho... if u are a definition of the igbo man that is economically, educationally and otherwise better, then i choose to remain f**lish rather than bee like you.

Like you implied, if Ndi Igbo are so satisfied, why do there still participate in politics at the centre? They shld be satisfied with their economical and educational "progress" and go to sleep. Yet they begging that its their turn next to be president. I have said what i said, i dnt expect you to agree with my premise or conclusion.... i actually dnt expect you to understand.

Ps: i am ignoring ur insults on purpose..... , you knw why?..... I do not find a need to validate myself to you.

If you can and want to fault what i said, pray you do so......

Arysexy: U r a very f00lish mumu. We reject ur clannish apc and all d benefit it cud offer.

Y don't ur ppl join APGA? We can't continue licking d a55 of few cattle rearers dat blv dis con3 leadership is dia inheritance.

Fu-ck u! And ur yeye APC!

People like you are usually failures in life. You fail because you cannot see beyond ur hate and myopic nature. You fail because u cannot think strategically. You fail because you think you knw, yet very foolish.

Did i mention anything about licking a*ss? YOU DISGUST ME! Mark my words this day, except the igbo man start being strategic and plan beyond their greed and foolishness, these same "cattle rearers" will continue to rule you.

#to the sensible once.....I repeat, strategic scheming, no permanent friend, no permanent enemies. Just permanent interest, interests that need to be represented strongly in every political party. A strong igbo caucus in every political party in Nigeria. Not running away when it gets hot. Know which region to align with and when to align, and all the time staying focused on ur goal.

But then again, who am i kidding? its not just in the Igbo mans nature. After all, every man in the east must have some funny title and wear some red cap.

PS: The moment you begin to look down on anybody or any region, or underestimate them, is the moment you begin to fail.

Prowizy2: One week!!

hahaha... WORD!!
I mean, no matter how pretty the girl is..... except you just looking to score. For any serious relationship, 1 week might even be too long. The lady need to meet the guy half way, then it shld be taken frm there

first of.... let me say i respect all Igbos and what they represent. ( I am actually Igbo frm my mothers side).

But Igbos can be silly, greedy and unnecessarily myopic a times. Which explains why we might not have an Igbo president anytime in the nearest future. Igbos must learn to be more strategic. No one is going to hand them the presidency. Y'all have to fight for it. Only way to do that is to be more strategic. An igbo man was amongst the founding fathers of PDP, but today they more like strangers in that party. They foolishly formed APGA, and made it a regional party. No regional party can ever win a presidential election in this country.

Criminal as Tinubu cld be, he is a good strategist and knows that ACN cld never be a party at the centre so long as they are a regional party, hence their merger with CPC.

Hypothetically, If APC wins the presidency 2015 or 2019, which strong Igbo man is in that party. That means the beginning of another long era of no presidency for the Igbo.

Common sense shld have told the Igbos that they need a very strong representation in the newly formed party, Just incase the party becomes a force to recon with. Even if it means "sacrificing" some strong PDP or APGA members. Its all about strategising and learning to be at the right place at the right time. The foolish Igbos are busy insulting the new party, without knowing what the future holds. You can always give it to the SW, they know how to adapt well and get what they want.

Do not alienate urselves frm any new movement, have some strong representation there, If it fails, y'all still have ur guys back and if it succeeds, you guys get to gain. But never never never align only with one party and hope to be handed the presidency at ur time. Y'all will just keep being f**ked over.

so... I am a 30yrs old guy, quite good looking, got a good job, comfortable, straight and single. Recently, i have been doing some self appraisal as to why i am still single (boring summer break, away frm school work has its issues..lol). I find that i am not a love-dovie kind of guy. I just am more of a 'reason' dude.

my major consign tho is, i think, i just hate drama that comes with ladies playing hard to get. i feel relationships shldnt be a favour (to either party). I feel it shld be give and take. To put in perspective, my last GF, i just asked her straight up.... Do you think we cld start a relationship (we were already friends tho) ... and she said, yeah, lets give it a try. And that was it.

I generally ask girls i like to, say... let me take you to the movie, or you care to hangout smtime? most of them say yes, but keep doing this annoying thing of either postponing (something came up) or just pretend they forgot. My answer is usually, whenever you ready u just give me a call, and then i never ask again. I hv been recently made to understand that some of them dnt like to just look cheap, desperate or something like that. Another example; i was given some lady's contact, i just asked her.... do you want us to maybe get to knw each other better? she said yes, then i suggested she got Skype so we cld talk whenever (we about 7 time zones apart). She agreed but never did. After asking 2ice, i just stopped contacting her.

Problem is, my brain dnt really think like that, i feel you either want to, or dnt want to. I dnt believe in the "in-betweens". I tell a girl, i like you, she says ehmm, she doesn't think so, or she wants to think about it, and i just walk away. I do not chase after her.

Does this happen to just me, or it happens to you guys too. So, to the question.....

HOW LONG IS LONG ENOUGH TO CHASE AFTER A LADY?

the.. "i beg you in the name of God" got me cracking. when it comes to stuff like that, as much as i believe in miracles, i personally find it weird when pple do that, maybe i am not just emotional like that. its either right or wrong. Just say the f**king truth.

As an advice tho..... always have plan A, B, C and possibly D. Be it in an interview/job hunt, ur job, visa application.... whatever. It really simple. Just ask urself, if this venture doesn't fall through, what am i falling back to?

I think i am a blend of passive and mysterious, I hate noise and disturbance. I stay in doors a lot. I once didn't come out of the house for 1 week, my car was just parked in. My neighbour and his wife came to ask me what was wrong. lol

I guess i will be called that crazy neighbour that always has light (yet no generator, hahah), rarely comes out or fraternises, He pays his bills on time. Once in a while, a taxi drops or picks a pretty girl from his apartment.

Anyways, incase my neighbours are reading this.... i use an inverter, i like pretty girls and read a lot (whatever, frm the noodles pack to novels to textbooks) oh... and i watch movies a lot too.

My neighbours.... i really dnt know much about them. A medical doctor with his pretty wife, a single estate surveyor with his live in gf, a telco dude with his new wife, a guy with his banker wife (all info i got when i first moved in). I think they all generally passive tho..... at least to me

Curlieweed: The more important question is "why do Nigerians care so much about what CNN reports about us"? I personally think it's irrelevant. We don't need CNN to validate us.

Thnk you very much. A good thing can not be hidden for long. If Nigeria is really growing or when she grows, the media wld find their way here.

But having an entitled mentality aint going to help us.

Ps.. good news dnt sell.

Lets just hv a better Nigeria, let our pple stop running away and flooding other countries and then, who gives a f**k about some damn media?... they wld come running to cover.

.. and you believe all those nonsense? Granted, the universe works in mysterious ways.. but I beleve, the first rule is "action begets equal reaction" efforts begets equivalent result.

Other rules form and constitute the exceptions, but rule 1 is default state. So.. if the super eagles dnt prepear well... if Nigeria dnt plan well, we shall havest loses and failures... shikena!!

I keep saying this..... For every boko haram member caught or killed, 3 more are born. Without fear of sounding ethnic, if anbody here have ever gone kano and beyond I think you will appreciate what I am saying more.

To the average (below average actually.. I mean the thousands of jobless, uneducated ones down there), Nigeria, spare headed by a christian southerner is waging a war against them. This is made worst when any of their family member is killed. Many of them on the streets there are not as info savy like the southerner or easterner on the street.

I schooled and served up north, and I knw hw info travel down there. Talk to a shoe shinner or a mai barrow or a mai reke (ready BH soldiers). Just ask about what he knws abt current issues in Nigeria and you will be dumbfounded.

A 30yrs old agbero in lagos got nothin on a 12 yrs old hausa street kid. Those guys are fearless. How else do yall think they can be guards so well or take care of their cattles in the forest.

Dnt get me wrong, the educated and informed ones are solid and intelligent. But for every empowered northern youth, you can find 30 to 50 street guys.

So, here is my solution.

Start with bbc hausa service, set up local radio stations. Share out small radios (most already hv anyways), Nigeria needs to communicate to them, and in hausa. Every one there shld hv access to information and not just what their local imam or village champ tells them.

Fg shld get a couple of religious leaders that wld constantly be on the radio communicating with them. WE NEED, AS A MATTER OF URGENCY CUT OFF THEIR MANPOWER SUPPLY. This is only possible, not by force or by millitary might, but by informing them.

After that, then the real rehabilitation can start. We start empowering the average man on the street up there. We set up free viewing centers, we need to bring them back to the fold.

#nof-said

.. so, asking for opinions.... I think the state of Nigeria football is so so similar to that of our nation.

1stoff... I am as patriotic as we come these days, But what, in the name of all that is holy has the super eagles been playing for close to a last decade?

We didnt deserve the round of 16 nor did we deserve the AFCON. There is just how far luck, chance and happenstance can take one befor it all comes crashing down.

Nigeria as a nation is just same way. We dnt plan, we dnt strategize... we just sit and tell ourselves to pray and hope everything will be all right.

So.. pple, whatcha think? Lets draw some comparison, just trying to make sure I aint seeing or thinking crazy.

Lets hear suggestions on what cld be done to move us forward, even if its for the fun of it.