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khattab02:
haba naaa.. may be she is shy

Not wishing him bad bro, her body language is not all that free... no one is shy on there wedding day, it's a day of joy, so I don't buy that shyness!

God1000:
Abeg make his wife no go misbehave later oo


Sadio Mane deserves the very best and peace of mind from his new wife.

Seriously!... she looks like she's not really into him, the body language and smiles all look forced to me!!!

EreluRoz:
Calm down you'll do it for love

Super story, I hear you!

EreluRoz:
A maid can take care of that, it's not that deep.

Not in my house, never!!!

EreluRoz:
Why do you think I'm speaking for myself?

Keep fooling yourself!... not all women loves to cook but she'll love to eat money??, who will be cooking then??, so I will go out and hustle money and still cook or buy food outside, I don't understand your stance?

Sonnobax15:

The fact that she still has the number of that her ex on her phone tops the list of all the red flags . And j wonder what you're still doing with that type of banny. ...

MY BROTHER!...just imagine my own wife to be with ex contact on her phone??, na thunder go fire she and the ex!, once you hear my ex is not my enemy, na dem cheaters association, run!!!

shortgun:
It's logical to tell you to leave the girl or run for your life....but to who?
The experience you are having is just how women behave, you won't find a better one anywhere!
The only ones who will appear to be better are those who will pretend but will later show their true colours.
Any man who has made up his mind to get involved with a woman must be ready to put up with their nature and illogical dramas or just stay single.
You are even lucky she doesn't get angry with you cos you are cheating on her in her dreams.

The areas where I see you lacking is in dominance and assertiveness; you need to dominate her to conquer her.

YOU'RE A BIG TIME LIAR!!!... probably na woman you be in disguise or you're married to a useless woman like the one he's about to marry, stop giving people your disgusting lame advices... he deserves better!!!

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

Once a woman lies to you and disobeys you at will in your face... do away with such woman!!!, she doesn't love you, contacting her ex immediately says it all... you've been a mugu and SIMPLETON, if you marry that girl you'll see hell on earth!!!

Omo!... shows they're really cashing out from underdeveloped nations in Africa and Asia, this life no balance at all 💯

Unittyy:
Read the story again, the victim is not the husband of the accused woman. They were only living in the same compound.

Further confirms they might be having an affair, forget that loan matter, who kills someone because of loan with multiple stab wounds??, I can't believe that!, seems like a secret romance caught and gone wrong!

gbadexy:
From the comments above, the quality of contributions here get as e be.
What was the fine boy doing in the married woman's house in the first place.
Why was he the only outsider privy to the suicide attempt.
The woman sef fine. There's a love triangle story gone wrong.
Multiple stab wounds to different parts of the body is a crime of passion fueled with emotion to continue hitting unlike just stabbing to save oneself or to commit crime.

Na only your comment make sense here!... you'll make a good dictective agent!

Kobicove:
Na you no get sense!

Do you know the circumstances under which she became a single mum?

You people will just be making baseless and stupid assumptions because of your personal bias!

That's your business to know the circumstance!, everyone should carry there baggages, I no be saviour or messiah to anyone!!!

Kobicove:
He already know the child she has is not his so what is your grouse with that?

You no get sense!... a single mother is vulnerable to her ex and other men she was with before meeting you, the possibility of raising another man's child is higher due to her ability to cheat on you, think deeper!

Useless woman, endangering a gentleman by nature

Dennisochampa:
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He posted the story... Not to ask for anyone's opinions but to share his happy moments.....
It's simple, what doesn't make sense to you makes sense to another.. That's how this world is designed.... As long as it makes him happy and doesn't hurt you in any way, then you have no right to judge or condemn him.... Especially given that he didn't call anyone's name when making the post....... Instead of abusing him for the choices he's made.... U can choose to ignore the post entirely

Well I understand your stance, but you and I know we all have perspectives in this life and thats hard to change, makes us humans and unique, I like the way we have this conversation without insults though 😉

Dennisochampa:
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This is what's wrong with the world today...
We have our lives to live and choices to make but we condemn that of others....
I'm sure you have made some very funny decisions in life that no one insulted you for....
If he is comfortable waiting for the woman of his dreams, then let's wish him well...
Personally for me, I can't wait for a woman's response for more than 1 day... I grow uninterested no matter how pretty she is but that is me....
I can't call someone who decided to spend his time to wait foolish...... The same thing applies to religion... We want to force our ways and beliefs on others which should not be

We have our lives to live and choices to make but we condemn that of others.... hence we have wise and foolish choices!, well I understand your point of you trying to say we should mind our businesses because its his choice, but in the real sense did he mind his own before broadcasting it on the Internet like it's an amazing feat he achieved, anything posted online is subjected to different opinions and that's my opinion concerning his choice, next time he should learn to keep his choices to himself!, I'm a realist and blunt, I'm not diplomatical or sugar coating in nature, finally I reason and say things logically not emotionally!

Mhizzard:
what is the trashe you quoted??

You are the trash 😆 🤣

Hezmatosky:
Worship women?
Make i kuku blow your mind. I love woman pass money, especially those with massive endowments. I can do anything to get them. Because of woman, i leave monday work follow woman go church and the end justifies the sacrifice. Try and heal yourself from this virus of hating women ok. They're gorgeous. In fact, woman is one of the best gifts of God to mankind. Love them, chase them, steal them from anybody and run with them. They worth every sacrifice. Thats why men go on their kneels to propose to them. They're angels on earth. Always love women so that your life will be long

Whatever rocks your boat, all I know is only men without there own personal interests takes women serious!, people that'll bail out within a twinkle of an eye once you worth nothing?, 😆 🤣, I reiterate whatever rocks your boat

Hezmatosky:
Na poverty dey do you. Probably, you fit still never chop since morning. Must you chase money all the time? Ready to go jail o, you'll soon tell us weda na charm ned take win regina heart

Now you are digressing to another topic you have no anchor at, you can PM and let's meet then you tell me how much you worth, mere seeing me you'll ascertain how much I worth, una go come online with una chivalry rubbish of worshipping women, you have a long way to go boy!, go and chase money and quit fooling around with romance 😆 🤣

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Hezmatosky:
You're not romantic, i can see. For you to open mouth to say one week is too much to win a girls heart, bro you need a re-orientation. You gat a bad one. Besides, i maybe speaking with a teenager since unknowingly😡

You are texting with a father of 2 kids!, what you call romance is stupidity, chasing a fellow human other men might have used and dumped for 5 years!?, Osim romantic 🤡 🤣... Ned Nwoke didn't win Regina Daniels by romance, go and chase money and leave frivolities!

Mhizzard:
hey man,don't ever tell me that in your life.my perspective is quit different from yours.in whatever way you use your life it is non of anyone business likewise the the said man.'she is not virgin'have you cross path with her before??ranting what you lack the knowledge of is total rubbish.

You're a mumu man, your perspective is mediocre and foolish!, someone at that her age is virgin to you?, you be real MUMU MAN 💯 😆 🤣

Hezmatosky:
I laff you in lizard's language. You're afraid that your future wife might have slept with many men abi? You never ready marry. You go old, been looking for who dey never wax you hear. Ewu ugboko, Ozwai, afor anu, ezi ofia

You're just making this complex by being silly, I never said I'm looking for virgin or tear lether, I said why meet a woman whether virgin or not and wait for more than 1 week for her positive response??, that's stupidity and one having a very low self esteem, I don't know where you brought up the issue of me looking for a virgin and the insults you're raining on yourself and family members not me!, drop your emotions and be logical, I'm not a virgin myself and has no interest in virginity but character and attributes from a person!

Hezmatosky:
One thing about you today's children is that you think money is everything when it comes to women. You can chyke a women throughout your school days, only for her to say yes after graduation. Maybe one or both of you were immature during the time

You are the one reasoning like a KID here!, and yes money is not everything but you can't do anything without money in today's world!, why keep your life on hold from secondary school days till now for a woman seeing other men??, does that even make sense to you?, what's so special about her that will compel me to wait that long?, even people with very dear dead relatives move on!, better work on your sense of reasoning and balancing things of life!

Dennisochampa:
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So if she had a boyfriend all that time, u advise her to have cheated on him with the man she got married to now??
There is nothing fraudulent about it.... It could be that at the time, she was in a relationship which isn't entirely her fault....
We should congratulate them and wish them the best... Not blessing the marriage with negativity....
For the guy to have chased her for 5 years.... He must have seen something he's willing to wait for... He must have thought she's worth it and we should respect his choices....

We all know there's nothing special about anyone you waited for 5 years to reply your text!, we are all humans and not perfect!, we die and rot away after procreation, sharing love and companionship, so why put your life on hold for someone that's flesh and blood like you for good 5 years??, omo that his choice is a very foolish and low one, I reiterate he's pathetically despicable and I have nothing to wish fools, he'll see the repercussions of his folly soon, make him better keep money one side for DNA, no be today we dey dating and relationship matter and no one is worth you waiting for even 1 week without positive response!

Dennisochampa:
Maybe fate....
Maybe determination...
Above all... Congratulations to them.... May God bless their home... Amen

There's no blessing in such a fraudulent home!... that lady doesn't love him and will cheat soon, a woman who loves a man can't keep him texting for 5 years!, Damn that guy is really PATHETIC!

Hezmatosky:
Try read naw, the guy was not consistent. Na only chat the guy dey chat naw

Chat for 5 years and no replies!?... means she's so special or what??, carry your nonsense talk commot for here!

Mhizzard:
in the first place,men are different;you ain't him.he is the one that knows the reason why that made him went into that long journey

There's no reason for you to sell out yourself for good five years!... what's so special about a girl that I'm certain is not even a virgin and will definitely rely on his resources, abeg make una dey use una head dey type!

SweetBuns:
I wish them nothing but the best

There's nothing to wish a stupid SIMP, Godforbid bad thing, wooing a lady for 5 years, he should be given most foolish man award of the year, despicable couple!

Zxcvbnmghtr:


Come and see broke ass guys call him simp.

No rationale man will call him simp, the girl stood by him in his most vulnerable time!

Omo, people designated to protect the masses are now kidnapping and extorting the masses??, which kind country be dis??, what a weird news!

optionalY09:
Go home or get help from Nigeria community in canada. Black people need to fix their character and start loving each other. Those who have accommodation should assist the people that do not have.

Love yourselves before you start asking others to love you - Use your brain

Collapse all these mushroom religious denominations into one strong Nigerian religions just like the Jewish catholics. Build an effective system with it and use it as a tool to accomplish many things. We are many, smart, yet useless

After helping and accommodating they fleece you and ruin your life!, Africans are horrible, always entitled and seeking to use you!, you might even be killed just for helping someone in need!