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Djtm: You see, all those qualities you mentioned up there are classified under Godly! Caring, humble etc. I guess our definition of 'Godly' is different. I kinda expected your kind of reply but I was too lazy to elaborate. I believe we have a different definition of 'Godly'. Godly in my own terms encompasses all the above plus the fruit of the spirit excluding none. I'm sorry if your definition of Godly doesn't mean caring, generous, humble etc. Maybe you just meant 'church-going'. As for the last part of your post, I didn't understand what you wrote there maybe you should take it easy on your abbreviations. Stay blessed

Freiburger: That could be true.

Djtm: She dodn't pray for a man like the groom. She prayed for a perfect man.
Tall, handsome, Godly and rich. What else defines perfect?

sylvar02: yeeeeeeeee

DailyNews: Chomzy, honestly I fancy ur way of argument here...very realistic. You sound real now...and that's y I said I pray to be on top of my game financially than my wife. If she is gonna be a minister, I pray God makes me a president for sanity to remain.

I don't blame a woman who doesn't respect her husband becos she is the breadwinner. No sane man will maltreat his wife cos he has money than her and provides for the family financially and u know y Becos it is his natural duty that he's doing. But when he fails to do that and the woman takes over, I don't expect her to remain that humble and submissive when she's the breadwinner. It takes d special grace and fear of God for a woman to do that in Nigeria.

From the marriage example we read about in the Holy Bible, the man was the provider and head. The man never asked the woman to bring 50% so that he will bring 50% and that was y the woman respected and submitted to him.

But the western man in an effort to use women to sell his brands, products and for political reasons came and brainwashed women into believing that they were being mistreated. That they need to be splitting responsibilities with their husbands.

The woman goes to trim the flowers, and then expect her hubby to water the plants. She fries egg and then expect her hubby to serve the tea to ensure evrything is 50-50 and they call it marriage

Marriage is never a business partnership where each partner contributes according to the deed of partnership.

God who created marriage assigned roles to the man and woman based on their natural build.

But man has destroyed that God's template and what do we have today? Unhappy marriages here and there, divorce and broken homes despite the academic, technological and scientific breakthroughs.

Honestly, anyone that wants a happy marriage should practice the type narrated in the Bible.

DailyNews: Cute points but still my dear, women, or will I say black women can hardly respect a man they are feeding or more financially buoyant than, its a fact that we witness everyday. Let's not come here to sugar words...we all know the truth. Men are polygamous in nature, yes! Yes! Even though not all men, but majority are!

Men find it difficult to remain faithful to one partner once they are sexually active, yes, yes! Even though not all men, but majority are like that.

Same way, women generally don't date down (meaning women don't fancy dating or marrying a guy they are richer than except they are left with no other option)...and when they marry a man they are fending for financially, it becomes an issue, it won't take long they lose respect for him or minimize their respect for him, and reason majority of men don't like dating or marrying a lady richer than them.

And that's y in Nigeria especially, the more money, fame and wealth a single lady acquires, the more difficult it will be for her to find a deserving husband except she proves beyond every doubt that she's gonna be submissive, else no same man in his right senses would marry such a lady cos men crave for respect so much.

troy20: just didnt seem good to dismiss the youngstar like that if he was realy one.its not much of a big deal.i just added fun to it.

DailyNews: Hi Mr Nashville, you are very correct! In fact, u are saying how its supposed to be: the ideal situation and not what is obtainable today in Nigeria. If u want to doubt me, try dating a girl who is richer than u and observe the difference. So many of my friends have tried it and swore never to date talkless of marrying a lady richer than them. Women by default have plenty drama then to talk of when they now have money more than u their man, believe me, u won't love the scenario...forget what people do type here which are most times fantasies and what they feel should be done and not what is being practised.

There are only very few women that can be humble, submissive and respectful to their boyfriend or husband when they are richer than him or when they are the breadwinner of the family. It takes the special grace of God for a richer woman to be submissive to her not-rich man.

If u want to be loved and cherished by women, pray to be on top of your finance, else, u are placing your respect under probability and fate!

Maybe in future, there may be better change, but for now, I pray daily to be on top of my game financially and God will keep me soaring higher to avoid any disrespect from anyone.

Jay5000: So they think, until you stop eating their food and start eating out. Then they'll know who's d boss.

troy20: put a cap on that tongue lady give the dude a break.....Oh what the heck o.p just knife the b!tch already.

kensto: u know some ladies do think that they are the ones in charge of the kitchen

lalalefriday:

First to do no dey pain as they say.

Now OP listen to me. Physical abuse is a direct result of a lack of respect for the abused by the abuser.

Quite simply, your wife has zero respect for you.

And a relationship without mutual respect can NEVER work let alone a marriage.

Your marriage is already dead -What you need to figure out is if you want to show her pepper before you leave...or if you want to leave in an amicable and mature manner.

I personally would go for option A.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]2010 Range Rover Sport Supercharged. 510 HP V8.

If I no appreciate am, make thunder fire my left yansh. [/color]

kennytidistar: so you expect me to place a lady on monthly income? is she my wife? if I have to give away for charity that's by the way and why should a working class lady demand for money to make hair I see such a lady as a prostitutes and nothing but one the trade her dignity.

4llerbuntu: since when did blackberry join the android alliance?

sideloading android apps is a different kettle of fish to having playstore installed.

there are preconditions a oem must meet to be able to ship the playstore. even sideloading it does not magically make it work. especially on a non android OS

the playstore and other google core apps now require Google Play Services on the device to function. i fail to see how you intend to also convert that into a BB10 OS thing and still have it compatible with google server infrastructure

sideloaded apps on a BB actually need to be converted. installing directly does not work for most apps.

nobody designs an android app UI to be convergent with BB10 swipe centric interface,



simply put this is a very improbable lie. unless of course BB10 OS has been converted to android overnight.

jay bee: I honestly don't understand why couples don't discuss issues like this before deciding to get married. Marriage is all about tolerance, there is obviously a problem the moment either party starts feeling own view/opinion/say is say regardless of how it will impact the other person.

This issue obviously wouldn't go away and i get very angry when people start asking the woman to just accept because;
He is the husband and thus you must obey king kong,
The role of a woman is to just sit listen and be a baby making machine,
If you want your marriage to last then don't complain
Bla bla bla bla

Of what use is you being unhappy about something so dear to you in your marriage whilst constantly feeling your opinion counts for nothing?

To even think about his stated reason for not wanting you to speak your own language to your own son. Isn't his sole reason equally applicable to his language as well.

The primary being the language you guys communicate is English so how on earth would the child pick up yoruba or esan accent?

You are not meant to feel undervalued in a marriage. It is a partnership and to think you will even have more responsibility in raising this child is just making woooow

Anyhoo, OBEY is the magic word since you are a Nigerian woman married to a Nigerian man and living in Nigeria.

pDude: It is very simple.

Stop speaking yoruba to your husband's son.

gothrones: So she should stop speaking her language to HER own child? Wetin person no go hear for NL.

Mcbussy: See,dat gal nah certified dirty,razz,lowlife chic....it aint hard to tell.just free her,she aint worth it.

Amaaskia: Seriously!

Amaaskia: Seriously!

Amaaskia: Seriously!