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Ishilove:
She's delicate, so use Oraimo cord. If na man you fit use 2 by 4

This stupid thread made front page? Happy NL mods?

pansophist:
If a woman wants modernity or traditionality, no problem, but stay one place. No jumping like a monkey from one tree to the other.

If you want to be traditional, meaning my money is our money but yours is not, then you better be a virgin, be okay that I marry more wives, and no question ask about your traditional duties.

But if I didn't meet you a virgin, then you want all the benefit of traditions that you like, such as wedding, bride price, men being the sole financial carrier, then you better meet your own end of the deal. We can't do white wedding to a woman other men knack mercilessly without without wedding.

You need to start changing it for these women. By default, many are so damn selfish they don't think beyond their greed. It's all about them, and you're just a tool to reach that place. Don't accept it.

Not overtly. Thwart their moves while feigning ignorance. Use subtle ways to thwart them in gentlemanly fashion, in an era where many people are exposed to domestic violence, use the Bismarck/Kessinger approach.

I do watch them come, stutter and falter whilst trying to game up. Truth is, it can be tasking but I'm not an advocate of using aggression when you change it for them.

I think the Bismarck/Kessinger approach has strongly been my most potent repellant against confusionists. Thwart them and smile like nothing happened. Say no whilst kissing them. Listen whilst making your moves.

You know what? No rate them again. Don't even preach family income to these people, many aren't honest with themselves.

They like brutally rich men, and they emasculate good ones which ultimately leads to future suffering.

Their destiny is confused.

pansophist:
Exactly. Otherwise I'm the only one in the relationship. No one will treat you in a way you won't accept. So it's one thing for a woman to refuse to be responsible for anything, but it's another thing for a man to accept it.

I read your thread with that title and I since knew that many behaviors can't fly with me.

Over here in the East, I keep hearing allow your wife to work but don't look at her money. And I respond, you're preaching "his money na our money, but her money na her money".
And everyone starts laughing, but they forget that healthy finances for both parties are necessary to create balance. There's what you call family income, and it comprises both parties total earnings, you don't need joint accounts for this.

If a woman becomes greedy and selfish with her earnings, when the fortunes of the man turns towards the negative, issues will begin to ensue because the man may become worthless and the woman would only remain because of children, and society that has caged her in the marriage.

But they laugh it off, yet you see these women will start carrying their families alone after running their men down for few years of enjoyment.

Burden of performance is no joke o. One told me recently, you're not romantic but you're trying in caring and I laughed because na excuse she dey make.

Be ready to wake up to many shades of me, forget money, I go love you like say tomorrow no day.

pansophist:
I will hold you responsible and accountable. If you vex say I earn 100k monthly, then you must lead by example by earning more. In simple terms, you must walk the talk. Angry that I don't have six packs, okay no problem, oya show me your own

Simply put, burden of performance is on her as well and not only you.

kelspinall:
help me secure the future first then I will love you till infinity

You too smart

Had to hide my location, else, na simple phone I dey use.

Imagine?

My Pvc in my hand its for Obi.

Count it on twitter and in the ballot.

Why scared?

Do these Mummies think no one went extra miles to get ready for this election?

Let them keep joking. E go shock some people.

God forbid I default in servicing my debts or totally abdicate paying them.

Chukwu aju!

Ashi! Ugha!

ahnie:
Pendulum.. ..E must go round.

Abi now.

Let him go to Hausas first, Yoruba second, Cows third and whatever is left, we Fourth Class Dotians will see what we can do.

Onye Ara.

dollytino4real:
God bless u, pls help dem if u can! because am in dat shoe, my ex has really been supportive in my marriage! Is still dis talk I no wan suffer still happened to me but I ended up the way I am now!! Pls help

I had to deactivate bedtime mode on my phone to understand this post.

God will work a turnaround in your home. Believe!

What if he tragically died? No contingency measures on that?

Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

Go ahead and ruin that relationship with your refusal to couple up with her.

Do it and see the love and devotion she'd give you for months, if not years to come.

Sir, na to your advantage, you have nothing to lose, even more so, the parents of your GF will see you as a responsible man who's bold enough to have marriage interests in their daughter.

But please abort mission if na smash-and-pass dey your mind.

I don tire for this criminals o