Idaytesj29:


Who told her we want kids? With all these wahalas, let's dissolve everything. Return our sperm, take your eggs. We dey do again. Make everyone go their separate ways. Our peace of mind and personal space as a man now very important.

Women wahala and lack of appreciation is too much. They only need us to foot their bills. That's why when they have no need for your financial backing, no matter how sweet you are, you go collect.

They are loyal to their emotions and this emotions is highly erratically unstable. Men run oooo.

@bold:

That is for a man whose only value is money.

No character, no fidelity, no emotional support, no contribution to raising the kids, no sexual fulfillment, no social connection, no affection etc.

Some women a single married women that if they can make up the money their husbands provide, they would very fine on their own.

Women who can fund themselves get married. The question is why?

76RebelMoney:

Sister,leave them.
Men now are becoming crybabies.
Women do painful stuff to men.
Men do likewise.

I thought women were the only devil's.

But again, the thread sounds like a whinning outlet for men.

If it is therapeutic and makes them feel heard, we are happy to oblige.

76RebelMoney:

I'm not pushing anyone to get married but my annoyance is that men will live reckless lives,sleep with many women before they get married, not mend their character, not work on themselves deliberately and see how to improve their personality and way of life and yet when they get married,they start complaining that things aren't going well. They look at women as the problem,which is true many times but they forget that they have themselves to work on first.

76RebelMoney:


Why won't you get problems when you get married if a little thing such as what I typed ticked you off like this?
To unnecessarily insult someone?
you won't have a great marriage or your marriage would probably be a rocky one if you continue like this.
Mend your character, change your way of life,accept Christ as lord and give your life to God and he will guide you with the wisdom and discernment necessary to lead a life that will make you know well enough for a good marriage.

livinbygrace:
That marriage is designed to favor women.To young men out there,dont ever rush into marriage and if you want to marry,marry someone that is supportive and comes from good family.
Dont ever marry liability,dont marry a jobless woman,dont marry out of pity.
If its not 60/40 forget it.
NO PITY IN MARRIAGE OO

I believe 60/40 is in terms in financials.

Do you also share the chores 60/40? Childcare 60/40? Running of the home 60/40?

Dshocker:


So indirectly you are confirming to us that women can be devils at times?

She is directly telling you that if you get a devil, then you molded her.

Well, only a devil can mold one innit?

BornToSucced:
This month is my one year wedding anniversary, and I feel i should share my experience thus far, especially for the benefits of other young guys who are eager to follow my path.

The summary of my advice is: what you get out of your marriage revolves around the kind of spouse you end up with. As they say, garbage in, garbage out.

In my case, I have no regret thus far. Sex is great: I sleep better and eat healthy now. No unnecessary spending of money on Lagos broke-ass slay queens. Overall, the benefits far outweigh the demerits.

However, to enjoy the listed benefits above, I have dedicated and sacrificed my time, and intentionally made every effort to ensure my marriage is not a living hell.

As a retired fuc*k boy, I can tell you for free, sleeping with countless women is a highway to the grave. There is nothing to gain in it, not even a trophy. I have been there, done 3sum, and done crazy stuff just for fun. As certificate of achievement, I bagged a Baby Mama

But nothing can be compared to the peace, love, and joy I now enjoy, through Christ who brought me out of darkness

Great Post!

I wish you more years of bliss!

Caleycash:
Rubbish Analogy... most women out there are manipulative and 419!, never seen any woman add any damn value to a man in reality, it's always give me and receiving, please stop posting lies and nonsense here!

Eyah! Sorry that
1. There is no woman of value in your lineage
2. You are so mentally poor that the only thing of value to you is money.

It is well with you.

komzy589:

9 out of 10 times, any man who’s desperately pushing for other men to get married is in a terrible marriage.

komzy589:

Stop kidding yourself and accepting vegetable status because you’re married.
Pride represents one’s dignity and self respect.
You lose your pride, you lose everything.

Does this also apply to women?

The poster said he knows his pride is a weakness; the Bible says 'pride goes before a fall'. Yet you want to help him justify pride.

Keep at it.

Taiwo20:
Freedom gone.

Stay safe and stay alive.

Freedom to do what exactly?

sweetkev:
But men are more afraid of the stigma the society would give them by remaining single for life. Only strong men don't care.

Men know that marriage (at least from a religious POV) is a system created for them.

That's why they whine & wail about it, complain that it doesn't favour them, whine how women are now useless.... yet would quickly remarry after a divorce or death.

emkz:
My submission is that some people are hyper-competitive in marriages without understanding that they are one. Other issues include finance (THE BIGGEST ISSUE), lack of understanding and lack of sensitivities to each other's needs; mutual disrespect, family interference, laxity (I don marry so no need to try again to renew our love), peer pressure, and lack of friendship.

I think there is no manual for marriage. The only thing I can ask is that the foundation must be strong, genuine and mutual. Then there must be a consciousness to put in the work to make it succeed.

UselessBuharist:


May be the OP had me in mind before making this post, the same thought was running through my head from last night till the minute I saw this post on front page.

Is marriage really for me? Dem never born the woman wey fit handle me, one mistake I just want to take a walk at that point I don’t care about my investment in the relationship, I won’t compromise my time for any woman, I believe money can solve anything, pride will never allow me say sorry if I’m wrong and for the same pride I don’t forgive misconduct in a relationship. I’ve trust issues and many more


I think I’ll be the problem in my marriage

Very great introspection.

If more people did this before marriage, we would have less problems in it.

gammarays:

In a real setting
Paulo should have been sacked long ago and Afam promoted
Paternity fraud is a great offense in Igboland. In reality Amaka would be a single mom.

Afam family will never allow the marriage to go ahead especially his mom and sisters 😊

Afam though good was a simp who lower their guild when they meet women.

How would they stop the marriage when they were already married for years?

Dinieoj:
The story was touching,but the producers would have pointed out reasons for Kanayo not settling Paulo before Afam, creating hatred and future enemy, the case of paternity fraud should have also been addressed, why taking someone else's son, what's the reason behind such ? Was it an Igbo culture or a personal decision? All these are begging for answers.

How would Afam realistically give up Lotanna?

Tell his family that the son he thought he had was his? Tell the community that his son disappeared? Except he was willing to make it public & end his marriage, there was nothing he could do which Paul leveraged.

IgweBUIKE1:
but odogwu was suppose to settle Paulo before afam, whether he is stealing or not, it is the amount given to him at settlement that will now send a message to Paulo, if he is a faithful servant or not, odogwu was to be blamed for how Paulo turn out

Not true.

Do you think Afam would have become a Paul if same thing happened to him?

VinnyBaba:


That's NOT what Joseph Benjamin said.

He said Nollywood was becoming fixated on TRIBAL/Ethnic movies such as Anikulakpo and others.

What is wrong with ethnic movies?

Isn't it a nice way to document and sell our culture?

I hope I see more of Afamefuna, Ankipulakpo, Laguna Jagun and the likes.

When those Igbo boys drag a person in the market or tell you their brother has what you are looking for, you remember Afamefuna & co and smile.

CADA:
This actually happened in my family. The 2 junior boys were settled before one of my dads manager who came before the two. Fhe manager felt bad and people even talked about it. But guess what, a manager is a manager for a reason, he was delayed for several things, he had traits other new guys can learn easily, his settlement package was being arrnaged in a big way.
He fumed as expected because he is human, but at the end, he was settled with a car, 1 20ft of used motorcycles(japan), cash and was connected to my dad's direct contacts in Japan.
Just under 3years, this guy BLOW..... built house in the Villa, lagos and my guy is doing VERY VERY VERY well.
There is always a reason for everything. Once a "boy" is good to his OGA, forget it, settlement go come! The money isn't always the thing, but the BLESSING. As the blessing make the boy enter the gas office and link with oga finds anytime anyday.

Interesting example.

From your experience, do you think Odogwu would have settled Paul nicely?

He was stealing from him & sleeping with his daughter.

Slytiger:

It's an interesting movie actually.

I have watched it & it is.

Roles well interpreted.

splmosixx:

You go see husband marry you with this vulgar language of yours...

What have you benefitted from the mineral resources even when the foreigners didn't mine....


ANUMPANA

Would you see a wife with your senselessness?

@bold: right back at you.

anungangampu:
I have come to understand that, there is no solution that can work 100% when it comes to how man should be treated and how a woman should be treated.
I always assume we all have something strong controlling us that hardly share same attributes. A man has a strong demi-influence over him which command respect whether he wants it or not.
A woman has her own which command love, care, empathy, beauty and comparison, no matter how poor or rich she is.

But just like everything God made in excess in our body such as the desire to eat, continue hair growth and continue urge to do things we are familiar with; I think same lies with this influence that comes from our subconscious; we have to tamper it and control it excess in order to live and survive with one another.

But as it stand it seems everyone is promoting their excess and why it all looks exploitive going into relationships nowaday.

I think and ideal relationships entails a man cutting down his ego or allowing so matters be from deep understanding, which also means a woman need to understand such a man and not see him as weak and something to treat faintly..

Then at the other side, A woman should know what is good for her and stop taking her list of demands from other girls and other women and stay true with what is affordable for her to look decent to her husband.

This stuff are not easy. One must go through a stage of defining one needs and wants very far from what the world want.
But the question is, how many people is ready to damn the world and live according to their divine needs ?


I still argue getting an older girl or older man is better as both has come to a point where they have defined their needs, but the problem is that most are just waiting till marriage before they roll out their demand.

@Bold:

So it is 'catch 22' suitation?

Mayflowa:


Next marriage in another life or this life? That means you must be gaining from marriage

Sounds like an interesting movie.

Saintmary:


If you follow gistlover, you will not be surprised about Eniola Ajao's tendencies towards LGBTQI stuff.

I see.

My last sentence most likely applies.

We don't need to know people's sexual orientation or affinity because of a movie launch.

Teymanhenry:

It's basic Economics bro.
If a trader buys a commodity (maggi) at N1000 and sells at N1,150. If he heard that the company has now increased its selling price to N1,400 cos of the current exchange rate. If the trader doesn't increase his current price to N1,550 or thereabout, how can the trader now go back to the company and buy new stock?

True

But when he heard that it is now N800, why didn't he reduce the price to N950?

Why is he bent on selling at N1,550 because he wants the naira gain to 'stabilize'? Why doesn't he display the same quick believe when things were getting worse now they are getting better?

I am not disputing your economics; I am saying that almost everyone consciously or unconsciously plays the game to favour them.

1Sharon:


Portable questioned why bobrisky won best female and that's how their argument started

Listen to portables diss track 🤣

I can imagine what he has to say if the track is as he looks.

zaynie:
Femi Adebayo is a very liberal Muslim and a typical "anywhere belle face".
He's also the brand ambassador for an alcoholic drink so time and time again, he has proven to only follow Islamic tenets that suit him.
He should be dragged more 😜😜😜

Bob on the other hand has no real talent nor skill, he thrives on controversies like these to get traffic on his social media channels which is used to woo businesses to advertise for them. Sometimes he goes out of his own way to concoct all these drama just to get people talking. It won't surprise me if this whole drama was his Idea in the first place.

@ he should be dragged more.

Perhaps this would make him reflect on his ethics.

Shim is indeed a drama kiween. The owner of the movie Eniola Ajao said it was 'their' idea.

Who the 'their' are, we might never know .

1Sharon:
I hope the women that have hyped and propped bobrisky up all these years have learnt from this event.

They supported him and he pays them back by taking food out of their mouth.

It is pathetic that most of his supporters are women.

Well, if he takes the food, he will still share it with them

As Poco said, he borrows them wigs so he needs money to buy more.

pocohantas:


The problem I identified is that they want to be seen as cool Christians. Inadvertently seeking validation from unbelievers. Which shouldn't be the case. I remember telling you how a post addressing the indecent dressing of Christian ladies is always faced with attacks of "allow us dress how we want". Direct same post to Muslim ladies and all they would ask for is Allah's guidance and grace to be steadfast.

The standard is dropping...

Dropping fast sadly.

Even more sadly, we have just begun.

Stumbled on a thread post yesterday that said 'one can be a Christian without believing in the redemptive work on the cross'. And I wonder what exactly is Christianity?

Did you hear about the Gen Z Bible? Where they are simping for God?

People; men and women abi boys and girls think this is a normal behaviour?

That a woman carried a baby for 9 months, experienced all sorts of bodily and emotional changes and cooks same day after giving birth?

Even our 'misogynistic' forefathers had 40 days of the woman not going out or doing anything apart from caring for the baby.

Even a maid wouldn't get home very late and you would expect her to cook for the people at home. How much more a woman who gave birth.

May I not live a life where I think I do not deserve rest (physically & emotionally) nor worthy to be cared for. Amen.