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Nothing planned on my end.

But I'll sure enjoy it.

Those still saying that life goes on are even worse than OP's girlfriend.

When one's beloved family kin passes on, something dies and that thing comes with lots of pains, unfortunately, he's dating a hendonist whose primary focus is self-aggrandisement and overindulgence in pleasures and much more that's outside of the relationship.

LaSenior, sorry for every thing, simply, move on.

illicit:
No toast any girl o

And no allow dem toast u

I was hoping that I'll see something like this, and then, you have to say it.

Op, Listen to this o. Diversify your hustles, no turn pos/atm for babies o because them go come wella with blackmail of calling you stingy.

Think responsibly and guide your business wella.

Toks2008:
I have read stories of several guys who come online to wail after a lady they spent so much for dumps or cheats on them and one begins to wonder if these guys expect the ladies in question to sign away their lives to them because they spent on them...

So I'm here to give this straight up advice to guys... if you have not reached the level of maturity where you are able to spend on a lady or give her money or anything at all and still expect her to dump you without having regrets... Please keep your money or material gifts to yourself...or better still, give what you can afford to lose.

Spending on a lady is your choice, and no matter what you do for any lady, she can still dump you for another man.

Be wise.

Mr Tokunbo, you're very correct.

Until these guys discipline themselves that their spending doesn't/shouldn't attract perpetual loyalty, they'll keep getting dumped repeatedly, and heartbroken ceaselessly.

She stays or go, her choice regardless of how much he spent. And whether he, the spender choose to stay or leave after investing, is his choice.

Their expectations are too tight that they seek after perpetual loyalty until they get burned.

SeunTheOwner:
Honestly

Zeroly, or by default, I depend on God

Firstly, I have reduced my food expenses by 33% and I am planning to reduce it to 50% to 40% then invest in taking supplements instead. By this I will eat less and still have more body nutrients.

Secondly, I have stop lending people money. Except those who have reputation for returning as promised.

Thirdly, I don't have or plan to keep any *God forsaken girlfriend* Holinessforever

Forthly, I don't impress people with what I have or don't have and I don't live a fake life.

Sixthly, I don't spend my data on watching porn. That is the fastest way people lose money unconsciously. Imagine a N5k worth of data to watch some God unloving naked people.

Seventhly, I have stayed away from sport betting.

You're unimaginably and exceptionally wise.

ahnie:
Please bankers in the house, I need help with this.since last month I have observe strange stipends alerts in both my accounts.

It started with my business account last month that I opened, I thought it was a mistake, as I don't remember doing transaction with anybody by that name.

Pls note that, all my transaction money are paid into my daily account,whilst I transfer the money into my business account.

Moments ago I got another token alert again, I m getting scared.could it be possible that someone is using my acct for fraud or something by disbursing cash into my accounts?


To be honest I m worried, I don't want my acct to be flagged, pls help me.

Don't touch the money no matter what.

Go to your bank and inquire about the alerts.

I've been ignoring this, let me simply sign in.

U dey do well Sir

meetme01:
That's the main reason.

Women can easily change with their friends view on issues. Wrong advice et al

You that lonely ranger can easily tolerate and endure things, she can be resilient and resistant to hard times but Cartel/Parliament will always open loopholes that will make the relationship crash immediately by overstimulating their members ego and this can be so when they're a Cartel/Parliament of heartbroken women.

And sometimes, these women's Cartel/Parliament are guys who want to shoot shots too.

meetme01:
Marry someone that aligns with your dream and passion.

Be prepared to make it work- come rain, come shine.

Don't marry a woman with lot of friends.

Communication..Communication and Communication is key

Be open and be real

Discuss everything and anything

Don't hide anything from your partner. If you guys agree it's a secret, let it be.

I never marry but I don't like people that move with their Cartel/Parliament. Negative views can easily creep in.

ahnie:
Here to read funny comments

Talk your own!

Aremwayne:
I am 29 myself and I am really tired of settling family problems, within two months I have spent over 500k solving issues. I have decided to get married next year or risk remaining single for the rest of my life cos the problems keep coming.

Your eyes don open.

Lauraobd1:
I think I'm in same shoe here.my mom even confronted my gf to halt anything with me.reason..shes older than me

At this stage, I'll support you disobey her o.

But don't let the communications between you stop, in fact, hustle harder and be sending money to her while your babe wait a little.

Don't lose a good woman because of family, many family members are sycophants, they want you unmarried so that billing you can be easier.

Seahorse is a good brand, I've known them since 2013.

sinfultrust:
Been a redPiller for almost a year. I was going through heartbreak when I stumbled upon this thread and everything in my life changed drastically. It wasn’t easy but the results are massive. I bought my first car 3 days are ago, something I never thought possible. Last girl I dated was 27 and she pressured me to marry her by all means. I don’t have much but I was doing ok by myself before I met her. After few months of dating I found myself solving all her financial problems to the extent of supporting her family with financial aid. I’m an average Nigerian youth scraping to survive, I was blind to the fact that the only exchange I get in return for all my sacrifices was sex. Yes, I’m not gonna lie there were times she lend me money like 10k, 20, 5, 7 etc it goes on and on. Compared to what I’ve spent, I know I was on the losing end. Our relationship was hitting rock bottom fast because her demands was becoming outrageous and I was constantly broke to the extent of not having airtime or data. Come middle of last year she told me she’s going to NYC camp. That was when I started having guts feeling that our union is over or something crazy is about to happen. Before she leave for camp I got sick and she didn’t visit. Even though she knows I’m a lone wolf I’ve got no friends whatsoever she still didn’t visit. I was admitted at the hospital for a week, while I was going through WhatsApp status on hospital bed I saw a video of her in a party having the time of her life with friends. Honestly, that evening I cried, I felt betrayed I felt so many things I don’t even understand. I had no money for hospital bills so I told her to assist me with half of it if possible and she came through with half of it sent to hospital account. When I got out we talked for 3 good days on phone before I stumbled on this thread because I was already going crazy about the whole thing. I was searching the internet for answers, I was helpless and desperately in need of what to do next. Because, at the time I thought exiting the relationship would be childish or make me look immature. Long story short, this thread changed my life. I stopped contacting her and blocked her on both lines but not WhatsApp. I was expecting her to react but she didn’t contact me too. Months past, It was almost a year before she contacted me on WhatsApp on day, and said she just gave birth to a baby girl. I didn’t reply for 2 days and when I did reply it was just one word “congratulations” then she started asking how I’m doing, if everything is great and so on. My brother I didn’t respond. I know some of you think this thread is a joke but it’s not. In just a year of not being in any exclusive relationship I’m seeing transformers in my life. Nothing good comes easy, you wouldn’t know if you don’t try. My best and most reliable friend and partner is money and my skill to make money. I treat my hustle the way I used to treat girls, I don’t play with her. As a man my worth my beauty my affluence and everything goes down to what I have. So, if you’re here to fight and argue with others, you’re doing yourself more harm than good. I reversed my game with women I deal with. Strictly making all my dealings with them transactional. This is the best way for me, It might not work for you and of course everyone is different. The way you deal with Y is gonna be different from the way you deal with Z. But, whatever I do, I do it transactional. If she wants a favor from me that I can offer. Then, I want something from her too. No matter how small, she must do something in return except she’s family. Universal blessings to all brothers in the house and enjoy your weekend. Thank you

Congratulations Sir.

Keep riding the storms as they come.

maureensylvia:
If you have swimming pool in your house and you have children...

This is how your swimming pool should look like.

May what we build for family pleasure never end up causing deepest pains.

This post was inspired by the death of Davido's son... Rest on cutie.

I think this is good but still, when not in use or you cant guarantee proper supervision, please drain the pool as well.

Every ounce of precautions should not be neglected biko.

pansophist:
1. If I magically become a twenty-year-old again, I will never go to a traditional university, I will instead, go to NOUN (national open university of Nigeria) or study online in a free online university (''uopeople'' is a good one) so I will have a lot of free time, then start a business along the way, make all the mistakes necessary and succeed in it. This way, I kill two birds with one stone. A degree and a career that sets me up for life and makes me attractive and respected in my 30s. And it's cheaper too, without the distraction of strikes, cultism, too expensive, the temptation of prostitution, etc. 

2. If you want to understand human nature, politics, women, society, and how power structures work, study the animal jungle. Animals will reveal to you the true nature of humans without the mask of laws, civility, and democracy (lol). 

3. By default, trust no one. And if they give you reasons not to trust them, believe them. If you come to trust them through proven track records that span a reasonable amount of time, still make sure you have a safe landing if things go bad. 

4. Everybody is trying to capture your mind. Guard it with your life. Your mind is like an engine or a computer OS, if it is corrupt, the whole system will be. An example of a captured mind is he who cannot think for himself. 

5. You should know that you are paying a very dangerous price if you refuse to man up, get your shit together, and put in the work. The world is very unforgivable to weak people who prefer comfort, and your refusal to work hard will sink you at the bottom of the food chain, of which you would have been older, fatter, maybe smarter due to experiences, but poorer, and irrelevant. 

6.  Your 20's will only be the time you will be free. From your 30s, society will not be soft on you the way you are soft on yourself. If you are broke, girls will ignore you, friends will not respect you, and your esteem will be low. And other successful people will rent your life to advance their interests. And it will only go worse from there. And as a man, by default, you are on your own. 

7. The earlier you start to run, the quicker you reach the finish line, rest, and enjoy. if your parents are still sponsoring you in your 20s, it is not an excuse to be lazy. Face life as a man, because it gets harder as you grow older. 

8. Look for a woman you hate with a passion, then buy a house for her, a car, and maintain the house until you die. This is the pain that awaits you if you marry a woman who lies, manipulates, and is a deceiver because the body is what attracts you instead of the character. 

9. Your biggest enemies will always be those in your inner circle. It is difficult to be envious of someone you don't know, who didn't watch grow from zero to hero. haters are harmless idiots who hate from afar, but envy is within. More people have been killed and backstabbed by those who know them than by strangers. 

10. In anything you do, make sure that you are able to look at yourself in the mirror and have peace within. You might get away with treating people wrongly, but nothing will torment the soul more than your conscience. Conversely, nothing will burn your soul more than allowing injustice to be done to you because you have no teeth. Grow some teeth, and make sure you can use them, and that single act of deterrence will scare the dangers of this world away from you. 

11. You have to be awake to outsmart women. Women by nature are next level' more socially aware than men, so it takes a conscious effort for most men to see themselves through the eyes of women. You will probably spend your life permanently with one, so it worth spending time (and resources) to know them.

12. Have a war mindset, because whether you like it or not, you are in a fight by default. Life is a battle that you win before going to the battleground. A battleground merely confirms your victory. A sheep and a lion don't have to enter the ring before we know that the lion has won.

Onye nkem! I tuale for you!

Spitting wisdom like Solomon.

Medianna:
Forgive,No matter the gravity of the offense.

I object.

If your offence would have cost me my life, I'll come for you, even if years after.

Too much forgiveness dey make people dey senseless.

Cinema4d:
1. Stop buying dumb shit. If you do, make it rare and inexpensive.

2. Life isn't fair. Stop trying to make it fair. Make it unfair to your advantages instead.

3. Your employer does not care about you. If you can make money elsewhere, do it.

4. Introverts aren't anti-social, they just hate drama, stupidity, and fake people.

5. Invest early and often so work becomes optional sooner.

6. Successful people aren't special. 99% of them just never gave up.

7. Alcohol has 0 benefit. It makes you poorer, dumber, and fatter.

8. There is little value in caring about things you cannot control.

9. Accountability and maturity are the same thing.

10. Avoid high interest debt at all costs.

Those two points can increase your life span if you start practicing them immediately you clocked 16.

aylive02:
:I



That's good. If na Nigeria, them go dey ask you mumu question to go and bring your citizenship certificate. Even this man is not a British by birth, he will occupy one of the country's most sensitive posts.




And to agbado master and URCHINS where would you be on the eve of OBI's announcement as the GCFR?

He was born in Southampton Sir

gloryhomemaker:
Happy weekend family,

These are my recent works and I want to check something. Giving only one option which of these delicacies are you okay to go home with?

Meanwhile, I have included the links below for those interested in replicating any of the recipes. They are easy to follow[b] Cook With Me[/b] steps.

Ogbono Soup
https://www.nairaland.com/7206686/how-cook-special-ogbono-soup

Egusi Soup
https://www.nairaland.com/7108228/way-make-rich-egusi-soup

Tomato Stew
https://www.nairaland.com/7124519/see-delicious-tomato-stew-grilled

Vegetable Soup
https://www.nairaland.com/7318669/how-cook-delicious-edikang-ikong-soup

Bia Gloryhomemaker, why you wan expose my weaknesses like this?

Egusi is one soup I perpetually can't stop myself from salivating on especially when it's done right with fish.

But you see that stew, just dish am with better salted white rice and put eggs and fish, oh my!

Those two for me, except you wan add Oha soup, e be say you don get me!.

Good one there.

manoflove22:
u sha want to give me a heartattack by all means

No, just to be thorough and certain.

I can assure you that it's best you check again by December.

Hang on two more months and try a laboratory run test and see.