₦airaland Forum

IduNaOba:
No be by sea o
We want our sea port in onitsha working.
Which yeye moving cargo by rail?
Let's see how this will benefit us

Where the rail even dey?
Yahoo government

GboyegaD:
Anyways, that was the understanding the church had. It is necessary to be punished for a wrong act however, some don't understand how to balance it forgetting that "he who thinks he stands should take he'd lest he falls."

Most importantly, there are three sides to a story. Some people exaggerate a temporary ban and leave church instead.

remember she was only asked not to Minister in choir not that she should stop coming to the church.
The church did what they should do as a church. Inshort Apostle Paul said people that get involved in sexual sin should be stopped from coming to the church to avoid them influencing others into doing same.

MelesZenawi:
Even when everyone is talking, these ones are still speaking...

These are same people that will be shouting biafra on nairaland but can't stay with another state. Umahi's anger is because there is no IPOB in anambra state.


So the IGP should move Ebonyi as quickly as possible back to umuahia where they are millions of IPOB.

This is not a hard request. IG should grant them that..

Is Umuahia not also part of Biafra.
The point is Umuahia is far closer to Ebonyi state than Ukpo

skimena:
Due to this pandemic, the company where I work decided to lay off some staff. Unfortunately I was 1 of the people sacked. But I have N1 million as savings.

Now I'm thinking of starting a small scale business and also buy a car that I can use to pick passengers that are returning from work every evening from 4pm to 8pm everyday. But my girlfriend is against the idea. she said it's too downgrading for a graduate like me that if I go ahead with the plan she's going to quit the relationship. She said she wants her man to do a white collar job n not to hustle like a taut.

As for me, I'm tired of working with people. I want to be a Boss of my own. This situation will help me find my true love. A woman that will love me for who I am, what I have, what I do and not what she wants me to do.

I don't understand how this thing found it's way to this place.
You are still assuming

Ikennamurphy:
Lol.. The south east has the most dilapidated federal roads in Nigeria.. What exactly are they thanking Buhari for.. Lmao.. I just hope money didn't exchange hand again

Even the stupid Enugu onitsha express road is an eyesore,.. The ugwu Onyeàmà part of that road in Enugu is about the worst ditch on earth..

Whenever all these south Easterners praise Buhari I just giggle and wonder why they do so

Did you see who signed the address?
Femi Adeshina...

They couldn't wait for the monarchs to write and sign the press release.

Buhari

nsiba:
The term cosmopolitan use here refers to states where aside the indigenous tribe there are many non-indigenous residents

1. LAGOS- Global Citizen
2. ABUJA- Global Citizens
3. RIVERS- ( 50-100% Global)
4. KANO -(30-70% GLOBAL)
5. EDO
6. IBADAN
7. OGUN
8. PLATEAU
9. AKWAIBOM
10. ENUGU

and you didn't include Anambra state...
Home for all ... Odimma

tot:
They already burnt down the family house, on top of sentencing the guy to death. I don't understand how people can be so violent and barbaric. It's horrible.

one Nigeria

GboyegaD:
His family should quickly take the case to a Federal High Court. They have the right to upturn the judgment of Sharia courts.

Your plans no go work.
You want the whole family to be killed...

You think say those northern people dey reason like normal human beings

Stylekay:
Honestly I have lost reasons on why I should continue to stay alive. I can't continue again except there's an
intervention in form of help that should come my way. It's unfortunate but I can't continue like this again".

Good evening all, I made the above post recently and Nairalanders being kind hearted people quoted the post with so much words of encouragement and also discouraging me from taking any nasty decision. Truthfully speaking, I really need help and it's to start up something to help myself having not been able to secure a job as a graduate. I want to start a poultry farm having had experience about it. My challenge now is raising capital like up to 100 or 150k. Please I'll really appreciate any contributions from anyone towards achieving this. I understand you have your own problems that need finances, but please be of assistance to me. This is just a way to help myself and younger ones looking up to me. It will me out of the present depression and suicidal thoughts. Frankly speaking, I can't continue with my present state. I need some changes in my life. Thank you very much.

Acc. No.: 214 1171 386
Bank: UBA
Name: Samuel Friday

Bros, money can't save you from being depressed.
Go seek psychological and mental help.
If you venture into poultry with this your suicide thought, then suicide you shall commit because rearing birds in itself is suicidal.
I am into the system and I know it takes only someone with a settled mind to rear birds.
If you are looking for money for other things, be more open for us to know. But please don't venture into poultry if you have not yet received help from God or counselors, psychologically and mentally

Championxxx:
I am 23 years old guy I ave been staying with my brother in Abuja for the past 8 years , I help him with his shop and his house , everything was fine till he got married his wife carry his two sisters to the house 24 and 19 years old , he said I should leave my room for them I didn’t argue I let them have the room while I am sleeping in the parlour , during lockdown this girl will wake and come to the parlour to watch tv to disturb my sleep , I complained to my brother he said I should keep calm he will speak to his wife which he never does and these girls kept disturbing me meanwhile the older girl stopped but the younger one carry on and I told her to stop disturbing me she has a phone she can press her phone in their room , she insulted me and told me to go and marry I got angry and ask her to leave she said I should do my worst and I landed a thunder slap in her face she held me by my neck screaming when my bro and wife came his wife started hitting me on my back I had to leave the house and went outside to cool down , my brother followed me and said I didn’t do well by hitting his wife sister he said I should go and apologise to his wife and sister , I refuse and asked him why he didn’t stop them when I was complaining bitterly about them but he waited for me to take matter to my own hand now he blamed me he said I should apologise which I did to his wife but not to the girl but that small girl was expecting me to knelt down and beg her , I told her she will wait for eternity.

Since the incidence his wife stopped talking to me , she ordered her sister’s to stop giving me food , the older girl used to dish food for me sometimes when she is not around but I told her to stop because I don’t want her to be in trouble with her sister and I didn’t report to my brother, it’s not a big deal for me I buy foods and eat at work and I only go home to sleep , 2 weeks ago I came home to see my mattress outside in the rain soaking wet , I was confused because it was supposed to be inside the girl room that’s where I keep it and they always bring it for me when is time for me to sleep so how come it was outside in the rain , I asked them they both denied they didn’t take it out and I suspected my brother wife or her youngest sister were the one who did it because they didn’t want me in the house anymore , I told my brother he said I should sleep on the sofa and in the morning I will get a new mattress in his shop but the wife get angry that I will damaged her sofa she wanted me to sleep on the floor with a wrapper but my brother refuse and I slept on the sofa , the next day I spoke with my brother I told him because I am not wanted in his house I don’t have peace of mind there , I want him to rent a self cont for me closer to the shop so It will be easier for me to get to work he refuse saying when he has a bigger house why would I go and leave alone , he said he provide all my needs and the rest the way his wife and sisters are treating me it doesn’t matter that he will never allow me and I told him I want to go back to the village , he said if I leave his house he will disown me and I will not longer be his brother , for 3 days now he stopped talking to me even if I greet him he won’t reply I feel hurt. I love my brother I want to serve him but I don’t want to stay in his house . I don’t know if I did something wrong by asking him to rent a room for me to be living alone? Am confuse please advice me

how old are you?
Don't you have parents?
How many years are you supposed to serve your brother?
These are important questions but
If you have parents, talk to your parents.

igboarenice:
While Igbo wont touch innoson motors with a 10 foot pole.
Tinubu has fleet of innoson vehicle for his company.

You can say all you want about Asiwaju but never can you call him a is a tribalist

Do you live in Igboland?
How would you be in Lagos, and know that Ndi Igbo don't touch Innoson vehicles?
Go get sense oh

veave:
And you've resulted to insulting me by saying I lack morality? Anyways I would not get in the mud with you seeing that I already have come in contact with lots of your type both here on nairaland and real life but let me school you. In your culture single girls do not get pregnant? Is the ops woman of same culture as you? She actually is his wife who he is no longer in love with. People fall in and out of love and that's reality. Wake up and smell the coffee please. Don't stay in your glass house and throw pebbles, I bet you're the type that turns their nose up when they see single female parents. Abeg abeg abeg... For the last time, bye.

waited for for the schooling, but none I saw.
If you are a single mom, you were not forced into it.
If single girls enjoy getting pregnant, abortion hospitals will lack costumers.
If you actually read the post, you would see where the op wrote that he got married to her because he pregnanted her.
Finally: continue falling in and out of love... Because you want me to join you in encouraging the OP to divorce the lady because you are falling in and out of love.

veave:
I really do not understand you. Wait, Pregnancy is a mess? Wow!!! Guess I don't need to have any sort of conversation with you. Our thinking caps are not facing the same directions. Bye.

in my culture single girls are not encouraged to get pregnant.
I am not having any form of conversation with you because you practically lack morality

veave:
You didn't need to quote me in order to give your own advice. Rage comes actually from an accumulation of past and present resentments unattended to. You'd be surprised to know that 85% of spousal murder-suicide started softly like this. I'm all for everyone having peace and sleeping well at night. Wait, do you think a woman would thrive well in a house she's not loved and wanted?
I don't understand what you mean by mess the young woman's life... Kindly explain this.

I actually had to quote you because I am replying to your advice to the guy.

Talking of murder, who told you that the lady won't murder the guy if he leaves her now after making her a mother, she probably didn't plan for?

What mess is more than a guy getting a woman involuntary pregnant?

As much as I understood in this post, the woman is not the problem, the guy is. He should stop looking at other side thinking it's greener and build his home.

That's the simplest thing for him to do.

ELKHALIFAISIS:
so what will be the reason he hate her if not any of this

if he is sincere he will tell you he still wants to fuc.k around.
He doesn't want to settle down yet.
Or he is looking at other grasses he considers Greener, which in actuality is not.

The problem is from the guy... Simple

ELKHALIFAISIS:
I nearly made same mistake, had a flinch with this loudy troublesome fellow , she got preg and hided it for me for 7mnths so I won't tell her to abort it, ask me how she managed to hide it, she stop showing up uninvited to my place as before, immediately the preg reach 7mnths she started disturbing, we went for scan it's a month ahead of my own calculation, I decided to keep cool , I kept her in my rented flat to stay there instead of living with me, her mother forced me into doing some rites against my wish or informing family members, well I do so peace will reign, even in her preg she tried to fought me twice because she said she need sex and am not giving her as she wanted it, fast forward to labour day, all the 10k I gave her every week for check , my heaven she managed to go twice the rest she pocketed the money, 4 days hard labour, to make the matter worst I gave her money to register at good hospital but she ate the money and registered at local maternity, now e don red , the person in charge of the maternity don't knw what to do next , after trying unsuccessfully in the labour room, the baby refused to come out , she then said oga carry her find another place oooo nah operation straight, we went to couple of hospitals the refuses to take her in, because the baby's head is already out but the body can't pass through because the baby died days ago in the stomach, but the 4th hospital took her in but the bill is crazy, anyway wetin local man go do nah my prick cause am , all I want is for her to live even if it's going to cost me the last Kobo in my account, if u dey do with ngwa girl omo u are in for it, before u knw it her brothers has cycled around the hospital with dangerous weapon waiting for their sister to die, I had to transfer money to the hospital acc so the emergency c&s will commence, i even donate my blood oo, the doc insist I must be in the operation room so I won't run away if anything happens, I dey there dey follow bring things , thank God the operation was successful, I had to call my Army friend to come with his troops too move me because if I dare step outside my name nah sorry, I dropped some cash with her mom to take care of her , 2 months after the incidents she start coming again , she needed sex , my prick nah E-diot I do small but I pull it out and put condom after small sense enter me, this is 3yrs the thing happened, she chatted me up few weeks ago that she will kill herself that nobody is looking her way , any man that come to her and want to marry always ran after they find out she don born before, but I guess nah her troublesome wayward lifestyle they drove them away,


Moral lesson

if u don't love her please use condoms Maka uta

Bros, did the OP say this lady is troublesome?
Did the OP say this lady is trying to fight him?

veave:
You mustn't stay married to anyone you're not in love with. It is still early to set her free, set yourself free as well for your sound mind. If you stay there, both of you will live in frustration and I bet you don't want to build a home in disarray.
Initially she would cry and lament but trust me she'd get someone else to love her properly and so would you.
No one is coming to this world twice, this one you're sure of, yank off any and everything that would cause you discomfort. You don't want to wake up one day in your 50s or 70s full of regrets and what ifs.

Please make sure to maintain civility while at it.
Thanks.

selfishness in the highest order.
Note: the op didn't complain of any wrong doing from the lady, therefore the marriage looks loveless because this guy made it so.
Marriage in reality is not about marrying who you love but about loving who you marry.
This guy should stop chasing shadow and sit his ass down and build his home with his wife
It might be easier for him to move on, but it won't be easy for the lady. When this guy's dic.k was telling him to fuc.k the lady, where was love then?

Let me tell you: people who enjoy their marriage do so because they decided to make it so, it's not because of any kind of special love.

OP, go home and build your marriage, show that lady love and stop crying for nothing. You want to mess the young woman's life.
E no go work for you.

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

please continue to enjoy your cross.
The pressure from the family to marry her drove you into the marriage just as the pressure to fuc.k her drove you into putting her in the family way.
Please stop making life miserable for the young lady, you are the one why tried to destroy her future.

My final advise to you is this...
Marriage is not about marrying who you love, but loving who you marry.

Turn your marriage around and stop living in utopia

veeshock:
Africans..why are we wicked to ourselves

shut up...
Leave Africans from this poo ...

It's Aluu people

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

marriage officially ends when one of the partners dies.
What if it were be your mom that died, would your Dad still be single the mourning her till now?
Your girl friend made a valid point, your mom is still young enough to remarry or would you want her to have a FEB?
If you loss your wife, won't you remarry at 52…?

raker300:
This might sound absurd Bt places like onitsha didn’t have street lights as at 2010..

Things have changed

Mr Peter Obi installed street lights in Onitsha...

Alwaysachick:
Not really, but he always wants me to do as he says. Even when he wants me to come over and I give a reason why I can't come, he gets pissed like I'm disobedient.

Dearest me oh...
The handwriting is on the wall.

I will advise you to take a walk out that relationship before it's too late

AsomughaChuks02:
Not possible. Lagos State alone is very lucrative.

but imagine adding Abuja and the rest of the states into his estate...

Think about it na