₦airaland Forum

chris51:
The family get as e be.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
Hi peeps,

I'm dating this babe I find appealing and I want to get serious with but I have a few concerns:

1. Her mum was married multiple times, had 6 kids for 5 men and ended single.

2. She lost 2 of her brothers.

3. One of her sisters is missing.

4. Her sister's husband slept with her in the past, though her sister never knew.

5. Her siblings and their spouses don't talk to her mom, she's the only one showing her love.

6. Her younger sister was married 10 years ago...

What do you feel guys?

seunmsg:
Very commendable. This is the end of ASUU’s tyranny over university education in Nigeria.

chris51:
Government should stop funding Universities. They should be self funding. This is when strikes will end. Government does not fund Universities in the UK and US. In fact Obama paid off his students loan a few years ago. That's how it's done here.

adeola1097:
It’s going to take a long while before ASUU becomes a thing of the past.
Until a serious government comes in and prioritizes education and also increase funding, the yearly tradition of ASUU strike will never cease.
That’s why we need a leader that has verifiable evidence of both secondary and tertiary degrees not one that has shroud of secrecy all around him.

IyaTola:
I cannot take up that job, N150,000 monthly salary is too small!

Last year, a fresh graduate rejected the job I got him

I asked him to take the job for 6 months so that he can gather experience for his next job, but he didn't listen

He is still at home trusting God

I have had to advise a lot of graduates and professionals regarding whether to take up a role where the salary is small.

Some think the salary is belittling and not up to their worth.

I have also seen a lot of people on social media advising graduates not to settle for less which I disagree.

Your decision depends on whether you have a job at hand or not.

I believe it's better to accept a job with low salary than sitting at home to do nothing.

Once the salary can cater for your feeding and transport, you are fine.

No experience is a waste and no matter how bad a job is, you will learn something even if it is tolerance and perseverance.

You have an experience to point to.

You can't ask for a lion share (Salary) with a fish brain (no experience)

At the earliest days of my career,

I was living in Mowe -Ibafo axis, Arepo to be precise, working at Yaba and the salary was small,

I do wake up as early as 4:30am to enjoy cheap transport to Ojota

And BRT to Yaba were cheaper compared to 14 seater Bus.

Then, I do take standing in the BRT bus because it is cheaper than taking a seat

Infact standing was my hobby ��

I will get to the office 6am and wait till 8am when other staff will resume.

The pay was small, I worked as late as 8pm but the experience was BIG and worth it.

Later, I joined another company with double salary.

The rest is history today,

If you are in doubt of taking a job because of the pay, accept the offer,

Give your best, learn as much as you can, don't get carried away and keep your eye on your goal.

Remember, if you are too big to do small things, you will be too small to do big things

Do you agree?

Foodqueen:
Thought she has a grown up daughter.

Dididrumz:
You guys rush to give stupid advice here too much.
Why are You concluding that she has found someone else. Did You not read every thing the OP said He did? Or did You not reach the chats? Is that not enough to push or woman (or any other person) to the wall?

chris51:
My dear young man you have problems : anger and insecurity. You were treating your wife with disrespect because she was depending on you financially. If you lose your wife because of your stupidity and ego, you will forever regret it.

There are many women outside there but how many have marriage qualities? Please swallow your pride, respect your in-laws and go for your wife and son. Your telling your wife that you don't want her back because she overstayed in her father's house is a disrespect to her father.

You are definitely not a good son in-law. Please learn manners and change your attitude.

Don't forget, your son's future is also at stake. Do you want him to be raised by a step father in future? I hope not.
It's not easy to build a family, "PLEASE DO NOT"
lose yours for a flimsy excuse. I'm praying for you.

Good luck.

chris51:
God bless you for your mature advice. You are very honest, it's now left for the angry man to accept your advice

TheGoodAmerican:
You told her you don't want to see her anymore simply because she couldn't pick up the phone the first few times you called her. This is a woman you're married to and the mother of your child, and you're talking to her anyhow. From your post, this was probably not the first time you're telling her such words. You also mention nagging. You cannot be verbally abusive towards your wife repeatedly and be difficult to live with and expect her to not get fed up one day.

Banilla:
Hm. So I'm wrong? Should I apologize to him? I just want to be certain he's serious. I guess I can't pressure him, right?

What's your advice?

chris51:
Why can't the man save or hold the money he works for?
You are not yet married and you want to control his life. If you are not careful, he will dump you

Banilla:
I'm not spending his money! Read the post. One of us has to hold it. We can't open a joint account, too far away to do so.

So what matters is who. And I'm better suited

Racoon:
No sane Igbo man will fall for such a senseless speech from a heroine-drug addict

chris51:
True talk. Do not put all your eggs in one basket.

alanto:
You Southeasterners are not smart... All efforts for Buhari to win y'all over during his campaign were all twisted and misconstrued, talked down and made jokes by you guys, another candidate is preaching to you about eating from the center but you guys are purposefully misconstruing him, you did everything to get Buhari mad while he was campaigning to be president and still frustrating him now that he's done, I will never understand you people.... Stop putting all your eggs in one basket.. even Al Mustapha will get votes in the SW but mob mentality will not make SE do the right thing.

chris51:
The most important thing is VISA, then other things will follow.
Good luck

ersonleads:
she's not that type bro. Shes actually looking for job at the moment. The thing is there's power an energy to achieve a lot of things in two people. This is a babe I seriously wanna get married to. Na she dey urge me to come over sef. I'm asking this question, so I can know where to start from.

Tallesty1:
If he is your brother, you support his hustle with the right machine not safety advice. He is not doing it this way because he likes it, nobody likes to suffer.

dazzlingd:
You are asking me what other method?
I wonder the kind of moronns that keep coming to this nairaland . Too many dumb unexposed illiterates here and they talk with so much confidence.
Imagine this one even typing in bold like she has senses

BigBashiru:
You are a very rational man and I quite like your rational thoughts that does not conform.

You are right in that court marriage increases the thoughts of divorce in a woman's mind.

Don't do court wedding. Explain to her real love doesn't need to be legally proven and that it's a large administrative overhead

chris51:
Exactly.. I'm sure he has ulterior motives, hence he is scared of Court marriage

Romanoff:
Whether you marry her in church or court, the same rules apply in case of a divorce.

So your fear us unfounded and it gives you off as a dishonest person.

If you love someone, you'll treat them right. Na if you dey plan to do bad to your wife you go dey consider all these things.

chris51:
Diana could have been beheaded in the olden days. Do you know how many wives king Henry VIII beheaded?
He caused the separation of England from Roman Catholic so that he could divorce and remarry.

Dimples2022:
His Father was having an affair too so why are you obsessed with Diana’s affairs?

Harry looks like his mum’s side of the family and the rumours are just that! Rumours but you’re peddling nonsense like you were part of their family!

chris51:
She is Jezebel. Has no relationship with her own family too

Pauldollars:
Meghan Markle hypnotized a British Prince.

If Harry had married a British Virgin girl, he would not be saying all these rubbish to the media.
Imagine a second born (same Father & Mother) saying he was born to serve as spare to his elder brother.

chris51:
It's not hate. It's Harry's attitude. The 1st son is the heir. He is 2nd. Does he wish his brother dead?

Obrigardo:
What did Harry do to you? Did he take your livelihood or made your family wretched? I don't understand this hate.

chris51:
I agree with you. Safety should not be taken for granted