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Ginaz:
Good evening house.
My phone got stolen last year November. The thief cut my window net and stole my phone along with the charger through the window. I woke up around 4.a.m searching for my phone with no success till I looked at the window and saw the big hole staring at me. I was so shocked is an understatement.

I have replaced my phone but right now I wake up in the night and start looking for my phone even if I must have safely keep it.

I wake up and first thing I search for, is my phone.
I open eyes, first thing I want to see, is my phone.


How do I stop this biko? Who have experienced this? Is it panic attack or what?

You're experiencing posttraumatic stress disorder (PTDS).

You need to be braver than you ever know because it can lead to depression.

victooman:
Nairalanders, during service year l met a good and excellent woman,, someone l love with everything , l am 27yrs and she is 27 too, l was born on may and she was born in January, this thing just weak me o, looking at my appearance and the way l conduct myself most people assume l am 30 and above self, please nairalanders l dont want to lose this girl, what is the disadvantages of marrying a girl your senior? l cant cope with younger girls, their reasoning is what l cant cope with , l want to marry this girl immediately l hit 30 ,

Man, once she knows you're almost going to lose her.

Better initiate marriage procedures with her immediately.

Plan it small and convince her to go with it, no lose her because the kind reset wey go enter her head the moment she find out fit shatter you.

Tonero5200:
Any little issue we have she report it to her brother, just because am the cool headed type. I'm tired of the all whole thing, several times have wanted to call it quit but we end up getting back together. On Friday she went out with a guy to shoprite, when I asked who he was, she said they are just friends which was a lie because that guy normally calls her when she's with me.

I i told her, that she can go ahead to date him that me am done with the whole relationship. At first she laughed, then told me I NOR FIT. She's been calling since then which i ignored.
his elder bro came to my house with some friends of his that has several stab wounds and injuries all over their body, they didn't touch me, he just asked me what happened and I told him then what he said is I should try work it out with his sister then he Left.

Have made up my mind, but I know this isn't the end of it.. the dude is well known all over the town for his problems and he will be back.

Kindly walk out from the relationship immediately she starts to send folks to bully or threaten you.

But incase you're not treating her right, please, try and correct yourself.

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

If I'm your brother or father, I'll freely give you my blessings.

An unstable person shouldn't assume such responsibilities as tasking as birthing and caring for a child or children.

Please, focus on healing yourself, and start harnessing your maternal prowess, in case you want to adopt, it'd be easier.

Good luck.

1Sharon:
Look at them. Why so much insults?

The OP was just simply insecure.
She had concerns she wasn't acting right and pulled out. Yes, she could had a more polite way of doing that.

Men from abroad are red flags. They usually want a temporary relationship with Nigerian women.

Because he says he wants to marry her doesn't mean he would.

Sharon dear, I understand you perfectly, and from someone like me that have blown my own chances at relationships, I offered my own advice, but I think you went judgmental and prejudicial with my comment/advice.

Nonetheless, I appreciate the fact that you acknowledged her insecurities and concerns. The only thing I know is, once a heart gets frozen over, nothing changes it especially when things haven't solidified.

I hope she learns from it and try to caution herself next time out.

Peace.

jackals:
Why do y'all sounds to make me unhappy. I'm not happy with how things turn out with him not getting back to me as I had hoped. And now you guys are compounding my issue.

Thanks anyways

I don't know if what I'm about to say might make sense to you but lemme add a pinch of salt to whatever have been dished out to you.

When you progress through classes in school, do you drop out to see whether your teachers will call you or beg you to start attending school? Its a probable no from you.

You initiated a deadly mind game with him and he did the best thing for himself, refusing to play your unwarranted game with you.

I pray you meet another man who might not be ruthlessly impatient with you next you happen to meet a good person.

Learn and grow dear, learn and grow.

horpeyemmi66:
Space for sale

Will you sell for N100m?

shortIGBOman:
No mention North. Northerners no dey do crime.

Not Saint-Ful-l am o

Federal character dey here.


I'm ashamed for all of them.

Whether Easterner, Westerner, Southerner or Northerner. I shame give them all.

Ezendimmuo:
Good day guys...
I am a Corper serving in Rivers state...
My girlfriend has been asking me when we would get paid as of last month...
Well
We got paid on Thursday..
She was asking me when I was going to give her her share...
Mind you..
This Rivers state government doesn't pay corpers..
Even my PPA doesn't pay...
I have to manage 33k in a strange land...which I why I actually ventured into side hustles...
Just this week alone...
I have sent her like 3k...
She became upset when I told her we'll discuss how much I'd give her later...
She said she didn't wanna talk tor and started giving me cold answers...
I respectfully hung up..

Am I selfish

Tips on how to survive right now;

Any billing you receive from any lady not your wife, or that is too heavy and is beyond your two days feeding, send it to your mother, sisters or relatives.

Trust me, by the time you finish NYSC, they can help you stand or might not pressure your pocket for more than you can give.

If 3k no do her right now, just exit that ship cos e go wreck you in the next 6 months or so.

pozehnani:
What are your views guys and ladies?

Let's not keep quiet and pretend like these things don't happen or they are only fictional or things you see only on social media. They are real!!!!

Consider guys from your church.

pocohantas:
People still go to viewing centre? I remember how my brother went to a viewing centre years ago with his friend. The friend said he doesn’t have money, so my brother used his last card to pay for both of them.

Few minutes later the guy ordered for peppered meat and malt. My brother shock.

Oke sense!


Yes, people can't be all holed up in their houses because of football.

@Thread

Real Madrid v Chelsea na still N100 we pay o.

Vinnie2000:
After Marriage, there are some stuffs the Society/culture expect you to Abandon!

Personally, Don't think i can abandon some Lifestyles!.

Mine is.

1. Going to Viewing centre at night to watch UCL matches. (The crazy banters and Gbasgbos is Epic )
2. Going to the Buka to eat Banga rice and Assorted meat!.
3. Staying up@nights to watch Sound city and MTV Base.

WHAT'S YOURS?

Help move to frontpage. Thanks!

Only going to stop this when she's pregnant, the security in that area has worsened, and I just dey too tired to go out or excess work follow me back home.

If Chelsea dey ball, my friendliness dey off o.

Realmi:
U are just 21, u dont have a job, but u can sleep with a girl....

Now u are scared

Really

Like u tot the product of sex is canada visa


Wen u dey do oxlade style and probably filming it to, u were even having sex twice in a week for three months

Time wey u for use dey find money

U have plenty problems ooo, u are not just awear

I just stand dey look you aswearyougahd.

Dominion791:
I've been seeing this girl for the last few months, since early January of this year. Not an official relationship and we haven't really talked about what we are. Not sure exactly how to describe her so I'm just going to use her as a friend in benefit as the description.

There was some emotion in our relationship but it was mostly sexual. I've always been really, really good about using condoms and this is the first time I've ever been in this pregnancy situation.

I'm pretty unsure if I am the father. We had sex about twice a week for the last three months. So I have no clue who she saw or was with nor do I really care to be honest. There is more than a little doubt in my mind if I am the father.

For what its worth she insists I am the father but I don't know. She learned she was pregnant on March 22nd. She Told me on 24th. I immediately encouraged her to get an abortion I've offered to cover it all cost . She said she would think about. Its been almost 2 weeks and no abortion.

I spoke to her this morning and its becoming kind of clear that an abortion probably isn't happening. She is starting to get kind of tired of me pushing the abortion. I don't know what else to do. I'm starting to really get scared I am only 21 and I don't even have a job. I can't afford to raise a child right now and I certainly don't want a family right now. I'm thinking of telling her to reconsider the abortion or take care of the baby alone.

What do I do now?

Typical case of "Oji Amu, Ejighi Ego" (You get only pe'nis to f"uck toto but no money for pocket to care for the responsibilities).

robosky02:
EPL: Chelsea unveils banner at Stamford Bridge in honour of Mikel Obi



https://dailypost.ng/2022/04/02/epl-chelsea-unveils-banner-at-stamford-bridge-in-honour-of-mikel-obi/

Mikel won 4 FA Cup; 2007 (v Man Utd 1-0), 2009 (v Everton 2-1), 2010 (v Portsmouth 1-0), and 2012 (v Liverpool 2-1).

Please y'all keep understating his achievements

bigpicture001:
This shows the south easterns are not United... Do u know Enugu state government called innoson ND ask him to locate a plant in Enugu state so that thier people can also get work unless they would stop to buy his product....

This is in the same vein that Imo state is doing same.....

It not a welcome development, it's not cost friendly

Innoson has plants in Enugu.

He is trying to be pan-Igbo with the entry into Owerri industrial hub of Owerri West

Me saw something like that this morning and I gave them a hot response too.

Him owe, why bother me? Did I sign up to be disturbed should someone who has my contact take up a loan and defaults?

I have no contract with them, so I no go chook mouth.

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

I dey feel your pain too.

I hate to read/see things like this one.

I remember when a friend called me and was crying to over the phone.

This was her second heartbreak in 3½ years.

I don talk tire. Me too dey fear that thing because, no be the pain be my challenge, na the delay and unexpected change wey e go cause me dey fear me die.

Also, I dey fear dish out breakfast to ladies. No give me, and I no go give you too.

My Love, Chelsea FC is about to wobble because of mad Putin

Tealover:
Forget about you both being an item.. He's gone, I'm talking from experience. He treated me like a princess and I was so relaxed, I didn't reciprocate properly and before I knew it, like play like play, he was gone..

My advice for you incase of next time is to reciprocate his love in the best way you can..

Peace!!!

Wow! Someone admitted to not reciprocating the love and care... I'm glad there were lessons learnt from it all.