₦airaland Forum

Beautyaddy:
People need to learn how to take what they read on a faceless forum "with a grain of salt"

So yes, I have every reason to question the post from Onyinyechiakata.

Beyond a certain level u have to stop splitting hairs and accept that something is probably true, otherwise how can u prove anything - example, u have NO WAY of proving the entire universe does not exist only in your head.

Beautyaddy:
Are you're believing her?

I don't.

Some people sef. So why has the OP suddenly disappeared? Can’t u sense her passion. How can an uninvolved person manufacture that and why? That’s why people still say the World is flat and US never went to the moon

AngelicBeing:
Man =woe to the man =woe >> man = till the ground, fend and provide for the household = more pressures = frustrations = suicidal thoughts for lots of men = death or suicide for those who cannot hang-on till the end

Ok, so how come same doesn’t apply in Naija and China??

Ugosample:
the reason for suicides most of the time is not economic in Canada

however
many are killing themselves in NiggerArea because of the ECONOMIC hardship, frustration and hopelessness

imagine an orphaned breadwinner for siblings earning 85k in Lagos

can you imagine the pressure he is facing?

Notice how far more men commit suicide in all the countries except China and Nigeria. Wonder why that is ( though I don’t trust any numbers from China)

Ugosample:
the reason for suicides most of the time is not economic in Canada

however
many are killing themselves in NiggerArea because of the ECONOMIC hardship, frustration and hopelessness

imagine an orphaned breadwinner for siblings earning 85k in Lagos

can you imagine the pressure he is facing?

But not enough pressure to kill himself. Suicide is the ultimate vote of no confidence in wherever it is u happen to be

AngelicBeing:
Refrain from calling the biggest country in Africa a shithole, let's continue to pray for Nigeria, prayers works wonders, I believe in the power of prayers to change the fortune of Nigeria, l suggest that every member of Nairaland.com should start 700 days of fasting and prayers, break your fast with fruits by 6pm daily, avoid all manner of wickedness, sexual immoralities etc, pray for Buhari to be able to govern the nation, pray for good health care, roads, security, power, elimination of poverty, just pray and pray more for Nigeria and things will change in the next 6months, prayers is the solution to solve the problem in Nigeria

Sarcasm won’t kee u. But prayers do work wonders - scientifically proven, hence placebo effect.

Ugosample:
lmao

I see

but Canada is a good place to live tho
even tho I have not been there before

my relatives there have good things to say about the place

And thank Trudeau everyday for the opportunity express entry gave them to "flee that hopeless $hithole"

Who knows which place is really “better”. Example, how come Canada has higher suicide rate than Nigeria (see below)

justwise:
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Your choice of ID disagreed with that.

My moniker is actually parody - I joined NL at a moment everybody and their illiterate uncle was talking about moving to Canada

justwise:
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You couldn't make your intentions any clearer. Stop apologizing on our behalf and go straight to the point.

Gotta have some levity or the whole thing becomes tedious - see how I had tha guy raughing out roud

AngelicBeing:
Hian, Una go kill person with laugh for Nairaland.com, wetin person no go read for Nairaland.com, the hustle is real, know your way no be curse

Stay there. I’m just being real. I can sense this is a decent person and I wouldn’t mind hooking up - has nothing to do with getting out of the shithole

justwise:
You don't need to be rude and insulting, people have every right to air their views, yes some might have gone too far but this is what you get in public forum.

You have every right to be angry with the op for not declaring his love for you here and was more concern about his own gain but you can't blame people who gave their opinions based on or without experiences.

Be easy on her, mod, she was pissed off and excited and justifiably so. She was even tame - if it were me you’d be seeing words like shithole, scammers, 419...

Onyinyechiakata:
Thank you so much

U r welcome and if u r going to be dumping that guy let me know

Onyinyechiakata:
WOW LOOK AT WHAT WE HAVE HERE !
THIS IS YOUR ONYINYECHI SWEET "AKATA " you speak of I am across the world and have stumbled upon
A whole forum bashing and judging me about making a better living for MYSELF IN MY country!
How could you tell me to MAKE DECISIONS for myself when I shared with you about my people accusing you of being a user and scam! Because you are from Nigeria! I didn't listen I followed my heart I made a decision to use my VERY OWN JUDGEMENT , I listened to what you said and respected your wishes all for you to turn around behind my back and do the very same as me except its from COMPLETE ICOMPENTENT and IGNORANT TROLLS , you value these opinions !?? YOU ARE ASKING ABOUT Finance , money and opportunity not once saying you love me .. the username Byron asked if you did IN FACT LOVE ME and YOU couldn't even answer! That is what marriage is about LOVE ! I fell in love because I thought you were so different ... not looking to use me but I see I was so wrong ! YOU ALL HAVE NO IDEA what its like to be an AMERICAN so really all your opinions do not matter. I have not committed a crime ! I simply did what was best for my future. If you all had the chance you would ! How do you think you can afford school here , YOU WOULD HAVE NOTHING MOVING HERE.I was willing to go after OUR DREAMS we talked about together! I DIGRESS I am appalled in this community. My family and friends were right after all I wont say this about all of NIGERIA but I FELL IN LOVE WITH A SCAM !
I could be so DIRTY and EXPOSE WHO YOU REALLY ARE! EXPOSE SECRETS AND FLAWS YOU WANTED ME That O ACCEPT AND I DID BECAUSE I LOVE YOU and still care.! AND YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT ME TAKING MONEY FROM YOU! PATHETIC! AS FOR ALL YOU STUPID JUDMENTAL PEOPLE I PRAY YOU GET A LIFE AND EDUCATE BEFORE JUDGING !

YOU KNOW WHO THIS IS!

WOW! WOW!!
It is indeed a small world! This forum is not so faceless after all. Wow!
Onyinyechi, I believe u r the real person they have been discussing and I want to apologize to u and akatawoman for all the vile, cringe-worthy comments and generalizations. Most exposed Nigerians no longer even use the word “akata”.
And the GENERALIZATIONS!! These people deal with the lowest of the low and use them to generalize an entire people. Here u r, an upwardly mobile Nigerian-American of Igbo descent and they lump u with crack-smoking ghetto women. They forget people like the Obamas are also “akata”. They forget there are many African-American families where entire families are well-educated professionals and entrepreneurs with better work ethic than these people making these comments.
Once again I apologize on their behalf and I commend your honesty and openness about your debt. I bet you’ll now receive lots of dm from Naijas. I’ll advise u carefully consider the expenses and waiting that marrying someone over here entails.

Rilley:
I'm not a loser like ur lineages, get it!

So how come angelamina floored u. Hell hath no fury like a scorned man!

soberdrunk:
Still dont understand the essence of "screening" if people are taking a bow and leaving.....

I KNOW! They copy copy the West but they don’t copy the essence, only the appearance

OLAADEGBU:
That is what is called sexual abuse of a vulnerable adult.

And the “abused vulnerable adult” was bragging to everybody that he fuçked the dancer - that’s how they found out

burner44:
I am in support of this motion because if i nor want am e nor go rise if u even dey dorce me na dat one go worst pass.

Exactly! Even if I sick small e no go rise. If the girl wor wor...

akan102:
Really that part where you called him an occult high priest is very interesting, can you please explain further?

But people have been saying it na and he admitted it himself (see screenshot below).
BTW those statements are not from me, they are what people posted on various threads.

Ishola73:
Good evening everyone

I am writing this with a lot of regret and with the hope that others will learn from this and not fall into the same predicament. I had initially thought of another name for the the topic that will not sound so dramatic but decided to use this one because it is the true state of things as it concerns my life right now.

Deciding to stop doing something you enjoy can be challenging, there may be times when it feels impossible but remember lots of people no better than u have quit gambling, so can u.

Do your best to stay away from gambling, the ideal outcome is that you stay away. However if you do revert to gambling don’t get down on yourself. You can always get back on track and use the experience to learn how to stop next time.
It is helpful to know lapses are normal and can happen at any time when you are trying to quit.

donnie:
Nobody is supporting adultry or fornication. But Busola lied in her confession about being underage. From facts that have been put out, she was well over 20 by yr 2002 when the Pastor had his first child which she said she went to baby-sit. And the man (or boy) was just in his early 20s twenty years ago (he is 44yrs old now). So that picture many are trying to paint nor clear.

But u r the only one claiming this. Even Fato himself has not made such a claim. Also u didn’t address some other things people are posting. Here are all the posts again:

“One striking thing about these CONSENSUAL SEX proponents is that they have forgotten something called statutory rape - that Pastor Fatoyinbo was SUPPOSED to be pastor and spiritual father to then YOUNG AND NAIVE BUSOLA. Careful GROOMING made it appear like consensual sex. Betrayal of trust on the part of a pastor should be condemned.”

“Sending a truck load of well armed policemen to invite a woman who claimed she was raped is just so very wrong. It says to the woman that the police is working for the accused, otherwise a couple of officers could have stopped by her house to deliver the letter in a none threatening way“

“A civil case local to Lagos that should be answered in a nearby police station in Lagos. How did it become a federal criminal case with lurking armed policemen from the IGP from Abuja suveiling a private citizen’s home and intimidating him to sign a paper to appear in Abuja”

“Once a cultist is always a cultist , forget either pastor or no pastor”. (I do not agree with this. I put it here to show that such view exists)

“Fatoyinbo was the high priest of a cult in Ilorin. You can’t attain such position without killing people. He should kindly confess how many people he killed.”

“There are other more prominent pastors. Ask yourself why this particular one is the one being accused by several women.”

1shortblackboy:
which other word do u want. have u ever tried looking up the definition of rape? this situation fits perfectly

RAPE: What Nigerian Law Says

By Azubuike Aloysius (Associate)

Under Nigerian Law, the offence of Rape is limited to the actions of a man against a woman and requires at least a slight penetration of the joystick into the vagina to constitute rape. This definition has however been broadened by judicial pronouncements to include unlawful sexual activity with a person without consent whether by force, threat or intoxication.

It should be noted that rape is a form of sexual assault with penetration being the defining factor. Other forms of sexual assault include indecent assault, abduction, defilement etc and they are all punishable under the Criminal and Penal Codes.

What Nigerian Law Says.

Both Section 357 of the Criminal Code and Section 282 of the Penal Code define rape as unlawful carnal knowledge of a woman or girl,

without her consent, or with her consent;
if the consent is obtained by force or by means of threats or intimidation of any kind, or by fear of harm;
or by means of false and fraudulent representation as to the nature of the act;
in the case of a married woman, by impersonating her husband.
The Child Rights Act 2003 further expanded the applicability of the provisions on rape to include statutory rape i.e. unlawful sexual intercourse with children less than 18 years.

The statutes all provide for punishment of life imprisonment for any person found to have committed the offence of rape, whilst an attempt to commit rape would attract imprisonment of 14 years upon conviction.

Proof of Rape

In Nigeria, the most important and essential ingredient in proving the offence of rape is penetration. The Court will deem that sexual intercourse is complete upon proof of penetration of the joystick into the vagina. Any or even the slightest penetration will be sufficient to constitute the act of sexual intercourse and emission or the rupture of the hymen is unnecessary to establish the offence of rape.

Also important in proving the offence of rape is the issue of consent, a man will be said to have committed rape if he has unlawful sexual intercourse with a woman who at the time of the intercourse does not consent to it or where such consent is obtained by force or threat or intimidation or fraudulent representation.

(Reference Ogunbayo v. State (2007) 8 NWLR (pt. 1035) 157)

Conclusion

From the above it is clear that there the need to bring the laws relating to rape up to date with current realities in Nigeria, a starting point should be an expansion of the definition of what constitutes rape to include rape committed by females on males, as well as same sex rape.

It is also important to identify that force doesn’t always refer to physical pressure as perpetrators may use emotional coercion, psychological force, or manipulation to coerce a victim into non-consensual sex.
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Re: Rape: What Nigerian Law Says by Deknight45: 9:45am
Violence Against Persons Prohibition Act (VAPPA):

The VAPPA defines rape as when a person intentionally penetrates the vagina, anus or mouth of another person with any other part of his/her body or anything else without consent, or with incorrectly obtained consent. Consent can be incorrectly obtained where it is obtained:
by force/threats/intimidation
by means of false and fraudulent representation as to the nature of the act,
by the use of substances capable of taking away the will of that person
by a person impersonating a married woman’s husband in order to have sex
As you can see, the VAPPA seems like a very progressive piece of legislation. Unfortunately, the law is only applicable in the FCT, Abuja. It does not apply in of the other States of the Federation.

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Re: Rape: What Nigerian Law Says by Deknight45: 9:46am
Child Rights Act (CRA):

The CRA provides that sex with a child is rape, and anyone who has sexual intercourse with a child is liable to imprisonment for life upon conviction.
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Re: Rape: What Nigerian Law Says by Deknight45: 9:48am
HAVE YOU BEEN RAPED OR DO YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO HAS?

If you’ve been raped or sexually assaulted, then you should not suffer in silence. Rape is a crime in Nigeria, and if you are a victim you should report the matter to ensure that the person is punished, and ensure that the person does not get an opportunity to do it to someone else again in the future.

Reporting rape can be a very emotional and difficult thing to do, so you should consider getting support from organisations like Mirabel Centre – http://mirabelcentre.org/ , where rape and sexual assault victims can get access to forensic medical assistance, and more importantly professional counselling services. They are located at Lagos State University Teaching Hospital (LASUTH) Ikeja, Lagos, and are open from 9am – 5pm – Monday – Friday, and 10am – 4pm on weekends & Public Holidays. They can also be reached on these numbers: 07013491769, 01-2957816, 08176275732, 08176275695; and on Twitter: @MirabelCentreNG and Facebook: www.facebook.com/MirabelNigeria

By lawpadi.com

Akan102:
Really that part where you called him an occult high priest is very interesting, can you please explain further?

(Bot banned me from that thread)
But people have been saying it na and he admitted it himself (see screenshot below).
BTW those statements are not from me, they are what people posted on various threads.

1shortblackboy:
which other word do u want. have u ever tried looking up the definition of rape? this situation fits perfectly

I looked it up and I still don’t understand how a man can be raped by a woman unless through the anus with a díldo IF A MAN DOES NOT WANT SEX HIS DICK WILL NOT RISE!

Here are definitions I found:

1) Rape is an act of sexual intercourse with an individual without his or her consent.

2) Rape is an act of sexual intercourse with a person against his or her will. A rapist or a victim may be an adult of either gender or a child. Although rape can occur in same-sex intercourse, it is most often committed by a male against a female. There is also an increasing tendency to treat as rape an act of sexual intercourse by a husband with his wife against her will.

Emanodimo:
It is only a doctor that can confirm if that's possible for a madman to make love forced or willingly?

How can u even force a man to have sex. Men that even the slightest anxiety the penís will fall. It is simply not possible to rape a man except u mean anal gay sex

NwaAmaikpe:




The Dakolos keep churning out false claim after claim.

This is a very sensational case; the type most lawyers will kill to handle so it can boost their CV.
But Falana in his wisdom declined it so it won't mess up his winning streak.
Even the blind can see that the Dakolos have lost this battle.

When Timi released the song "Iyawo mi", I knew there was something special about it.
I never knew he was introducing us to the woman who'd bring him to his doom.

I doubt there'd even be a marriage to salvage by the time Biodun Fatonyibo is done taking them to the cleaners.

Clout-seeking, sympathy hungry, mumu couple.

What’s wrong with this guy? Do u see anywhere he said the Dakolo’s asked him to represent them?? And why do u have to be so insultive?
Bros there is something up with u, u sound like a paid agent.

Here are some things real Nigerians are saying, not COZA people and paid agents:

“One striking thing about these CONSENSUAL SEX proponents is that they have forgotten something called statutory rape - that Pastor Fatoyinbo was SUPPOSED to be pastor and spiritual father to then YOUNG AND NAIVE BUSOLA. Careful GROOMING made it appear like consensual sex. Betrayal of trust on the part of a pastor should be condemned.”

“Sending a truck load of well armed policemen to invite a woman who claimed she was raped is just so very wrong. It says to the woman that the police is working for the accused, otherwise a couple of officers could have stopped by her house to deliver the letter in a none threatening way“

“A civil case local to Lagos that should be answered in a nearby police station in Lagos. How did it become a federal criminal case with lurking armed policemen from the IGP from Abuja suveiling a private citizen’s home and intimidating him to sign a paper to appear in Abuja”

“Once a cultist is always a cultist , forget either pastor or no pastor”. (I do not agree with this. I put it here to show that such view exists)

“Fatoyinbo was the high priest of a cult in Ilorin. You can’t attain such position without killing people. He should kindly confess how many people he killed.”

“There are other more prominent pastors. Ask yourself why this particular one is the one being accused by several women.”

lexy2014:
Oga, get a hold of ur emotions. U still spilling ur emotions d way Shell spills oil in Ogoni land. Is "Cultists rape" different from "all cultists rape"? Is "presidents walk" different from "all presidents walk"? These are simple questions that require yes or no if u actually no what u are saying which u have shown that u don't.

Let's look at one of ur contradiction. U said "cultists rape". Much earlier, u said "once a cultist, always a cultist". After asking u to verify, u came and said u don't agree with it but u have repeatedly added it to ur post.

According to u "cultists rape" but u here u go



then how do u defend this?:


U c how u are contradicting urself?

Once again, who are d Nigerians that have said or that are saying? Give us their names.

Verify all ur quotes. Its so simple. if u don't agree with everything u are quoting, then y are u quoting them as d truth? U can't even verify anything u are saying as to whether it is d truth or not but u are posting them all over d place as a true reflection of events. If u can't say for a certainty that d information u are sharing is d truth, then y are u sharing it?

I am totally cool, u r the one that needs to get hold of yourself. I was able to find one person quoted - see screenshot below
Now what is wrong with u about this “cultists rape” of a thing? U can’t be that daft. Here are similar sentences:
Women gossip
Babies cry
Grown men don’t cry
Nigerians can scam eh!
South Africans are lazy
Igbos like money
Nurses like sex
Add yours (I want to add “and stop being mumu”)

See below. See the moniker of who said it. Go quarrel with him and leave me alone.

AfonjaConehead:
This one is more than being unlucky,if you are opportuned to enter the States,you don't need scam marriage, you get married legally. There are thousands of single ladies,women, divorcees in in need of life partner in the States.

Do u think if he could he wouldn’t have done that instead of paying somebody. Note that there are also thousands of single men US citizens, divorcees, men in need of life partners. DECENT women are not lined up waiting to marry a struggling illegal. Of course there are exceptions and people get LUCKY but it’s generally not as easy as u think.

texazzpete:
And for every 10 females you see, at least one
Has experienced sexual assault before. Every single day, we hear of new cases. Some in girls as young as 2 years of age!

Stop diminishing the pain of victims!

When was the last time you heard anyone get convicted of rape before ?

No mind them.

Here are some things real Nigerians are saying, not COZA people and paid agents:

“One striking thing about these CONSENSUAL SEX proponents is that they have forgotten something called statutory rape - that Pastor Fatoyinbo was SUPPOSED to be pastor and spiritual father to then YOUNG AND NAIVE BUSOLA. Careful GROOMING made it appear like consensual sex. Betrayal of trust on the part of a pastor should be condemned.”

“Sending a truck load of well armed policemen to invite a woman who claimed she was raped is just so very wrong. It says to the woman that the police is working for the accused, otherwise a couple of officers could have stopped by her house to deliver the letter in a none threatening way“

“A civil case local to Lagos that should be answered in a nearby police station in Lagos. How did it become a federal criminal case with lurking armed policemen from the IGP from Abuja suveiling a private citizen’s home and intimidating him to sign a paper to appear in Abuja”

“Once a cultist is always a cultist , forget either pastor or no pastor”. (I do not agree with this. I put it here to show that such view exists)

“Fatoyinbo was the high priest of a cult in Ilorin. You can’t attain such position without killing people. He should kindly confess how many people he killed.”

“There are other more prominent pastors. Ask yourself why this particular one is the one being accused by several women.”

boxypane:
No bus them take dey deliver mssg ba? If they weren't harassed by the police, would they start shouting?

No mind them.

Here are some things real Nigerians are saying, not COZA people and paid agents:

“One striking thing about these CONSENSUAL SEX proponents is that they have forgotten something called statutory rape - that Pastor Fatoyinbo was SUPPOSED to be pastor and spiritual father to then YOUNG AND NAIVE BUSOLA. Careful GROOMING made it appear like consensual sex. Betrayal of trust on the part of a pastor should be condemned.”

“Sending a truck load of well armed policemen to invite a woman who claimed she was raped is just so very wrong. It says to the woman that the police is working for the accused, otherwise a couple of officers could have stopped by her house to deliver the letter in a none threatening way“

“A civil case local to Lagos that should be answered in a nearby police station in Lagos. How did it become a federal criminal case with lurking armed policemen from the IGP from Abuja suveiling a private citizen’s home and intimidating him to sign a paper to appear in Abuja”

“Once a cultist is always a cultist , forget either pastor or no pastor”. (I do not agree with this. I put it here to show that such view exists)

“Fatoyinbo was the high priest of a cult in Ilorin. You can’t attain such position without killing people. He should kindly confess how many people he killed.”

“There are other more prominent pastors. Ask yourself why this particular one is the one being accused by several women.”

Seenyo:
which dumb consent?....

No mind.

Here are some things real Nigerians are saying, not COZA people and paid agents:

“One striking thing about these CONSENSUAL SEX proponents is that they have forgotten something called statutory rape - that Pastor Fatoyinbo was SUPPOSED to be pastor and spiritual father to then YOUNG AND NAIVE BUSOLA. Careful GROOMING made it appear like consensual sex. Betrayal of trust on the part of a pastor should be condemned.”

“Sending a truck load of well armed policemen to invite a woman who claimed she was raped is just so very wrong. It says to the woman that the police is working for the accused, otherwise a couple of officers could have stopped by her house to deliver the letter in a none threatening way“

“A civil case local to Lagos that should be answered in a nearby police station in Lagos. How did it become a federal criminal case with lurking armed policemen from the IGP from Abuja suveiling a private citizen’s home and intimidating him to sign a paper to appear in Abuja”

“Once a cultist is always a cultist , forget either pastor or no pastor”. (I do not agree with this. I put it here to show that such view exists)

“Fatoyinbo was the high priest of a cult in Ilorin. You can’t attain such position without killing people. He should kindly confess how many people he killed.”

“There are other more prominent pastors. Ask yourself why this particular one is the one being accused by several women.”