LordVoldemort02: I still don’t blame her but it’s kind of hard to forgive myself because I still feel sad deep down like I ruined myself and my family.
Why don't you blame her?
That's part of the abuse, to make you feel that you were a willing participant.
Please go for therapy, and go to Jesus.
In addition to healing you from the past, it will most importantly ensure that you don't let her keep ruining your future from the grave.
brodalikeme: You ma no try for plenty places. 1. You went too far with the slap thing. I know women can evoke the demons out of you but sine you know that you should keep your anger u de check. 2. Your wrong approach has been playing into their hands. When you are from a broken home, you don't follow order again. When your wife asked you to get people to fight for her abi, beg her mother, you should have obliged immediately and not be over analyzing thing. 3. You allowed the issue to linger for too long, the longer she was out of your house and exposed, the limited polluted she had become with evil counsel. NB: The death of her mother has added another layer of complication to the issues. She will feel she needs to continue the fight her mother was fighting. Abandoning it may feel like betrayal. Grief manifest in different ways. She might feel men are not worth the stress. Remember is from a broken home. 4. Now that her mum is dead, you should have been the bigger man and sheath the sword, that is not even the time to be discussing the future of the marriage. By the good son in law and let the woman be buried then other things can come later. 4. Your response to your father in-law mostly after your mother-law's death were mostly wrong.
Seem you don't have good adviser sha.
The way misunderstandings are handled in our part of the world is such that if you don't manage it properly, people will forget the real reason for the misunderstanding and focus on the way issues were managed. You've armed them with lots of ammunition against yourself. Drop pride and retrace your steps.
You have a good head on your shoulders.
The OP should move on; he has no respect for his wife or mother-in-law.
He & his father-in-law can roll together, after all they are birds of a feather:
An adulterous husband and an abusive one. With the way the OP sounds, he will soon join adultery to his abuse if the marriage lasted longer.
tammie24: and being toy for fvck boys is a bad thing? They are enjoying each other... No one is using anyone. Boys are enjoying and the ladies are enjoying .. so what's wrong in that?
Like illogical set of people.
Tomorrow, if women in sexual relationships claim they were 'used', they start with 'nobody used anybody', after all, it was consensual.
torqque7: Confusion at its PEAK🤣🤣What a gender indeed..you leave where you are head and number 1 to go go and become number 3 under 2 other women🤣🤣 and now start thinking also of birthing male kids in your new marriage omoh her brain needs to be donated for scientific studies..
You say she was forced in the first marriage but in the second one she made her decision knowing what she was getting into..like for real?that’s your pitch??smh you females really enjoy your delusions sha..
The first wife in a polygamous home is number 1 and the head.
As in a woman's man lover picks another woman after her & in your mind, the woman who was emotionally replaced is 'winning!
The same reason people think oaths sworn with deities are more 'effective' than the oath taken before God (e.g. marriage oaths or oaths of office).
Juju/ witchcraft can be 'controlled' by the owner: the juju is not judging if the case brought before it is right or wrong before wrecking the havoc it was projected to do.
With God however, it depends on His will at that point in time. He might still need the witch for His kingdom and decide that your death will facilitate that.
At the end, it is for His glory & to further His Kingdom on earth.
funnyDM: Leviticus 19:28 explicitly condemns tatooing your body. So Pastors Jimmy Odukoya and that other guy parading as a pastor, are all big sinners before God.
If you like, argue with your keyboard....
Nowhere does the Bible condemn tattoos:
It condemned drawing tattoos for the dead.
Same chapter also condemned mixed farming, mixed clothing, houses that have balconies, altars that have steps, men & women wearing each other’s clothing etc.
While I am not holding brief for tattoos, please endeavour to understand the Bible.
JobZoneNews: I got into a discussion in an online forum recently: Can or should Christians engage in any form of communication with the dead? Check out both the weird and the right answers provided during the discussion. Click the link below to read it.
spiceadole: Where you see genuinely kind man for Nigeria? Even here in Europe, they are known to have ulterior motives for dating/relationship and even marriage
There are still kind men na.
Though might be like finding a needle in a haystack.
When a door closes clearly, you grieve and adjust. But when nothing happens, no answer, no sign, no movement, the waiting begins to question your faith.
Many believers struggle more with silence than with suffering.
David once said, “I cry out by day, but you do not answer, by night, but I find no rest” (Psalm 22:2). Yet he kept praying. That honesty makes faith feel real, not polished.
Because silence can feel personal. It makes you wonder if you prayed wrongly, waited wrongly, or believed wrongly.
But Scripture often shows that silence is not absence. Habakkuk was told that the vision would take time, but it would surely come, and that the righteous must live by faith while waiting (Habakkuk 2:2–4).
Even Jesus prayed in Gethsemane and still walked through the process before relief came (Matthew 26:39).
I am learning that waiting seasons expose what we truly trust. Do we trust God only when He responds quickly, or even when He is quiet?
How do you personally deal with long unanswered prayers without letting doubt take over?
I would genuinely like to hear your thoughts.
@bold:
My issue is not doubt because I firmly believe God can do anything; it is hurt that He doesn't want to do it.
So how do I deal with it?
I have realized that God does as He wills.... whilst people perceive that in a positive light; I see it as a matter of fact. Again, I believe that God views things as per the grand scheme of things.... Does your 'suffering' thwart His plans? If no, well, get used to it or solve it yourself or pray and He will answer if He wants to.
Like Pax.onel says, God is not a genie you command with prayers or fasting or supplication. That is the new generation Biblical teaching.
The God that hated Esau from the womb, created Pharaoh to be stiff necked for His glory, killed the first born sons of the Egyptians (including those who have no freaking clue of what was going on) and 'let' Satan destroy Job's family for testing testing can do anything He likes.
At the end, all we ask for is His mercy & compassion: Like Paul says 'He will have mercy on whom He will have mercy on & compassion on whom He will have compassion on.'
Coolis: Been hearing of red flag, don't know if there is one here already.
Met this lady toward the end of last year in Maraba area of Nasarawa state. I reside in one-man villagers area of Nasarawa state while she reside in the lokogoma area in the FCT. We 've been chatting. l realized she doesn't like typing much words so she doesn't give out enough information about herself. l decided we meet physically again last Saturday so we can get to know more about each other and that l would be coming to her area. I asked her to send me the address of where she stays in the FCT but she suggested we meet at one of the eateries in their area which l agreed. She suggested ShopRite in Apo/lokogoma area and l said okay.
NOTE- 1, l like her a lot. 2, my income is about 100k in a month. 3, To and fro one-man village to lokogoma area in the FCT using public transport will take 5k or more.
I had about 15k on the day which l thought could take care of my TP and what she would eat. I knew eating out at ShopRite would be quite expensive than the regular eateries like Chicken republic and the likes.
I cut my coat according to my size. We agreed to meet at ShopRite by 3pm but l decided to get there earlier by 2pm to find out their food and snacks prices. Meat pie and a bottle of soft drink N2500. Fried/jollof rice with a drink N6200.
I ate well from my house so as not to order their food. I also thought that someone coming out for a date at an eatery by 3pm, would have eaten from their house and wouldn't order food but light refreshment like a snack and bottle of soft drink but l was wrong. After a while of my friend joining me, l told her let's go to the service desk so she could make her order. Without hesitation, she told them she wanted fried rice with fish and a bottle of coke N6200. The moment l was told of her bill which must be settled before the food is given to her, l decided not to order anything at all but on a second thought, l asked they add one bottle of Schweppes(1k) for me. I know you will call me a SIMP here but it's better only her eat than the both of us to eat which would have taken all the money in my pocket and going back to my area a serious challenge.
When we were done at ShopRite, at our departure point, she was joining along taxi to her area, l gave 1k to her to settle the taxi man, she didn't want to take it but l insisted and she accepted it.
Now, here's is why l asked if there is already a Red flag.
I told her l would call her in the evening of the day, the l idea was to find out if she had a great time and if we could do it again soon. I called her around 7:30pm twice, the phone rang but no response. I called again around 9:45pm still no response. Then l sent a message to her on watsapp that it looks like l didn't measure up to her standard and that l couldn't believe she didn't answer all calls l put across to her. I told her it seems our meeting meant nothing to her.
After a few minutes later, she replied me that she went for a program that lasted more than she thought. That was why she couldn't answer. I replied her that she should have sent a message acknowledging my missed calls and l wouldn't have insinuated our meeting meant nothing to her. I haven't reached out to her since then and haven't heard from her either. Men and brethren, you have it all. What do you think? Is there a red flag yet? Should l still reach out and maintain contact or to forget her? Thank you
Referee Pascal, who is homosexual, was attacked in his home after making a public proposal.
The referee Pascal, who proposed to his fellow man during the Bundesliga match between Cologne and Wolfsburg, was attacked after the public proposal, which involved kissing.
The attackers traced his house, finally located it, went to his residence, beat him, and warned him that his life on earth would be short.
Others have also called out the FIFA president, criticizing the way he is allowing lesbians and homosexuals to interact in football.
They claim this is not good and insist that he should stop them from being involved in football, which they describe as the most respected sport in the world.
@ bold:
Wdym?
Are they his god?
The attackers should be arrested for assault and threat to life.
descarado: The guy looked for nudes women and got them, why complain. He even went further to show us the kind of ladies that gives him sleepless nights. I love hypocrites
@bold:
😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂
If he doesn't like breasts and nipples, he should scroll past.
I don't see such on my timelines because I don't engage them.
hopeforcharles: Dont do any vasectomy, and i would advice not go for abortion despite it will affect your finances try snd upgrade your self to earn more, probably online and maybe do a sperm sterilisation. Look aroundif there are policies that help with children welfare in that country Cheers and good luck.
He strongly doesn't want children anymore yet shouldn't do vasectomy?
[quote author=Samant.ha125 post=138367017]One thing I know about social media algorithm is that it wouldn't recommend to you videos of girls twerking unless you've been voluntarily consuming them yourself.[/quote]@richmond500,
Like the poster above said, what you see is basically your algorithm.
It is easier to clean up your algorithm than ask why 'women do X or Y'.
You don't like nude women; clean up your algorithm.
It is also not your concern if women are begging men to pay their groom price except they approach you.
And if they do, politely decline and keep it moving.
Exousiang01: It's is cold inTurkeye. That's a jacket he is putting on. Many of you just stay in your caves and speak from the dept of your ignorance. The the Turkish president is wearing a jacket
I guess our dear president doesn't have the resources to ensure his tailor gets suitable materials to make a complete Agbada set for him.
Family › Re: Molested By My Stepmom As A Teen Boy- (listen, Don't Judge) by bukatyne(f): 7:57am On Feb 17
