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no be only categorically, na systematically you go see.

tpia:
You're really not qualified to attack him for his opinion of Ijebu girls. He's stated why he admires them and he doesnt have to answer to you for any reason.

If you want to preach on the dangers of generalizing, there are plenty of threads in the racism, tribalism and culture sections where you can make yourself useful when people start bashing each other's tribe and culture.

You ignored the naysayers on this thread and jumped on someone who wasnt one- what does that say about you?

If you've had bad experiences with Ijebus then just say so instead of criticizing others for not having the same.

That was why I called her an idiot earlier. She thought she was slick by posting that garbage, pretending she knew what she was talking about. What a nuisance.

biina hope you read the kind post tpia left for you.

posakosa:
my ex knows I gladly wish him dead.



I don't have to be anonymous.

Woah! Relationship must have been awful.

Fi mi sile jare.

Not at all. your life isn't passing you by if you're living it.

who is some? abi ori nta e? Listen, gorimapa, drawing from past experience does not mean you are not moving on with your life or what have you. There is something called reflection. You look at where you are today, compare it to your past, realize you have come this far, applaud yourself and continue basking in your new found glory.

Don't hate.


This dream of yours won't come true unless you work hard at it. Don't juts expect me to automatically up one day and magically appear at your doorstep. your juju no strong like that, biko.

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=157554.msg3721670#msg3721670 date=1239597232]On a serious note,

some girls wouldn't have that much power if you don't let them. [/quote]It's kinda hard to love if you don't let yourself go. If you love the right person he or she will not deride your love.

No. Life is about living based on actualities, not dreamed up illusions.

Maybe it's only fitting that I start.


Dear C,

I just wish you weren't so selfish and self absorbed half the time.  No matter what went wrong between us in our interactions and/or discussion you always tried to tack the blame on me.  If only you knew how to take responsibility for your own actions.  It also didn't help that you were insecure about your future and lacked the confidence to stand up for yourself.  I tried helping you solidify your self esteem issues by constantly complimenting you on how pretty you look and how beautiful your smile is, but I guess it didn't work.  

I was also very disappointed when you told me that your parents didn't want you seeing an African man.  It completely altered how I viewed you and your family.   You are just as black as I am - your dad is African and your mother is African American.  I expected you to at least defend me and tell them that I am a good man, one who treated you with as much respect as you commanded.  But I guess some things just weren't meant to be.

Even though I told you I loved you, I realized some time later that I didn't actually love you.  I did develop some feelings for you, but that's all it was. I guess I just loved the thought of possibly being in a binding relationship with you, because you were so smart and hardworking.  I was going through a difficult time.  My emotions  fooled me, got the best of me, and I couldn't take those words back after I had said them to you so many times.

Even though we never made it past the getting to know you phase, I want you to know that I wish you the very best in your life.  Looking back, we probably wouldn't be able to get over the cultural differences anyway.  
Hope medical school works out very well for you.

Bleep

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=157554.msg3721665#msg3721665 date=1239596875]Attention from you? Wouldn't that be a delight.

If I wanted you, I wouldn't need to push.

Deny it ofcourse. But atleast sustain the civility between us. [/quote]The difference between you and me is, I don't dwell too much on "what ifs".
Don't get your panties in a bunch.  Focus on your classes.  Get good grades.  Let those silly thoughts in your head go.

topup:
[color=#008855]Mojo??
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Yeah,

fucking up dimers.  Some girls just come into your life and mess up the flow.  Everything was going just fine, they come in really pushing for you introduce them into your life, that it would enrich your experience and make your life even more pleasant.  Maybe 5 months down the line they have a change of heart, petty arguments begin, they toy with your emotions, play mind games with you, then up and leave like you were just a game to be played.

Why have all that when you can enjoy your life without the complications?   now don't get me wrong, it might be necessary to experience that later on, but right now . . . not interested.

Anything new under the sun? You and your typical antics.  Always seeking attention.

You could never get over me quickly.  If I wanted you I would push. But I have concluded that at this stage in my life I don't need some girl fucking up my mojo.

Where is topup? This is dedicated to you.

For those who still have some burning questions or leftover feelings, about the breakup of a prior relationship, why don't you use this as an opportunity to vent anonymously about the kind of experience you shared. What you wish they would know or what they didn't know.  Free all those emotions you are hiding, ask those biting questions, clear your mind by saying those things you want to say. Let it all out.

Hopefully this idea would help some people release the few bits of hurt they have left in them.
It might give you closure?  You most likely won't have to worry about your ex reading this.


Post whatever it is.

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=157554.msg3721646#msg3721646 date=1239595753]Was hard to get over C2H5OH

But I finally did[/quote]I don't give a bit of shit really. I never loved or needed you so I have no idea what you may or may not be feeling.

Sure as hell ain't fake love.

topup:
[color=#008855]Hello topup, how are you today??
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Are you okay?


Seriously.

Does it matter? The poster started a controversial topic, some nincompoops bit the bait and started spewing all kinds of jargon.


biina if no be say you be woman I for knock you.

Ijebu pipo Stinga like witch xpecially the sheila

Dumbass can't even piece together a complete sentence.

The general view non-ijebu yorubas have about ijebu girls as per marriage is that they are better left for their ijebu men. Reason being that if you as a non-ijebu guy marry an ijebu girl, with time;
she'll out-shine you materially and financially, and consequently become the bread winner of the home.
she'll become an adulteress (by sleeping around with very wealthy men whom of course are the sponsors of her thriving business).

Whomever raised you forgot to flog some sense into you at birth. What a lousy hypocrite.

biina:
are you blind, as I doubt that you are illiterate?
I 'll repeat, if you have nothing to contribute, keep your hands off the keyboard.

is asking you to me chie onu too much? c me c trouble o.

[quote author=*Toyinrayo link=topic=63191.msg3719371#msg3719371 date=1239518393]So acid is Ijebu?

This is rich! No wonder [/quote]i am whatever you say i am.

biina:
Sorry, did I hit a soft spot? maybe there were elements of truth in my post?
I only gave my opinion, even if it is contrary to yours, there was no need for the insult.
If you have nothing to contribute, then keep your hands off the keyboard

shut up jare.

Joke of the year.

Nigeria can't steadily supply her own power, but wants to supply power to cameroun.

biina:
I thot people, including Ijebu men, dreaded Ijebu women, as they are reputed to put the man under their control spiritually.
I do have two cousins married to Ijebu men, (one Ijebu ode, and the other Ijebu igbo), and if I was to use them as a yardstick, I woudn't advise anyone to date an Ijebu.
It is always wrong to paint groups of people with broad strokes

idiot

bawomolo:
so let's see, there are casino's, strip-clubs, gambling race tracks in places outside Las Vegas which you are fine with but the gays leaving Frisco and Atlanta is a big issue to you?  Aren't homosexual's human or should we quarantine them from morally righteous people like us?

Not remotely close.  You missed the point of the post by a mile.  The problem is not with the freak show leaving vegas, but with the institution forcing its way into a realm where it doesn't belong.  If it was that bad I would be calling for their heads, but that isn't what I am doing.  I think that stems from your natural inclination to categorize anyone who opposes homosexuality as an intolerant bigot.

basically your problem is homosexuals and not marriage itself. just admit it.

Actually my problem is with both.  What's relevant to this discussion, however, is the marriage aspect of it, so let's continue addressing that issue.

Is the Netherlands the united states?  I believe they have rights in spain too. Change is inevitable

As I said, I may be wrong.  Anyway, the fact that it's drawn so much opposition is enough evidence that this depravation is unworthy of the status it is trying to attain.  Side note, please refrain from drawing any misplaced analogies between the civil rights struggles of African Americans and the "shove it down your throat" whining of homosexuals.

Thanks.

bawomolo:
since when did i have a problem with polygamy, swinging or good ole orgies? I fully believe in freedom of the individual.

Abeg tell us something new jare.  We know you.

In your perfect society, everything goes.  You would be living in a lawless society without any noteworthy guiding principles.  Nothing short of anarchy is respectable in your book.  Silly guy   .

bawomolo:
what do you think about las vegas? are the things that happen in las vegas immoral and perverted?

The keyword there is Las Vegas.  If the chickenheads, hoodrats, thugs and dopeheads want to have a good time in Las Vegas, let them have it, while understanding that their freak show signifies stupidity - so long as they are not interfering with society at large.  The gay freaks movement is doing the opposite.  For example, they not only decided that San Francisco is not big enough for them, they also want to dictate how others think about their societal principles and what is acceptable or unacceptable.  In essence what happens in frisco doesn't stay in frisco for them.

you know damn well you would still vote against it if it was called a civil union.

I probably would because I strongly disagree with everything that homosexuality represents.  Voting for it would send the wrong message, and that is not the message I want to pass across.  Would I have as much of a problem with it as I do with a redefinition of "marriage", most likely not.

there are cultures that recognize homosexual unions, polyandry and a host of other things. There is no universal definition of marriage. Not every culture gives a shit about your bible.

Haha, you are fast slipping into a red herring.  By and large, with the big exception of the big gurus here in America, most other places frown upon homosexuality - big time.  I might be wrong.  Even if there are places that encourage it, those changes didn't start until recently, simply because the association of freaks are busy brainwashing the media/government and making themselves out to be victims.

I think you need to heal from your current break up. Give yourself time to clear your head, then move on when the time is right. You will have an inkling of when the time is right.

In Love.  Hmmmm

I think guys who actually fall in love take longer to heal or move on after a break up.

"Gay Marriage"

Baba nla oxymoron to the "T". It just doesn't make sense. Sounds abnormal and perverted. Doesn't have the same ring to it. Hence the distinction.

Marriage is a union between man and wife. No such thing as "gay" marriage or "hetero" marriage.


Marriage has an unmistakable definition that has been recognized in societies all over the world from generation to generation. Attempting to refine that definition because a group of freaks want to perform a sexperiment, is injustice of the highest order.

Do away with the text talk.