Born2winnx:
Hello all
My girlfriend wants me to wear same native attire to her niece wedding on Friday. I thought she was joking when she suggested it last week, because I don't even plan on going due to my busy schedule. But to my surprise she's just came to my house with some yards of the material she bought with her money.

Though I appreciate her good gestures, but I don't think it's right.. We are not married. What will her people say when dey see me with her like that because her father, mother, brothers and sisters will be there, not talking about her extended families.

I had to confide with a friend and he told me blantly that it is a set up, I should abort. That he had witness a similar case in a party when a guy was behaving as if he had paid his girlfriend bride price...what happened was the guy didn't leave the way he came. I won't want that to happen to me but before I decide I like to hear from you all.

relationship is 3months
I don't know her family house, talkless to know who born her.. not yet ready to.

Traditional wedding of her NIECE? �� DON'T GO.


It screams desperation. Traditional wedding is supposed to be mainly between the 2 families, nothing really concerns you. Don't go.

Do you tell the new girlfriends the reasons for the break up?

If yes, then they maybe using the same "lie" to break up with you too.

Be a better person all round, get closer to God and your wife will locate you.

Kingsley123456:
I met my first love when I was driving from ikole Ekiti to Osogbo osun State in early 2012, we started dating and we loved each other, she always sing it to my hear that she was lucky to have me, but after about 3years in the relationship which I had relaxed and believed that I have found the mother of my children, she came up with a story that, her pastor said we are not compatible and that we will regret if we dare marry each other, I didn't force or persuade her, she left in 2015.

I got into another relationship in 2016 March, this one was really ready to marry cuz she advised me to rent a 2bedroom apartment she even gave me money to get a set of chair and put in the living room for us to start living together... She came back home with the same story in 2017 Feb on her birthday that her pastor said, I'm not the man for her, she left without looking back.

To cut the story short, I did an admission for a girl in 2018, and we ended up dating, I gave her close marking until she had to travel back home cuz of the Corona outbreak, she called me from home and told me that her pastor said, she should not marry me cuz it may not augur well, I begged and persuaded for about one month but she insisted...

I still didn't see it as anything untill last night when the girl I've been dating after Corona break, we met at the teaching practice, we spend most of our time together she literally lived with me ...but she went to Abuja, her parents place last week Saturday, she's been giving me attitudes until last night when she came out bluntly with same story, that her Mom saw it in the dream that her current boyfriend is not the person she should marry, that cries await her if she dares to..

What is going on with me... I'm confused, this one is affecting me.

Please do not stop this fight, No matter how long it takes.
If possible every month or year on facebook or twitter inform the public about it.
(Eg we celebrate our One year Anniversary of FBN not paying us)
Don't listen to people telling you how your emotions ruined this, or how bad you have reacted.
There is a contract, your intellectual knowledge was used without a dime.
Please keep this fight forever until you're paid.

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Selah.

chubbyG:
Growing up I thought Rastafarian was just another slang in place of guy. Out of curiosity I did a little digging up and here is what I found out.
Many Rastas as they call themselves believe that the Ethiopian emperor, His Imperial Majesty Haile Selassie I, crowned in 1930, is the Second Coming of Christ who returned to redeem all black people. The movement takes its name from the emperor’s birth name, Ras Tafari.

Today, Ethiopia is the home of Rastafarians.

Jamaican Rastas are descendants of African slaves who were converted to Christianity in Jamaica by missionaries using the text of the King James Version of the Bible. Rastas maintain that the King James Version is a corrupted account of the true word of God, since English slave owners promoted incorrect readings of the Bible in order to better control slaves. Rastas believe that they can come to know the true meanings of biblical scriptures by cultivating a mystical consciousness of oneself with Jah, called “I-and-I.” Rastas read the Bible selectively, however, emphasizing passages from Leviticus that admonishes the cutting of hair and beard and the eating of certain foods and that prescribe rituals of prayer and meditation. Some argue that you do not have to be dread to be a Rasta, it is a thing of the heart.

Reggae is Rastafarian biggest exports. Peace, Racism and love are some of the things reggae music share to world.

Reggae and Rasta is one part.

Some popular Rastas may include:
Bob Marley
Peter Tosh
Lucky Dube
Snoop Dogg

Growing up I thought Rastafarian was just another slang in place of guy. Out of curiosity I did a little digging up and here is what I found out.
Many Rastas as they call themselves believe that the Ethiopian emperor, His Imperial Majesty Haile Selassie I, crowned in 1930, is the Second Coming of Christ who returned to redeem all black people. The movement takes its name from the emperor’s birth name, Ras Tafari.

Today, Ethiopia is the home of Rastafarians.

Jamaican Rastas are descendants of African slaves who were converted to Christianity in Jamaica by missionaries using the text of the King James Version of the Bible. Rastas maintain that the King James Version is a corrupted account of the true word of God, since English slave owners promoted incorrect readings of the Bible in order to better control slaves. Rastas believe that they can come to know the true meanings of biblical scriptures by cultivating a mystical consciousness of oneself with Jah, called “I-and-I.” Rastas read the Bible selectively, however, emphasizing passages from Leviticus that admonishes the cutting of hair and beard and the eating of certain foods and that prescribe rituals of prayer and meditation. Some argue that you do not have to be dread to be a Rasta, it is a thing of the heart.

Reggae is Rastafarian biggest exports. Peace, Racism and love are some of the things reggae music share to world.

Reggae and Rasta is one part.

Callmegerald2:
I have N1.8 million i would want to invest. Our business gurus in the house, how can i wisely invest this money in a safe and secure way?

I would have said you should invest in the money markets or fixed deposit, but the rates are very low right now..
Around 8% per annum.

It's the safest you can do now..
If you're interested inbox me.

Have you guys heard about Anchoria Asset Management.
They're very reliable and safe.
Mutual funds rate is between 10-12% per annum
If you're interested send me a dm.

Breather77:
Hey everyone,
My international passport expired in 2018 and I haven't renewed it yet.
Will the bank accept it if I choose it and open a bank account?.
Thanks.

You can open a bank account without any documents with just an existing account number or bvn.
Haven't you heard about digital banking?

Send me a dm I will tell you about a bank.

Jokerman:


Nope... I don't, Buh I apply much strictness, and I carry everyone along

The main problem was the fees I stopped staff from collecting on behalf of the school

Salaries aren't owed
We pay on the 25th and 26th
Teachers are allowed to do private lesson without the school collecting any percentage or any fee from them
They are paid lesson money after 3 months( summation)

Things I stopped that made it feel was strict

1. Collection of school fees
2. Free movement to and from the school by introducing movement book and staff signing in book
3. Too much communication between staff and parents
4. Removal of staff from staying at the gate during assembly, I instructed prefects to do that I.e assist the security in transfer and conveyance of loads etc
5. Reduced the use of staff in doing things that the normal headmistress should do

Staff pupils pay half of the school fees pee term

Also for sustainability, let your nephew/niece or children start getting involved with the school.

Crystalclara:
Omoh sack them all and do a fresh recruitment. The bad eggs are much, before they ruin your effort.

Don't sack them
One of the teachers is even related to you..

If you sack the pupils will reduce buy atleast 25% in 1 year.

Jokerman:
Hello. I need advice on this topic

About a year ago, my Dad died, being an owner of a primary school with my mom, thereafter o assumed head of the school, although I run my own freelance engineering installation and maintenance service on HVACs and Diesel engines.

In course of this education line, I'm obtaining my certificate in PGDE( in view).

Now this is the case...

There are some old staff in the school then whom use to collect school fees on behalf of the school and you know Nigerians, instead of remitting the fees to the school, they divert and scam and even go as far as lending money to different people in the vicinity.

However since I took over, I forcefully stopped the collection, and redirected all fees to be paid at the bank. Mhen, it was not small trouble, fight, gossiping, spoiling me at the back etc, but I never listened to such, and right now no one collects these fees again... Everything goes through me coz I'm trying to sanitize it. I also required the services of a registered security company operator (sheriff deputies) for the school

Problems I needed advice

1. Sometimes these rebellion. They gossip and talk evil to people that I'm very harsh etc

2. I have changed 2 security operators because of compromises with these staff. I will give instruction, Buh those they'd do otherwise and bend to what other older staff tell them. Recently, the present security did something contrary and I scolded him toughly. Recently, he had an alteration with a parent and I asked him to just plead with her. He refused blatantly. I was surprised and even my mom too. He said he doesn't like the way I scold him and that's why bla bla bla, infront of all other staff. My mom asked me not to change him Buh I'm skeptical

I already feel like changing him with his company supervisor coz he lives around the vicinity and he now gossips with those old staff who might be telling him I'm too young to order him to do things

4. These old staffs are like friends to my mom and they already carry a lot of influence with most of the parents (which I also cut off too). One of them is wife to my mom's brother

5. My mother has been telling me to be patient even my wife. I do not want to employ an headteacher until I change a lot of things

The school has about 300-350 pupils, and employs 18 staff

Advice needed

You can call for a staff meeting
And pour your heart gently..
Give them the reasons for all your behaviours and actions and tell them how you'll expect them to behave.
Tell them you hear all their gossip and all..
Going forward... Tell them how you expect them to behave. Let them see the school as one big family..
18 people shouldn't be too much for you to manage..



Lastly, read on emotional intelligence, people management and communication skills.

frndfghtr:
I reicieve a call this evening that she will undergo brain and eye sugery, pls nairalander, if she needs our help, I will let us know, may b I will ask her, her direct means of getting money, if is her acc number, I will forward it, if d case arise pls, and I need ur prayers, cos people said if anything happen to the woman, am in danger, thanks

please share this on facebook and twitter.. you'll get good reception.

purples25:
Fast forward till today, i was given another deal on Monday, i was told to come on Wednesday to do the job.That same Monday, i was told by some teachers there that there wasn't supposed to be any negotiation that i should be doing those things for free,that we are family,im not a real artist. Still, i was expected to come today and do the art stuff.I still came since the deal was still on and the boss hadn't actually said i wasn't recieving payment today.

I went there and guess what, the proprietress was with those two teachers that said those things to me on monday. She asked me why i came to visit, as if there was no deal today. They all just kept quiet and ignored me. I gathered courage and asked " how about the art job and the deal i was supposed to be paid for? " The proprietress just said there was nothing. They could have called me to tell me but no, it was sweeter to have me arrive, look like a beggar, ignore me and then tell me bye in high snobbish voices as i was leaving. Why did they humiliate me?

Perhaps to sharpen their ego,
You were nice, they knew your flaws and still used it against you.
It's their loss and I know you'll turn out to be a great persok
Don't let your head down.
Stand up, learn your lessons and move on.
If you need a hug or a friend, I'm here.. You've been through quite a lot.

I hope you're considering ART as the course you should study
You're good in writing and drawing.. You could be better if you choose this path.

You're really good.
I wish you all the best.

Airforce01:
Ndigbo are good people

Onazi is Idoma.
Please stop tribalism.

invigilator:
Sincerely Make your savings get to 1 million naira then you can think of something more better.. You can still go ahead with the bet9ja shop roughly that will cost you like 250-300k rent of shop inclusive. Find a young person that's trustworthy and be paying him 10k from your 50k salary...i.e The earning from the shop goes directly to you and it boost your savings.

Does it sound fair to you when you said he should be paying someone 10k?

arinpe16:
Good evening everyone. Please I need your advice.

My husband has been keeping malice with me because I don't pray regularly again (we're Muslims) and he's threatening to divorce me (we only did court wedding and yet to do Nikkah).

He's eats my food but doesn't talk to me. This has been going on for over a year now and it's getting worse. Can I tell his parents? They are strong Muslims and I'm afraid they may blame me more. He also doesn't give me money anymore. I'm tired of his stinginess and he's very insensitive. He believes I'm a devil since I don't pray even though things have changed for the better for him since we met.

He also doesn't believe I can get a husband since I'm close to 35. Please, I'm confused. I don't know what to do.

I really don't get.
This is an avoidable problem..
Start praying too
There's no way you both are together for 24 hours..
You can choose to pray with him anytime he's praying, Abi Wetin hard for there.
Plus you are aware he can marry up to 4 wives, don't be carried away and think you can win him over.

pappy2000:
I really dont want to brak her sister heart because she has spent her money n energy to make this realtionship work but now my wife is just irrational. I told her its a step at a time but she insisit i should do all, she is asking for phone i must her a new set of chair and do proper wedding all at once, she even suggested i should sell my car n buy okada

Is thus behavior new?
Or she has been demanding ever since?
Stop this attitude before it escalates, have a discussion with her, pour your hearts if she doesn't agree with you, pause the wedding.
What will happen will happen.
No-one deserves to marry Sad.



Show her this thread.

Kastrom:
Good evening ladies and gentlemen, I just finished serving last month and I got a job offer of 40k. I am a B.Sc holder, graduated with second class upper. I need your candid advice whether I should accept or decline the job offer.

Consider the following
If it's in line with your course of study
If it's close to your house
If you'll learn From the job.

The truth is recruitment for most firms have ended For the year, why not take this one pending when you get a better paying job next year.

may320:

My dear, it doesn't always follow like that o. Some people's probation can be up to a year too, you'll be observed for the first 6mths, if your work is satisfactory, they'll permanent it or extend the probation for a year if unsatisfactory.
The best bet is to put in your best and show commitment and passion for your job.
@Op messed up by not convincing the employer on why her salary should be raised through her diligence. She passed on a very wrong signal already, that she's not passionate about her job but after reward, it means she may lose that job anytime from now cos it's Blvd she can defraud steal or break her oath of confidentiality if at all she find an accomplice or partner in crime.
No employer will retain such fellow.

6 months probation is slavery...

Op shouldn't have been in a hurry to make demands. Fine she made the mistake..
But her employer too is a SCAM.

Sabaugo:
Am Dying In Silent! What Do I Do?

I got a work in missionary school. The Reverend sister in charge said I will be on probation for 12 months with #45k take home monthly.

As someone who has been at home for months I just accepted the job. After one week in the office, I found out that the work was heavy on me to the extent that I will go home with lots of them to do at home. I went back to her and pleaded if she can add small money to my salary, so she got angry and told me that they will pay me for the one week I worked for, that they don't need my type of person to work with them, that It seems that I like money too much. I cried that day to the extent that I can't open my eyes very well. She later said that she will give me second chance but she will reduce my salary to 42k.

I wrote an apology letter to her and I specifically told her to forgive for the sake of my mother and my son because am a single mother and am the one taking care of them. When I received the alert, I saw truly that she removed the money.

She doesn't respond to my greetings, other privileges she gave to workers," I no dey smell am",she acknowledged other new workers, she did not call my name.. Please I need advice because am just there because I don't have option. Am dying in silence!

Thanks in anticipation

Nobody is talking about one year probation.
Your employer is slaving you.
How are we not sure before one year elapse you'll be sacked.
Sis start looking for another job.

SonOfUbunja:

Thank you for responding. Please do you have any recommended material that I can use?

No, I only read GMAT and SHL
Plus just practise Graduate teat questions..
Wish you the best.

SonOfUbunja:
Please what's the test format for alldayhr? Is it based on gnat?

GMAT + SHL
The verbal reasoning and abstract aren't difficult.
The maths is more like SHL