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frozen70:
You see the moment a man marry's, the house the family and the marriage is now under the management of his wife

So she keeps praying for God to take authority and control over her marriage

When a man is progressing, his wife's prayes are part of what makes him to progress

When a man is happy, his wife attitude is what makes him happy

When a man starts living a bad life, the wife is the one that will pray to God to briyhim out of that bad life

When a man is womanizing, the wife prays to God to stop him from such life

When a man is irresponsible, the wife prays to God to teach him how to carry out his responsibility

When a man does the unthinkable a woman still prays for either success or failure to him

Men are always distracted by so many things including women, drinking, gambling, clubbing and other bad vices, so they do to even have time for prayers

Dont be surprise that in some homes, their dad doesn't go to church but makes sure the wife and children goes ans still give them money for offering and transportation where need be

The niaja mentality has made it clear that a man can be married and still misbehave, so the wife will either accept it or leave it the way it is, so she doesn't ha e any option that you to pray for the man and gid always answer their prayers before you know it you will start seeing changes in the man and the woman will just be laughing that God has answered her prayers but the man doesn't know that her prayers made it possible

That same mentality made women to be seen as people who must be organized and don't mess up

Men believes that they don't need to pray for their wife's because if she mess up you move in and get another one

Forgetting that you are still going to meet another bad one

Ok.

Investorozay:
Their telegram group na like cult. If you air your concerns or grievances. Your out in a matter of seconds. Infact the telegram group is basically for praise and worship
Venexchangee was one of their lead promoters here. Today the man has not paid any of them a single kobo
Hope mods do the needful

I hope jesam is found out and forced to vomit the money he stole from those gullible people.
Till today the man is still posting fake screen shots of so called Binance approval of his arbitrage project.

Investorozay:
His houses full lekki. He has millions of usd in his wallets which he shows his hungry following. But he has told them that the enemy is fighting their platform 😂😂😂😂
Mynd44 seun
Protect naira land users pls

If you hear him talking you will know he is a scammer. His way of using fake big Grammer and his tone of voice sef, I don't know how he deceived so many people. The mumu followers still dey hope for return of their money and still supporting him and praying for him like foools that they are.

Klass99:
I logged in just to laugh at this and laugh at you That guy's username alone indicates he is not someone to be taken seriously.

cococandy:
This is the second comment I’m seeing within the past hour talking about how women are easy to possess by demons etc. who came up with that? How was it measured? Smh

You people have refused to acknowledge how deeply deeply hateful you are towards women and how you use every opportunity you have create anti-women spaces within your religious communities.

That's one thing I can't wrap my head around.
Why are so many men hateful and full of disdain for women and anything female?
Women are mostly peaceful and not violent an d problematic. We have more empathy and we are more emotionally mature and understanding.
Or is there a problem in males that predisposes many of them to act like violent sociopaths towards those they perceive as lesser or weaker than them?

Option B seems more likely to me.

FairlyUSEDpussy:
Check this few verses first......
Proverbs 16:3. ...
Romans 8:9. ...
Colossians 3:2. ...
Philippians 4:8-9. ...
Philippians 4:5-7. ...
Romans 15:13. ...
Proverbs 2:6-8.

I am just angry with myself for assuming you were serious and wasting my time and data to google those verses.

RenegadeX:
Most of you discussing above should go and join the convent and leave men and the women that like them like that alone. Because any small thing your husband does in marriage will be seen as trying to prove superior and subdue you in the process.

Wife submit to your husbands
Husband love your wives

The problem with you ladies of now is that you want all the loving and pampering but when it comes to the point of fulfilling your end of the bargain which is “submitting” that where they start debate of men and women being equal and crazy feministic crap.

While courting the man you saw everything that you think you might not be comfortable with yet you proceeded. In marriage you still submit to him whether he gambles or gets drunk. Kneel down and cry that you don’t like what he is doing and tell him the repercussions of the habits calmly. He will stop

But as feminist and ladies carrying baggages, hurt and bitterness from your previous 20+ toxic relationships. You will transfer your vile and anger on the man. That is no submission. And we men hate when our ego is bruised with your vile tongues. That thing you are saying we shouldn’t do with insults and nagging instead of the calm approach we will triple down on it since una no won get sense.

No matter how beastly a man is a woman can have his remote control anytime if she wise but how many you are wise these days.

@bold,
At the expense of your children's wellbeing?
By the way, calm approach does not work with all men, some men take advantage of their wife's calmness and assume that she can't do anything apart from complain calmly.
They aľso double down on their bad behavior even with calmness and submission. I have seen several cases like that in real life

RhodaNelly:
Oga poster you just disrespected your poor mother inlaw because she's not handy. If she was wealthy and influential, I don't think you'd have the balls to shun her from your home the way you did.

Chai... This is indeed a message to all mothers/ fathers. Build your castle, make hay while the son shines so that one son in-law/ daughter in-law will not see you as thrash in your old age.

Anybody tell my mom that shit, we die there.

If na me, I would leave his house for him. How can you send my mother away so rudely? If she didn't put in effort to train me properly you would not have liked me enough to marry me so don't assume that I will put you first before her because I married you.

The same men supporting him would castigate a woman that does not want her mother in law to visit but you fools think anything goes when your wives are involved.
Because women no be human beings naa, so just do anything you like to them and their families.
Rubbish.

Just imagine the animals some women are living with under the guise of marriage.


Op, I pray you grow old and then your inlaws rudely send you away from visiting your kids so you can feel the pain of spending your whole life raising your kids and then being rudely separated from them by a mannerless brat.

FairlyUSEDpussy:
Well.......I'm a Christian and I don't argue carnally.........."women pray for your husbands"is a commandment from God.........

I cud drop so many bible verse on that.......

Can u just pick one verse in the Bible that support husband pray for yo wives??

Interesting, show me verses that instruct women to pray for their husbands.

FairlyUSEDpussy:
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Men and women ain't the same!!!!

Doesn't change the fact that as a Christian or a Muslim, you are supposed to follow your religious rules.

Klass99:
The same conclusion I came to when he didn't answer. What they cannot take, tolerate or endure, is the very thing they expect a woman to take, tolerate and endure. They can't handle half of what they dish out.

A 50 year old woman woke up one day to the realization that her husband was never going to change and the domestic violence she suffered at his hands would never stop either. This was after she spent the better half of her life fasting and praying for him.

She got married in her 20s, at 25 I believe because at the time her story aired on radio the marriage was 25 years old when she decided enough was enough and she was getting a divorce. Her reality makes me extremely wary of the fast and pray advice for women.

While I believe in God and the place of prayer, there is also a place for using our God given capacity to think. My bible explains it well - when you pour out your heart to God in prayer, do not turn off your capacity to think. It goes on to say true Christianity is not thoughtless emotionalism or barren intellectualism.

I am not one to tarry needlessly in prayers and fasting for a grown man who should know better (like the gambler) or for a marriage that doesn't guarantee me a spot in heaven abeg. When e do me, I will truthfully tell the Lord I am tired and done praying about this. Let every man work out his salvation I am not a second saviour commissioned to save his life.

Great submission, I wish society would stop pressuring women to stay in toxic and unhappy marriages.
Women who leave bad marriages are shamed for not being able to keep their homes and called all sorts of degrading names that's why many women stay and tolerate nonsense.
Walahi in this part of the world, marriage is not fair to women. Society in general is not fair to women.
There was a thread not long ago on front page about some women in "association of divorced women" celebrating the entry of a new member, and people on that thread (men and some foolish women) were trying to push the narrative that those women were only divorced because they wanted to sleep around. None of the Nairalanders making those claims knew the women from anywhere, none of them knew what those women suffered in their previous marriages before they called it quits, they just wanted to run those ladies down because they had the audacity to leave their husbands.

That type of stigmatization and mockery for divorced women is why some women stay and tolerate all sorts and just keep hanging on desperately to prayers while hoping for a positive change in future.

Funny enough divorced men are not stigmatized or mocked.

bukatyne:
1. It is not any African thing. For instance, The Red Pill movement did not start in Africa. Some people have argued that women fared better in Africa before the colonial masters.

2. I wouldn't say disdain; I would say desire to dominate (not lead) which can be traced to Genesis after the fall of man. Before Eve gave Adam the fruit to eat, Adam saw her as his other half; he called her the bone of his bone and the flesh of his flesh etc. After the eating of the fruit, he named her Eve (mother of all things). One, that naming was what he did to all other things he dominated. 2. He no longer saw he in relation to himself. One of the consequences of the fall was that (a woman would always desire a man and he would dominate/rule over her).

3. I would speak for Christianity: a Christian man (not Church goer, not pastor, not evangelist etc.) would not have that 'desire to dominate' because his mind has been renewed.

Other tools used to curb this is upbringing & when a man genuinely loves a woman.

Interestingly, a lot of women are operating from the place of been dominated. They either believe that:
a. Men & women are not equal in worth. This is different from believing they are not equal as in same. These type of women are open to accepting whatever vices the man brings onboard; afterall he is a man. Such a woman might be active in Church; she is not operating from Biblical knowledge either.

b. Men are superior and so they are playing catch up with feminism to become 'equal' with men. They disdain their womanhood and compare everything to a man. Men do this, we must also.

Thanks for the detailed and intelligent responses.

Klass99:
Choco-choco I am interested in this matter and answer the same way you are. I will be back shortly with my thoughts and a true life story I heard on Nigerian Info FM about a fasting and prayer story. Meanwhile........

The quote below is from a male user on the thread you referred to. I asked him yesterday, knowing what you know about gambling, will you marry or stay married to a gambler? Answer truthfully without religious sentiments or other bias..........of course the guy refused to engage or answer the question. Which in itself is very telling.

Many of them are Hypocrites, their behaviour does not surprise me anymore
In their minds women must take all the nonsense and yamayama and pray for husband and submit meanwhile the men themselves would rather die than tolerate the same nonsense and yamayama.

bukatyne:
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The post above is a reference.

The advice is from a traditional point of view

A Christian man for instance would know that he 'cannot' abandon his family.

Yeah, you're right.

Kobojunkie:
The reality is that even when bellowed from your many pulpits, the reality is that it is all merely for soundbites purposes and nothing more because even the pastor or mog doing the bellowing lives with the notion that as traditional head of his household such rituals are beneath him. Try to meet up with the same outside of their churchian elements to hear exactly what their true thoughts are made of. To them God supposedly installed a man over a woman and as such she has to be the prayerful partner in charge of keeping the marriage together.

I understand what you mean, many men, especially Africans, see women as lesser creatures that were put on earth to satisfy men and should be controlled. They don't see them as equal humans that deserve love and respect.
I think males just have an innate disdain for females which religion tries to suppress but fails in many cases except in cases where the male is punished for failing to show civility and respect to females, like is done in Western countries for instance.

bukatyne:
Men are often advised to fast and pray for their wives. You might not just find such advice a lot on NL which gladly is not the entire universe.

Besides, most of the men prescribing the 'pray & fast' are not doing it from a religious standpoint; it is from a cultural/traditional standpoint. Such a man might most likely support male adultery/polygamy etc which tells you he is not a child of God or follower of Jesus aka Christian.

If you go to the right quarters (where Christian men gather), you would hear that advise often. You would also see men who testified to it working for them.

It is just like looking for advise to be a good investor in the casino.

Ok, thanks a lot ma.

How come men are never advised to pray and fast for their wives when the wives misbehave?
I am just coming from the thread about that woman whose husband keep wasting money on gambling and there are many comments there asking her to pray and fast for him.

If a woman is the one displaying lousy parenting or partnership there is usually so much castigation for her and in many cases, her husband is adviced to punish or cheat on her or even divorce her.

I can't imagine a man starting a thread about how his wife leaves the house dirty all the time, doesn't cook or clean and has refused to take advice or change for the better and then that man will be adviced to pray and fast for his lousy wife.
I can't just imagine that scenario. The man will be told to send his wife packing or to get another wife.

Many people really think the verse in the Bible about husband's showing their wives love and leading with love is just there for decoration.

Nonsense topic. Complaining about girls/women no dey ever fire Nigerian men.

Thank God females don't spend this much energy on men matters.

Kingcalls:
But it's an excuse to be violent... women are even the biggest cheats...mention DNA and they will start to run helter-skelter...

Women can never be bigger cheats than men when male sex drive is up to ten times that of women. Men sleep around more.

Rayban25:
What you have said so far on the thread makes no sense you're just looking for a way to spring up gender war.

That's why I said dont get married and save yourself in the first place instead of talking gibberish..shalom.

You were the one taking time to type responses to the post you called gibberwso what does that make you?
You felt a post is gibberish but you sat down to type responses to it. Na wa o

Amumaigwe:
If testosterone is the reason men sleep around, it then means that women now produce it in superabundance. Scientists may need to research in the cause of testosterone in women.

Nonsensical statement.

Rayban25:
Who is forcing you to stay in marriage? Infact you shouldn't be married at all why give yourself headache

This your comment has no relation whatsoever to what I posted before.

Kingcalls:
Oh now u accept testosterone...but when men sleep around due to same biological factor , u start to condemn men

Yes I will condemn them because testosterone is not an excuse to sleep around and expose their partners to STDs and deadly infections. If they cannot curb their dirty urges then they should stay single.

ahiboilandgas:
from how he pose with the watch you know say na scammer investor don't have time to be pointing watch to camera .otedola that pump billions into transcop and first bank will not pose like this.

That guy na scammer from day one and his so called arbitrage was a ponzi scheme.
He don cash out go buy cars and houses and is stoping people from complaining on the telegram platform he opened.

Kingcalls:
Women are child rapist, and the get involved in armed robbery and kidnapping ...reason that it's dominated by men is because of strength and will power...and women can't run it ,if they had a chance , they wud]

Big lie, men are innately more violent. They have a hormone called testosterone that makes them aggressive and predisposes them to carry out violent acts more than women. The biological nature of men and women is not the same as all. Men are more violent.

.... there are more prostitutes than armed robbers , yahoo boys , kidnappers , bandits joint together x 10

Prostitution can never be compared to armed robbery and kidnappers and scammers, men willingly patronize prostitutes unlike criminals that forcefully take, kill and destroy.

Kingcalls:
So act naive ....women chase married men .... women never want accountability, reason there are badly raised women everywhere

No be women be armed robbers and kidnappers and bandits and unknown gunmen.
No be women be child rapists and yahoo boys.
Talk about your fellow badly raised men first.

Aguiyimba:
So it's good to live their husbands and start sharing another woman's husband.

Most of them left their husband's house due to their stupidity and selfishness

Who told you people they are sharing another woman's husband?
Must you lie against them because you are not happy to see women existing without men?

Jennyclay:
Biko shut up!!

Is still better than staying with a murder, woman beater and a rapist all in the name of marriage.

Do you even have any idea of what these women went through in the hands of their monster husbands before they quit the marriage . Indeed it’s an End of an Error.

You men are really disgusting!!

You really answered that idiot well.

And his foolish likers that liked his comment.
They want women to always stay in marriage tolerating their selfishness and bad behaviors.
Fools.

Men really hate the fact that some women can survive without them.
See their stupid asses crying all over this thread because they saw a couple of divorced women.

Na their way. People like the OP, they want to marry virgins that will be ten billion percent faithful to them while they carry their overused body parts with hidden Stds and give to the innocent woman.
Hypocrites.