₦airaland Forum

seguno2:
Apart from rape, the responsibility for pregnancy rests mostly, if not exclusively with the mother.

It’s her body, not so

The responsibility lies with both of them its just that women stick around more when the child is born but men run away like cowards.

SHiNJA4RMDWEST:
Wow..so sorry for how Ur dad treated u

Stop being emotional ontop of my post, I spoke the truth. ✌️

Jovialjune1:
Because single fathers refuse to take care of their children

I truly wish mothers can be courageous enough to leave kids with their fathers, that way community diicking men can have a sense of responsibility and what it feels like to cater for little kids 24/7, at least the stigma will shift to them for a change.

That's a risky move, if it's a female child he could end up molesting her. I have heard so many true life stories of men raping their daughters after the mother left them in his care.
Some men even drop their kids off in orphanage homes or leave them in the care of evil step mothers.
Men taking care of children hardly ever put as much effort and attention as the mothers.

bukatyne:
I like this Choccolate

Wow, I like you too ma, thanks

Carcholce:
😭

“Women supporting women”

Ehyaa, sorry.

A woman is anyone who identifies as a woman

being:
This why ladies should be warned about giving themselves to men no matter the reason the man might give.. because if it doesn't go as planned, a lot of the challenge will fall on d ladies!!!

That's true, women need to withhold sex outside marriage as much as possible.

Carcholce:
I don’t know what else to call it if not irresponsibleness on both parts. You think it’s only men that are lying to women? I have been with a woman that lied she was on pills and always insisted I empty my cum tank inside. Weeks later I got pregnancy threats. She opened up she lied about the pills. And she made me go through hell before she agreed to abort.

She knew she was going to abort from day one. She was just torturing you for reasons known to her.
I still believe the blame lies more on males than females.

Carcholce:
Are you saying every single, single mother out there opened their legs for irresponsible men?

That makes all the single mothers even more irresponsible.

Not true
Those men tell all manner of lies, some promise the single mothers marriage then abscond after sleeping with her and getting her pregnant,

there are cases where the men insist that the woman has to get pregnant before marriage so that he can be sure of her fertility then after she takes in, he leaves her or abandons her.

There are men that take off condom without the woman's knowledge, halfway into sex because "they are not enjoying it",

There are cases of rape or forced sex, sex under intoxication, under duress etc.

You really think a woman would be so irresponsible as to bring another life to this world knowing how stigmatized single mothers are?

oluwaseyi0:
Apart from having multiple sex partners what other important do polygamy offer

It's all about sex sex sex and sex for the man

The country infrastructure cannot handle polygamy, our population already overbloated with many people competing for few jobs

In what special way do polygamy benefits children of the union

It benefits men penis so they support it.

Their children welfare is not important to them. Only penis welfare is important to polygamists.

Biglittlelois:
A pity that in this 21st century someone is asking why women are against polygamy.

When will African men grow up? When will they force their mind and brain away from sèx?

No shame at all, they blatantly peddle ideologies that are harmful to their families and the society at large just to increase their access to sex.

Jovialjune1:
This is why Africa is still as backward as it is,

Black men thinking of how many women they have sèx with in the name of polygamy instead of inventing and developing their continent like their white counterparts, ask them the societal benefit of polygamy, they will have no concrete answer, daft lots.

That is the one and only reason men support polygamy, they like telling lies and pretending they care for mature single ladies but na lie, it's only sex, sex and sex that is the reason for their polygamous ambitions.

My major problem with the trans movement is the fact that they are quickly erasing and eroding women and women's personal spaces, even words to describe women are being erased.
Women's lives are at stake, women are losing positions in sports that they fought for years to attain to men that just woke up and decided that they can be women too.

Men cannot be women. Women cannot be men, it's that simple. A man can like feminine clothes and make up and activities but he is still a man. Vice versa for women.
Women's lives and safety are at risk here and people are still talking about live and let live. What annoys me the most is that men are not losing anything compared to women when it comes to transgender activities. Men don't lose positions in sports, they don't lose their safety to sexually depraved people that pretend to be trans just to molest them. There have been men who rape and kill women and babies and when they get caught and realise they are getting sent to prison, they start identifying as women just to end up in female prisons which is a much more softer landing and punishment for them than male prisons.
There are men that pretend to be females that go into women public bathrooms to rape women, they are not transgender, they are not even autogynephilic, they are simply rapists and predators that hate women and they now have more opportunities to molest women because this new wave of transgenderism demands that men can be women so they should be allowed into women's bathrooms and hostels and prisons.

I can't even understand how any woman will support this blatantly anti woman movement. For heavens sake even word women use to describe themselves are being erased. Pregnant women are now "birthing persons" or birthing bodies, menstruating women are "bleeding bodies" , breastfeeding moms are now "chest-feeders". New annoying terms to describe women just to be inclusive to tans people.
I see the harm this movement is causing to women and I refuse to accept it and support it. Women have far more to lose than men in this fight, men don't even have anything to lose if you really examine the whole thing because you don't see perverted women demanding to be put in men's shelters or prisons just so they can have access to men they can molest, you don't see women taking the lead in male sports like Lia Thomas and that Falcon guy that nearly killed a biological women in a wrestling match, you don't see documentries asking "What is a Man" like Matt Walsh's "What is. Woman", how many women have you even seen advertising male products the way transgender males advertise tampons and makeup and women's clothes? Even JK Rowling had to put her career on the line and create a female only shelter because she saw that there was a real risk to letting any man into women's only spaces simply because he identified as female.
There are a minute and extremely small number of males that want to live life as females but that does not change the fact that they are males, it doesn't change their pronouns or the fact that they are biologically different from females. If we start ignoring biological realities to please a few people then perverted men will not waste any time to identify how they please in order to rape women and steal their rights, safety and places in sports.

Biological realities exist. Transgenderism is mental illness.

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's why many of them refuse to take their wives with them abroad because according to them, “why should I be in a society where I can not exert my full masculinity”? Bunch of narcissists!

I have one there in the UK. Never touched a pin while he was in Nigeria. Claimed “provider male” even if he was not totally providing. Exerted his misogynistic self since the Nigerian society helped. Now, he's so powerless in the UK and will not hesitate to call me to help talk to his wife. Says his wife has turned to a full-blown feminist. I asked Madam and she said that he expects to still be served as he was in Nigeria. When they both equally contribute? Take several seats, abek.

Thankfully, his ego is wearing off already and he is learning. What these men can not cease to do doesn't exist.

Can you imagine? What's the big deal in helping his wife at home that he has to call for intervention because his wife expects his assistance?

Nigerian women sha need to adjust their mentality towards marriage, many of them view it with sufferhead lenses. They expect to be treated badly and tolerate so much rubbish. Even encourage other women to tolerate rubbish too.
It's the society and religions putting that crap in their heads.

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's why I called them the Best in ENDURANCE. Just as I think Nigerian women can't practice true equality, it's the same way these men can practice the same. There's no true equality as long as “Nigerian marriages” is concerned.

Ask them to clean up after themselves or take the plates they used to eat to the kitchen, they will instantly grow whitlow or tell you how they are the head. [b]Very sensitive to criticisms and egotistical [/b]but never care to know about the other party.

@bold,
I don't think they are sensitive, they are just wicked, they know they are supposed to help at home but refuse to do it because society enables them, if they go abroad they will suddenly start having sense and treat their wives well because the system there doesn't tolerate their inconsiderate behaviour.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Any man who expects his wife to co-join in providing should know that all hands must be on deck in the affairs of the home like cleaning and cooking. If I contribute to the provision of the home, such a man would likewise cook, clean, and take care of the babies. Nothing more.

It's the women who enable their behaviors by not stating what they expect of these men. Later, they become bitter and cranky and exert these toxicities on their children and other people forgetting to communicate with the irresponsible men they married. Best in ENDURANCE.

Some have coconut head, they will frustrate their wives if she asks for assistance. Either they do the housework jagajaga and the woman has to redo it properly or they do once and wait for her to ask for assistance every single time.
It's never a straight forward affair with Nigerian men unless you're lucky enough to marry a very understanding man.

I just hope all the men planning to get married to supportive/understanding women with their meager salaries are also planing to cook and clean and take care of kids with her.

Because Nigerian men are experts in wanting their wives to die while pleasing their husband while the husband gives nothing in return.

Topic for lazy men. With all the millions of ways to earn money offline and online, Nigerian men are still discussing how to marry with 100k to a supportive women they will finish with suffering.

Investorozay:
Ha promised them today. And dropped them a shocking update day before
This time he said the update is indefinite

Their eyes go clear last last.

This is Nigerian men attitude naa

Becoming overly arrogant because they have small change. That's how they start behaving like jerks and asshole to their wives if they manage to make small money.

DANIEL5050:
It's your gender that force men into doing what they don't want often times

So men are zombies that can't think for themselves?

Can men ever take responsibility for anything?
Now they are claiming women are responsible for their laziness.
But if they achieve anything they don't give women credit for it.

Every single write up there is definitely the imagination of a frustrated Nigerian man trying to draw traffic of other frustrated men to his blog. Some of the stories sound so ridiculous and very unlike how a typical married woman thinks.


You men should kukuma marry each other, all women are bad. We agree.
Marry each other okay?
Good.

1Sharon:
It's human nature to take advantage.

There was a woman in a coma that was raped and gave birth in America, turns out it was a male nurse taking care of her that was responsible.

Male nature,biko not human nature, women don't do degenerate abomination like this. Thanks.

Teymanhenry:
Most Nigerian women love the idea of getting married because the culture here supports them taking less financial responsibility. If they are financially stable, they won't settle for less knowing they have something more to offer other than babies and sweet dishes

Exactly.

You nailed it.

Very nonsense reason for supporting a lifetime of servitude to another human you are probably more sensible than or have more moral uprightness than.

I tire for women like that

Nairaland boys lie too much.
Always telling made up stories like mad people.

And their stories are always about sex, about how they banged one girl that turned out to be olosho and that experience proves that all girls are irresponsible olosho.

Divay22:
You think divorce is that easy abi
And what makes you so sure the other woman he would marry won't do more than this

No mind am.
Gen zee girls wey their eyes dey red?
He don't know warris goin on

OP even said he is an introvert, meaning he has minimum people skills and tendency to be over sensitive and misinterpret people's actions.

If you like end your marriage because your wife stood by her mother after you insulted her, you think women outside are better abi? E go clear for your eyes.

Another half baked story of lies to gain support from his fellow badly behaved men.
Unless your wife is a mad woman, there is no way she would leave your house because you politely told your MIL to stop interfering in your family issues.
You said you 'confronted' her.
Why confront?
Is she your mate?
Will you be okay with your friend or a random person 'confronting' your own mother the way you confronted your wife's mom?

You probably used rude words and threw in a few insults for good measure because you felt she was overthrowing you as head of your house.

Nigerian men have a habit of assuming their wives families have far less importance than husband's own so they have a tendency to disregard their opinions and feelings and try to get rid of them completely after marriage.

Nasty creatures.

Investorozay:
binance has sent mails denouncing him and his 30M usd fraud
i wish mynd44 or seun can put this on frontpage
he now lied to his followers that legit binance mail is a fake mail . which has been countered as shown

Binance was never affiliated with that scammer, all the Binance emails screenshots he posted were fake or photoshopped.
That man's juju is very strong oo,
He told his followers that they should wait for another one month for their returns and they are still defending him.