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Omoawoke:
1. You made judgments without knowing me or the full story… just based on the little you read

2. Not one girl madam, lots of girls ! I kept searching for that one and they all keep making me realize that true love doesn’t exist but all transactional…

3. Well, to be truthful , I’ve made some ladies cry… and it is not something I am happy about… I wish it didn’t come to that way, I wish I didn’t make any woman cry to be very honest.. but that’s just what life is…

4. Girls made beast out of good men, good men become beast and make beast out of good girls. The cycle continues ..

5. At a moment, I was exhausted.. lots of broken hearts, new girls everyday.. I attend lots of conferences and kept meeting new and Beautiful ladies everywhere …
And at vacation trips , meeting slay queens.. then i realized i wanted peace, was tired…
I did a solo trip, cleared my mind… and all I wanted was to find just one woman to settle with and truly love again..

6. On my solo trip, met a lady… and chemistry started developing… at the end it came to the same circle ….. transactions

1. My post is based off yours.

2. Interesting, you seem to have a type.

3. Wishes doesn't mean intentionality. If you truly did not want to hurt any girl, you pp
would have steered clear of the dating market till you were healed and re-calibrated.

4. I happy you realize it is a cycle. The girls who are transactional were also victims of guys like you.

5. Heard the saying 'no peace for the wicked'? You need more than a solo trip. You need therapy or very raw self awareness to decipher why you only attract transactional women and what you need to change to attract the set of women you want. I would have said Jesus but 'Christian' brothers have shown us that in the relationship market, a man is either in love or not. The creed, religion or race doesn't matter.

6. Read point 5 again.

pocohantas:
Na logic...
They will all make terrible husbands.
There is no eldorado for the "virtuous woman" they will marry. I am 100% sure of this.

There is none.

I am happy that a few preachers/teachers or my algorithms has started speaking up.

Women are also seeing that all the fuulish teaching they gave their mothers doesn't work.

Men either love/like a woman or they don't.

It is not her 'virtuousness, obedience, chastity, submission or wealth'.

They just teach women all those nonsense to make themselves (the men) more comfortable in a dysfunctional marriage.

Fiscus105:
Every soul know good from bad, so many things you didn't need to be told or taught, because you already know, if they do it for you, it would hurt you, but selfishness in human nature is what's destroying relationship/love.

100%

Omoawoke:
Men are in love, women are in business

I grew up believing in true love

Days of watching Romeo and Juliet, Titanic

Grew up believing a woman can truly love you for who you are…
But I learnt th hard way …. Girls always leave for the badder guys, the popular guys in school , and when we all left school, girls always wanted the richer guys
So I learnt hard and well… and i metamorphosed into the baddest they have ever had…. Breaking Bad, yeah Breaking hearts!

I always thought I would meet one girl , tell her I truly loved her and be with one woman … but after learning g the hard way… I have resolved to bang as many girls I can, until I finally find one I can consider to marry and make the mother of my kids

That was how I went into dating multiple ladies, and yes/ who doesn’t want a fine boy, not just fine but with a rare high IQ.
A combination of fine boy, high IQ and financially comfortable runs the ladies crazy… some even tell me I should please donate my sperm for them so they can use it to fertilize their eggs if I won’t settle with them

Chai women!!

Let's use you as a case study.

You believed in true love then a girl broke your heart so you decided to go on a bend and sleep around.

I am sure that in sleeping around, you probably hurt a number of women who believed you wanted a relationship and probably marriage not knowing you were just there for the sex.

Because one girl hurt you, you have hurt multiple girls and somehow you still believe you are the 'innocent' party capable of 'true love'.

In addition to your shenanigans above, you want to marry a woman you consider fit to be the mother of your kids. Not the one you 'love' (guess your capability to love is out of the window), not the one you want to do life with. The nanny you 'consider' fit to be the mother of your kids. And I promise you that with this mindset, you will make a terrible husband.

Yet the Irrational Man is telling us how men love in an 'idealistic' manner.

There must be sarcasm at play somewhere.

Ifexibe:
"Men are the romantics forced to be the realists, while women are the realists using romanticisms to effect their imperatives (hypergamy)." - RM

"Women love opportunistically, men love idealistically." - Rational Male

We see and feel the idealized love all the time

Reference:
The story we have heard since childhood.
Anyway what is the point of your appendix, have it removed anyway.

20 more characters needed.

I am proud of Sandra.

Nothing irks me like a woman who is a perpetual victim.

If your husband is useless, there are options; pick the one that suits your morality.

Not to be crying from pillar to post over one efulefu.

Gerrard59:
But shebi I talk say today's women have changed, especially as they have their own incomes. Dem call me naive. Today's women won't tolerate some things their mothers did as they are economically well off than their mothers. As it is, they can decide to remain single and nothing go happen. After all, she has the money. Doesn't she?

So Uncle Frank no fit afford school fees of both current and previous children? When I say have few children and undergo vasectomy, e get why.

Na why research thinking good. Go to good schools o.

Unfortunately, your brothers are yet to wake up and smell the coffee.

They think we are still in the era where women will endure anything to be married.

Gradually, things are changing.

Interestingly, it is the mothers celebrated for their 'endurance' and ability to take shit that trained the daughters of today.

Sonnobax15:

Stay there and keep contemplating and the same time be listening to the advice of single ladies,until one lil girl with sharp nipples will come out from nowhere,give him a strong d0ggy and he will forget ever asking you to move in with him

Strange

Ndipe:
‘Why you shouldn’t make friends with divorced women’ — Pastor Ibiyeomie’s wife.

By Enitan Abdultawab

Pastor Peace Ibiyeomie, wife of Pastor David Ibiyeomie, has advised married women to be cautious about forming close friendships with divorced women who are unwilling to reconcile with their former partners or remarry. The cleric gave this piece of advice during a Mother’s Day service at Salvation Ministries in Rivers State and stressed that some divorced women often speak negatively about marriage while secretly maintaining relationships with men . “Do not follow a divorcee as your friend even if she is your sister. Teach her, either she reconciles with her husband or she remarries,” she said . . .

https://nigeriaworld.com/news/source/2026/may/12/32.html

Signs!

Most mummy GOs are like papa Monica: green snakes under the green grass.

OredoPikin:
Watch the video
The money meant for her father sickness, she stole it from her mom and gave it to the guy to rent an apartment
Then she got a job, gather money with the guy for the guy to travel

She stole money meant for her father's treatment and gave a man? Even if that man is her husband.

This heartbreak is small. She will still suffer for killing her father.

May God deliver us from useless children.

Gerrard59:
While the way OP berated his wife is condemnable, the way we write about poor people in Nigeria, one would think the country is a wealthy nation...sort of a Switzerland...

I always find it hilarious 😂

The fact most of the populace are poor doesn't mean we shouldn't call out poverty-induced shoko.

bolseas:
Yes.
But I will be the husband.

Hehehehehehehe!

Gbadugbakun:
De play. Na when influencer ask them privately with hidden camera body go tell you.

fineboynl:
I sleep late most nights. Either online or watching TV. So that hungry and cravings always come.

Garri & groundnuts or garri & milk will do just fine.

Or fruits.

Or you shift your dinner to later.

advanceDNA:
Are u consuming the entire pack of golden morn in one nigh??Of course not….
. u eat only small portion from the golden morn… so u are not taking 11g of sugar every night because it’s the entire pack that contain 11g….

Go and audit your diet well, something else is spiking your sugar

The 11g of sugar is per 45g (which is the single use pack).

That's about 25% sugar. Then you have all the other unhealthy stuff in it.

That's a lot per one meal daily.

JASONjnr:
This is mostly possible when there is a common disease from their recessive traits....

If they're healthy and no underlying diseases...Then the inbreeding will never cause any problem.


I know a man who is married to his daughter. Infact, whole he was married to his wife, he was sleeping with his daughter and got her pregnant, his wife left the house and he's now married to his daughter...Their kids are academically sound and none of the kids have any disease or sickness of any kind.

@bold:

You say?

@OP: 3rd cousins?

Almost strangers at this point.

irumole1975:
Pretty much describes itself. My wife said her boyfriend isn’t always happy whenever he comes and he met me in the common area. He said I used to look at him some kinda way even when I didn’t. Meanwhile I pay all the bills and the house rent.

I apologized and told her that he doesn’t need to come to our house if that’s okay. Since yesterday she’s refused to talk to me

Magnetic010:
If there is one thing this japa culture has revealed about our men and women is that given the opportunity- most men will choose a different woman to their current wives and most women will ditch their husbands for other men.

There are many loveless marriages still going on in this country because of the economic realities and society stigma towards divorce- which is good because when you both know that no one will applaud you for walking away you actually sit up and put effort to make the marriage last.

But because of how glorified- “finding yourself” and evolving is overseas- once you enter that society there is a 70%chance that your Nigerian marriage will crash.

STAY HOME

Toxic marriages breed toxic children.

It is good for marriages not working to the point of adultery & abuse to be dissolved.

What I will advise is attempt to work it out; if all attempts at mediation fails or there is threat to life, move on.

However, before entering the next relationship (if desired), do introspection and address areas of concern.

It is not how far, it is how well.

Well, some men are police by day and robbers by night.

They just switch uniforms.

Her mother reportedly told her something that changed her perspective: “A woman without a backdoor will sleep in the rain when the storm comes.”

Ododo oro!

Well, if the husband wants his N3m, give it back to him without crumbling your business.

It could be in installments or milestones.

Thank God for a woman who saw the signs and instead of throwing a pity party, swung into action.

Also thank God for a wise mother, not the type that will tell you to buy ogufe and appease the demi-god.

Aunty Aladura,

Your prayers were answered: even if he was your 'destined' husband, him moving on to Aunty Grace whilst giving you green lights means he is a red flag.

And the swiftness of the relationship tells me that fine bobo & aunty Grace have been tangoing before the prayers.

Thank God you didn't find out that aunty Grace was in the equation after marriage.

Samantha125:
As someone who hardly views WhatsApp statuses, if you're going to post me, post me because you feel like it and not because you expect me to view it... Rather come to me and sing those praises to me in person than be seeking attention on WhatsApp.

So I don't see any wrong in what the girl did.

Considering that he funded her passing out ceremony, courtesy demands she acknowledges his feelings and apologize.

Besides, the girl doesn't sound like someone who doesn't view statuses; her rebuttal was that he also doesn't view all her statuses.

Hello fellow non-status viewer.

On my birthday, my friends prompt me to view their statuses

On their birthdays, I do not put their pictures up either. I chat them on WhatsApp or give them a call.

dominique:
A woman gave birth twice in the space of 3 years and her husband expects her to go out and hustle and men are supporting him. Does she have help? You conveniently left that part out. Assuming she had a job or business she was doing before having the babies, maybe she would have found a way to adjust depending on how strong she is and the kind of support she has. Expecting a woman with an infant and toddler to go out and start hustling is beyond absurd. If she knows what's good for her she better go and get a birth control done. This is not a type of husband a woman should be birthing more than 2 kids for

@bold:

Even the second one sef na jara

Kingosytex:
I no sure say you read dis article well. Person tell you say to provide basic amenities dey take a toll on him and you dey ask am to provide a nanny. Shey na you go dey pay the nanny?
Ndi mmadụ sef

He can't provide a nanny yet expects a woman with two children under three years old to earn.

Whilst this woman is working, who is taking care of the house, who is taking care of the children after school? Who is preparing them to school? Who is running the home? Who is doing market runs and all the myriad of things required to make the home function.

Well, since he cannot afford a maid, let the wife list all the things she does in the house and both of them share it equally so she can have the time to work and 'add value'.