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@georgee

you be ogbologbo playaman. you just take advantage of this golden opportunity carry your love profess for tope. make him bobo catch you, you go hear wehn.

Reply with a kiss? You dimwitted nigga. You agressively grab her by the neck and look fiercely into her eyes. Tell her that if she ever pulls that kind of madness again you don't know what you will do.

Damn Tope I wanna suck yo lips.

Matter of fact just go ahead and tell her. She deserves to be with a man that has the self control you have failed to show.

This is your bullshit so you better deal with it. If it's starting to Bleep with your conscience, then too bad. You deserve it. If you tell her, she will never be able to see you as the same person again. If it truly was a mistake do not tell her. Confess your sin to GOD and ask him for forgiveness. The day you open that big mouth of yours to tell her is the day your stupidity begins to weigh heavily on her mind. She will begin trying to imagine the whole thing playing out from Hay to Zed, and that is never a good thing. She does not need to pay the price for your madness. Next time learn to think with the head above your shoulders.

Lol that's whassup.  Wouldn't it be better if she had no underwewar on?  She can feel the cool breeze in her puss as the motorcylce vrooms away.

bina you be correct lesbian o. what are you doing checking out another woman.

I don't understand why she's bitching if they had an agreement that she would be a fulltime housewife in their marriage.

Our traditional parents really deserve some pats on their backs for their hardwork.

Second wife might not be farfetched. She is already looking for resorts.

Keep showing joh. No shaking. I don't mind at all.

And my vote goes to

ROTFLMAO @ Brewer. Kobe just owned Brewer. He farted in his mouth, shitted on him, then wiped the shit clean with Brewer's face.

Jobbed!

It is hard to imagine what you are going through. The feelings will only intensify if you don't do anything to find a cure. Understandably, you have gotten used to having this man around you for so many years. It is natural to miss all that bond and affection you have built.

I know that asking you to just up and leave is not as simple as it sounds. But the earlier you are able to separate him from YOUR life the better.

Your duty is to your child and nothing more. You owe it to her to ensure she is properly raised with both mommy and daddy there to support her. But do not give that man your love. He does not deserve your love.

IyaKadijat:
@C2H50H-right, I am such a bad role model to my daughter because she was right there when I had a few vulnerable moments in the beginning and had sex with her father. Yup, she was right in the room watching. I am SUCH a TERRIBLE mother-SHAME ON ME.

And contrary to everywhere else he has f_cked up in our lives, he is still a good father. I WILL NOT take him to child support unless that is my final and last resort. What's most important to me is that he is there for his child. He dotes on her, takes her everywhere he goes and loves her with all of his heart. I will not take that away from either him or her, thank you.

OMFGGGGGGG I can see why you are so vulnerable.  Did you step away from your keyboard and get a chance to read this?  No, your daughter does not have to be in the room in order for you to get your acts together and be as strong as you are capable of being.

By the way, what other resorts are you hoping for?  Do you think dudey will divorce the mother of two and come crawling back to you?  Are you expecting the mind-blowing sex you are having with him to change his mind ?  What is the resort . . . I wish to know.

I think you are dead set on letting this love triangle drag on for as long as it will.  You might be thinking that his love for you is stronger than it is for her because he was with you for 8 and only with her for 6.  Just keep in mind that a man that does not respect you after 8 years will not miraculously change over night.

I didn't call you a bad mother by the way.

He is not honest and he does not respect you.  And this is so sad because your daughter is involved.

In fact it still amazes me that this mofo has the audacity to tell you not to cheat on him.  You must have taken the whole thing in stride or something, because most women I know would have bashed his balls.  Dude should be curled up in fear.  All that deceit and he still gets to bust a nutt at your expense.  Don't make no sense!

Do not even try to pin this shit on me sister.  

Treetop20:
how is she not being a good role model?

Because she's letting this man tear through her like a useless piece of meat.

You need to get this dude to court.  File for co-parenting rights or something.  Get custody of your child and have him pay child support if you have to.  Some things are beyond forgiveness.  Nigga wasted your life by leading you on for 8 years.

What was so insensitive about the comment?
By offering candid advice instead of just following the trend of saying sorry, my post was insensitive?
Just trying to understand.

Poster,
Why are you just finding out he is married.  Had you at any other time asked him if he is or was married to this other woman?

I would say more . . . but I think you are looking for the sorries and pity remarks right now.  They are already coming in batches.  Hope they make you feel better.  At the end of the day just remember that they won't solve your issues until you really do something about 'em. You came here for advice and that is what I am going to try to give you.

that's all.

And one last thing

PLEASE LEAVE THIS NIGGA.

Chineke! Listen to this spineless girl. He shows his love for you by beating you "black n blue" . Where is your brain? I seriously pray hope you can one day grow a brain inside that head of yours. As much as you love this dude, why are you putting up with his bad behavior? You should know that love does not intentionally inflict physical pain on you because of insecurities.

Sure enough you should thank God that he has shown you his true colors really early in the relationship. Some women have to wait ten years before finding out the kind of animal they have gotten themselves involved with.

Stop making excuses for this bastard.

Look at this yeye woman. You are playing yourself. A nigga as bleeped up as that is pulling mad game on you and you're still spreading toto real wide letting him hit it. Talking about you "felt the need to remind him da da da" .

You need to take a step back. Perhaps a week's worth of break from seeing this dude so that you can organize your thoughts, separate the cute lil feelings in your heart from the reality you currently face, and rationally dissect the matter.

It's about to be a girl fight.

They surely are thinning out. Very true. But many of the double standards still remain intact.
Kudos for pointing that out.

Lol @ LadyT free speech         LOL .  I don't see why not.
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LadyT:
So I guess pedophiles should be given free speech as well abi?

Free speech is a constitutional right. Though it is not a right to be stupid. I think that's why it is regulated. So, yeah, if the pedophile "speaks" factually or reasonably about a topic of interest, the American constitution does not object.

I think this would depend heavily on her ability to cope with the trauma.  If it is going to become a burden that strains a relationship, then no.

Diva1:
It depends on what was said and done that he hit me, yes, I could/might accept it for once, not saying a man should hit a woman. I dont agree with the immaturity here, It was a mistake and the mistake was realised.

You keep talking about this "mistake" as a way to semi justify what you did. You need to man up.  If you truly are sorry, then learn to be responsible for your own actions.  I bet you didn't know you had it in you to be that demeaning or cruel to someone you love.  As warped as your logic has become you are even looking for ways to condone your boyfriend hitting you in retaliation to your verbal attack.  If that's how things work in the world, lots of women would be walking around with black eyes.  One time thing my smelly foot.  Don't be naive.

In your defense, you are right in saying that he has hurt you bad.

But if you look back on your thread, lots of people have insisted that you leave this dude alone. No one asked you to put up with his bullshit. And obviously he has refused to put up with your bullshit. I think that's what caused you to go over to him to lash out at him.

Sorry, I can't offer you a free pass because you lost it "once" .  Once will soon become twice, then thrice, etc. . .

I think you need to approach him in person.

Tell him you acted like a selfish idiot because you were frustrated.  The emotional cloud blocking your judgment has finally worn off enough for you to see that your action was absolutely disrespectful.  While you don't expect him to forget what you have done, you hope he can forgive you.

Then leave him the Bleep alone to mend his hurt ego.  I think he will come around once he's over it.