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Marriage is more than all those mushy feelings because they wane with time. It takes commitment and a conscious effort to do the work required to make marriage thrive.

So,when just one person or no one at all is putting in effort,marriage is doomed.

victorian:
Really? Wow!

As in just place it by the side tip of my nose? No need piercing a hole there?

Are u kidding me??

You sure?? No hole?

Please where in Lagos?

Lagos island. Just go to jewelry section and ask.

victorian:
Nah, not with my body.

I'm very conscious about flaunting it. And moreover I have a reputation and business to protect..

I have been having cat calls since like secondary school days? And I was overly protected by my late mum then she will say: I can't be sexy, remember the family u came from and all that scenario. So I grew up with, don't show too much flesh, don't be that sexy, don't tempt men. Lol

My dear it's part of me jare. I became abit brave when I was done with school and started my biz, I realise I needed to be assertive, outspoken , diplomatic, all smiles. Customers are always right, Be conservative with what u wear as a lady so customers can trust they are working with the right person.

There was a time I wanted to add nose ring to my look, just that tiny nose ring and I asked one of my very good client, she pays well. So. I asked how will she feel if when she came and she saw me with a nose ring, just the tiny one o.

Guess what she said?

She stared hard at me and replied, well if I came the first time and u are with a nose ring? I won't say anything but I will simply see u as an unserious woman and that will be the first and last time u will see me here. I will cut off from you

I was like wow! I was just laughing.. I said OK?

So she said Vicky, don't add anything to what u look like. You are perfect already. Don't over do it. Pls?

I smiled and replied no wahala.

So u can imagine? How it is with people and business?

I can't fucvk people's opinion. Nah, sighs I can't .
I need to make money lol. And if it requires dressing modestly, then so be it.

My dear, life is all about the money and God. Not show offs or unnecessary swags Biko. I gat a lifestyle to maintain.

Clients are my main focus when it comes to making that money. So I can't fucvk with their opinions.

That's why online I type alot ,form different characters and persona

Let go and all. It's fun! It's crazy and I love it to an extent . I let my hair loose on nairaland. As I realise there are even some worse nut case in this forum, in a higher degree than me sef. Lol

But out there, my head is screwed right and tight! Moderation is the word my dear.
Moderation.

I said SOMETIMES. If you want a nose ring,there are magnetic ones you can get for home use or special occasions. Its like getting a tattoo where only a couple of peeps will be privy to it cause like you said moderation is the word

victorian:
Seriously I'm not the flaunting type kind of girl.

There was a day I wore a lovely sexy gown , to work. Yes I loved the look ,after light make up, park my hair stylishly and all. Then as I was about stepping out, I remembered , oops! today is Muslim fasting o! Arrrghhhhh! Nah I don't want men to commit sin because of me. Lemme cover up abit.
Lol

I checked my wardrobe, saw a matching shawl, placed it round my neck, covering half of my bosom and side body. Cause it was just too sexy for comfort , I thought but hell! I love the look and truly want to look sexy, cos I'm feeling it within

Sighs but I just can't allow men be distracted because of me, not today of all days. Then I went to work.

I safely entered my office, no cat calls, no wow! Mummi u are too much! From guys. In my mind I said good!

So I remove the shawl placed on my desk and my female students were like wow! Ma, you look take away o! Your outfit is so fitted and sexy but why use a shawl ma? I sighed and replied I don't want guys to commit sin thinking about my body Biko. They are fasting, especially the Muslim guys. They shook their heads, and murmured na WA for me o.


I replied well, that's just me

My dear i'm not flaunting body type jare. It's too obvious

In real life I'm very shy with my body. I'm very shy with hard stares from guys.. lol especially with sexy clothes

Phew!

Let everyone be responsible for their actions. Sometimes you just gotta fvck people's opinion and do you.

nuelyoyo:
your head dey there, with the way she flaunts her boobs. She would have also flaunted her hips and ass if they were eye popping.

She reserves the right to flaunt it whenever it pleases her. All you can do is wait patiently

Make peace with yourself and forgive the perp. Its easy to carry guilt but you need to drop it,it was never your fault...

If you don't reconcile with your past you'll bleed all over your future. You have all that you need to rise above everything. Make a conscious effort to move on else the backlash you'll get from the trauma will destabilize you.

Heal dearie,you got this...

victorian:
Lol

Guys!


Do you think I'm selling body parts?

Lord! If I should display my bum and shape, most of you won't sleep tonight.

And that's fact!

I don't want to cause any heart attacks online.

And moreover I'm Not selling any market. I adore my face and boobs ,that's all to it.


Deal with it my friend, deal with it.

If you have it,then by all means flaunt it girlie....UNAPOLOGETICALLY

I really doubt that. Balance is needed in everything especially if they plan on having kids.

Ryan03:
Lol, thanks. I Dont know if being lonely was a good or bad thing but i learnt to stay alone till date. I Dont feel bothered if i'm in a crowded room and Nobody talks to me, it feels normal

Being alone is normal to me too. Its just other people who complain, on top my own lonely fa...

Insecurity

Ryan03:
I kind of had a lonely childhood, i remember going to nursery school, was given food which they kept in my bag. I forgot to eat, Nobody checked my bag when i got home, the following day the food was spoilt and Smelling badly. I was blamed for it

Awwwn... Come lemme hug you

What you're advocating for is tantamount to chaos. Discipline and control must be exercised in any human activity.

I believe its menstrual cramps.
I had a flatmate that gets really terrible cramps, sometimes we'd have to take her to the hospital but I'm yet to see a guy suffer that much cause of konji.

Timekeeper:
Go overboard like how

Don't over do all the niceties and loving,don't say yes when you really wanna no just to please her,etc.

Lack of communication.

sacx:
Are you writing a novel? You mean this lucid description for an 8 months old? When do babies start to fully understand speech? There are aliens on nairaland

They moved when she was 8 months old. Her story happened when she was almost 3.

Timekeeper:
How can I show more of my genuine affection to this lady I have known for almost a year sha... We've been friends since, though she's got many male toaster that wants to date her but she is not currently dating any... I made my intentions know to her last year, she wasn't ready.. I ignored her but found out that I cudnt just woo another lady cox I feel this lady within the campus might think I gave up on her... We r back again now and I'm still trying to let her know my intentions.. But I'm not in her hurry to date her, I wana settle down with her.....


Catwalq help me

Your case is different since you both ain't dating yet. But if you really wanna be with her,just tell her how you feel anytime you get the chance, never assume she knows. Let her know you wanna date her, and show what dating you feels like but don't go overboard with this.

If after all this she still hasn't made up her mind, pls find the courage to move on.

PrincessNZ:
But some men can pretend

Genuine affection can never be hidden.

When you never have to wonder if he does.

MJBOLT:

i believe it is the guy,we dont have beautiful ladies on nairaland

You no get joy at all bro

Uncle try eat b4 you come die. If you broke just go visit any of your neighbours, today na Sunday,dem must cook rice. Which one be say you drink la casera

Off I go to my crush...

Every r/ship is unique, there is no "one size fits all".

Madam suck it up and go home,it takes two people to be in a r/ship.

Alanikoko:
I'm sorry if I've trespassed.

Naaah... Its all Good

ThothHermes:


Something is not right here

Duly noted and edited. 10Q

There should be enough love to go round. Y choose ?