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Jobs/VacanciesRe: Man Rejects A Job Offer Because A Woman Is The Boss by CHoccolaTE: 1:33pm On Feb 06
I am not surprised that he cannot tell the difference between HR Manager and company owner.
Misogynistic men no dey ever get sense.
RomanceRe: My Married Guy Advised Me Not To Get Married by CHoccolaTE: 4:26pm On Jan 31
To all the guys that are not planning to get married but want kids at the same time, better get professional surrogate mother's to carry the pregnancy and pay her afterwards.

Also get professional wet nurse to breastfeed your kids and pay her after she's done with breastfeeding.

Also get professional nanny to take care of your kids, bathe them, feed them, keep them safe from killing themselves while you go to work. Everyday.

DO NOT GET BABY MAMAS.

You people are looking for women to turn to single mothers and to destroy with your selfishness. You claim women don't contribute anything but you want to get baby mamas to bear your kids and take care of them free of charge. Una dey crase.

Stupid mad men.
RomanceRe: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by CHoccolaTE: 11:19am On Jan 31
Host78:
There are more female ashåwo, more female onlyfåns.

But then again, how does this relate to this thread or whatever I talked about earlier on? undecided

RomanceRe: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by CHoccolaTE: 11:17am On Jan 31
Host78:
and you know the funniest part of this discussion. when men marry men, they tend to have less problem. Their divorce rate is almost zero, domestic violence is almost zero.

But when women marry other women, guess what, their divorce rate is higher than when a man marries a woman and the domestic violence is higher than gay marriage and heterosexual marriages.

Yet, these women want us to see them as the saints and the partner that is always without faults.

Yet marriages between two women results in the highest divorce and highest domestic violence.
First of all, gay men don't experience less domestic violence, they only report it less. Secondly, there are less gay divorces because a lot of gay marriages are open marriages.

You have been all over the thread complaining about women. Haba calm down, nobody is forcing you to be with them, avoid women if you dislike them so much, all this bitterness isn't necessary.
RomanceRe: The UK Doesn’t Destroy Nigerian Marriages; It Exposes Them by CHoccolaTE: 11:04am On Jan 31
Host78:
Again, i stand by my earlier truths: women are inherently selfish and terrible as humans
Really?
Is that why there are more male criminals and more male murderers and kidnappers?
PoliticsRe: Ned Nwoko Defends Polygamy, Says Men With One Wife Deserve Pity by CHoccolaTE: 9:38am On Oct 27, 2025
Almunjid:
Two (2). Women stand on two legs—their own and their husband's. This suggests that in most cases, women rely on their spouses for support not the other way round.

Peace!
So women don't offer any kind of assistance to their husbands?
Only husbands assist in marriage?
FamilyRe: Explanation Of Why Men Hate Feminism by CHoccolaTE(op): 11:24am On Oct 10, 2025
How feminist movements can better communicate with men to reduce that backlash and hostility and build understanding


1. Communicate Equality, Not Superiority
Many men tune out the word *feminism* because they’ve been told it means “women over men.”
It helps to emphasize fairness and partnership that feminism benefits everyone:

> It frees women from limitations.
>It frees men from emotional repression and toxic pressure to always be “strong” or “providers.”
Example message:
“Feminism isn’t about hating men; it’s about freeing both men and women from unfair expectations.”

2.Create Spaces for Men to Engage Without Shame

Men need spaces to learn, question, and participate in feminism without feeling like they’ll be ridiculed or “cancelled” for not knowing everything.
Workshops, online dialogues, and community groups that invite conversation, not confrontation often have the biggest impact.

3.Focus on Shared Values

Most men already believe in basic fairness, equal pay, respect, no violence, opportunity for all.
Framing feminism as the organized effort toward fairness helps avoid ideological fights.
For example:

> “If you believe your sister, daughter, or female colleague deserves the same respect as you — you already believe in feminism.”


4.Use Empathy, Not Blame

It’s tempting to express anger (and often justified). But conversations that start with “men are the problem” trigger defensiveness.
Using empathy — “We’ve all grown up in a system that teaches harmful gender roles” — invites reflection instead of resistance.

7.Show How Feminism Improves Society

Examples that appeal to logic and compassion both help:

* Economies grow when women work freely.
* Domestic violence rates drop when gender equality rises.
* Men report higher life satisfaction in gender-equal societies.


Bottom line:

> Feminism becomes most powerful when it’s seen not as a battle of sexes — but as a movement to heal and balance humanity as a whole.

Blessings and prosperity to all who read this post.
FamilyExplanation Of Why Men Hate Feminism by CHoccolaTE(op): 11:14am On Oct 10, 2025
1.Misunderstanding What Feminism Means

Many men (and women too) associate feminism with “hating men” or “wanting women to dominate men.”
In reality, **feminism is about equality of opportunity, rights, AND RESPECT between genders**, not reversing oppression.
Because of misinformation online or extreme examples in media, some men form a distorted view and see feminism as an attack on them personally. Which it isn't.

2.Perceived Threat to Male Privilege

Historically, men have held more social, political, and economic power.
Feminism simply requests equality in the workplace, in relationships, in law, etc.
Some men interpret this as a loss of power, respect, or identity, rather than as society moving toward fairness.

3.Identity and Ego

Patriarchal cultures often teach men that their worth comes from being “strong,” “in control,” and “the provider.”
Feminism questions these rigid roles, which can make some men feel uncertain about what being a “man” means today.
So the reaction is sometimes defensive “If women can do what I do, then what’s my role?”

4.Online Culture and Polarization

Social media amplifies extremes.
Anti-feminist influencers often frame feminism as “toxic,” “anti-family,” or “anti-men,” creating echo chambers where resentment grows.
Some men find community in these spaces because they feel overlooked or blamed by modern society, even if their frustrations aren’t truly about feminism itself.


5.Personal Experiences

Some men may have had negative personal encounters, e.g., a breakup, divorce, or workplace tension and associate feminism with those experiences.
Instead of separating individual behavior from a social movement, they generalize and react emotionally.

6.Cultural or Religious Beliefs

In many societies, traditional gender roles are deeply woven into religion or culture.
Feminism’s ideas about autonomy, sexuality, or leadership roles for women can clash with those traditions, leading to rejection or fear of social change.
EducationRe: 2-Year-Old Rapheala Ogbodo Dies At Smiley Kids Montessori School Sangotedo by CHoccolaTE: 5:13pm On Jan 18, 2025
Nonexisting1:
Women should stay home and raise their children to the age of at least 5yrs but they won't listen. They all want to be make their own money and talk back at their husbands. They forget that their strength lies in their submission and child raising. Guilt will kill this one more than the loss of her child because her inner mind would be telling to stay home with the child but her foolish brain and societal pressure would push her into sending a little 2yr old to school. Foolish gender. Rip to the little one.
But men are funny Sha oo.

If women stay at home depending on their husbands men will say they are liabilities that bring nothing to the table.

If women go to work to provide, the same men will say it's because they want to talk back to their husbands.

Nothing women do will ever be correct in the eyes of men.
FamilyRe: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by CHoccolaTE: 9:41pm On Jan 16, 2025
NosyParrot:
I smell lies!
The OP is lying. Nobody is monitoring his phone.
FamilyRe: Help Needed: How Do I Stop My Wife From Monitoring My Phone? by CHoccolaTE: 9:39pm On Jan 16, 2025
Imagine if a wife is the one that started this thread to complain that her husband is monitoring her phone.

Insults for don full the thread by now.
FamilyRe: Take Heed Young Ladies!! by CHoccolaTE: 9:57pm On Dec 27, 2024
Men always have some sort of advice for women as if we asked them their opinions in the first place.

Its like me sef I will go and start a topic advising bachelors to marry the first ugly overweight woman that shows interest in them. After all the fine girl they marry today will still grow old and wrinkled in future.
CelebritiesRe: ‘I Love Marriage’ – May Edochie Refutes Claims Of Promoting Divorce by CHoccolaTE: 7:11am On Nov 03, 2024
chidiokay:
Yul fvccked up no doubt but she over reacted, these is africa and she was in raised in africa meaning she has the capacity to absorb polygamy but she allowed feminism mess up her head
There is nothing like feminism there, polygamy is very unfair and emotionally draining to wives and children, but men in their usual selfishness pretend they don't know this and continue to promote polygamy.
CelebritiesRe: ‘I Love Marriage’ – May Edochie Refutes Claims Of Promoting Divorce by CHoccolaTE: 7:09am On Nov 03, 2024
Dogalmighty17:
Madam, you are not married. Your opinion counts for nothing. Any woman that allows another woman snatch her husband is a weakling and should be ashamed to even open her mouth to talk in public.
"Any woman that allows another woman to snatch her husband"
Because the husband is a zombie that only does what others allow abi wetin?

The worst part is that a lot of men actually reason like this, they will see husbands cheating and then conclude that it's because their wives caused it or "allowed" it.

Very funny creatures.
RomanceRe: Why Are Guys No Longer Persistent, When Chasing Or Toasting Ladies? by CHoccolaTE: 1:15pm On Aug 26, 2024
zebszebs:
How did this crap make it to the front page?
This topic is always posted on Nairaland front page every three Eke Market days.

It's clickbait for guys that are angry with girls and/or hate women.
PoliticsRe: Why Internet Was Disrupted During Protests — TELCOs by CHoccolaTE: 9:39am On Aug 04, 2024
This country is truly hopeless

If every single TELCO could band together and throttle internet access just to prevent Nigerians from protesting for their rights.

All the network providers were part of the wickedness. No exceptions.

This country is gone.
EducationRe: Biological MALE Decimates Female Boxer At Paris Olympic Games by CHoccolaTE: 1:30am On Aug 02, 2024
Shame on those people supporting this nonsense.
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 5:01pm On Jun 30, 2024
Ishilove:
Jarus is first class degree holder in one social science course like that. Can't remember. The man is very intelligent
First class in economics. But having first class in school doesn't really mean somebody has worldly sense. With all due respect.
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 7:56am On Jun 30, 2024
1Sharon:
All it takes for a Muslim man to divorce his wife is at talaq 3 times and poof, he's now single.
Why does a Muslim woman need to go jump through all these hoops? Where is the justice?

Who is this truly benefitting?
Yes.
All the men have to do is proclaim divorce three times in a space of three months. Please don't mind that guy that is trying to hide the flaws of his religion with complicated explanations.
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 7:53am On Jun 30, 2024
islamics:
The proclaiming of divorce thrice is a misconception please, divorce thrice at a go is counted as one.
Where did I say the divorce is proclaimed at a go? I know very well how the divorce is proclaimed thrice by husbands. It still doesn't make it less unfair.
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 9:25am On Jun 29, 2024
islamics:
Women can also file for divorce in Islam
though it is disliked. But she can file for divorce if the husband is not meeting his responsibilities and fulfilling her rights and she can't bear with him.
If the husband doesn't accept, then if the wife is able to convince the judge/Imam, the marriage can be dissolved. That the women are silent doesn't mean they don't know their right. Some might be naive while some are trying to keep up with the husband.
I have seen many videos on the internet of Muslim women complaining that their Imam refused them divorce after trying to leave their abusive husbands, you have to admit it's a bit unfair for the divorce process to be so easy and effortless as proclaiming divorce thrice for the husbands while the wives have to "convince" a judge or Imam that her reasons for divorce are valid before she can leave an unhappy marriage.
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 9:20am On Jun 29, 2024
shaybebaby:
I guess to satisfy the equal loving part, the incoming wife needs to collect too. With a third wife queuing up right behind equally chopping beating and so on.

Anything else is going against that doctrine as that is the "loving" template based on wife number one.

Even the 72 virgins waiting in the after life must collect.
@bold is one part of Islam I don't understand.
Muslim women don't like sharing their men here on earth so why will they work for a paradise where they have to share their men with 72 virgins for all eternity. What kind of hellish paradise is that?
Does their God hate them abi wetin huh
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 9:16am On Jun 29, 2024
cococandy:
To be fair everyone’s personal men in their families and circle of friends are awesome. Even if they are absolute monsters to outside people. It’s only when things go wrong then hindsight becomes 20:20.


As a rule of thumb, how a man treats a woman who he has nothing to gain from is usually a good way to tell what type of man he is.
Yes you're right but I don't like being fair in my judgment of men because I dislike them and their evil ways.
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 6:38am On Jun 29, 2024
1Sharon:
Exactly. A religion by men, of men, for men.
cococandy:
and the church said amen
Omoh.. grin

👏👏👏

🙌
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 6:35am On Jun 29, 2024
cococandy:
That’s why they’re so hateful towards anyone with a feminist mindset.

Because it teaches women to value themselves outside of their roles as wives and moms. To see that they are worthy regardless of a man’s opinion of them. Stuff like that makes it so that such women understand that a good marriage is great but being single is better than a terrible marriage.

Imagine if most women are okay with leaving bad husbands. The whole reality for these men would shift.
That’s why they hate it so much
Imagine how selfish these men have to be for them to hate a movement that teaches women to leave terrible marriages.

I keep saying it that many women are just living in denial about the true nature of males, men innately do not like women and want to keep women subjugated and oppressed but Nigerian women don't understand this.

They watch their silly Telemundo series and Korean movies and also read silly romance novels and then they start assuming that men in real life are like their fairy tale men.
FamilyRe: Popular Nairalander Sir Jarus Admits To Domestic Violence On Twitter by CHoccolaTE: 2:31am On Jun 29, 2024
Women in Nigeria have stupid and unrealistic expectations in marriage while the men have selfish and self centered expectations.

I can't understand why it's so hard for the average Nigerian man to have sympathy for their women and why it's also hard for the mumu women to stop valuing marriage so much and stop placing the men on pedestals and simply realize that their men hate them.

I don't even pity the jarus or whatever he calls himself. Let him cook, I don't pity selfish self centered men at all. Disregarding the feelings and emotional wellbeing of his wife of 14 years just because he has made money and so wants to taste a newer, younger woman.
If a woman divorces her poor husband after she becomes rich she would be called all sorts of names even though she is well within her rights to leave the marriage whenever she feels like. I don't pity him. Serves him right.
HealthRe: My Parents Are HIV Positive by CHoccolaTE: 2:07pm On Jun 09, 2024
blaise26abj:
God bless you . You are better off trying to find love again than staying with a promiscuous partner . The dangers are too much . That is even the only grounds for divorce in the Bible . All that nonsense about other men outside can be worse off is undiluted gaslighting and reinforcing the nonsense that all men are cheats
Haaa!

God bless you for saying this oo, to see a Nigerian man saying its better to leave a cheating husband is something rare. God bless you real good.
HealthRe: My Parents Are HIV Positive by CHoccolaTE: 2:06pm On Jun 09, 2024
Proserpina:
Likkkkkkeeeeee! It's annoying. So a woman should stay with a cheating partner because she doesn't know if the next person could be worse. Please they that are cheating do they stop after getting STDs no be to treat and move on to the next available Vee? grin . Some of these guys even have special hospitals they send ladies they want to frolick with for tests meaning they know the danger but would rather take their chances than remain faithful with their partners.

Once it is a woman to them it's useless taking her chances grin. So woman should be the one to accept their philandering lifestyle and whatever comes with it. Such madness!

Call them all cheaters and watch them come for your head but when it's time to defend their nonsense they will perfectly describe themselves as Dogs.
Honestly, their selfishness will never cease to amaze me.

I only wish women will start having the strength to leave philandering men in droves so these men can learn to behave.
Nigerian women enable their husband's bad behaviors too much, it's annoying.

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