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GoldenJAT:
Not all fathers are rational o!

That is no reason to assume this father is not rational.

Satanisreal:
Things ain't easy at all

I get you, man. Please forgive me for borrowing your post for here without informing you.

Personally, I would advise you to leave your uncle's house and go stand on your own. He owes you nothing, especially not the pain he seems to be causing you, and you owe him nothing at all.

GoldenJAT:
All may not turn out the way yours turned out. In some cases such as what is playing out now. The end game may not be for the benefit of the Young Man, but rather it is 2 frustrate him.

First, I do not feel insulted by you. You have in no way insulted me, and I hope I have not insulted you.

A rational father does not frustrate his son. If a father frustrates his son, the son might sell the father's house from right under the father's ass! That is what I might have dieone if my own parents had frustrated me.

That's not to say I was not frustrated, mind. Danfo stopping on your 10 year old foot while you are trying to collect your 50 kobo for a canned coke you sold to a passenger in it will very easily frustrate anyone , especially if the danfo drives off before you collect your money.

This son should wise up instead of getting his friend to come here to cry over his 'frustration'!

kenzysmith:
I smell lies here

You must be smelling yourself thinking everyone is like you.

Here's one to show you how hard life can become if you have not learnt to stand on your own two feet.

The entitlers here can preach the gospel of entitlement. I can't because I'm currently banned in Family.

Satanisreal: Being the first son out of six kids is challenging as there's a lot of expectations and it's draining me.
My parents really made things soft for us while growing up not until my dad feel sick and everything turned bad. I quickly realized things and kicked up hustling when I moved in with my uncle. This uncle of mine pays my fees and I work for him, but he's a very difficult person and no one stays with him for a long time even his wife couldn't. Having noticed that, I try as much as possible to please him but he keeps maltreating me so I deviced means to earn cos being wholely dependent on him will aggravate things for me. His wife is a very good person I look unto whenever I need certain things, this man changed totally during the lockdown and kept on accusing me of stealing his stuffs (Not money) even to the extent of taking me to the police, all these things began after some of his workers moved into his house where we reside, sometimes he'll tell his wife not to give me food for no plain reason. I overlooked these things but it was killing me inside, it really affected me because I'm a very calm person who likes to mind his biz and for sometime I was depressed and totally disappointed that my uncle would be doing this to me. I remember how he'll be telling me my father trained all of them (5) except him being the last born in school and therefore he owes no one nothing.
Last year I was able to get something doing while I work for him and it gave me some money that I was using to support my family and complete all my fees upon resumption. I later got some more cash and foolishly went to him to seek advice on what I can start up with it, couldn't detect the fact that he wasn't happy with that. To cut it short, the business crashed while I was at school and he promised to repay me.
Now I'm back to square one and currently on 6 months IT leave from school, when I came back to his house, things did not change instead it got worse so I quickly had to find something doing so I could leave. I used to model and do graphics designs and was also learning web development combined with Cloud computing but this man took my system and promised to fix it along with his when it spoilt but I've not seen it till date. A friend of mine whom I helped last year remembered me and asked me to come over to his place and I've been there now for a month trying to sort out things for my self but it's not working out and I don't seem to like this condition I find myself in.
I'll be 19 by December and also a graduate next year, I don't have anything to show for it, even my next school fee I don't know where it'll come from, my mother on her own wants us to go back to her country and I've been begging her to reconsider it. All my mates willing to help me big at the moment indulge in fraud and I can't bear the thought of going illegal. I did not offend anybody, I'm not a bad person, just trying to better my life and these things ain't working out it's frustrating.
I really need your advice cos for the past few weeks I can't get myself just been thinking about my next move and my future in general cos it seems I've been disappointed by my Uncle whom I believed in so much to help me.

https://www.nairaland.com/6786048/need-lifes-getting-messed-up

Kobojunkie:
Beg the father for what? At 29 years of age?

I wonder! Is 29 years of age not old enough for him to go stand on his own two feet already?

kenzysmith:
asking d mum is enough , asking the guy is enough , even asking is younger brother is enough is Dad is a wicked man who just want to make his son a laughing stock

And why? Dare I ask.

GoldenJAT:
That wasn't insinuated anywhere in the write up!

Quite a lot has not been insinuated in this thread, but none of that seems to stop you all insinuating the father is wicked!

kenzysmith:
sin as how what offence has he committed is only offence is not been smart and man enough to face is wicked father, u re talking like this because u came from a reached background don't compared it upbringing with this young man whose harsh father has dent is confidence to me this guy is responsible to even go n work if na some mad children they for done sell their papa 2 cars carry d money fly out

That is your uninformed opinion. When you've bothered to ask the father why he treats his son the way he does, come here and update us with informed facts instead of your uninformed opinion.

GoldenJAT:
And your children should and must likely toil day and night as well? In your case,your parents weren't buoyant and so u had 2 toil the way u did. And why was it your own mum that had 2 work hard 2 fund the education of her elder brothers as you Said. Why didn't they toil as men?
You had nothing 2 inherit and as such common sense demands you hustle hard.

First, since my parents have quite a few properties all over the world, I do have a lot to inherit, though I do not base my future on any of it since I have managed to accumulate quite a lot more with the education my parents have already given to me. Besides, my mother is a very generous woman and has given some of what I might have inherited, including a house I carried blocks to help her build, to those who are less fortunate that I am. We have been brought up to be generous like that, and give to the hardworking.

Siblings toiling for the education of their older siblings was very common in the day of my parents when one child out of many was sent to school. My siblings did not have to toil for my education as I toiled for some of it myself and partly for their's too as their older sibling. And since I did not toil day and night, why, pray tell, should I require my own children to toil at all apart from in their books? Or have you not heard the prayer that one's children not go through what one went through?

This father is choosing to further educate his son how he wishes too, and anyone who does not like it should go and force the father to give the child more or hug a transformer. I doubt the father gives a flying fuq what anyone here thinks.

kenzysmith:
oga the person said maybe he squandered 3 million and I said d father has not given him shishi

I guess you have your own understanding of "d father has not given him shishi".

Those who are not grateful for the little do not deserve the plenty.

budaatum:
Your story is becoming rather inconsistent. So far you've told us the father fed him all his life, the father housed him all his life, the father paid for his HND, the father gives him ₦2k, the father gives him ₦4k, but you now want to tell us "This guy Father has not given him shishi"!

Are you sure you are not just crying someone else's tears?

Amatarasha:
you are not wise actually for saying all this ,
Y will u say I am seeking attention all along by trying to pacify u when I know u are confusion made flesh, is all my fault for trying not to make u angry nonsense

U have a way of rapping us all in confusion , with this I withdraw my accolades on u because you are just another dull headed, bookwarmed, slow talking negronextdoor
Middlefinger assbuda

Try to be responsible for yourself and admit you want to irresponsibly blame your confusion on buda.

It will be the beginning of you freeing yourself from your mental slavery.

Amatarasha:
You bloody atheist get behind me .
I don't trust atheists ,give them plates of yam pottage and they sing to 3rd heavens
Hellvictorinho and sonmvayina is right about u .

Not that I require your trust or anything, but did you miss the word "was"?

Open your eyes and pay very close attention please or you will not see buda!

GoldenJAT:
So where should the Fortune go to?

Who's fortune? Why don't we let this person's father die first before you start sqandering his fortune?

GoldenJAT:
With all honesty! You will be a very wicked fellow! To suffer na sweet thing?

If you don't want to suffer don't you think you ought to get off your ass and work for your daily bread instead of feeling entitled to reap where you have not sown?

GoldenJAT:
In your time u Said!! A whole lot of things has
and had changed. How about I said our parents had it easier than what it is now! So allowing ur very first born 2 suffer is what makes a child turn out okay? What happened 2 close mentoring and nurturing?
And about the 2k u kept hammering on,does that look tangible in anyway 2u? He works! And how much is he being paid?
I bet you! You won't subject ur son/children 2 such. Some of our parents may not survive what this generation has survived, based on the current situation of the country.
Make that manchi ask questions about his biological parents jare! And I stand on my earlier statement, NOT ALL RACE ARE MEANT TO BE RUN! UNLESS OUR PARENTS DIDN'T RUN THEIRS WELL.

My parents had it much harder than I did! My mother worked to fund the education of her older brothers. My father paid for his own education because his father would rather have him working in his farm to feed his 13 wives and numerous children! I myself began earning at age 6, first selling oranges, and later cocacola and eggs at Lagos-Ibadan tollgate. I even had to carry blocks to build my mother's first house, but none of that gives me a sense of entitlement to my parent's property, nor do I believe anyone is born to suffer since my life and my future is in my own hands to make of it what I wish, and have!

My mother will tell you that Agboju logun fi ara re fun osi ta. Whoever hopes on inheritance exposes himself to poverty. It has inspired me to stand on my own two feet instead of feeling entitled to that which I never worked for, and I must say, I am much better off for it. And I am my parent's first born!

Apparently.

Amatarasha:
You are right all along and i admire your wisdom ...

You have a very confused way of showing what you admire, by the way. A person of lesser intellect would be in a mudslinging match with you by now.

Thankfully, I was aware you were seeking attention. Its what is done by those who are too timid to state their mind.

Amatarasha:
You are right all along and i admire your wisdom but I don't enjoy watching few African brain users argue amongst themselves , it makes me sick , that's y I am always after u and as for those confused African atheists who always poke u to argument like hellvictorinho n co I will deal with them soon
Those energies reserve it to sensitize slaves like jesusjnr2020 nnamdiosu charlesgi and righteousness01 their comments makes me puke.

You are not the god of buda, Amatarasha, so what you like or dislike is hardly of concern to buda. And if you had been watching buda as you claimed, you'd know that buda was an atheist - not the 'believing Gods do not exist' type, but the type who 'knows Gods are the figment of the imagination' type - till only a couple of years ago when buda decided to create figments of the imagination inside the mind of buda.

Hence, Jesus is Lord, Muhammed is a Prophet and there are as many Gods as we humans can create in our minds.

You will not understand the above, but we'll see if you want to. Nor are you aware of the history buda has with those you mentioned, lol, which you can easily solve with a search.

kenzysmith:
This guy Father has not given him shishi ....

Your story is becoming rather inconsistent. So far you've told us the father fed him all his life, the father housed him all his life, the father paid for his HND, the father gives him ₦2k, the father gives him ₦4k, but you now want to tell us "This guy Father has not given him shishi"!

Are you sure you are not just crying someone else's tears?

kenzysmith:
is mother told him not to tell his dad because if he do is father will want to help him again and d 2k per week won't be giving to him again

So, the father wants the son's help but the son does not want to help the father, and decides to be dishonest instead? Interesting!

Silly son, is what I think, and very similar to a [url=https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%2015%3A11-32&version=NIV]Prodigal Son[/url] that many of us have read about. Or is the ₦15k plus ₦4k his father gives him not the same as "filling his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating"?

When the son comes to his senses, he too will likely "set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’"

Please make sure you update us then.

BKsoul:
If you were a little bit wise, you would know that you are talking in the bladderdash.... can't you see how many people that is against your opinion? That is supposed to let you know how trashy your input sounds, but like the unwise man that you are, you still dey argue... A WISE MAN KNOWS WHEN TO STOP ARGUING.... sweet heart ba ilakaye...pele dear.

Did someone tell you wisdom is indicated by the number of people who agree with you? It would explain why you think you are talking sense. Lol.

Nadaken:
shut up

If Fulani Buhari and his cow cjn didn't create the hope uzodinma remote control diaster the state was at peace

Come and shut buda up if you are intelligent enough.

Meanwhile see cow!

https://www.nairaland.com/6785905/owerri-school-children-run-helter

Depressed101:
they brought kids to this word without their permission, they are responsible for their all round well being until they are old and can't feed themselves

Is that what you tell you own father? What does he say when you tell him that?

Is an HND educated child not old enough to feed themselves?

BKsoul:
You are talking in the nonsense...

That which is beyond your level must be nonsense to you.

As a wise man once said: "This is why I speak to them in parables: “Though seeing, they do not see; though hearing, they do not hear or understand".

You really need to learn to stop making things up in your head and believing it. Religious people make up gods in their head and claim it is real but sensible people will say they are deluding themselves. buda is not angry Amatarasha. You don't have sufficient powers nor abilities to affect buda's serene mood.

Amatarasha:
Great buda is angry Friend I'm so sorry just that I have been tracking u for ages , all because I need some wise comments OK

@buda in that case of sonmvayina as a wise being u shud know we have 100 definitions on religion , don't make him feel stupid but tell him u have another definition thats how great people grow , by learning from lesser bEings

Don't be upset ,we are one

Yes, religion has many definitions depending on who's defining. Only ignorant people claim their religion, or gods for that matter, is the only one, when it is obvious that every human being creates their own and no two are the same even if they start from the same image.

buda is pleased at you for using your brain and mind. As for how son looks, son does not need my help since he is more than capable of feeling whatever he feels all by himself.

Bluezy13:
Think straight.
It is not about inheritance.
It is about welfare.
There are many children who do not give a fvck about inheritance. Just do what any average parents is supposed to do to their children. It is called obligations

So, in your own opinion, your parents are obligated to hand over the fruits of their labour to you before they die, on top of all the feeding and education and a roof over your head and the welfare they gave you from the day you were born?

I guess your sense of entitlement is what you call "think straight". Some who "think straight" like you do kill their parents too.

GoldenJAT:
We don't run all the race in the world. Some races had been ran by our parents.
There is more to this though!

What race is this son running that his father should have run for him? How much rent is this s son paying for the free accomodation his father is providing plus the 2k he gives him on top?

God, this generation has really degenerated! In my time, your first salary is given to your parents in appreciation of them getting you so far. This son earns ₦15k and swindles the father an extra 2k and the father doesn't even know his son has a job! What a very dishonest son! When the father finds out his son lied, I hope he extends his apprenticeship!

kenzysmith:
his father does not kW he is working he lives at the hotel what kind of training is that. U think if the father die today d son won't sell off that hotel because he won't kW the value , forget some fathers are plain wicked

This is getting even worse than your initial narrative! Why does the father not know his son is working? Has the son not told his father he is working? If so, why not? And why is the son not working in his father's hotel? Is there no vacancy for toilet cleaner there?

Tell us, what has the son done that he and his father are not communicating?

Privatepart00:
The Dad Is Merely Training Him,you Don't Know More Than Him. Some People Can Destroy Anything They Lay Hands On.I Know What Happened Before My Dad Allowed Me Touch Either Of The Four Cars He Owned.I Am Sure The Question I Asked ,left Him In Shock.Still A Heir Here But My People Didnt Allow Me That Easy Life Just Like Your Friend Is Passing Through.

Could you tell these people if what your father did is of any benefit to you today please. Maybe what this father is doing will make more sense to them.

kenzysmith:
but a least the father could ve even give him like 3 million to start a business he is is ist son for crying out loud

We do not know the future plans of the father, nor the reason for the father's current action.

Who's to say the father has not already given this son ₦3m and the son squandered it, or that plan to gives his some the entire company when he retires and the son is more mature to run it?

Bluezy13:
This your mentality is the reason Africa is backward.

It is also the reason many countries are way far ahead of the Africa you claim is backward. In forward countries, fathers may get their sons to work at the bottom of their company so as to better understand how to run it. Some rich parents don't even plan to let their children inherit, but I guess to you they are the reason Africa is backward.


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