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Urgent1Million:
Married a king and gave birth to a king.
It's a celebration of a life well lived!
Let me wait the thread "ten things to know about the late Prof. Kamene Okonjo

Na wa!

Nothing about the woman herself. Just her roles!

It is a whole prof you are saying 'married a king and gave birth to a king'.

It is not the flex or praise you think it is.

Oxb90:
For being the mother of an world accomplished woman, she is really a blessed woman. May the good lord grant her soul an eternal rest. Amen.

She wasn't just the 'mother' of a world accomplished woman, she did very well for herself.

May God console the family for their loss.

Umahi is telling us Nigerians that the Lagos - Calabar coastal way costs N6b per kilometre.

As in N6,000,000,000 per km?

Even if he thinks we are stupid, shouldn't he treat us with a little dignity as 'co-Nigerians'

Anyways, I don't blame him. Scanning through this threads shows that people actually believe this is possible or makes any sense.

For context, 3rd Mainland Bridge in Lagos is ~11.8km; Lekki - Ikoyi link bridge is ~1.36km; the 1st River Niger bridge (over the water) is ~1.4km; Lekki Phase 1 - Epe is ~72km on Lekki - Epe Express Way.

It is well!

Lovelink1991:
She is looking for soft landing where she will not.be scrutinize. If they ban DNA we.ladies will jump from one bed to another with confidence

You mean the only reason you are not committing adultery is because of DNA test? Adultery doesn't always result in kids, you know?

You can carry on, don't just get pregnant.

BondRiv:
So cheating is now a competition? Always comparing themselves to men, but never willing to take responsibility. Anyone who wants to conduct a DNA test should do so.

Take responsibility for what?

Do you infer that once women are 'willing to take responsibility', it is ok to 'compare' themselves with men? Especially in terms of adultery?

We4all:
Nowadays, to find a man in Nigeria who is morally upright with a legit business is by connection.

People are going to blame her for visiting a man she met online.... But the truth is, the men online are not ghosts, but are the people we call neighbours, colleagues, friends, and brothers.

Interesting perspective

ebubeson:
It was prophesied that someone will betray Jesus. Judas finally betrayed Jesus Christ, but he never repented. Peter denied Jesus Christ, but came back to Christ and was accepted. Jesus Christ would have forgiven Judas if He repented.

No matter the sin you have committed against Jesus Christ, even if it is a betrayal, tell Jesus Christ to have mercy on you and forgive all your sins. He will forgive all your sins.

What sin have you committed? Adultery, masturbation, fornication, bestiality, murder, abortion, gay, hookup, lying, paternity fraud, lesbianism, yahoo yahoo, rituals, vodoo, juju, witchcraft, hatred, envy, malice, worldly dressing, forging certificate, bribery, gossip, rape etc. Tell Jesus to forgive you all your sins and repent never to go back again.

Well, Jesus prayed for Peter before he denied Him. He didn't pray for Judas.

That could be a pointer that there will be no opportunity for Judas to 'repent' and be forgiven.

Dtruthspeaker:
Not True.
JMatthew 27:3–5 but his grace had expired, so he God locked him out from God.

Same thing happened to Esau, Joseph, King Saul, Solomon etc

God's Mercy And Grace Has A Time Limit!

https://www.nairaland.com/8292342/gods-mercy-grace-time-limit#133280130

Who is Joseph?

I wonder what the whole jawjawing is about though.

I guess the men just want to talk.

In a patriarchal/ traditional society, a man doesn't approach a girl he can't afford.

That's why a gate man or junior staff wouldn't typically approach the boss.

If you operate a system where a man is considered the head and provider with the consequent trappings of the position, isn't it a win to go a woman who is much beneath you financially so that your two naira makes a whole lot of sense to her?

Abi you will for the one bigger than your pocket and still be claiming head and provider?

Na wa o.

Lamanii22:
Hello again everyone, I believe if the Nigerian govt offers help to its citizens maybe there wouldnt be much fraud cases and begging, I noticed in other countries their citizens gets help/benefits from their govt. I even googled govt benefit in Nigeria but couldn't find anything meaningful, we basically do things by ourselves, not even child support or monthly stipend. It's rather sad.

The first question is that - do we have a government in Nigeria?

Gbadugbakun:
‎One thing I believe men need to understand is that being in a relationship does not automatically make you financially responsible for another adult. Unfortunately, the culture of expecting men to provide everything, regardless of their financial capacity or the woman's own earning potential, is encouraged by men who fail to establish healthy boundaries.

‎Imagine a man earning 350k monthly who willingly gives his girlfriend 150k every month. That leaves him with 200k to cover his own needs, bills, savings, family responsibilities, and emergencies.
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‎Yet, tomorrow, the same woman would turn around and ask, What have you even done for me? simply because he refuses to continue spending beyond his means.
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‎I had the privilege of attending university, and from my experience, men and women pursue education, complete NYSC, compete for jobs, and build careers. In many workplaces, women are not only employed but also occupy significant leadership positions.
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‎Of course, opportunities are not always equal in every industry or circumstance. However, the reality is that many women have the capacity to earn, build businesses, develop careers, and become financially independent.
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‎So, if two adults are capable of working and earning an income, why should one person automatically bear the entire financial responsibility simply because they are the man in the relationship?
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‎Men need to understand that being a gentleman does not mean abandoning common sense. You can be loving, generous, supportive, and responsible without allowing someone to take your kindness for granted. There is a difference between willingly supporting your partner and being made to feel inadequate whenever you cannot provide money.
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‎Men, stop confusing financial sacrifice with proof of love. You do not have to impoverish yourself to prove that you care.
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‎Pay attention to her attitude towards money. Does she have personal goals? Is she making any effort to improve her circumstances? Does she appreciate your sacrifices? Can she contribute according to her ability, or does she believe your income automatically belongs to both of you while hers remains exclusively hers?
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‎These are important questions to ask before committing to a future together.

@ bold:

The same reason why two people have hands and same schedule yet only one people is expected to run the domestics and child care.

bentenny:
What’s the point of undergoing surgery for something you can achieve naturally through exercise at home or in the gym?

Gym can make you fit & toned; it cannot change your body structure/shape.

erad:
Nairaland keeps giving this misogynistic entity a platform.

But his views are the default.

And not just a Nigerian view, it is a general worldview.

He should carry in jare. If we don't give our own a platform, is it the Red Piller in New York that we should platform?

Igbophobia:
So women who provide something should do no chores?

malcom1X:
Lastly if you have the money buy washing machine. It will save you time and money. She won't need to get a house help because most of the things househelps do is washing clothes and it will help her to wash baby clothes too especially that early period. And it will also help you wash your clothes too.

Not big just 7kg washing machine of 100 and something thousand naira. On Jumia or so.

The wife wouldn't need a help because she has washing machine?

A new mom who works 9 to 5 outside the home?

Toor!

Robertgreene1:
Lol, l honestly don't even understand what you're talking about sir. So going with this your logic now, someone that hates you will be desperate to marry you, while someone that really loves you will be nonchalant about marrying you. Ie, That is, the person will be doing shakara for you and be playing hard to get (someone that really loves you oo) Lol, Intresting!!!

Marriage, sadly, is not a proof of love.

Note I did not say all married people don't love themselves or people in love don't get married.

Ojuntana:
If not that Africans seem to be cursed with greed and stupidity, this should be a veritable opportunity in terms of business and migration and even asset ownership but trust Africans not to be able to think beyond their stomachs.
Chinese are about the smartest people on Earth. Set up matchmaking agencies and see your Africans become part owners of the Chinese societies. Earn money hooking interested folks up with each other and help them arrange legal migration. With time, even China's policy on Africa will be forced to change! Things like visa on arrival will become possible. Even the security council seat your leaders are wailing for will get a backing from your in-laws
But Africans must turn everything to scam while their rotten leaders are asking for security council seats.
You can't provide technology for the world. You can't provide leadership. You can't ensure peace in the world. Even economy be zero. Oya provide women... As in common women o una still turn am to scam. Who cursed Africa?

That Stomach Infrastructure curse.....

Before anyone says it is poverty; it is greed and lack of foresight.

happney65:
The chinese Men no fit come nigeria themselves make them come see our women?

Beautiful sexy women of all sizes and shapes..

As in.

It's crazy.

With the level of 'influence' China has established in Africa, what stops them from going to an African country of choice and getting to choose women they know themselves?

If they want to try their luck in Africa, their government is socialist enough to run a one/two year sabbatical program so the men & women learn each other's cultural and personal expectations.

It is well with them.

pocohantas:
Women always looking for ways to console themselves with religion

Why na this blessed Sunday

When we were younger, women used to say God was unhappy when a woman was maltreated

All na consolation tactics.

Kendollar696:
God is everyone's Dad..
God loves us so much..
Boy, girl, man, woman...
It's not about being a boy's dad or girl's dad..
You're only placing God to suit your preference.
As a guy, do you know what God has done for me?
Provisions, protection, advise, counselling, cautioning, refreshing my thoughts and more.
God yields himself to anyone that yields themselves to him.
Even if you don't doesn't mean he doesn't too.
His Love is on a frequency we are still trying to understand.
God's Love is so beautiful and so good, that it brings tears to my eyes...

@bold:

EOD

When you work faster than your village people to do you.