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nairaman66: For me.. Being short or tall is a state of mind!

or so u will lyke to think

I agree with dia points xept d IQ part, frm my own observations frm primary to dis day as a graduate, short pple are always more intelligent than their taller counterparts, its lyk d more pple grow tall d more they leave their senses behind. All the genius in my school days were short... So in dis nigeria d reverse is d case

We can't tell u what to do, d answer to that question is in your heart, do u want to accept her back I.e. U still luv her n want to spend d rest of your life with her, if yes then accept her back n marry her, if no then don't...
If u re finding it difficult knowing d ans ur heart truly wants, then toss a coin, b4 d coin lands u'll know what ur heart is hoping for

NB: u might begin to consider the fact that she left u, but truly she is not to b blamed cos U practically. asked her to leave if she wants to cos u aint marrying until u get a job (in dis nigerian climes of Unemployment) any wise girl will Definitely begin to wonder abt d future, nt to talk of her age. N then asking her to leave if she wants to sounds like u cldnt care less if she was with u or not with U... WE ladies do not want a guy who 'll tell us "things are not as it should be now, So u can leave if u want to, I don't what it to b like I'm tying u down or sth". We want a guy who'll say to us "babe I know things are not as gud as They shld be b now but I want u to stick by sidde thru dis rough times n wen I make it, I promise to treat u as D queen dt u are" Dis person truly wants u to b with. Him... D other sounds lyk he wants to escape blame in case u stay n he end up living u wen things are better

jmoore: Teach me na, I am a learner

I hear u... dt learnin wey u dey learn since 2 decades plus

Anyways send her a PM (if u haven't already done dt) N say somefin nice

jmoore: thanks

N all u had to say was thanks? Guy come on, take a cue[/quote]

zeb04: Jmoore I like ur name

Old papa youngitto, Don't respect ya old age... Na nw I know say na because of kpekus u no fit mk ur previous marrgs work...

Rubbish! all this how to keep ur man thingy is becoming very boring n old.. U don't hv anything doing other than thinking up ways to keep a grown man... Eeerrm guys ladies are not that jobless n if u want To leave remember to come n take ur T-fare first, it will be of immense help in your journey...

Jumong1: Thanks so much for your constructive piece of advice. I have been able to shower love on her and things have now changed. May God bless u.

Ok, I know we love giving advice or taunts as d case mayb, But did u guys miss this post... Things re good, D op has no more nid for advice...

So Btw Andy Uba n Nwoye none made the list... Ok ooo

Klinee: na this ur type make me enter police cell 4 1st time. Dey claim say she get musscle say she go beat man. Wen i give am one nodding she collapse 4 ground.

lol... Na she oo

Richfella: O Lord, how did I miss that! These parts are just pure gold:



I see, it appears gender equality is achieved by a certain kind of compensation; a 'balancing' - like allowing people from given regions of the country to get into universities with lower JAMB scores.

Foolish me, here I was thinking equality meant holding everyone to the same standards - across board.

If you always go for your God-given right of hitting men, just know that you're classifying yourself as a 'fellow combatant' . Learn to resolve your problems as an adult.

"If you meet a swordsman, draw your sword. Do not recite poetry to one who is not a poet" -------- Buddhist proverb.

Eerm wen I ws talking of men here I meant men lyk my BF/Hubby( n dts wen They extremely annoy meCos smtimes that's d only way to show u hw pissed off I am) I don't go around quarellin wit Men on d streets talk more of beating... Unless u re harassing me, nw that merits a slap

Serendipity: I'm by no means surprised at your riposte. Women are wont to resort to blackmail, it is in their character. Just listen to yourself ''only weak men beat women'', thats the apogee of blackmail, so that I will desist from beating women so as not to be thought weak.
Again, their is no scintilla of nexus between beating women and being strong. Nonsense.
Finally, check the first post and lookk at the example there and tell me what you would have done if you were a guy and in my shoes.

I'm by no means resorting to blackmail (tho we tend to do that) weakness here is not ltd to physical weakness it also encompasses emotional weakness (men who can't control their tempwer. As to loose it n beat up a woman re emotionally weak) others re physically weak n can't hold it wit their fellow men buh bgin to show their power on women.

As for the scenarios, I could warn d girl in a stern tone to pick up d refuse n bey her elders nxt tym... But wat u did wasn't also bad cos I bliv u re talkin abt an adolescent girl here n u slapped her to teach her a lesson in manners.. U dint beat her up
My problem is beating ur sister(I blive she's an adolescent) up because of her 'contumacity' lyk we all weren't at one time. In our lives cotumacious, nt dt u shld leave her to continue in her rebellious ways, but watever happened to flogging her instead of using ur fists(unless u were referring to floggin wen u said beating her up) I wld also flog my lil sis if she ever tryna rude... If on d other hand ur younger sis is not a stubborn adolecent girl but a woman in d full sense... Then u re very wrong to have beat her up
Remember the topic is about Beating up WOMEN nt disciplining adolescent girls.. N I still stand dt anyman who beats up a woman is a weak man. It is not women's blackmail, it is simply a societal code borne out of d contrast in the physical strenght of men n women... Besyds after beating up a woman wat do u feel like a stong powermike?

Snakes on a plane, this time a reality TV show...

slimmy05: But you'll get used a hyphenated name, you're just a drunk low self esteem silly rat. You'll age in your fathers house and you'll be thrown out to a 60 year old man.

Nxt time stick to d Topic n do not quote me again until u are mature enuf to do that

Lyk someone rightly said. U lack a sense of humour, stop taking yourself so seriously, u re not d queen

On a practical note, u didn't toughen up wen u were growing so in order to harden up, strt by feeding him with his own spoon.. If he calls U an idiat, call him Ewu Gambia, if he forgets to Call u, pretend u didn't notice n don't. Call him n begin asking wats wrong? While doing this try not to think of watever he must have done to u(Yes u can control wat u think of) use all d will power u possess to not think of watever thing u think he has done to you. Do this for 3 months u'll b surprised at d kind of thick skin u've grown For BS... Cos if u carry dis ur kain heart enter marrg, babe na die b dat oo

slimmy05: ^^^^ God bless you @bknight. You just spoke my mind exactly. You can't eat your cake and still have it.

Some people and their silly Analogy, how does joining ur father n husband's surname amount to eating ur cake n having it? Is it d change of name that is important to U Or the woman u re marrying? I can't imagine beginning to use a totally new surname, its simply easier to add a hyphen.

Dis issue is overflogged.. There are tens of threads on it... N of course it can't, if u can't survive without money as a person y should a relationship survive without it?

PAy Her Anything he likes?... Clear signal she is after something else wch she wld get wit a few drops of otumokpo in dt porridge Yam... If I were ur friend I'd run as fast as my legs can carry me

^^^The truth is they are both dating Nw, dts d only xplanation... We girls don't learn to kip to boundaries, We go after married guys, Engaged guys n guys who already hv GF's, that's wat d girl did, it doesn't. Matter that she knows u guys were going out, she wanted him n I fink she is d reason he wanted d 'space'... Most chicks don't kia, but I want to tell u that u shldnt blame her, d guy doesn't really luv u if he does, he Might hit d gal buh he won't leave u for her... Move on with ya lyf a better guy will come along n as for d Chick pay her no attention cos wat goes arnd comes arnd

bimbos3xy: what a silly statement, abi you want somebody who will beat you sha.

Hmmm, so u don't belive A babe can beat up a guy... Ur experiences are ltd shaa. It has been happening n will continue to happen

As for all those weak men who dey get power wen they see a Woman... U neva Jam Woman wey go beat u blue black, No go disgrace urself oo..cos na laff pple go use kill u
Anyman wey try that nonsense Reach my side..I go show. U say na for Barracks my papa train me... N yes I have d right to beat u wen we quarell u only have d option. Of turning ur back n walking away..Deal with it, its called GENDER EQUALITY

Hamazz1: just hear your self its not bad to stay in a 10$ hotel per night.it is people like u that r encouraging loot in this country if you r talking abt him what of his entourage do u know how. Much they would have spent after 3days.

no sir u hear urself, so d president shld stay in abt a $3-5,000 Hotel room because he wants to save money for Nigerians...Nooo, he shld nt stay in d kind of Hotels d president of other countries are staying in(even poorer) Countries, he shld go n pay 4 a lowly hotel Room. So u hypocrites won't think he is overspending...D president of A Rich Country like Nigeria, D giant of Africa in a cheap hotel Room? Walahi u haters of GEJ hv truly outdone urselfs... All in d Bid to castigate his everymove u End up sounding Ridiculous

[quote author=God's Favourite].I luv ur advice bt wat if in a situation d guy claims he's datin anoda gal bt kips sayin he's stil interested in d relationship nd stil tells everybody dat he stil luvs u,wat do u suggest?as in d space,lyk hw many mnths sud it b?cos I knw space sumtyms break or make up a relationship[/quote]I guess dis is Late nw buh his actions shld determine d End of d space-Giving; If he is Bordered abt it he'll respond wit concern,if he ignores u too, then he is not rilly interested anymore... Then u jump ship, no need trying to save a relationship he doesn't want saved.

ininiana: To all those asking if he is is ugly. He is not but I would like it if he is taller and looses the tummy.
But a human being is more than his or her physical appearance.
We are spirits and souls but i find it hard to close my eyes and marry him.

Yea Babe ur gut is tellin u not to U don't know d reason now but if U do Go ahead after d warnings of 'this thing' that is holding u back, u'll find out D reasons and it Won't be PRetty.

If u honestly didn't JUmp n say Yes, to d proposal of someone u've dated for a While nw, Then u re nt Ready for Either marrg or marrg with him, U might truly luv him as a friend n all buh ur spirit does nt just accept him as a life partner... Its Never wise to ignore d nagging doubts

@Op wat do u want to hear? If u were living with ur parents would u still not Do the house Chores, u came to ur Brothers house n u want to pack.. So u Expect the Woman to fetch water herself? She expects u to clean d house on weekend, Why not? Don't u clean ur parents house on weekends in ur house, Abi u no dey wash ur popsy clothes?I only fault her in d cooking aspects, if its for other things u do these things wen u were living alone with ur brother/parents ; Abeg stop Trying to make the woman look Bad jare... House chores are too Big for any one person to do them all n not be killed with stress, hence d reason Women hv House maids till their children are old Enough to help out, As she no get maid Help out or kukuma go back to ur papa house(I'm sure d chores there is even bigger than d one here)...if she ws ur sister I'm sure u wldnt see it as her trying to pick altercation wit u

ocephraim: Bia!!! Babe free me o... No gree make ah use ur name do nyt kabashing..

Eeehm I know hw u feel, kpele oo,take a glass of chilled water n play it off with vid game or sleep

Abeg no use my name Kabash 4 night ooh, use Moyes Kabash

ocephraim: UP MAN UTD JAWE... Haters enjy while t lasts!!

U still get mouth dey talk dt kain thing*** Abeg cover ur face in shame** see as E be lyk city use una do training... Chai!!!

#UPGUNNERZ

emmaxin: I laughed hard while reading this thread, because the writer didn't interprete or should i say, have a little understanding about what the passages he qouted really meant.
He said, 'you gain eternal life by mere confessing and believing in Christ'. That our good works doesn't earn us a right to heaven. Please fellow Nairalanders, this preaching is totally wrong.
In Matt 7:21-23, it says "not everyone who calls me Lord! Lord!! Will enter the kingdom of heaven but only those who do what my Father in Heaven wants them to do". And whats that?
In Matt19:16-19, a man came to Jesus to inquire what he needs to do to gain eternal life. Jesus simply told him, "keep the commandments", that is, (Matt 22:37-39); love of God and love of neighbour.
In Luke 13:24, it says "do your best to go in through the narrow door, because many people will surely try to go in but will not be able". So @Op, stop propagating errors about the kingdom of Heaven being a piece of cake. You have to struggle by living good. And if you sin, be like that Tax collector who stood a distance from the temple with humility and prayed for forgiveness,God's grace and mercy is always available for you to tap. Thanks

Thank U Jare... 1000likes Lemme add some more verse. Rev 20: 12 n 13, And I saw d dead gr8 n small alike, standing b4 d throne, books were opened, the book of the living, the DEAD WERE JUDGED ACCORDING TO WAT THEY HAVE DONE (nt according to their beliefs), V13, THen d sea gave up its dead, Death n d world of the dead also gave up d dead they held, AND ALL WERE JUDGED ACCORDING TO WAT THEY HAD DONE

And jesus said to them When I was hungry u gave me to eat, thirsty to drink, Homeless u shelterd me, n they said to him Lord when did we see u hungry and gave u to eat n he said to them, As long as u DID(what they DID, Actions were wat counted) this to d least of my brothers that u did unto me... N to d other group he told as long as u DID NOT DO this to d least of my brothers, Get away from me to the hell thaat ws prepard 4 U.

God has not Changed N He cannot change, Whoever told u that d Soul that Sinneth will not die as in d old has deceivd U, God no longer strikes pple dead nw because He sacrificed his only Son on d cross 4 our sins n thru him(Jesus Christ) Grace abounded in d world, n dis grace is wat God gives us while we re Alive - To Repent , dis grace to DO GOOD n follow d way of christ is sufficient for us to turn away from our Evil deeds, But if we choose not to Use d grace he has given us to Overcome sin n fight temptation while we re Alive... Then that is D End of d Grace, there is no grace 4 d dead... Wen U die u'll b judged acc. To wat u hv DONE, with this grace dt ws given to U, if u did not Utilise dis Grace wch is sufficient for Everybody to DO GOOD, n Overcome SIN. Then woe betide U, He cannot save u Again, he gave u a chance to save urself while Living.

krafty iyk: honeypie, a guy cant just be a sincere best friend with a lady without either of the 2 nursing... secret wishes, unless d lady looks like a masquerade. men and women has got natin in c,mon....apart from, u knw, d real GANGAN...yes...if ur best friend is,not making any GANGAN passes or advances at u, den he isn,t just man enough..u cant argue an issue like a man wen u r a woman, u dont certainly know hw men reason...pls do accept this point of view,shikina. every right thinkn man knows what am saying,

OH Yes n he has been nursing dis secret feelings as u Call it for 12yrs n I have no idea, Unlike U Men, Women know Wen a Man is attracted to them. So like I hv told the others that sth is outside Ur league of Xperience n Dt of D majority of u lots does nt Make it False... I suppose u don't have any female friends at all, U must b harbouring some secret sexusl feeling For all d babes u Know... N No Mr. I won't accept ur view cos ur Point of View as u rightly called it, is urs ltd by ur experience n d experience of others u hv seen or hrd abt nt a general statement of fact... Pls do understand that