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Family › Re: My Husband Is So Annoying. I'm Depress. by Charlestotle22(m): 7:22am On Mar 22, 2023

I Believe a lot is going on with him. I suggest you calmly identify what the issues are and get advice for either his pastor or his kindreds. Depending on your culture, don't make more babies and also focus on starting up work or business for your own survival. Don't follow other men, they will destroy you. Thank you for speaking out. Don't kill yourself.

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Health › Re: Help, I Have Painful Mouth Sores(graphic Pictures) by Charlestotle22(m): 7:34pm On Jun 27, 2022

Go and get Vitamin B2. It will disappear in 72hours.

Nova1982:
Hi niaralanders,

I've been experiencing this for a while now but now I'm tired and sick of it.

Please is there any medication I can get for it?

Crime › Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Charlestotle22(m): 11:22am On Jan 12, 2022

Good morning brother,
I have had this same experience of sexual starvation fueled by family planning, but God helped me not to go down to rape or cheating.
Consider these options as it stands.
1. Avoid looking for sexual satisfaction elsewhere. It will further destroy your home.
2. Please speak to your pastor and seek his counsel together with your wife. This will help her trust your accountability.
3. If she did family planning, encourage her to change the options for child spacing.
4. If you have brought this matter here. I believe you are a child of God no matter your religion. Just pray about it and focus your energy in providing for her.
5. Also consider if her current work or study is stressful and has fueled her less desire for sex.
6. And finally, consider your behaviour towards her. Because African men see sex as right but women sees it as reward for care. Handle her as your girl friend.
Thank you.
NB: This are my own opinion and not a professional guide. God bless you

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Romance › Re: 3 Weeks To Wedding & I'm Confused! Please Advise Me by Charlestotle22(m): 8:36pm On May 26, 2020

Is normal . She was aroused ,but you cut her off. Be patient. Stay to your agreement.
You both would be happy afterwards. It strengthens your faith after marriage.thanks.

Romance › Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by Charlestotle22(m): 6:55am On Mar 21, 2019

*Cheating and Lying*
That was the only reason I didn't marry my ex.
My dear, marriage is too real to have a weak point ahead of time. She will even regret it if you eventually marry her SEF. Just forgive her but don't marry a woman that cheated on you while you were faithful. But if you weren't faithful, share with her your own � and then marry her. Thank you

Politics › Re: Why PDP Ate Into South-west In 2019 Elections by Charlestotle22(m): 6:23pm On Mar 18, 2019

Honor10:
The point is SW are politically enlightened people, they deal with issues rather than party, APC win continue to win Lagos state as long as the governor perform, SW is not East that will vote a monkey as long as the monkey is in PDP, even Ikpeazu just needed to spray kerosene on them and vom! they vote massively for him. Even the so called illiterate in the North will do better

Igbo's are not led by kerosene. We vote our conscience, we don't vote money. We don't vote Rice. Ikpazu won because the better candidate is of the APC, a tinubu gateway and fulani freeway party....

Politics › Re: Atiku Picks Peter Obi As Running Mate by Charlestotle22(m): 5:24pm On Oct 12, 2018

Peter was the best governor in Anambra. And the only corrupt free politician under Buhari's microscope.
ATIKU is a business man. Peter is a Business man.
Jobs will be created.
Buhari and Osinbajo never had company to manage.
Praise God

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Sports › Re: Egypt's Goalkeeper Refused Man Of The Match Award Because Of Muslim Faith by Charlestotle22(m): 8:04am On Jun 19, 2018

His action should teach us something. His belief is a lesson to all of us, pushing firm no matter the cost. Whether X or Y religion.

Romance › Re: Please Help! I Had Sex With My Gf On Her Menstrual Period And Now This Happened. by Charlestotle22(m): 7:48am On Jun 10, 2018

My friend, the only problem I see here is that you have fears. You don't want to die. Also you have linked the said lustful adventure to be the cause. What you need is power. Another experience that will supersede this one you had contact with. For me, I know one God that can help you. Jesus is the only Savior who cures your fears, scary dreams and lustful desires.
It is very risky to lay with a stranger. One without self control also. A woman you don't know her details and background. Oh sorry.
Pastor, native doctor and other men can't help you. Only true and genuine repentance can.
We use to be here. God bless

Romance › Re: Visiting My Fiancee's Parents For The First Time, What Should I Buy For Them? by Charlestotle22(m): 2:01pm On Jun 02, 2018

Buy drinks, a good wine. Do not show case who you are not. All the best

Romance › Re: Is It Right To Pay Back My Ex This Way? by Charlestotle22(m): 9:23pm On May 31, 2018

motherfucker:
clown

You are young. I can see that.
I just saw your signature

Romance › Re: Dear Virgins; Nobody Cares About Your Virginity. by Charlestotle22(m): 12:57pm On May 30, 2018

Elder001:
Sorry kid.. this is the 21st century not the stone age.

Of what use is virginity to humanity? noting.

I'm not surprised at your post.
The things that are preserved by UNESCO are usually old things that are important to humanity. .

People are investing in science and technology while Africans are attaching importance to useless things like virginity.

No matter your age. I must say that you are wrong. That you lost yours doesn't mean people should share theirs. It is pitiful that someone who wants a sane society will be discouraging young people from waiting. It's a shame, no matter your religion or status.
Primitive is an overstatement.

Romance › Re: Is It Right To Pay Back My Ex This Way? by Charlestotle22(m): 12:19pm On May 30, 2018

Innobee99:
Not ready as in.....I don't get!

Not ready to get committed or show sign of it.

Romance › Re: Let's Discuss Genuine Reasons Why High School Sweethearts Don't Marry Later! by Charlestotle22(op): 8:39am On May 30, 2018

samyfreshsmooth:
why do we i have to discuss this with at 8:35[b]am[/b] when i should be getting ready for the day's activities

We have different work schedule. Thanks

Romance › Re: Is It Right To Pay Back My Ex This Way? by Charlestotle22(m): 8:36am On May 30, 2018

Relax brother. There is what our people call "Aku e ji mee enyi".-property for friendship. She played you because she saw you are not ready and that's all. If you beat her, then you planning to be a wife beater too. Always remember that life goes around. If you never slept with her, you would recognise her personality.
Investment in ladies especially friends is a voluntary action. So deal with it.

Romance › Let's Discuss Genuine Reasons Why High School Sweethearts Don't Marry Later! by Charlestotle22(op): 8:22am On May 30, 2018

For me, I had a good date and only date between 18 to 22 years old. She was few months older but that did the matter to me because my parents loved her. She spent Good times with my family. We had issues because she was cheating with her class Rep because she couldn't say No to One. I knew she was cheating but I kept keeping faith, but she never changed until we left high school. I lost interest after she added more men to her crews as suitors. I was young and with no Job. I started to look away more actively during my NYSC and later got changed and decided not to date again.
Five years after, she was not yet married but I was ready to marry. I called her to tell her and gave her reasons why I must move on. Though not easy for her.
But my reasons were because, she cheated on me boldly. She looked down on me as a young chap, but but now I grew faster than she thought and got married.
Sometimes I feel for her because it was a young adults attitude but that stain made her unworthy for me.
Share yours and let's learn.
Don't be gender biased ooo

Romance › Re: She Told Me That She Cheated On Me That I Should Forgive Her by Charlestotle22(m): 8:36am On May 29, 2018

Every human being with the an active sexual life, married or single, have a tendency to cheat. But the capacity to win the desire is built based on how much respect for your partner you have and how much you fear God as a Faith driven man. I may not know the details of her relationship with the other man but it is very necessary that you sit her down and speak with her. Cheating may have come because of the content of your relationship with her. For instance, if you are already active sexually with her, that's the reaction for the distance. But if you are celibate with her during this period of dating, don't marry her. She will cheat again. She has called you to know how to put you into sex life with her, that's my guess. And if you are not ready to be married now and have a healthy sex life. Stay off Her. Remember if you forgive hermon phone, she will cheat again. My opinion though

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Romance › Re: I Want To Break Up With My Fiancee But I Don't Know How To Do It by Charlestotle22(m): 4:53pm On May 28, 2018

I am really sorry for the way you are sounding. Marriage is not about age. I married my own wife at before my 28th birthday and she was already 27 at that time. Wisdom demands that a Christian, you should know that marriage is firstly spiritual than physical. People don't cheat because of their wife's age. They cheat because they left the devil a window. All these advice you received are their opinions and should not determine your action as a mature man.
You love her, but you don't have a very strong reason for that. But don't live a lady because of the myth of age. I will not say you are sounding very childish, but you must improve on your faith. You may be rich, but anyone who wants to marry with such age difference must grow up speedily.
You need to convince yourself that you are mature.
Don't disappoint that girl with these reasons.
God bless you
We can talk more if you want. [color=#006600][/color]

Romance › Re: I Found This When I Checked My Girlfriend's Inbox! I'm Heartbroken! by Charlestotle22(m): 6:40pm On May 27, 2018

You must know that every disappointment might be a blessing.
Don't always expect to meet people truly committed to you within a short time.
Meeting people and expecting them to have us at the same level immidiately is usually a wrong guess.
Endeavor to avoid visiting someone's phone to monitor them. It will Hurt you. Work hard to know their emotional needs and meet them.
Finally, avoid sex because it affects your judgement of the level your relationship is and how deeply connected you are with the person in question.
Get up and walk friend!

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Christianity Etc › Re: How Do I Restart My Battle Over The Use Of Prostitutes After Series Of Relapse? by Charlestotle22(m): 6:33pm On May 27, 2018

I want to say that God has designed us to make choices. Like you said, a practical and a blunt action.
First of all, you must know that you don't need a relationship or. Marriage to cure this habit.
Secondly, you will need a change of friends to achieve this. If you like alcohol or drugs especially when you are depressed, this is the time to quit.
Sex is a natural physiologic need man, but the lack of its desire will destroy same man.
You must also learn to be accountable to someone, who is around you and make sure you condemn such lifestyle and not defend it anytime.
Since you said you are Christian and mature. Make the choice of a genuine Christian that you can submit to to help and guide you. This man may not be very soft with you but he will help you be accountable.
Many of us here still struggle with few sexual issues, alcoholism, but I have see God help me concur most.
I do not intend to hurt your person but you said we should be blunt.
God bless.

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