money121:


Why you self broke?
Hustle and make money let nigeria girl love you

Shikena

Or you want turn gigolo
As a man you need to provide for your family

So go and hustle and make money
Shikena

KingMack:
While growing up I had friends who live in a single room with their parents jus a curtain to do the demacation in the room..they eventually grew up in that one room even the parents had more children in that single room and all their children slept on the floor either cold or hot jus a mat to lie on....when God started blessing the children they moved their parents to a better place.


What I gotta understand is in life ehn if God no bless you but knows your toil e fit still use your children bless you!

Please let's stop glorifying irresponsible parenting.

If you are starting life in one room, then you adjust your responsibilities accordingly. This is primarily the number of children you have.

Tou would be able to train them properly with the little you have and ensure that you don't create a generational problem of poverty by expecting children not standing properly to fund for their younger ones.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Women and emotions, this is why women opt for divorce more than the rates men do, when they longer feel they quit.

If you must have a long lasting relationship, emotional feelings would not be the top priority for marriage to strive.

Emotional feelings and connections have been what the feel good industry ( Hollywood and Nollywood fantasies) have sold to most women from their time of birth to adulthood. If there is a mismatch between ideal situation (Hollywood fantasies) and real life situation they term the relationship as 'I am not feeling this marriage or relationship ".

Dopamine rush will wane off as you progress into your relationship, you are then required to bring in habits that are independent of dopamine secretion because those are the habits that ensures a lasting marriage or relationship.

Some of the things that make one enjoy a lasting marriage or relationship includes
1. Tolerance
2. Kindness
3. Empathy
4. Committement
5. Loyalty
6. Mutual respect
7. Selflessness
8. Forgiveness
9. Communication
10. Finance

Once you base your strength of marriage on that feel good syndrome that marriage is bound to fail than succeed. Marriage is work, it's a place to train and mentor the next generation of leaders in the society, this process doesn't always come rossy, most times it is exhausting, energy consuming, financially draining and require resilience and doggedness to meander through all vicissitudes of life with a positive outcome. Those traits that are independent of feel good are what helps us overcome the challenges of marriage or relationship.

From what we see in our society though, men need the lessons more than women do.

And during the lesson, include the wonderful list you added up there. A number of men (NL a good evidence) do not realize that those qualities are required to be a great spouse.

Win12345:
If you have Bible in your language and still refuse to study it, you deserve to be deceived.

Gbam!

DKM123:
Hahahaha! Ride on pastor! Invest this January and get ROI latest middle of the year with money back guarantee!


Nigeria na cruise nation. Walahi!
MMM no do pass this one.

It's how those in the church didn't burst out laughing. If I dey there I fit burst laugh for good 5mins. The Jerry curls won't even help matters..

Tallesty1:
What I find crazy in all these things is that educated Christians who have access to the same Bible will still foolishly believe him.

The fruits offering found its fulfillment in Jesus. After being raised from the dead, he became the first fruit of those who had died. So, the first fruit offering, as it was in the Old Testament, is an adumbration of what is to come—a shadow of what will take place in the future. The fulfillment was in Christ.

Christians are not required to pay first fruit offerings because what it symbolized is God's harvest of souls. Christians are now Christ's first fruits offering to God according to the Bible.

Having access is not same thing as reading or studying.

YourGFsnatcher:
When he's mentally stable enough.. it's not by age. In Finland, schooling starts at 7 years. They have the best educational system. Education is not stressing children, giving them overlaod work and pressuring them. I will never do that to my chidlren. These days we want to force children to grow into fast adults. I don't know all the need to rush. Success in life is not about how early u finish school, u might finish early and still don't have sense. Because your brain has been over pressured.

Once a child is mentally strong to attend school, that is when he should start

What happens before the child is 7?

Odewaleadesoye:
Nigerian actor, Samuel Ajibola has revealed why he quit the popular soap opera, ‘The Johnsons.’

The thespian who played the role of Spiff, an imbecilic clown in the soap opera, said he left the television serial to chase his dreams.

He said leaving the soap opera has re-established him as a producer and director.

Speaking in a recent interview with Channels TV, Ajibola said: [/b]
DAILY POST

Interview could have been better worded.

Ghostmode2two:
When will this country have sense?

When as in when?

splmosixx:
This Op na bed belle..

Leave this people make Dem do there trade in peace.

You are the senseless one.

Foreigners come to your backyard, steal your goods and export and you are talking of bad belle.

If it were Nigerians profiteering from the illegal trade, Maybe MAYBE we can shut our eyes that 'our rulers are useless, no jobs bla bla bla' because the wealth would circulate in the economy.

These are Foreigners who are not allowing Nigerians touch the stuff. Did you read that the Nigerians there are just 10%?

Sense is far from you.

laurel03:
Those guys are fucking rich.. They have precious stones market at ojoo Ibadan which they export to thailand honkong and other countries from there.

Ha!

What kind of uselessness is this?

God comfort the families of the dead and grant speedy recovery to the injured.

Franzinni:
What if ... Just what if it was a distraction? To drown out a topic that has started gaining momentum nationally. ... Well, we will never know .

What topic is that?

laurel03:
They mine outskirts Ibadan but reside in Ibadan.. majority of them are not Nigeria and they have been doing that business over 30years in Ibadan.

How do non-Nigerians come into a city (not even a boundary city) and mine resources illegally for years?

Is that how useless our country is?

Missyajoke:
I pray you don't live with a person you'll find it difficult to tolerate . I lived with a roommate last year and I knew there's a difference between living in Heaven and living in hell. That girl is really stubborn and never listens. My ex roommate has a very bad character and I just had to leave the room to remain sane. Highly disrespectful, proud, arrogant, dirty, nosy. When I left like this my sister and parent said congratulations .

Happy birthday Sage, God bless you 💖

The things that happen like season film

Why would a wife commit her husband's money into an acquisition without involving or acknowledging him?

@OP, since you are honest enough to admit that you are concerned, call your brother in law using the script some posters dropped.

If Muhammed does not go to the mountain, the mountain would go to Muhammed.

janejjjjj5000:
She comes from home and works just Mondays to Thursdays. She does not live with us.

Does she see it as a regular job ( I go to my place of work which happens to be Mrs. Jane's residence and I do my job which happens to be cleaning/ housekeeping) or she sees herself as a househelp ( I am Madam Jane's slave/househelp)?

@OP:

Marrying the male/female breadwinner of a family especially a poor, large one can plunge the new couple into poverty.

It can also breed hate from your in-laws especially when they exploited the breadwinner and the spouse/nuclear family responsibilities opens the eyes of the exploited.

Sometimes, life is funny. You might marry an average Joe/Jane who grows to become their birth family's breadwinner.

If parents are responsible, have the number of kids they can cater for and adequately do so, there would be no burden on one of the kids to win bread for the family. This is sans emergencies/tragedies.

BadBradley:
Buky, Buky, No Nairaland old frustrated hen will find that post easy.

How's your husband? Does he still eat 3 times a day in a café? No, he dumped your Nairaland+addicted ass

You must have confused me with one of your sisters.

Confusion and lack of comprehension is a terrible combo to have.

OP talked about a lady breadwinner aka sponsoring her birth family; in your haste to spew the nonsense they taught you in Redpill school, you went on a
tangent.

Instead of you to go back to the OP and modify your post or even ignore mine, you started telling me about your sister.

My sympathy to her.

God will give you all peace.

BadBradley:
it takes a special grace for a woman who is the breadwinner not to be toxic and useless.

Women generally cannot handle power and responsibility.
Here are some of the disadvantages of women with so much money.

* Her Family will not respect you even if you have your own money

* She will not seek your permission before making certain crucial and vital decisions

* Given how vulnerable and easily deceived women are, expect many idle men both family members, neighbours and friends to patronise her with false praises to obtain money grant or gift from her.

* Make no mistake, God made men to protect women not just with physical strength but with a key sense of caution, suspicion, and a bit of conservatism. The more money she has the less likely your control and protection will be.

* When she runs into trouble with her money either being duped by family members or friends, it becomes your responsibility to get it back or fight for her but not your responsibility to control how she spends the money.

* Remember making money takes time and effort, the more money she makes the less time she has at home and the less sex.

* Unlike men, when a woman comes into money she looks down on everyone including her husband except you're way richer than her.

Bros, try to read the OP before writing epistle wey no make sense!

saphiere:
Nigerian men are afraid of independent women.
They are intimidated by our successes.
They need women that are solely dependant on them so that they can use those women as they whish.
Genevieve Nnaji,
Funke Akindele
Tonto Dikeh
Are a proof that Nigerian men can't stand independent women. They need people they can intimidate. People to bruise their ego on.

If the aforementioned women weren't independent, they would have been in their husbands' houses.

I spit on a gender who hates other gender's successes.

Can you see how the above monikers made mockery of Nigerian women? Asking if it's Akeke bread or sliced bread. Because for their minds no Nigerian woman deserves to be a breadwinner.

I guess Omotola, Omoni Oboli, Ibukun Awosika, Sola Borha, late Dora Akunyili, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Oby Ezekwesili and other married notable women are not 'independent' enough.

The thread is talking about women who feed their birth families and not women earning more than her man in a relationship.

adesegun121:

Joke * Jide

When was your wedding sir do we can create an hashtag....

#Joji198...

Or #Jijo198...

Or #Kede198...

Or #Deke198...

Happy birthday ma, God bless you.

BloomingDale:


What the husband needs is a cook if ordinary food can split up his marriage. And Nigerian women will wonder why they are all miserable in the marriages.

From the story:
1. The husband did not even ask for the food; the wife took the initiative to wake up early when he came home with the two spoon story.

2. I don't know all the Nigerian women miserable in their marriages. Perhaps all the women in your circle.

A colleague consistently bringing food for a married colleague is not just about the 'food'. It is about the thought, the care, the concern the food represent which is an abuse of the boundaries of marriage. The food can be a ride; excessive compliments; extraordinary assistance etc.

While all marriages might not require a wife waking up at 5am to cook, all marriages require sacrifice, compromise, thoughtfulness, care and concern from both parties to succeed. If you can not choose a husband who would inspire the above in you and can replicate same, na your business.

Fidecoo:
,

Ok I will tell you.

Can you pls, try and go through comments of some ladies who claim feminist here on nairaland.
They try sending messages that women doing their duties are like "inferior" .

I really don't want to mention names though ,if not.

Then you draft yout post in a way that shows you are addressing an opinion you disagree with.

lexy2014:


that is not what I asked you

how is he trolling?

is there anything he said that is not true?

If you answered my questions, you will get the clarity you seek.

To all the ungrateful elements above my post.....

It is a woman's duty yen yen yen.

Let's assume you guys even stick to gender roles and provide 100%;

Shouldn't your wife thank you when you pay the bills even if it is your duty? Shouldn't she show appreciation to and celebrate you as a dutiful husband?

An ungrateful person is like a thief.

Go and learn gratefulness and stop taking your wives for granted.

pocohantas:


Thanks for this.
Now it adds up.

Many women marry poor men everyday. Majority of Nigerians are not rich. I don't know why we act like the real world is not there.

Last week my sister told me our cousin is getting married. A young guy without a stable job. He still lives and partially feeds off his aged father. There are many women that love comfort which itself isn't bad and they would either get it or not.

@bold:

All Nigerian men online are rich

Let's forget the fact that majority of them have no gold to be dug

Tallesty1:
She is not trending because what she did was a big deal.

I followed the story from the start.

About a week before her tweet, some men on Twitter had been trying to prove to others that one doesn't need to make money first before going into a relationship. They argued that relationships can develop and thrive without one breaking the bank. Surprisingly, the other men, who claimed that all Nigerian women are gold diggers, argued that it is impossible. According to them, you need money first before you can approach a woman, or else other men who are richer will take her from you.

Women, the gold diggers, did their best to prove them otherwise, but they wouldn't have it.

So, when Debbie made that tweet and feminists started dragging her for waking up to cook for a man who doesn't have a freezer (they dug up her old tweet where she said that she needs a mattress and a freezer), men took it personal.

Firstly, because feminists, who were supposed to empower their fellow woman, were trashing her instead. One thing led to another, and the other group of men who had been arguing that you can be respected without money saw her tweet. They checked her timeline and saw that she had always been respectful to her broke husband, so she became a practical example of all they had been theorizing for over a week. They started trending her, and suddenly, people began asking for her account number to get her the freezer and mattress she was being mocked for. The rest is history.

So, it goes beyond waking up to cook.

Thank you for putting a context to it.

While I do not hold brief for the late prophet and think him controversial that I would never attend his church, is there any reason why BBC is leaving the palapala in their backyard and hunting lice continents away?

Are they so jobless that a religious leader dead for about three years now is their focus?

To think people are applauding this rubbish when a Nigerian Broadcaster would never dig their ghosts for a report is shameful.

Capernum:
Is he your husband or your boyfriend?

If he's your husband, it is definitely awkward not only here but it all cultures.

For him to be your husband, we can safely assume he should be in his home and be man enough to provide some basic items like adequate bed, if his mother is staying with him.

But is he still living with his parents? If he is, it is still abnormal too. Ain't there enough mattresses? It's all shades of wrong.

Give us more information. Don't let anyone here blackmail you with soft emotions of you coming in between him and his mom.

When a man is married, it is not expected to ever sleep with his mama on the same bed. Is he poor? Is the mama poor? why are they together?

@ bold:

And let's assume that they had to share a bed due to certain circumstances, why would the mother be angry that her son is chatting with his wife?