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ImperialYoruba:
OP,
This is the fake life you guys portray to mislead innocent people.

In that Canada, when snow is on ground and temperature is freezing, do people get a holiday, or do they still go out everyday and stand out waiting for bus to go to work? When they get to the work, how many hours they must work and what break is inbetween? Are they on feet all day, or lounging on a couch watching tv? After work do they return to the bus station and wait some more in the terrible cold to ride bus home?

Tell people things on the ugly side, give them revelation.

You went fishing, but did you not have to buy license to fish? Are you not restricted in the size of fish you can take home?

Infact, did you not pay for a seat on the fishing trip?

Una go come online beging oppress with pictures and misleading people doing good in Nigeria to abandon their well being and go start sufferhead in Canada.

Nigerians, wake up! Abroad is not for everyone. Some of you are doing well in Nigeria compared with a lot of our people abroad. Think well and dont be lured to sell property and abandon business here so you can start living in snow country. Oyinbo go use you like slave to improve his society, and all you get in return is just that, living in snow.

An agbadoist is agbadonising.

naijamanyoutube:
Photos sent to me by my sister. It's winter now in Canada.

This is beautiful.

toluxe0075:
Takes like what is in the picture the op posted is one of the major reasons many dads are lonely at old age.

Most dads spend most of their life making their children fear them than love them.

They don’t create any beautiful memories with their children. They don’t initiative conversations that can help build bond with their children. And when they do, they get angry and shout down their children for coming up with opposing ideas about a subject. The children cannot be themselves around them. To some dads, commanding the children and forcing them to obey is the major reason they give birth in the first place.

When the children grow up, they have nothing to discuss with their dads. No intimate bond that can trigger cordial emotions or conversation. That is why many older children and their dads might be in the sitting room for hours without uttering any word to each other.

Many dads try to make up later when they realized their mistakes, but it’s always too late. This reminded me of a story a friend told me that whenever himself and his siblings are gathered in a room having fun or conversation and their dad tries to join them, they all leave the room one after the other or have lesser conversation.

Why? Their dad was fond of sending them to their rooms at every given opportunity when the family gathers, especially when they give dissenting opinions or when their dad wants to force his way to watch a movie of his interest. They also find it difficult to be themselves around him because they don’t know what might get him angry.

It’s better you build a good relationship with your children than any other thing. Your children will become your friend when you do so. This would make them to be free to share their problems, happiness, and sorrow with you.

Many guys will not understand this. But I hope they learn quickly before it’s too late. Don’t allow random internet post make you make mistakes you will regret forever.

If only I can write as well as you do.
But everything you wrote is 100% correct.

Kobojunkiee:
1. Yet all Nigerian men who endevour to live true to their emotional side you lot are quick to call names and demonize because they are different from you?,

2. How can a woman be to blame for the character of a man she never raised and probably had little time to nature assuming she even birthed him?

3. Yet the vast majority of your Nigerian men depend entirely on their same children for exactly that. You sure say you dey connected as far as reality at all?

You have time to explain.
Toxic masculinity will finish him if he doesn't amend his mindset.

Neverlookback:
Men and women are different, and each provide different kind of influence on the kids. Nigerian men are typically not emotional, just like Nigerian women are typically not romantic.

Women should desist from trying to turn men into effeminate beings, as seen in the west. It's already creating leadership vacuum in families, which in turn affect the children.

Bottom line is that a man should not have to depend on his children for his retirement. While training your children, put a little on the side, because these children will have their own family to take care of in the future.

If it is effeminate to care for your kids, stay childless.

Farrason:
You will regret this the day he breathes his last. Posterity never forgets and two wrongs can never make a right. You will also bear children someday and understand somethings that you were never thought.

Don't get me wrong... He might deserve your judgement on him but this leaves you to be judged by your own actions too. Karma is a BITCH!!

Any good done for a parent who neglected their children is only because of God.
That's why you see me pleading with him.
Good parents deserved to be cared for in old age.
Negligent parents deserve what they've sown. Anything else is a product of mercy.

jaszplus12:
Someone please correct me, but from her body language, looking at her slouched shoulders and down looking eyes(no attempt to make contact with groom) her hands are backward facing, and she's shifting her weight on each leg, it's evident this marriage will end badly...
The signs of abuse are there... The guy is and abuser and manipulator... Unfortunately....

You saw what I saw.

Ndi "30+ women are undesirable"
Come and cry under this thread.

OK. Congratulations to her.

Frank2021:
Good evening guys, please I need your opinion on this, please there is a girl I met on Facebook and we have been chatting and today we see one on one, so we sat in beer parlor where I bought drinks, I told her everything about me and I want us to go into a relationship she said she will give me feedback later at Least we have seen each other, so I excort her to market she bought things and left, so I am in love I ask her again to give me reply if she has accepted, she said she will give me feedback maybe tomorrow. My question is this, does it mean it takes a girl time to accept a guy for relationship?

NEVER EVER ACCEPT
"I will go and think about it"
From a woman.

She will go home and weigh her options.
She will consider the possibility of option A, the man she's liked but not giving her face, if he's going to give her face in the nearest future.

If you tell a woman "I like you" after knowing her for some time and she doesn't tell you right there "I like you too"
forget her.

KanwuliaExtra:
You can't give what you never received or don't have.
Shikena.

You can learn. You have a mind, you can learn. Only if you want to. But no excuses.

truthsayer009:
That tweet you posted wasn't referring to finance, it was emotional attachment. A lot of fathers are actually financial there but not emotional & physical. So money was never the issue.

Nick cannon will also have that problem because he has so many kids but not enough time to spend with each of them because the mothers are spread across North America. They will end up hating him in few years.

Financially is part of everything.

BATified2023:
God bless u

I have a cousin who I know for sure will do this on his father’s burial,that’s if he goes there sha cos he has vowed to me he will never attend his fathers burial

Let me brief u about it, the father is a well to do man n he has 3 children….2 boys n a girl
The man is averagely rich but will never take care of his children, he only spends money outside where he will b hailed but will never spend 5 naira inside

Imagine been with a father that doesn’t give his children money but will send money to me in school for upkeep, it got so bad that my dad had to tell me that anytime he sends me money I should divide it into 3 n send it equally to his children

He never paid their school fees or did anything on them but this man is a big man outside, they lived in a fine house but u can’t wish what those children face on your worst enemy

The 2 boys are great footballers n I remember a scout wanted to take them to Italy as far back as 2003 but this man refused n he said he will sponsor them abroad to school

Imagine someone that can’t pay Nigeria fee forming big man by telling his children helper he will send them abroad to school

Long story short,their sister got married but it wasn’t that rosy

The 2nd born (a guy) is now working with a mast company in kaduna n earning meagre 50k per month

The 3rd one is now into taxi/Uber weekly delivery in ogun state…. He’s not even d owner of d car

The last born who happens to b my pally among them cos of our age grade told me he will never forgive his father cos he messed them up, he told me he will never attend his burial

Not that the man didn’t have d money ooo, imagine a man that will always donate millions to political campaign despite not being a politician but can’t give his children 5k

D last time the last born came to my place,I realised he’s kinda messed up psychologically n I notice once he’s depressed he’s always playing “ remember me “ by lucky dube n d song can b on repeat for over 5 hours

I really don’t blame nairalander insulting the man. It’s simply cos they don’t know what it takes to b neglected by a rich father

The man didn’t allow anyone help them cos he was forming rich man n he himself didn’t help them

The man ruined them no b small,the 3 of them have vouch not to step a foot into his house n it’s been years they have called him even while he’s alive

I was able to feel their pain cos we are close so to a large extent I saw their pains live n direct

Oh, my heart is broken all over again as I read this. What a wicked man.
Not just abandonment and neglect but he blocked their chances at success.
This pain is fresh because it happened in my family.
I have no words, I'm sorry.

Na so uniform dey short?
This one go dey cause commotion.

folake4u:
Itakpe is in Kogi State.

Alright. Thanks for the explanation.

Bethanybethel:
You are right my dad is paying the price for abandoning us with our sick mother. He have some health issues I have decided not to help him, he will suffer until his last breath on earth..

Please. I'm begging you, even if you don't want to give him the money directly, give to your mom with instructions for him.
I can't ask you to forgive him. But please.
I know what it is to be neglected. It's something I won't wish on my enemy.
But please, reconsider. Just please.

Jennyclay:
If you choose to distance your emotions from your children, good for you. If you choose to be emotionally attached to your children good for you.

What ever you sow is what you reap.

Exactly. But they'll say the woman brainwash the kids.

It is not masculinity to abandon your offspring.
You brought them into this world.
Don't think your only duty is to buy food and pay school fees.
As much as possible, be present in their daily lives.
Don't let toxic masculinity destroy your home.
I'm begging you. Please.
Those children NEED you. They need your presence. They need your attention.
Get involved in their daily lives.
Ask them important questions about their lives.
Affirm them. Speak positively over their lives.
Please never curse them.

folake4u:
From Itakpe to Agbor, and then taking a cab to Benin City.

I'm supposing itakpe is delta right?

folake4u:
I've been convincing my friend in Abuja for a while to give Train ride a chance and he finally did today.
He got a cab from Zuba park in Abuja to Itakpe railway station for 5k and boarded the afternoon train.

There's an increase in railway tickets since 5th December,2022.
Formerly from Itakpe to Delta State;
Economy class is 3k.
First class is 5,500.

But now:
Economy class is 5k.
First class is 9k.

Federal Government wehdone oh.


Pic 1: The former stamp showed 3k but Economy class is 5k now.

Pic 2: New price list.

Price 3: The crowd at Itakpe railway station today. Everyone's travelling for the holidays.

Pic 4: Feedback from my friend.


Cc:
marvellously
Chee59
Gladheart1
ThatEdoboy
Depressed101


And others intending to travel with train from now till next year. Please note the increment in prices. Thank you.

From where to where? I don't really understand where he's journeying to.

There's no federal government body that governs pricing in this country.

TO THE MEN ESPECIALLY.
Please if you can't afford to be physically, emotionally and financially there for your children, you don't need to have children.

I'm begging you with so much pain.

Child neglect is abuse. And abuse ruins life.
Don't bow to pressure to have kids if you know you're not ready.
It's better to have a dead parent than a negligent parent.

ahnie:
Na hereditary be that nau

Na baby hair wey no gree grow.
If I show my other pictures, you'll see I have so much short baby hairs in front. Even if I keep hair for 10 years, baby hair no dey grow pass 2 inches.

kkins25:
John_doe on twitter just blocked me arguing against one of his tweets. A woman was being abused physically by her husband for close to 10 years, and stopped when the children became adults. Do you know what the man that shared the 'testimony' said? that he now respects his father more because as a husband now, he understands the father.
You know why he said so, because, he claimed to have seen his mother with another man in a compromising position.

All i asked on john_does thread was, What do you expect a woman who has been beaten black and blue to do? submit to her abuser then came the block! Fear naija men, give them their way, and they'd wouldn't hesitate in bringing back old customs dare i say female circumcision.

John Doe is a sadist and a misogynist.
He is empty of knowledge, full of pride.
The worst thing about abuse is that the abused becomes the abuser. It's cyclical like that.

faceLAGOS:
She looks like one that needs serious beating, if not, she go misbehave.

Beauty without character.

May your daughters receive serious beatings from different men.

gaddafe:
You will be surprised this man did his best for the kids. Some children are hopeless children especially the ones of this generation. How can a child write that about the late dad. My father did a lot of negative things to me some of them when I sit down I still cry. But one thing is that he later regretted them all and wished he could change the hand of time and correct the mistakes. That's why my dad don't joke with my kids. In fact when I see the way my children like my dad stay with him and all that, I just shake my head because when I was like them, I do wish the man died. Today I'm a dad and I try to do my best for this kids yet they don't still see me as a good enough dad for them. My own dad became remorseful at his old age when he became sick and all his friends left him and all his children also left him and I decided he stays with me and I took care of him. Sometimes when he tells my kids about who he was, of how popular he was in the military and everyone hailing him as Gaddafi, they do think he's exaggerating but I tell them, this man is tellythe truth, he was rich and popular and had many friends except that today I'm his only friend and confidant. I control all his account, all his estate etc.

You're an example of
"hey everyone, I was abused but turned out alright."
Same nonsense most of you say in defence of narcissistic, psychopathic and extremely violent upbringing you had.
You have seen how alright you turned..
You then become far worse than the abuse you received.

Onelove508:
Good bless u.

Plus guidance, mentorship, protection, availability etc.

Raising a child is not training a dog

Even dogs are treated better by their owners compared to the nonsense people are saying here.
Check Pets section on nairaland and see how well people treat their pets.

I repeat, the people who are supporting that man are themselves monsters.

Kobojunkie:
You are still not getting it! The man is dead.... he basically got away with what he did to them. However, by exposing the truth as they did, not only do they get to grieve properly but they also obtain needed closure to a hurt filled past and are hence able to leave the past with the dead as they intended.

No amount of achievement in this life can rub away a past hurt. There are so many rich men today who carry around with them the pain of their past unable to plug that hole with all the money and wealth they have amassed for themselves. You have to confront emotional pain, let it out in order to be able to let it go --- that is how you obtain closure from your past and are then able to move on to a better future.

What this kids did has likely set them free from their past. The chances are slim to none that any of them will end up like their father before them.

You can bet your last kobo they won't end up like him. They know the man is evil and they made no attempts to make excuses for him.

ahnie:
If you don't mind dear, I could recommend a good hair cream for your frontela hair growth.

Shey you dey whine me ni? That hair no fit grow pass that.

MrCodeSolo:
Sometimes, I wonder why you do what you with so much hate drawn from the depth of your own
understanding of the holy Qu'ran. You just quoted Surah An-Nisa 4:157 to contradict yourself as what you proclaimed to be a logical conclusion drawn from the depth of your own understanding and I quote you in your own words, "Concerning the crucifixion and death of Jesus, Islam’s position is that the crucifixion and death didn’t happen because of what Allah said in the Quran.
Allah said he was the one that deceived everyone that it was Jesus that was crucified!" is clearly different from what was in the context of the above-mentioned Quranic versed as you have denied the truth of same qu'ranic verse by asserting the opposite.

One doesn't have to be well-versed in English (as a second language) to understanding the use of context to construct meaning from words as they are read....the same mentioned qu'ranic verse started with "And [for] their saying"? and then proceeds to quote their statement

And [for] their saying, "Indeed, we have killed the Messiah, Jesus the son of Mary, the messenger of Allāh." And they did not kill him, nor did they crucify him; but [another] was made to resemble him to them. And indeed, those who differ over it are in doubt about it. They have no knowledge of it except the following of assumption. And they did not kill him, for certain.
-Quran 4:157

And from the readers that will see the post, you all can read that this statement was clearly claims and quotes from the Jews. that is to say should one is to start his/her reading from Surah An-Nisa 4:153-159. he/she will clearly understand much better that it was the Jews claims and not Allah's....it was the Jews claims to mean they have killed the Messiah, Jesus the son of Mary, the messenger of Allah.


my thoughts are - not every Christians knew about this truth that God went silent for over 400 years since the book of Malachi?
He did not speak to any man, his people on earth nor send down any prophet?
It was what was termed the intertestamental gap years of prophetic silence....right? Now...
the 400+gap years in-between or more like a +400 years long spiritual bridge that connects the old testament to the new testament.
And our holy Qu'ran is the last testament. what is there not to understand that when you are in Islam you are at your final destination and in absolute submission to God only and no other and the prophet(pbuh) is his messenger.

Would God give up his son only for a prophet to say he didn't give him up?
Angels announced his birth, and in the annunciation claimed a Saviour is born to save his people from their sins.
And a prophet 600 years later now claim God lied?
The math is never mathing.

Sweetplum:
We thought it has ended.

Never did. Fulani is still doing everything to secure the benue Valley.

shantti:
How did the early men who lived in these regions survive this type of cold in the ancient times,
I mean, the era before it was even discovered that u can cover your bodies with animal hides. The era when humans walked literally naked

This question came to mind. How did they do it? Especially those slaves brought in from Africa and other places into North America and Europe.

ahnie:
Why do they always look haggard n unkept after jetting out of NAIJA?
As for the men,they either keeps bushy or dirty dreadlocks with oblong forehead

The women they always have wide mouth, flaccid lips and dirty hair?

You naturally have a potty mouth. I like that