₦airaland Forum

IsraeliAIRFORCE:
The devil thinks he is winning. The church will neither retreat nor surrender.

What has the devil got to do with incompetent government?

axglide:
My pastor told me this past week about how God told him while he was worried about this Oyo state kidnapping saga where small children were abducted, and God said we Christians have forgotten our first love which is Christ Jesus and preaching the gospel, because if we have been evangelizing aggressively we would have reached all these bandits with the good news and these things would not be happening.

It’s as if these bandits have never heard the good news. Because how else will you explain such gruesome brutality of their ways.

These bandits have no single iota of conscience, beheading and severely torturing small kids; these are demonic monsters and playing a dark satanic agenda.

May God have mercy on all Christians and believers who are meant to be reaching the World for Christ but are just relaxing and enjoying the comfort of their Air conditioned large auditoriums Sunday in and Sunday out, going 1 whole year without even disciplining one single soul. May God have mercy on us all, Amen 🙏

So because Christians have slacked on evangelism, God allowed bandits to kidnap two years old children?

So God is now holding us accountable for the security issues in the country? Not the elected officials?

Must be the 'Nigerian' god.

dominique:
What if the wife is her father's replica both in looks and personality? No be one chance you don enter so?

I don't believe that the Nigerian government is this incompetent and do not understand the implication of this program.

I am more inclined to be believe that they are in cahoots with other governments involved in illegal mining on our soil.

10m plus votes for party primaries?

Arsenal: King of corner goal
Man City: King of late comebacks!

Congratulations Arsenal

Another way to drain Nigerians activated.

Sanwo Olu and by extention Tinubu are really living up the 'tax master' title.

I wonder how these people expect Nigerians to live on the minimum wage though.

As in a sitting president sued his cabinet and got settlement out of it?

Omo, Trump keeps pushing the boundaries of sanity.

femi4:
She cannot afford the shop

She's ungrateful

You must have a microscope to view her accounts.

Or you don't have women who are financially capable in your family.

GloriousGbola:
caught them doing what?

does shop have bed? will the woman be casually knacking her bf in the market where anyone who knows her or her husband can see whats going on? in this age of cameras? i think it is just an overly jealous husband who saw the wife with a man and reacted in a bizarre and foolish way.

these are the kind of people who will be coming to their wife office to fight with her boss or co worker

if there was a fire in the market and the wife and man died in the container what would he be saying next?

What will he say: The devil made him do it

You remind me of a customer we had. Their service had issues so my colleague (male) was managing her and when the issue was resolved, he processed her service credit and sent to her.

Her husband called this colleague racking and sent stinkers. It was messy that Legal had to step in.

In all this brouhaha, my colleague never met her physically.

In addition to the madness, it made the wife (pregnant then) an object of pity. We gathered that she resigned shortly after.

CorperKola:
No be atm with phallus wey fit impregnate you you sef dey find

I make my own money, dildos will probably do a better job and sperm banks abound in Nigeria.

The return on investment on an entanglement with the financial sperm donor you mentioned above is a negative for me.

And I do not dabble in unprofitable ventures.

Hangulsaram:
My Sister ask them oo, the kind of people we have in this country and how they reason sometimes confuses me.

Don't be confused

Some have read my post and inferred that I support the wife's alleged adultery.

Crazy lots

JASONjnr:
Yes and I am a friend to this man......

You are a friend to a man who raped his daughter and forced her to have his kids.

Show me your friend and.....

Jman06:
Overpopulation is not an issue in southern Nigeria, if you talk about the north, I'll agree with you. Down south, we have alot of impediments to marriage and childbearing compared to the conservative north.

More southern ladies are and would remain unmarried for life due to the fact that we embrace western lifestyles and copy what they do. Empowering women through education and employment is the greatest impediment to marriage because despite being empowered economically, these women still hold tight to the traditional gender roles in marriage and seek to marry men who are richer than them. They forget that the traditional gender roles were created with the mindset that women would remain in the kitchen and homefront while the man provides.

When you say South, I hope you don't mean Yorubas and the Efiks.

Because Yoruba families do not even practice male sole provider; they don't believe in it. Same with awon AKS dem dem.

Perhaps you are talking of older Igbo families.

Jman06:
1. It is the education and empowerment of women that caused the fall of marriage! To put things right again requires that men and women either go back to the traditional system of marriage where the man is the head and provides for the family and woman submits and does her wifely duties in kitchen and the other room, OR, if we want to embrace marriage as a partnership built on gender equality, then the both genders should sincerely and intentionally agree to jettison traditional gender roles and work as equal partners.

2. This entails that women must stop expecting men to provide for them and the family while men should also agree to join hands with their wives in doing chores in the home. Women should also stop the attitude of "his money is our money while my own money is for me alone".
If the above can be done, we'll be able to get marriage right on track.

1. That door has bolted. Never in the world again will men have that collective power to oppress women like it was done in the past. Slavery might come first sef with the way Trump is moving mad.

2. Male provision is a largely a myth. Only very few men can fully and solely provide for a family. And only fewer are will to without treating the family like his personal slaves.

Anfieldboss:
1. It takes two to make a marriage work.

2. You seem to absolve women completely of the rate of failing marriages nowadays.

3. As much as men contribute to marriage failing, women also do too.

1. I agree.

2. Completely, no.

3. The husband is the leader of the home. The family dances to whatever tune he plays. I however agree that there are a few exceptions.

tragergeorge:
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you were Makin sense till you made mention of abroad cloths new cos twas washed with machine,, that's a big fat lie

those clothes was new cos it was washed the right way plus fair weather plays major role and many at times each weather change they go for something new that suits the weather (getting cloths it's not a big deal there)...
show a cloth where machine only was written
there's are lot of cloths labels that carries hand wash or the machine logo striked out...
especially t-shirts...
washing machine makes washing faster easier neater economical, cleaner

BUT NEVER EVER MAKES CLOTHS LAST LONGER...

and I'm not saying it destroy cloths,, but it destroys T-shirts labelled hand wash only

Why would you wash an item labelled hand wash only with a machine?

Do you think a washing machine automatically infers never washing with hands?

sparko1:
There's one little point you are missing, marriage doesn't favor a man, there is nothing to gain, everything that is provided can be gained without marriage.

Besides, marriage is overrated, we have enough population already.

A man who thinks there is nothing to gain shouldn't get married; a woman who doesn't understand the work required of her in marriage shouldn't either.

Whilst both parties won't have the full picture before their 1st marriage, they must have an idea.

That lack of favour in marriage for men is the reason they can't wait to remarry after widowhood or divorce despite having a 'pass' to have sex outside the martial union.

DMCA:
bukatyne u are alive?
I thought u died

I will not die but live to declare God's glory in the land of the living.

And if you don't like that, you will go in my stead.

Oche0001:
Don't assume men.. don't want to move high to their wife demand cos of ego..

Your first story is popular or common..but your conclusion is not always the case..what if they moved to the bigger apartment, how about sustainaance..do you think the woman can keep up even with her own share of financial responsibilities with complaints and excuses for long?

And when a woman enter the point of complaining the bond don break be that..na issue and wahala till the end.. nothing fit solve am

If a man brings other things to the marriage apart from money, a woman who marries a man below her tax bracket will be fine with it.

Discountsempai:
LOL...at washing machine is for lazy women

The thing is, it is not all the clothes we wear that should be washed by hand, some need to be washed in a washing machine.

The reason why many second had clothes that are imported from abroad look 'very new' is because they were washed in a washing machine based on the clothes label instruction which means that they last longer per wash. Doing it with hand only makes them deteriorate faster.

Perhaps when men realize that washing machine = less money spent on buying clothes, dem go reason am

Trust me, the men with that mentality don't think that far.

'Shop that the man paid for, women are evil'.

1. Nowhere did the article state that the husband paid for the shop

2. Is the issue that the husband paid for the shop or the wife committed adultery? If she paid for the shop herself, would the situation be OK?

Na wa!

More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

Shared love for Nigeria?

Same madam Kemi?

Anyways, may God console and comfort all that her father left behind. Amen.

If men are ready to do the inner work required, marriage stats will improve.

Generally, men and women still need companionship, sex without guilt, children, community etc.

However, women have realized that financial provision or the promise of it is not worth the investment of a bad marriage.

So till men change emass, we are where we are.

Re hypergamy: it is not sustainable long term.

As soon as the women in the countries attracting passport bros see what befell their mothers and grandmothers due to lack of personal funds, they will stop hunting 'just a rich man' and start to look for character and compatibility. I also think that men are projecting hypergamy more than it is important for women because it absorbs men of character building. Why do I have to be a likeable man when all I need to have is some form of resources?

I look around my circle and most of us married men we grew with at work (starting out careers with) or as far back as university. In university, two set of couples got married in same level, same unit (in a pool of 80 people; some older ones were married). The 3rd one didn't happen because the guy didn't want an 'ambitious' woman.

The irony is that the kind of atmosphere men want in marriage is possible..... if they are willing to emotionally invest in it.

pocohantas:
Thank you, Buka!
I am happy even the preachers are beginning to see through the charade. Every single NL male who has tried to shame me with marriage, I have seen their comments talking of how they fck around, cheat, do not provide...etc. One said men should treat women like Urhobo men. Impregnate them and leave them to hustle for the kids. These are the men that want me to lose sleep over their dislike, as I like suffer na.

An average man believes that 'marriage' is a woman's highest achievement or the best honor a man can bestow on a woman.

So they believe that a neglected & abused wife is in a 'better position' or standing than a pampered sidechic.

One would think that with the 'premium' the place on marriage, they will come correct.

But mbanu.

I am happy with the women in this generation: I am tired of marriage horror stories the women can't walk away from.

Gerrard59:
A lot of Nigerian netizens are illierates! I even saw some stated that "dem go send am to her papa house". On average, most of these women are comfortable and rent and own properties. There are several studies (from around the world) to prove that today's women have changed significantly. Money changes people, and these women have a lot of it. So, what their mothers tolerated, they won't. That is the power of financial independence. One has the power to say no or yes at his/her will. They remain single for life (single women do better than single men in the long run). They have been sexually liberated. They can relocate elsewhere. So, this belief that financially independent women cannot choose to go against entrenched norms is baffling. Divorce rates have increased. More women are remaining single and childless.

Maybe it is the women they associate with, because what I read is something else.

The worst part is young men who are struggling mocking well off women online. Tinubu should do something about the Nigerian economy, biko.

It can only be the women they relate with.

If a man grew up around women like late Dora Akunyili or Ibukun Awosika, he will understand that women work, earn, make loads of money and can sufficiently support themselves.

pocohantas:
Money makes it easier to take major decisions. I see no reason to be dragging the (ex)husband upandan, and I am glad she didn't do that initially until she was forced to react. The kids from his previous marriage are more with their mum, the ones from 2nd wife, I am sure she would abscond with them. At 53, I wonder what is his next line of action.

Veey true about money.

I remember one of your posts that talks about the importance of a married woman having her own money.

Women underestimate the importance of having personal money in marriage. That's why I chuckle when ladies say 'I want to marry so that I will stop paying bills'

53 is still his prime na.