I guess the girls are sleeping with themselves.

I wonder when men would wake up from their delusion that they cannot police women's sexual activities if:

1. They are not collectively ready to abstain or be sexually responsible
2. They are not ready to be homosexuals

Happy wailing

SweetDipBenny:
Why the Christian song

She wants to bridge the powers

Pojomojo:
Yes of course.

OK. Note that human beings are behind that 'fast' service and need to work round the clock to deliver that level of experience.

The places where workers take their time and not under pressure deliver poor service e.g. the Nigerian civil service.

Daviestunech:


Quite unfortunate.

Infact I just got a job on the island lekki to be precise .

I was told I will resume 8am ND close 5pm though I might work beyond that time in some cases.

Though the salary is better

I discussed with my friend if I can stay with him on the island and he gave me assurance .

I resumed yesterday at their branch at Glover road ikoyi

The hr explain somethings to me about lateness that 3k will b deducted if I come late ND so on.

Unfortunately my friend texted me that I can't stay again at his place because it was his company that provided the lodge and they won't allow another person to stay with him.

And mind you I stay on the mainland which I can't make it to lekki exactly 8am but 9am is still ok.

Moreover,I already packed my belongings inside my brother's car which I drove to ikoyi yesterday thinking after closing I will just drive down to my friend's place and return my brother's car on Sunday.

Immediately I got the update I went to the hr office yesterday and wanted to tell her the new challenges I'm having but she wasn't around I had to tell her assistant.

And if possible the organization has accomodation they can provide they should let me know.

Naso I left yesterday ooo.

Till now I haven't heard anything from them and no pressure about it.

Even though I have done all my documentation with them yesterday.

I can't kill myself 8am to 5pm
Monday till Saturday
No public holiday

@bold:

That is the red flag for you except they work in shifts.

ogawisdom:
Marriage is 50:50

Anything short of that you must totally submit to a man if he will be the sole provider.

Partial submission is allowed in a 50:50 marriage?

franchasofficia:
You are right, but then, you are a female, you will never understand the sexual pressure men experience when it comes to having multiple sex partners. Naturally, men have a default in that aspect but it can be controlled only through supernatural and divine intervention through strong adherence to spiritual guidelines and divine help, but if you think a man's desire to mate with more than one woman he finds sexually appealing can be controlled through self discipline and decision or for the love of the woman he is married to or dating, then you can go ahead and believe that.


I repeat, without spiritual/divine grace and strict adherence to spiritual guide and doctrines, no sexually active man can mate with just one woman for the rest of his lifetime, whether he loves the woman or not. Quote me anywhere, any time, any day

Then God must hate men because adultery leads to hell

franchasofficia:
Op you are right with some points and not entirely correct with some.


Men don't crave for honor, they want absolute respect from their wife. As a lady, respect your husband and he will cherish you, this can be called honor by some, but it all boils down to true and absolute respect.

If you want your husband to worship you and do whatever you ask, respect him, if possibly honor him if I am to borrow op's words. Stop dragging headship with your man, you are wonderfully made as a woman, you women are the flower of life, maintain your feminity, don't try to be a man.


As a man, whether you are living in Washington DC, London, Sydney, Cape Town, Seoul, Tokyo, Kingston or Casablanca, please if you want to enjoy your marriage and enjoy that natural respect from your wife, you must be ready to be the provider (financially, materially and otherwise). Don't copy western culture of sharing financial responsibilities 50-50 with your wife, if you do so, whatever you see in that marriage, take it and do not complain.


Women naturally are not created to provide, so in all your prayers as a man, always pray to God to keep you financially buoyant enough to take care of your family and manly responsibilities.


If your wife must come in, let it be partial contribution, don't mind all these small boys looking for a woman to cater for them, if you are a man, act like a man, provide for your family solely and let your wife assist when necessary and where necessary but don't ever share financial responsibilities equally with your wife if you want to enjoy your marriage. Take your eyes off from your wife's income.



Dear ladies, cheating is beyond every sexually active man's control. It is not as easy to control by men as it is for you ladies.

It is a natural fault. It is a natural flaw that only God understands. Don't divorce a good husband just because he cheated, don't judge a good man by his lack of sexual control, only the God that created him can judge him because he alone understands the battle he is facing in that aspect.

@bold:



Olorun daran!

If the mother was a witch to her, then she shouldn't have involved herself in the burial preparations.

Misappropriation of funds for burial is not the answer to an irresponsible mother*.

*irresponsible as opined by the girl.

excanny:


And you will be fine if someone forces you to sell below your cost price?

Artificial cost price and I am certain that my new cost price is way lower.

If I bought a good at Fx of N1,200, it is OK to increase the cost if I hear FX is now N1,600 because I would need more money to purchase same thing.

On the flip side, if I bought a good at FX of N1,600 and it is on a steady decline, I should reduce the cost to say N1,200 because I need less money purchase the good.

So in essence, I am not losing anything.

How can a good sell for N10,000 when FX was N1,900 (the lowest point) and start selling for N20,000 when FX is now N1,100 and you tell me that it was FX that made it increase in the first place?

What manner of witchcraft is that?

I would be more 'sympathetic' to traders (selling to consumers because B2B businesses are not this crazy) if they tell us the 'genuine' cause of the increase in the price of goods and services. The steady appreciation of the Naira not impacting the cost of goods shows that FX was never the problem.

Or FX was and the traders have decided to add witchcraft to it.

If you work, save up and move out.

Also forgive her for your sanity and in commandment to God's word.

Send something to her every month if you can afford it after moving out.

The end.

You are entitled to your preference.

The sin would be for you to see a babe on low cut, woo her and then insist she starts to make her hair in future.

Also let your babe know that low cut is a deal breaker for you so she doesn't conceive the thought in future.

Goodluck.

excanny:


And this makes sense to you?

Very very well.

The same sense it makes that traders cite naira depreciation as the cause of increase in the cost of their goods. The Naira has appreciated by about 50% yet the cost of goods is raising daily.

If it is their supplier who has refused to do the right thing, the affected stores would boycott them forcing the suppliers to do the right thing.

excanny:
So what are they going to do about inflation? It's still high up.

I heard in Ogun state, the govt has forced everyone to sell a bag of rice for N55k and those who refuse to comply forced to do so.

I hope that happens in Lagos and all over the country.

successmatters:
The main reason is media manipulation. people cannot still buy dollars at their advertised rates on government media.

There is now internet price and market price.

Not true.

GT Bank sold N1,100 on Friday

flokii:


Definitely price will fall.. the greedy, selfish and self-centered ones hoarding dollars with the hope that naira will continue to fall and prices of goods and commodities will rise so they can blackmail reasonable people that rejected their candidate in the 2023 elections will be put to shame.

I think the Federal Competition and Consumer Protection Commission (FCCPC) should be charged by the President to go after retailers and business owners who fail to reduce their prices nationwide in line with the FCCPC Act.

Prices of everything in this country will come down.. whoever isn't ready to comply should move his/her business out of Nigeria.

@bold:

I hope they do so soon and make solid examples of a few.

Stephaniegold:

But if I bought my goods on high side like 1650 , do you expect me to come and sell it cheap when it is now 1070 naira

And what is stopping you from selling it at a speculative rate of $1 = N1,200 since the Naira has been steadily appreciating since then? And selling it at N1,200 even if you bought it at N1,650 is not a loss because when you are going back to restock, it is N1,000.

When you bought your goods at $1 = N1,200 and heard that it became N1,600, why did you immediately increase the cost of the old stock? Why didn't you sell it at the old dollar rate till you go and restock?

You'll just prove our point: As greedy as our leaders.

PotatoSalad:

An economist knows that these things are temporary fixes. They're only buying time.
When they exhaust all the fixes, dollar will gradually go back to its original rate.
We need more industries, foreign investors and export. That's the only way to truly appreciate the Naira

Well considering that standard economics never worked in Nigeria, this 'temporary' fix might fix the issue permanently.

jayce232:

This is even the bigger problem & nobody is talking anything about it. They are all shouting dollar is falling for over a month now, but goods still keep increasing. Cement is still high & I'm very sure a lot of these increased product will never come down if govt don't take serious action. Dollar keep falling in the news, but things keep increasing in reality.

I honestly don't get!

The math is not mathing.

When they were increasing the prices, they said 'dollar was going up'. Ngwanu, dollar is coming down yet the prices are going up.

Gggjhhj:


Baffles how you people celebrate dollar fall with no significant value to the poor masses, food prices are very what have you done. All you do is praise sing your principal with no overall impact on the economy, tell them to go and regulate prices, not to be snapping dollar and naira value everyday

Is it the Govt that is setting the prices of goods and services?

I hope the Govt wake up to their responsibility and do so.

I am yet to understand the reason why a normal thinking woman who was born a woman and in her right senses would support or encourage a transwoman or cross dresser.

I can't think of a reason no matter how debased.

I am even willing to understand why if there is a debased reason such as 'more sex for women' or something else however unreasonable.

Friend22:


Stop being childish!
Who marries "underage" girls?

Let's compare: a girl of 15 years from the South is likely to have been slept with by a bf,but in the north a girl of 15 will gladly marry a man who can take care of her and be responsible at that age.

Fact is,marrying a 15 years old girl is very rare today in the north except for certain religious and moral reasons.

@bold:

We both know it is not true.

The prevalence of underage girls dumped by their predators due to VVF is also a testament that the Northern system ain't working.

1Sharon:
They should stop black washing historically white characters though

It is tiring 😫

Elsueno:
I actually did not like how the whites ganged up on d young girl.

But to be fair, let's be honest, Juliet should not be black just as much as black panther cannot be white.

its much better to look for or create an original story that requires a young black actress.


It's a shame really, I perfectly understand how she's feeling sha

Like!

Imagine the producers of Afamefuna or Anikulapo using a white actor or actress.

It is even understandable if Nollywood decided to act their version of R & J and they use our local/black artistes.

But again, everything is an agenda to them hence always sacrificing common sense at the altar of political correctness.

Charly68:
This is a mentality of untrained woman who is not ready for marriage . Marriage is a mutual partnership ..it is not a burdensome relationship. God can bless a woman because of her husband and it can also be the other way round. God told woman to submit to her husband..it means if she is a billionaire she must submit her account too for the running of the family. Whoever can't run marriage like this should never go into it .. Though man must take care of the family as a bread winner. But the situation can change and we need understandable woman

What did God tell men

tollyboy5:

I'm from Lagos state Epe that's not the culture I met with my grandmother. (RIP)

Epe women are the major financers even in a polygamous marriages. So not surprised

tollyboy5:

First of all do you think to pay house rent is easy?
I'm sorry I grew up with an apt ideology and I'm still trying to understand relationship matters. Because I don't understand many things I have come to notice and understand.
My parents for instance are old fashioned.
My mum does little trade while my dad provide almost everything.
My mum got established by my dad in the 90s and later my dad lost his job.
We moved from our quarters in garki Abuja then back to Lagos. My dad was the bread winner of his family back then.
After coming back to Lagos my dad then returned to Abuja to start working as contractor, things were not as good as before but my mum was never prepared for this newly kind of life.
She came from a nice family also and she's a strong willed person.
Immediately she started doing more also to provide for me and my sister her nagging increased. There is not always peace whenever my dad return from Abuja. I was the mummy's boi so I always took side with my mum no matter what, while my elder sis is always compassionate towards my dad now reverse is almost the case tho.
My daddy being a gentle person reduce his visit to Lagos. Despite being the landlord lol. My mum was 70% in charge of the house.
Fast forward till now, me and my dad are not close while me and my mum are no more close like we use to.
The last time I went home and wanted to demarcate some extension of the building my mum challenged me that I dare not.
I did not waste time to tell her to return to her father's house if she's not pleased.
I've imagined all the wahala she gave my dad wen I was still her strongest ally. If she felt my dad was not providing enough as a man she should have gone outside to rent 3 bedroom flat and a shop to know if my dad did not provide shelter.

If a man provides shelter for his family I feel he has done a good job. If both party contribute feeding as 50/50 there is nothing bad about that.
The man will still need to pay school fees and other house related bills etc.
So with all this provision and expenses if a lady feels he must also provide all feeding. Then what is the support she's giving to him?
Thanks I'm just trying to learn so I won't be expecting more than I could get from a lady.

@bold:

Often times, most parties want to eat their cake and have it. A man wants a 'supportive, understanding' wife until it is time to pick up chores, childcare,set boundaries with his family,be faithful or involve his wife in decision making then he suddenly remembers he is a 'man'.

If you want a marriage when all resources (money, time, assets) etc are treated as one, then both parties must put in their all and be on their best behaviour; no cheating, no bullying, no making decisions to the detriment of the other, no leaving one person to do all the chores, no maltreatment of in-laws, no in-laws who lack boundaries, no one person's life on hold for the other, no one person overburdened by finances or chores, no abuse (physical, emotional, verbal, financial, sexual) etc. You get the idea.

To be honest, a number of women are insistent on a man who provides to cover up their numerous defects. The man probably doesn't give her peace or isn't useful any other way so they make do with the money.

Like my people say, one can't suffer in two ways.

Funny thread.

If the OP suggests that more marriages are breaking up because women leave cheating husbands, one would expect that the men realise that they are the weapons fashioned against successful marriages in this case and clamour for change.

But no, they would twist and turn like
earthworms in salt to avoid accountability in this case and blame everything/ everyone but themselves.

Get used to it,more women would leave cheating husbands; if they decide to be side pieces to other married men is outside the scope of this discussion.

The fact I want to/ I have a vice doesn't mean I should tolerate it from someone else .

youngibe:
Wow.. I never knew that disengaging from marriage is now an achievement, maybe Forbes should list them in worlds 100 most influential women

I doubt the women feel it is an achievement

blingxx:
Why bother get married

For the cheating husbands or the wives who left them?

splmosixx:
I am successfully married with 3lovelu kids..


Na you I de concerned about if you will ever see a man approach you with this your smelly badmouth

If you were truly married with three lovely kids then it is a shame you made the first comment I quoted and the subsequent ones on this thread.

I

> The fact that she 'identifies' as a Christian; funny
> The fact that her fellow identifying Christians would support her; funnier
> The fact that the 'god' she is leaning on hasn't told her to start doing the right things; funniest.

Idaytesj29:


You are still new in this tricky journey, one year and you are dropping advice? Are you kidding me right now?

You have to be atleast 5 years before you can drop a piece of advice.

But if he said he had a terrible experience, he wouldn't have to wait 5 years before sharing right?

He has said so far, so good.

We will urge him on with more blessings.