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You first made the mistake of marrying out of sympathy. Yes you got her pregnant but that wasn't a death sentence. You could have followed your heart instead of listening to people.

You guys are decieving yourselves pretending you are married. You just have to liberate yourself and set her free too. I can't understand how both of you have been sleeping in different rooms for the past 6 months after marriage and that you have not made love to her since. Both of you are not compatible and are just waiting for the bubble to burst.

My advice: The earlier, the better. talk with her and you leave. She will definitely find happiness with someone else and you too will find your love

Okwui's options were clear. He knew the implications and consequences of his trade. It is no wonder to him what he is going through. Ngozi should take heart. My boyfriend dey abroad but no one knows wetin im dey do. I feel for Ngozi though

Things will get complicated if you all go ahead. Since old has lived his life and is in the twilight, he should chill out from marrrying the woman. I am the one that goes ahead and marry my chic.

If old boy no gree chill nko? Nollywood scrpit!

But make you and your papa no marry mama and daughter!

Nice one poster.

9ija men rocks.

Could it be reason why e be say oyibo women taste dem dey no wan leave dem again? For Germo sef na if one 9ija leave dem oyibo after e don collect wetin im want, dey go go find another 9ija man.

@ Nezed

I think we should give both of them time now to discover themselves as you suggested. At this juncture, it might be good to give them some privacy and when they feel later, they can report progress to us. Should this work out, count me in on that day with my presence anywhere it will be held Nigeria/outside and with the brand new deep freezer I promised.

As both of them are beautifully progressing positively Nezed, isn't it time you begin to arrange other roasting NL guys in diaspora whom time flies past, with other cool chics?

It's been both enlightening and entertaining.

@ all Pps whoever knows why this marriage should not go on should come out and say so or forever keep silent.

@ Theolar & Realtruth

All the best. Keep it real. Let the hand of God be upon you two

God bless us all

benedictac:
If we all understood the biblical meaning of marriage, there wouldnt be any reason for argument.

As for me, my husband is the owner of my head so everything of mine belongs to him. I by the grace of God operate a Christian marriage where my marriage is built on the solid rock.

As soon as i collect my salary or any other money i bring everything home. we both plane with the money and if no immediate expenses the money is put in the family account.

You are very correct Madam. You really a role model in contemporary Nigeria. And I assure you, you will always have a blissful, blessed and happy home. Children reared in homes like this are always different from children reared in homes where there are arguments.

Keep it up

theolar:
Yes i know dat i am not under any obligatn 2 report and i am sure R.T. knows dat as well . It is all in d spirit of havin fun and sharin wit pple who are good sport.

PET NAME NOTICED!

REAL TRUTH:
Theo[/[/i]b] common talk with me now,where are you pls?

PET NAME NOTICED

REAL TRUTH:
[b][i]Theo common talk with me now,where are you pls?[/[/i]b]

ANXIETY?

REAL TRUTH:
[b][i]Please talk to me now,,I have some friends coming to pick me for a game of bowling.Please reply me,,probably you re busy.However,I can see you online here on NL

@ Theolar,

We hope u are not slowing my guy down. Please dont disappoint us all.

BTW where is NEZED
BUSYBODY
GENIUS2GENIUS
CHINESEDOLL

Please PPS we cant bring them forward and abandon them.

All the best Theolar and Realtruth. Keep us posted abeg

michelin89:
Where does the money end? In a joint account or in his personl account which she has no access to?

I wish you have been following the thread from begining. Money is an issue that if it is not handled properly, can bring problems at home. I am of the opinion that both couple should have seperate accounts and one joint account. Expenses should be discussed mutual consent obtained before major withdrawals.

I dont think any man will want to leave his wife's account in the red

Tweek:
Chykeo, Italy. You dey craze! A woman I know practiced that stupidity and she bore the brunt of it. Hubby chased girls, squandered on himself and family and forgot about her he even began to talk about quitting his job, that was when her eyes popped open. A woman earning higher than a man affects a man psychologically. My opinion is that they should discuss the expenses in the house, let the woman bring out the money for it. The man should spend his earnings on himself and parents. The woman has parents too. Do you expect that she consults the man everytime she has to take her mom to the hospital? These are expenses a husband would remain grateful his wife handles herself from her pay. What I think is that men shouldn't go for women who earn higher than them because though they say they can handle it only a handful really can. A man is suppose to be a provider that is why women need men in the first place otherwise I really don't know what men are needed for. They are the source of almost all mishaps in the society--marriage included. I am sure Chykeo is urhobo cos that is Urhobo mentality speaking. Jeez!!!

@Tweek,

I never wanted to reply you honestly; Proverbs said if one answers a foolish question, he becomes as foolish as the person who asked it but I just wanted you to see your crass ignorance. I SAID IN MY POST THAT THE OPINION WAS MINE AND I DIDNT CALL FOR INSULTS. I POINTED OUT STILL IN THAT POST THAT INSULTS ARE A REFLECTION OF THE CHARACTER OF THE PERSON WHO INSULTS.

Incase you did not understand my post very well my dear, I quoted 1 Timothy 5:8 that it is the duty of a man to take care of his house hold and that the bible said if any man fails in that, that he is worse than an infidel The point here is that a man should be making the money for the family's needs and not be looking up to the woman for money

But the post here asked WHAT SHOULD A GOOD WOMAN DO WITH HER EARNINGS. Go through the thread well and you will observe that I am not the only person of the opinion that the wife should hand over her money to husband.

So Tweek, I no dey craze

And I am not urhobo. I thought you should have been intelligent enough to deduce my origin from my name here

Interesting indeed!

I am joining here! Congratulaions to our new Mr & Mrs Real Truth! I pray that everything works well.

@ Nezed

Dont worry about the deep freezer. I am going to buy that one on behalf of all Nairalanders. You can make me the chief guest of honour at the wedding.

And just as you did it for Real truth and Theolar, a lot of other guys are waiting. Make u still arrange for men like that. many men never get thier own

@ genius2genius

those lines were real good poetic. If the copyright is urs, then u r a genius

@ Theolar and Real Truth.

Please dont disappoint us all. keep it going and keep us posted on all the moves.

@poster

Nice one. You just chronicled the whole things that needs to be really done on this rebranding thing. But wait a minute: Has Nigeria been branded before that it thus needs rebranding?

We are yet to wake up from the October 1960 slumber or from the concotion that Lord Lugard made us to be. I pray dora Akunyili will read your blog.

I no blame una! As Ogaga Ifowodo will say GOD PUNISH LORD LUGARD

George_D:
there are more suffering single ladies than you think. that is why they're all
rushing to get a slice of the action by dating married men who try their best
to comfort them.

I think there is a shortage of men. Married women should please pity the unmarried ones and let them have a share of what they are enjoying. Married women should not be selfish. Isiah 4:1

Fhemmmy:
But i think most companies pays into the bank account, so i think will be better if the money is paid into an account and then, move it into whoever is more prudent, however, spending has to be mutual, cos money could cause wahala too oh, a prudent person cld become something else, when the star of money shines.
But you right sha, and i feel you.

Good. The joint account thing can be problematic atimes. I think the good thing should if there is an effective communication between both parties. They know who is spendthrift. In that case the other one holds much of the income. If they have salary accounts, they should also have a joint account and the one who manages money the money better will now keep the savings account for the family in case of an eventuality or for any project the family may have. But no woman should give out the impressions she runs the family. It begins the break up of the home.

Everything sells. Depending on where are you travelling to Nigeria from. What is it that you think is cheaper to buy from there and which will be of good quality. Check to see what your host country has comparative advantage of price over other countries.

If u can, come to Italy and buy ladies shoes and handbags or men's clothes.

Nigeria has market for everything. Everything sells. The only thing that doesn't sell is NOTHING

Can one really make money from fashion designing?

Well    Valentino
          Dolce and Gabbana
          Giorgio Armani
          Yves St Laurent
          Gucci
          Rocco Barrocco
          Fendi
          7Camicie
          Hugo Boss

And many many many more designers. Most were just tailors, shoemaker and now they are fashion designers.

Think globally, Act locally. The world will find a beaten path to your door steps.

Can One Really Make Money From Fashion Designing? Interesting question

I will support any investor and manufacturer who decides to go to Ghana and invest. Investment is all about profit making. If the conducive bsiness atmoshpere is there, why not?

Doing business in Nigeria is very risky these days. There are no electricity, no roads, insecurity and unnecessary bottle necks and government interference. What about the omoniles, sons of the soil and the agberos who disrupt your business daily. Kidnapping et al.

So if one gets a tax holiday of 10 years in Ghana and most of those evils that bedevil nogerian enterprenuers are absent in Ghana why not? Cadbury has moved to Ghana. I know of Kim bello Osagie of UBA, he left Nigeria for Ghana too.

So Nigeria needs total overhauling Abeg

Fhemmmy:
What if the husband is a useless spender?
What if the woman is more of a prudent wife?
So how is the share of the expenses gonna be?

Ceteris paribus: We are talking of an ideal home here.

If on the other hand, the husband is a useless spender like you said, the woman is more of a prudent wife, then she should not give him her earnings and begin to take care of the family.

Let me quickly add here that good homes and families are made more by the women. So each case should be treated on its own merit.

In marriage, two becomes one. Although I quite agree it is the duty of the man to take care of his houseld. Most major expenses are for the man and 1 Timothy 5:8 said that if any man is not able to provide for his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. That said , I think we all know that monetary issues always cause problems in marriages. If we begin to apply this biblical instruction as firmly as it is, then women will have to keep thier money for themselves.

Should that be the case? There will always be problems in the house. Has anyone wondered what will happen in a house where the wife earns 400% more than the husband and because of her status they are living in a duplex in VGC while the poor guys take home pay cannot pay the rent?The question here WHAT SHOULD A GOOD WIFE DO WITH HER EARNINGS

A good wife should hand her entire earnings to her husband. For peace and tranquility in the home. She should not at all give the impression that she is the one running the home.  She should even be on her knees when handing the money to the man and say my lord, this is my salary for the month. Yes Sarah called Abraham my lord and she is the epitome of a good wife. In Genesis 3:16, when God was punishing Eve after they disobeyed, God said to her; I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.  KJV

So a good wife she abide by those christian teachings.

My opinion. Constructive counter arguments are welcome. Insults are just a reflection of the character of the person who insults and shall be ignored.

I didnt click on that page but read other people's reactions.

It is not funny when you mislead people thinking it is funny.

It makes you a cynic

U MUST BE VERY SICK IN THE HEAD

lonleyman7:
i am lebanese,
but why do you think i am not lebanese, by the way i was in nigeria bafore and i was so close to get married with an ugbo girl but theonly thing that did not allow us to be together as per now is that he rparent did not agree because i was white.

I wonder whoever made you think you are white and that colour matters. My friend you are a Lebanese from Lebanon in the middle east where there is more conflict, civil unrest, wars, famine, suicide bombings et al. So dont go flashing your milkish colour and lebanese origin thinking my good Nigerian sisters will fall for you.

And whatever makes you think being Lebanese puts you in good stead to date a real intelligent, educated, exposed and hardworking nigerian chic? Abeg carry your wahala go to your Lebanon. Whites are Western Europeans, Americans, British, Irish, Australians and New Zealanders. You have the same colour with Sudanese, Morroccans, Libyans, Tunisians, Algerians and Egyptians.

Enough of that colour and Lebanese insult

And for my sistas, u girls shouldnt be that condescending.

I will advice you to go for landed property for a long term investment against stocks.

Invest in cheap lands and in 5 years you can sell. Go buy in developing areas.

3 million naira can get you about 6 plots of land in developing areas. I recently bought a piece of land in Enugu for 1.2million naira and in the receipt the seller gave me, I noticed he bought the land for 10 thousand naira and over a period of 15 years it appreciated to that.

A friend bought 20 plots of land somewhere near Aba at 60 thousand naira each, after 1 year, the land now is selling at 300 thousand naira.

So with a landed property you are guaranteed of gain. The way stocks are now, who knows, u might be speculating. Did anybody know 5 years back that GM and Chrysler will burst today? So who knows what will happen to Cadbury or First bank 5 years from now?

PROF. PAT UTOMI

PROF. PAT UTOMI and

PROF. PAT UTOMI

was wondering if it is true too. Culled it from nigeriavillagesquare.com If Rueben Abati (Chairman Editoral board of Guardian Newspapers) wrote it actually, then folks it is true

Maintenance Of Generators At Aso Villa Invitation To Tender

Maintenance Of Generators At Aso Villa
Written by Reuben Abati
Sunday, 14 June 2009

Invitation To Tender: Maintenance Of Generators At Aso Villa

By Reuben Abati

DUE to a recent act of sabotage which resulted in power outage at the Presidential Villa, Asokoro, Abuja, the President and Commander in Chief of the Armed Forces of Nigeria, President Umaru Musa Yar'Adua out of concern that this national security breach should never again occur anywhere near the seat of power has directed the Tenders Board at the Presidency to issue the following invitation to tender for the supply, and maintainance of generating plants to ensure uninterrupted power supply at the Presidential Villa, and to forestall such a situation as occurred on Wednesday, June 10, when the Federal Executive Council Chambers and the entire Presidential Villa were without electricity.

Although the incident lasted for about 10 minutes and was promptly brought under control by a combined team of the nation's ever-vigilant and loyal intelligence agencies, His Excellency has directed that the cause(s) of the power outage, remote and immediate, should be carefully investigated. Initial investigations by the intelligence agencies led by the National Security Adviser, all the Service Chiefs and the Inspector General of Police indicate that the generating plants in the Presidential Villa may have been compromised by persons with Niger Delta, June 12, and opposition party sympathies. Mr President views this act of sabotage with all the seriousness that it deserves. To this end, a high-powered inter-Ministerial committee to be headed by the Hon. Minister of Power has been set up to submit its findings to the Presidency within two weeks. Members of the committee are permitted to seek technical support from any part of the world, including the prestigious Harvard University. Considering the seriousness of the matter still and the need to address it expeditiously, this invitation to tender is hereby issued under Presidential seal:

(1) Companies, individuals and other relevant agencies are invited to submit tender bids for the purchase, supply and maintenance of heavy duty generators with capacity to supply electricity to the Presidential Villa for 24 hours non-stop, seven days a week, and 365 days a year.

(2) The quotation for the aforesaid generators must include the cost of maintenance. Successful bidders may be awarded a provisional licence to enable them import diesel and petrol at concessionary rates for the exclusive use of generators within the Presidential Villa, and its environs, and to prevent such a strange situation as was reported that efforts "to put on standby generators were not successful" or that there is fuel scarcity at the Presidency.

(3) Please note that the Tenders Board is interested only in such generating plants that are rugged, capable of withstanding extreme pressure, and not such that may be prone to breaking down during Executive Council meetings or receptions for visiting foreign dignitaries.This government takes its job seriously and is determined to ensure that serious events such as Council meetings are not disrupted by power outages. We thank God that the power outage on Wednesday did not occur at a time when His Excellency was receiving a foreign dignitary.

(4) The Federal Government may at a future date consider the award of contracts for the supply and maintenance of generators for nationwide distribution as an interim measure to ensure the fulfilment of the President's honest promise of 6, 000 MW of electricity by December 2009.

(5) This release therefore marks the first step in the declaration of a state of emergency in the power sector.

(6) Respondents to this invitation to bid must be only persons of great patriotic commitment. Successful bidders must be willing to subject themselves and the generators that they supply to rigorous security screening. Where any whiff of sabotage or mischief is detected, the act shall be treated as an act of treasonable felony. Generators with Tokunbo, or used second-hand parts, are unacceptable.

(7) The Presidency is in the process of forwarding an Executive Bill to the National Assembly to provide legislative protection for all generating plants owned by the Government of Nigeria. These are classified as national assets, held in trust for the Nigerian people.

( The President and Commander in Chief of the Armed Forces announced in May that his government will do anything to ensure regular and uninterrupted supply of electricity in the country. The generator initiative is one of the many templates for fulfilling this promise to Nigerians. Suppliers of generating sets must be prepared to see their engagement as part of a Public Private Partnership (PPP) arrangement.

(9) Bidders must also note that the Presidency hopes through this initiative to create thousands of jobs for Nigerians as part of the government's employment generation drive. Presidential generators have up till now been managed by German contractors. The President now directs that bidders for the supply and maintenance of the Presidential fleet of generators must show proof of Nigerian citizenship.

(10) Proof of capacity to provide insurance cover for the generating plants will be an added advantage.

(11) Successful bidders may also be required to be members of a special committtee, soon to be constituted which would look into the modalities for incorporating this generator initiative into government's objective of making Nigeria one of the 20 largest economies in the world by the year 2020.

(12) Special consideration may be accorded Nigerians in Diaspora with technical expertise, as part of government's determination to provide opportunities for Nigerians abroad. This should help them manage the challenges of the global credit crunch and insipre many of them to return to their fatherland. Many Nigerians abroad have been writing unpatriotic articles against their country on the internet. Government is interested in giving them opportunities to return home to be part of the great renewal that is on-going across the country.

(13) The bids may not include the notorious ten per cent and no price variations will be allowed once contracts are awarded.

(14) The bid assessment process will be confidential and fair and strictly in accordance with the rule of law. Interested parties are advised not to attempt to influence the Tenders Board. Traditional rulers, Pastors, Imams, spiritual consultants, and party chairmen are hereby strictly advised not to interfere.

(15) Six copies of the bid application should reach The Tenders Board, The Presidential Generating Sets Initiative, Presidential Villa, Asokoro, not later than two weeks from the date of this publication.

(16) Only shortlisted bidders will be contacted.

Finally, the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria remains committed to his promise to ensure uninterrupted power supply across the country. Saboteurs in the power and energy sector who are thwarting this administration's attempts to serve Nigerians and meet their expectations are hereby advised that henceforth there shall be zero tolerance for their misdeeds. Our dear country Nigeria will be 50 years old as an independent nation in 2010. Now is the time to begin the preparations for the celebration of that grand occassion. A Presidential Task Force drawn from the elite corps of the Armed Forces, is being considered to provide special security for government-owned generators. The Power Holding Company of Nigeria (PHCN) will soon be subjected to a process of audit, prelude to its likely disbandment. We cannot afford to fail in the delivery of critical infrastructure, the first item on the seven-point agenda.

We thank Nigerians for their understanding. Government counts on the support of the generality of the people as it wages war against the forces of darkness.

Chairman, Tenders Board in charge of Presidential Power Generating Sets

Sgd.

This El Rufai guy isnt as seasoned as I thought he is.

I am even better than him

I had the sense not to support YarAdua

I voted against him.

Na them foist the guy on us

Because he is not benefitting now from the government

Na im make am dey yarn opata now.

Nobody 4 dey regret if una listened to me and supported PAT UTOMI[i][/i]

Whatever happened to wild mouthed, people insulting Tumfulu? I think Nairaland is getting better as a discussion forum now.

Whatever happened to wild mouthed, people insulting Tumfulu? I think Nairaland is getting better as a discussion forum now.

What hope do we have in that country? Bleeding patient rejected cause of bleeding?
What is supposed to be the work of those doctors and hospitals? Is stopping bleeding not part of thier work?
The police should hold the hospitals and the doctors where she was rejected accountable for her death with the lady who perpetrated such a dastardly act.
The Nigerian medical council should also withdraw the licence of the doctors and stop them from practising. If they cant stop bleeding, they cant save lives so why practise medicine?

A lot of good guys are around. Look well before you leap. Dont get carried away by physical attractions and wealth. Having come this far now, I assume you know what you want in a relationship so you must be careful.

Past experiences should not make you wary of the next guy that comes. Give it your all and you get all. Dont be judgemental and no comparisons.

Bear in mind no guy is perfect. You have to learn as well to be patient

@ Lawyer,

Thank you for that little analysis and word of advice. I have been a great proponent of this mortgage thing, having seen how it works over here in Europe and other places. I am wiser now.

Better to take a land and be doing it small small according to your ability.