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Proserpina:
Are you saying all Nigerian men are promiscuous? You mean there are no men who loyal and sexually disciplined?

That's just their usual tactics to force women into accepting their wayward and selfish ways.

They will claim that it's always better to stay with a cheating husband because the next one might be worse.
Shoro niyen?
What if the next one is actually not worse or what if the woman decides to leave and stay single without worrying about STDs?
These people are just professional hypocrites.

otherway:
I was expecting the closing remarks and that is just the truth.

Men who sleep around unprotected are wicked.

If you must sleep around at least protect yourself... Common sense.

Unfortunately, leaving a promiscuous husband is not a guarantee that you won't get a std cos even the next man you will eventually be with may even be more reckless than the one you left.

It is just by GOD'S grace that women especially can be free from the high chance of getting std.

LMAO, all this blackmail to force women to forgive cheating na wa o.

Leaving her promiscuous husband is still better because she might choose to stay alone and be 100% free from useless men and their STDs.

dominique:
How is he bringing his family issues public? Did he reveal any personal information that can make anybody link the story to his family?

It's you way you people always want men's fuckups to be concealed for me. If the op had come to say he just found out that he's not the biological son of his dad, you and your fellow hypocritical redpillers would have been dancing around the thread with all sorts of fear women gibberish. This is an anonymous forum, the best place to vent online without bringing attention to yourself offline.

You dey mind them?
If a woman did this evil act to her husband they will gather in their thousands to heap insults on Nigerian women. Now it's a man they have started trying to shut the matter up.

Hypocrites, all of them.

tete7000:
Quite a sad one, but your mum too made a bad choice in marry an irresponsible man. When it is all said and done, it's her choice. I really don't know how to console but I pray God helps you. I wish I have money to transfer to you.

I hope when a woman infects her husband with HIV you will also blame the man for marrying an irresponsible woman?

All you men who like claiming to be naturally polygamous and demanding that wives must forgive and stay with cheating husbands I hope you see the consequences of such things now?

Instead of you men to stay one place and respect yourselves, you go about sleeping with dirty rotten things with all manner of infections in the name of naturally polygamous. Ruining people's lives in the process due to your selfishness and lack of self control.

The money OP should be using to establish himself is being spent taking care of his parent because of his father's wayward ways in the past.

Now that the story exposes the bad side of the man, all the males on Nairaland are shouting "one sided report". If the topic was about the wife's bad behaviour they would have been all over this thread insulting all Nigerian women.

Now it's their fellow man behaving anyhow, it's one sided report.
Even though the same man has had similar problems before in his previous marriage

It's one sided report.

Many mentally unstable males are really on this nairaland. Tufia.
Supporters of killers and rapists.

In fact Nigerian men are mentally unstable misogynists, don't know how their women are still attracted to them.

Taiwojon:
This thing or this kind way wey you dey go na hell fire ooooo

You need to repent

The man continually hurting his wife's feelings is not hell fire?
Abeg shift. I gave good advice.

advanceDNA:
Lol.....sabotage ur husband to lose money and source of money?? Nor be two of them go suffer for this kind move....especially a woman that doesn't have her own money....

Hahahaha

Who told you she does not have money

It's like that my advice is painting men on this thread ooo

It's not my concern, cheating horsebands deserve that and more.

It's obvious you don't want to divorce the worthless bum.
Seek revenge then.

Frustrate his life back like he is frustrating you but be sneaky about it. Look for ways to make his life hell without him knowing. Put salt in his car fuel tank the day he is going for an important meeting so his engine would knock and everyone would see him as an incompetent fool. Hide something important the day you know he really needs it etc. Make his life hell but be sneaky, don't let him know you are the source of problems in his life so he doesn't retaliate or fight you back.

This is a very evil approach but I don't care, these selfish fools that cheat on their wives deserve it.

Email me for more evil tips.

etrange:
You may not see it because you aren't the one on the receiving end, and that's okay. The problem only arises when it's presented to you and you still find ways to dismiss them. I'll give you a few and it's going to be one hell of a long list:

- Do you know that ladies don't get late parent's inheritance in many traditional settings?
- Do you know that a man can send his wife parking without a dime in Nigeria regardless of how long they've been together?
- Do you know there's a huge pay gap between men and women at work?
- Do you know that ladies are still forced into marriage today?
- Do you know that many landlords won't rent out thier spaces to single ladies today?
- Do you know child marriage is still a thing today?
- Do you widows are still made to go through spiritual rites to prove they didn't kill her husband?
- Do you know some ladies still get mutilated?
- Do you know fathers beat thier daughters to pup for having a boyfriend?
- Do you know that men are considered first for management positions at work and political positions, and ladies are only considered when their track records are overly obvious? This implies that women need to work twice as hard to be there.
- Do you know that many educated women are doing small businesses today because thier husbands believe "someone has to run the home" or because their spouses are threatened by the the possibility of them becoming career ladies?

The list is endless, yet all these are more or less institutional and they are NOTHING compared to societal perception and gender stereotypes below:

- Do you know that women are judged by what they put on but we all went on a huge protest when SARS started profiling guys based on thier outfit/hairstyle.
- Do younknow that a woman with a cheating husband is expected to fight for her marriage and find a way to regain his interest while a cheating wife should be sent home?
- Do you know that when a lady get raped today, many people still ask "what was she doing at his place? What was she wearing? Why did she accept his money? Etc."
- Do you know that when a man commits a crime, we all come on this app to criticize him, but when it's a lady, everyone starts insulting the gender "fear women", "Nigerian women are useless", "women of now-a-days", etc.
- Do you know that when a corps member sleeps with his students who indicated interest in him and creates a thread about it on here, many people gather to talk about how these girls are spoiled and not about the adult that took advantage of a teenager?
- Do you know that Davido went around sleeping with different women and getting them pregnant and him that slept with multiple people isn't a hoe, but the individuals he slept with are called hoes even though they were exclusive with him when it happened?
- Do you know that most families reduce the potentials of thier girl child by teaching her how to be a good wife and not how to survive on her own? She does the cleaning and cooking, she learns how not to dress, she learns how to speak gently like a lady, etc. while the boys go out there to explore, make mistakes, learn from them and build the confidence required to push through life as an individual.
- Do you know that morality in society is degenerating and people still believe it's because girls of now-a-days are into money or because they sleep around?
- Do you know that a girl that goes into a guy's to indicate interest in him is a hoe but a man that does it is a sharp shooter?
- Do you know that merely being a lady in the entertainment industry gets you labeled as a hoe?
- Do you know that regardless of how successful a single or divorced lady is, people will still focus on the fact that there is no man in her life?
- Do you know about 90% of all the ladies on this platform left between 2014 to 2024 due to the growing sexism on here?
- Do you know that I only stopped typing cause I have things to do and nor because there isn't more to type?
- Do you know that most guy would quickly dismiss all these as 'imagined' or by saying 'oh, we have issues too'?


You see, feminism is about gender equality. Fighting for equality isn't all about changing the written laws, it's also about changing mindset and empowering women. To be a feminist isn't about hating men or not cooking at home. It's about freedom of choice and equal playing ground. It's not against men (except you really believe one gender should be superior to the other). In fact, feminism will help reduce the pressure on men in our society today. When a feminist preaches, they don't target men alone, they also target all those overly dependent women that you all complain about (the urgent 2k and those that bring nothing to the table). Therefore, we should all be feminists.

The OP has a very brilliant younger sister who is discerning enough to recognize these things at her age, but he's here asking for ways to cut her wings and subdue her. Tomorrow, when she goes after men for survival, he will still be the one to come here and cry foul.

Thank you for all your efforts on this thread. It gives me so much joy knowing that there are men who think like this.

Welldone.

It's hilarious how the males on this thread desperately want this fake story to be reality.

Always trying all manner of tactics to force women to see marriage as do or die.

Lwkmd, the irony of yahoo Boys using their scam accounts to accuse other people of greed.

Sex sex sex sex sex, that's all that the black man's mind is fixated on.
Irresponsible hypocrites.

dealslip:
Many men in Nigeria have undeveloped emotions, what they want is to walk all over their wives without any confrontation or need for accountability as long as they feed her or other responsibilities they provide her, as if her Father wasn't doing that untill they met her at 25 years upward. What is causing problems now is that, [b]women are waking up and rejecting their maltreatment but the men think it's their right to do as they please to their wives, and so it turns to fights. [/b]Guess what?!! Those with undeveloped emotions now resort to using violence to maintain dominance instead of analyzing the situation and make adjustments where necessary.

@bold,
Even animals inside the bush don't just get up and maltreat other animals for no reason but Nigerian men think it's their right to treat their wives (an entire human being, an adult like themselves) any how they please and disrespect her whenever they feel like it

I really wonder why many Nigerian women value marriage to Nigerian men so much. They are probably living in self delusion.

dominique:
That's the hypocrisy of Nigerian men. If it was the wife that brutally murdered her husband, they'll be shouting fear women but once the husband kills the wife, it's the wife's fault. They said women don't take accountability forntheir actions but their own way of taking accountability is by blaming women for their violent actions. An American man murdered his entire family, they said it's because he found out the children weren't his even though nothing in the article implied that. One of them raped an 8 year old, they blamed the mother for not being watchful over her daughter. They're the ones committing at least 90% of all the violent crimes in the society but on the home front, they're as meek as doves and are only pushed to violence by women. Bunch of pathetic clowns

I keep saying it that 80% of Nigerian men are just beasts and animals in human flesh, I don't even care how extreme that description sounds because that's the absolute truth.

When did infidelity or lack of respect become a justifiable reason for committing this type of murder? Mind you NOWHERE in this story was it mentioned that the woman that was killed was unfaithful or disrespectful to her husband. People have even come online to say the man has always being violent to her even before relocation but you see these animals calling themselves Nigerian men? The will either ignore reality or twist the truth until they can come up with any reason to blame women in any scenario.
If a woman is raped, they blame her.
If a woman suffers domestic violence they blame her
If a woman is killed (the worst) they will still blame her.
Cannot accept responsibility or accountability for anything but want to claim to be superior and more logical. These people irritate me to no end.

Very soulless evil beings.

Nigerian men are just disgusting animals, God forbid all of you.

Tufia,

ANIMALS!

Are you people really on this thread justifying this brutal murder with your lies and made up scenarios?
People that know the couple have said the man was sponsored to UK by the wife and not the other way round and that he was also violent to her in Nigeria but you Hopeless beasts have turned the story upside-down just to blame the dead woman?

I hope all of you blaming her for her own death and falsely accusing a dead person suffer the same fate as her.
Tueh, beasts. Beasts in human flesh calling themselves men.

Westves:
But guys, forgive my ignorance; assuming brothel slut uses protection with all her clients, how can she contract diseases? The way you all sound alarmed takes me aback cuz I've been tilted to the notion that they are the cleanest girls out there (I've been informed by more than one hiv test facilitator). They undergo routine checks more frequently than esteemos and subject themselves to precautionary measures, knowing the occupational hazards associated with their line of work

Are you guys speaking from sentiments or empirical evidence?

Some STDs can be spread even after wearing condom

WrriterNg:
Dummy!

So why don't you stay oppressed and stop using Men's inventions?

What do you think is the cause of the war hmmm? Ego? Power? NO. They're both fighting for Resources worth over $1.5 Trillion in the Donbass region but a slowpoke like you wouldn't know.

Resources that foolish women like you would want to balance and enjoy from after the men have spilled their blood fighting for.

You and your gender are just fucking cowards with no spine.

If not for men y'all would still be living in sand houses in the wild using leaves as sanitary pad bcuz even that one was invented by men too.

Tommorow you'll start forcing the "RESPECT WOMEN" hashtag down our throats when y'all have never done anything to earn anyone's respect in the history of humanity.

Why this emotional outburst? Because I said what you don't like?
I don't know why men are always so quick that start hurling emotional insults whenever a woman says or does what they don't like, later they will start claiming to be rational and logical gender

Analyst7:
See this fool, it’s a pity y’all education is a waste
Isn’t it the same men that makes things run in the world, all the infrastructure u enjoy today are made and developed by the same men, why can’t u relinquish it if you’re going to use the same logic

I wonder why whenever inventions are mentioned, black men love taking credit for the inventions of white men.

A lot of discoveries were made by (white) men quite alright but that's because for decades men themselves made it prohibited for women to take credit for their own scientific discoveries or inventions because women were regarded as property of the men in their lives, this law discouraged a lot of women from being inventors.
Many scientific theories today were actually made by women in the olden days but the husbands of those women published those discoveries in their own names instead.
In 1939, Lise Meitner helped discover the physical characters of nuclear fission in one of the biggest collaborative discoveries of the century but her husband was awarded the Nobel prize for the discovery instead of her. Mileva Maric was Einstein's wife and a physicist and a lot of his published papers were actually discovered and written by her.
Women were banned from voting, women were even banned from owning property in the past just to dissuade them from being ambitious.

In backwards dark world Africa women were banned from being educated past a certain point just so they could get married early and spend their lived submitting to their husband's and taking care of him and of children that bear his name.

Men have spent decades trying to keep women suppressed and oppressed and when the consequences of their oppression comes back to bite them in the butt, they start screaming about how life is sooo unfair them.

@phut

This topic really pained nairaland boys ooo

See them crying all over the thread

Selfish fools with no self control over their libido. If you like cry, wives leaving cheating husbands has come to stay and na una cause am.

In the olden days when men were actually providers like the Bible and Quran said, wives stayed with cheating husbands because they had no money to liberate themselves from terrible marriages since they depended on their provider husbands' income to survive.

Then you men started insulting women that couldn't provide like their husbands and started calling them liabilities until women acting as co-providers or even better providers became the norm.

Now these providing and hustling wives have no reason to stay behind and tolerate their husband's selfishness and wickedness because they can survive very well without men in their lives.

sylve11:
@the bolded, it seems you have a lot of experience o

LMAO
God forbid.
But I have heard other women say it.

NoToPile:
I don't understand how some boys on NL can't even reason.

Some are saying when a woman wants to destroy a man bleh bleh bleh in another breath saying why didnt they report to police.

We see the reason why people hardly report rape.

Can't they even read the accounts of different people?

This is becoming so alarming, the rate at which nonsense is being spewed, at least read, read and read how difficult is it?

Nawa.

See, all these guys you see defending the criminal and staying stupid things about the girls that reported him, just know that they are also his fellow criminals or they are criminally inclined.

They are just pissed off that their colleague has been caught.

Nairaland is home to many mentally unstable criminal males, Na them dey defend animals like that rapist driver.

ibrocool:
Do you know exactly the population of men and women ? Try to Google it.

One men is entitled to marry three women if we are to consider marrying all the women on earth. If not, there will be so many women without husband.

Think about it

Why do you men like thinking with your penis? Because you want to marry many wives you are now lying that females outnumber males. There is no shortage of men anywhere, there is definitely shortage of sane, marriageable men because many men are psychos but there is no man shortage. Stop lying.

IamAsiri:
It's relative, not absolute. Some do while some don't; it all depends on the relationship them and the attitude of the husband's extended family towards the wife and her children. But, they do stand a better chance than single mothers.

Na lie.
Not all single moms are abandoned by family just like not all widows are accepted by husband people.

IamAsiri:
He did separate the circumstances -- that some women are single mothers as a result of being divorced or due to loss of their husbands at a younger age -- and said that these two usually get help, no matter how little, in training their children unlike those who got pregnant under questionable circumstances who might not even get support from their family members, talk more from the men's families.

Many widows don't get support from their husband's families, that statement is a big lie.

I thought somebody said all widows usually get support from their husband's family that's why they make better single moms?
I believe it was on the thread below they said it.

https://www.nairaland.com/7969782/men-guys-plz-stop-encouraging
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@ topic, she should go to social media and tag all the human rights activists she knows with a much evidence as possible.